Dear Married woman

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DEDICATION This is dedicated to Mr and Mrs Justice Forchie, My mom and dad(Adelaide and Esborn), My hubby Charles and my blessed kids. To all my Spiritual Fathers and the blessed ministers of the Gospel.”

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CONTENT Page The need to look attractive 4 Knowing and understanding your partner 5 Having the lens of righteousness 8 Being appreciative 9 Being supportive 11 Settling differences peacefully 12 Understand love 13 Effective communication through social media 15 You are the competition 16 Giving him/her breathing space 18 Making sex enjoyable 19 Steadfastnes 20 Staying younger and healthy 21 Looking good 22 Don’t deny him sex 23 Qualities of a virtuous woman 24 MARRIAGE SWEETBITS by Faith Jackie

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THE NEED TO LOOK ATTRACTIVE

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Dear Married Lady, Pete Edochie once said, “Holy wives don’t just speak in tongues. They cook super meals, they raise Godly kids, wear hot dresses (for their husbands), they have mind-blowing sex & still make Heaven.” The fact that you are a wife does not mean you should look like you carry the whole world, looking so beaten and distasteful. Get hot, be beautiful and decently trendy. Give your husband the best MARRIAGE SWEETBITS by Faith Jackie

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of your hottest looks when you are alone, being generous with enticing, sultry looks, making him want you, and imprinting you on his mind wherever he is. KNOWING AND UNDERSTANDING YOUR PARTNER

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Dear Married Lady, forget about changing your husband. Just be an upgraded version of you with more value and sweetness. Make an effort to understand your husband; why does he do what MARRIAGE SWEETBITS by Faith Jackie

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he does, has it got anything to do with his childhood, for instance, how best can you be his strength without being a chief nagger. I once had a friend who was so boiling in anger and bitterness and initially I just did not understand why she could just pour words of hatred at the slightest provocation until I got closer and got to know the hurt within is from earlier rejections and childhood pains. I decided to correct her in love; by showing her what to do, instead of just telling her what to do, I showed her what to do by being an example. Anytime she was angry and spoke bitter MARRIAGE SWEETBITS by Faith Jackie

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words, I deliberately spoke kind words to her and let her know I was speaking those words in objection to her words. I did that consistently and I began to see changes. I continued with rewarding her with a complement anytime she spoke politely to other people, letting her know the benefits of that, however encouraged her to be her blunt self. I always made her aware of how sweetly annoying she sounds. Although we all need the hard truth, it has to come politely.

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HAVING THE LENS OF RIGHTEOUSNESS

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Dear Married Lady, look at your Husband with the lens of righteousness in Christ Jesus. He may do a few things wrong, do not focus on the wrong but rather focus on the Christ in him. In other words, focus on his positives and not the negatives. Do this in wisdom! Whenever God looks at us, He sees the beauty of Christ in us, the Righteousness of Christ, notwithstanding what we do as believers. In like manner the more you focus on the positives of your MARRIAGE SWEETBITS by Faith Jackie

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husband and keep reminding him of how sweet those positives are the more, he believes he is indeed those positives and continue to live it. In all that, do it in wisdom, if he is abusive, do not wait until you lose your life! BEING APPRECIATIVE

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Dear Married Lady, familiarity makes us take things for granted: our family and especially our husbands. We get so used to their ways of doing things and we can almost predict thier next move, thus there is little MARRIAGE SWEETBITS by Faith Jackie

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or no excitement in the relationship, this is a relationship killer. There is a tendency to feel he is obliged to giving in the relationship, thus, taking for granted things he does, like buying gifts, taking the kids out, helping in the kitchen, paying for your fees, etc. There is the need for a conscious effort to be appreciative of even the little things, this boosts his ego and gives him the will to even do more. Replace nagging with appreciation!

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BEING SUPPORTIVE

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Dear Married Lady, be your husband’s Number One Fan. Support him in all his interests. Ensure you decree greatness in all his endeavours. Don’t allow other ladies to do this for you. Be the first and best at this. Be his support, when everybody has turned their back on him be there for him. Cheer him up when he is doing well, encourage him when he feels like giving up. Give him your advice or suggestions in a respectful way but if it’s not taken, and per chance he fails, avoid the temptation to say, “I MARRIAGE SWEETBITS by Faith Jackie

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told you...”. Let him know even if this has failed, he could still go for another option. Give him the best of nurturing and loving, cuddle him like a baby, put him on your breast and whisper endearing words to him, that he is still your champion and your love. SETTLING DIFFERENCES PEACEFULLY

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Dear Married Lady, As Christ is Love so you are. As Christ is forgiving, so you should be. Do not punish your Husband MARRIAGE SWEETBITS by Faith Jackie

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with tight jeans. When there is a quarrel or he forgets his part of a duty, punish him sweetly; an oil massage, an evening bath, where he has to bath you thoroughly, anything sweetly creative, that will enhance the bond other than creating tension that will take his focus off you. You are not a fool! You care for your marriage.

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UNDERSTAND LOVE

Dear Married Lady, love is relative. Different people have different perceptions about love. MARRIAGE SWEETBITS by Faith Jackie

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Find out what love means to your partner and give it. Don’t assume a common definition of love. What is love to you may not be for him; portray the love he yearns. Ask him what he really appreciates from you and what he will rather do if that was the only thing you do for him. That will help to hit hard on his language of love other than expending so much energy on something that means little or nothing to him.

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EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION THROUGH SOCIAL MEDIA

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Dear Married Lady, in this age where technology is supposed to break homes, use this same technology to build your home. Text your husband some hot messages as a shadow of the things awaiting him at home. Use the various social media platform when you are away from each other. Let him know how you yearn for him, giving him surprise sweet pictures but please be careful you do not send nude pictures lest it falls in the MARRIAGE SWEETBITS by Faith Jackie

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wrong hands. YOU ARE THE COMPETITION

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Dear Married Lady, don’t focus on the competition outside the home and get bitter. You may not be the only lady who loves your husband. As tempting as it may be, refuse to give that competiton another thought and focus on how to be the best you can be. Pay particular attention to your looks, enjoy your passion, do not look like you are dying and needy when MARRIAGE SWEETBITS by Faith Jackie

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he comes back. Let him know you are happy, having the best of your life and still loving him, now that is intriguing and he would not want to loose the bubbly loving, confident, successful you. He will rather do anything to avoid a needy, nagging, weepy, old looking wife who cant live without him, such an irony, right! focus on your Husband and give him the best of treatment always; especially when you think he doesn’t deserve it.

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GIVING HIM BREATHING SPACE

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Dear Married Lady, don’t imprison your husband. When it gets to the point where he needs space grant it to him. There is freedom in true love. Over protective love is false and destructive. Do not be afraid to give him space. Even your ability to give him space without checking to know where he is every five minutes, speaks confidence and that is what real men want. Use those periods to better yourself. Get the most sexiest look. Be your sweetest self when he returns home. MARRIAGE SWEETBITS by Faith Jackie

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You are always the winner. MAKING SEX ENJOYABLE

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Don’t be shy to initiate lovemaking. Learn all there is in giving pleasure to him. Twerk for him if it so excites him. Act out sweet sex scenes during your lovemaking, use sex accessories; feathers, oil, toffees, chocolate etc. if you both agree to that. Wearing sexy lingeries does not mean you are spoilt or demon possessed. Take special sultry baths together, rubbing yourself against him, giving him hot shower, blow MARRIAGE SWEETBITS by Faith Jackie

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job, etc. Join in the creativity, make your marriage fun. Afterwards blow in tongues together! STEADFASTNES

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Dear Married Lady, Challenges may come in your marriage. Instead of letting it tatter you, you decide to make the best, look your best, love your best in the face of challenges. When faced with challenges like infedilty, you can decide to make the most out of it, like getting to know how different he was being treated and learning MARRIAGE SWEETBITS by Faith Jackie

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from that to spice up your marriage. You have the ability to control your response to your challenges. Guess what, the Christ in you is the best. So you can’t be any less. STAYING YOUNGER AND HEALTHY

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Dear Married Lady, the fact that you have four kids does not mean let your body look 50 years older. You can start small. Discipline yourself. Check your weight. Don’t eat junk foods. Take brisk walks! Exercise your body MARRIAGE SWEETBITS by Faith Jackie

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and be healthy and in shape. Take very good care of your health, with regular checkups. Maintain good hygiene and a healthy lifestyle.  LOOKING GOOD

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Dear Married Lady, christianity is not the end of descent hot fashion. Christianity is not tagged with ‘old ladyship’. The fact that you wear a long gown does not mean you are holy. You can be in trendy dresses and look so decently sexy. Choose your clothes tastefully, and get your make up on naturally MARRIAGE SWEETBITS by Faith Jackie

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if you are the makeup type, if not treat your skin well and keep your natural look regularly. Be neat. Look presentable. Let the young ladies check you up for the latest descent trend! DON’T DENY HIM SEX

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Dear Married Lady, even when you are tired, be sensitive to your man’s sex needs. You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. Don’t lazy yourself in front of him. It’s a bad signal. Be in readiness to satisfy him at all MARRIAGE SWEETBITS by Faith Jackie

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times. Don’t give him reasons to look elsewhere. QUALITIES OF A VIRTUOUS WOMAN

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A woman of Grace who can find? She has a heart of gold. Gives her best even in the worst. She loves like no other even at the most undeserving times. She is love. She is forgiving. She is supportive. She is prayerful. She is full of wisdom. She is your dream lover. She mothers in the word. She is as Jesus is, so precious. She is loyal MARRIAGE SWEETBITS by Faith Jackie

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and strongly soaked in the word. She rightly fits everywhere.

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