Gifts from the Heart: Simple Ways to Make Your Family's Christmas More Meaningful

Gifts from the Heart

Praise for Gifts from the Heart: "Yes, Santa Claus, there is a Virginia! Gifts from the Heart is a gift that keeps on giving, a miracle disguised as a book. It offers an array of imaginative and inspiring alternatives to a Yuletide spending frenzy." — Janice Kennedy, the Ottawa Citizen, the Vancouver Sun "A Christmas book that gives and gives—innovative and caring." — The Canadian Centre for Philanthropy "Gifts from the Heart has become my Christmas manual. Virginia's focus on giving, her very practical ideas, recipes and crafts, and her contagious upbeat attitude have helped Canadian Living readers through the hustle and bustle of Christmas. The extra bonus: the book sales help fight cancer!" — Catherine Gray, editor and producer of Canadian Living Online

Gifts

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the Heart Simple Ways to Make Your Family's Christmas More Meaningful

Virginia Brucker

INSOMNIAC PRESS

Copyright © 2006 by Virginia Brucker All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted, in any form or by any means, without the prior written permission of the publisher or, in case of photocopying or other reprographic copying, a license from Access Copyright, 1 Yonge Street, Suite 1900, Toronto, Ontario, Canada, M5E 1E5. Library and Archives Canada Cataloguing in Publication Brucker, Virginia, 1953Gifts from the heart : simple ways to make your family's Christmas more meaningful / Virginia Brucker. Includes index. ISBN 1-897178-30-1 1. Christmas. 2. Christmas decorations. I. Title. GT4985.B784 2006

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The publisher gratefully acknowledges the support of the Canada Council, the Ontario Arts Council and the Department of Canadian Heritage through the Book Publishing Industry Development Program. Printed and bound in Canada Insomniac Press, 192 Spadina Avenue, Suite 403 Toronto, Ontario, Canada, M5T 2C2 www.insomniacpress.com

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Acknowledgments I would like to thank Caitlin for her beautiful cover, Paula Young for her illustrations, all of the children at Nanoose Bay Elementary School who enthusiastically contributed to this book, and the parents who provided their permission to share their children's work. I would also like to thank all of the children, parents, and teachers I have worked with over the years—many of the ideas in this book were inspired by the "gifts from the heart" you have so generously shared with me. Fd like to acknowledge Tom, Ian, Candice, Steve, Dee, and everyone in my school district for their help. Thanks to Dave Ross for his generosity, and to all of the wonderful people who supported our book in so many ways. And thanks to our family, friends, and coworkers for their encouragement and delicious recipes. My heartfelt appreciation to Janice Kennedy at the Ottawa Citizen, Catherine Gray and everyone at Canadian Living, CBC Radio, and all the busy people in the media who took the time to share our story with their readers and listeners. I'd like to recognize the staff and volunteers at the Canadian Cancer Society for the "gifts from the heart" they give to so many. To all the marvelous people who work in libraries and bookstores, thanks for all you do to share "the gift of literacy." I would like to give a very special acknowledgment to Mrs. Donna (Blackwell) Bellavance, my high-school English teacher, whose encouragement changed my life forever. Another special thank you to Mary Hunter, who put me in touch with Katherine Gibson, who in turn

generously mentioned Gifts from the Heart to her publisher. Their acts of kindness led me to Insomniac Press. Thanks to Mike O'Connor and the staff at Insomniac for believing in this book; their faith and hard work brought this revised and expanded edition to you. A special thanks to Dan Varrette for his perceptive and patient editing. Last, but never least, a special thanks to my husband, Charlie, for his loving support and ongoing encouragement.

Table of Contents Introduction

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1 The Gift of Giving

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Ideas for selecting projects best suited to your family's interests and abilities. 2 Volunteering As a Family 27 Meaningful ways to make a difference in your community through volunteering. 3 Making Time 35 Tips for getting organized so you can find more time to create a caring holiday. 4 The Gift of Gratitude 51 Easy ways to show people we care about them and to encourage children and adults to savor the blessings in our lives. 5 Fighting the Gimmies Simple strategies for combating the dreaded gimmies.

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6 The Gift of Imagination 71 Gift suggestions that encourage children to be more creative. 7 The Gift of Tradition 81 Easy, inexpensive ways to give the very special gift of funfilled family traditions. 8 O Christmas Tree! Loving traditions featuring the Christmas tree.

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9 Making Memories 97 Great ideas that help preserve your family's special Christmas memories. 10 Christmas and Divorce 107 Tips to help parents and children cope with Christmas as well as ideas for making a blended family Christmas easier. 11 When the Holidays Hurt 123 Loving ways to reach out to friends and families who are dealing with illness or loss during the holidays. 12 Comfort Food 135 Yummy comfort foods to share with family and friends all winter long. 13 An Animal Lover's Christmas 153 Suggestions for sharing the Christmas spirit with our animal friends. 14 The Gift of a Green Planet Ideas for people who want to be good to our planet.

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15 Celebrating with Books Dozens of ways to share the gift of literacy.

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16 Remembering Seniors at Christmas 183 Thoughtful ideas that encourage children and adults to be more involved with seniors. 17 With Love from Grandma and Grandpa 197 Suggestions for grandparents who want to connect with their grandchildren throughout the year.

18 Sharing the Joys of Cooking 205 Delicious recipes for Christmas treats and simple holiday snacks children can create themselves. 19 The Gift of Good Company: Party and Potluck Favorites 227 Superb tried-and-true recipes to share with family and friends at parties and potlucks. 20 Gifts from the Kitchen 245 Presentation tips and recipes for scrumptious gifts from your kitchen. 21 Kid-Tested Crafts 269 Inexpensive projects using easy-to-find supplies and recycled materials. All have been thoroughly "kid tested." 22 Handmade with Love 297 Handmade presents that enable children to give their own "gifts from the heart," sure to delight parents, aunts and uncles, and grandparents. 23 Wrapping It Up with Love 311 Easy ideas for personalizing gifts with handmade cards, tags, and wrap. Epilogue

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Do all the good you can, In all the ways you can, To all the people you can,

In every place you can, At all the times you can, As long as ever you can. — Shaker Creed

The best parts of a good man's life are his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and love. — William Wordsworth

Introduction After teaching for almost thirty years, I've seen many Christmas concerts, but each December I can't wait to see those tiny angels with shiny silver haloes and wonky coat-hanger wings and the elves dressed in oversized T-shirts with red and green crepe-paper hats. Some of the little ones stand gazing out at the audience, so amazed by the lights and the size of the crowd that they forget to sing. There are always a couple of "live wires" who spend their time on stage jumping up and down and waving excitedly. And no matter what they do or do not remember to do, somehow the kindergarten class always manages to steal the show. Everywhere you look, love is visible—you can almost reach out and touch it in the auditorium. Our Christmas concert is a special gift from the heart that we give to ourselves and to our school community, and each year we confidently announce that this year's concert is the very best one ever. Overwhelmed by the magic of the evening, many of us quietly wipe away a few tears. It is so incredibly beautiful that it makes our hearts ache. Several years ago, I was sitting on the sidelines, waiting for my Grade One students to perform. I was hoping to see a father from our class who had been very ill with cancer. As I looked out into the audience, I noticed an absolutely radiant young mother sitting in the front row. I asked the teacher sitting next to me who the woman with the gorgeous smile was and learned that she was new to our school. She had three children and had been fighting cancer too. As she looked up at her kindergarten son and his class on stage, her face was incandescent—she was truly luminous with joy.

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A little later, a Grade Four/Five class sang "All I Want for Christmas is to Keep the Things I've Got." As I looked past the beautiful mommy out to all the mothers and fathers and children in the audience—to all their eager, loving, expectant faces—to the grandparents sitting next to their adult children, to the tiny ones snuggled up on their parents' laps, I wondered how any of us could bear to face a Christmas without the people we love most. That evening, I decided to write a book to raise funds for cancer research so that more people would be able to spend the holidays with the family and friends they cherish. When I visited libraries and bookstores to research what had already been written, I saw dozens of Christmas books about making the holiday more glamorous. But I had an unwavering belief that there was a place for a different sort of book, a Christmas book that would encourage readers to connect with family and friends in small but meaningful ways, a book that would help them create a "feel good" rather than a "look good" celebration. I wanted to share simple traditions that would bring closeness and laughter in times of joy, and comfort and consolation in times of sorrow. As an adult whose own heart has been affected by loss, I knew that that holidays can be an extraordinarily lonely time for people who are depressed or ill or trying to hold it together after a family breakup, so I decided to include chapters about the difficult aspects of Christmas too. Over the next few months, I began collecting children's writing and artwork, and I listened to their discussions about what makes the holidays special. We often underestimate the perceptiveness of youngsters. When you look at their contributions to Gifts from the Heart, I think you will agree that children have a remarkable talent for capturing the true essence of

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Christmas. While we may think they want the latest toy, what they really want is our time and our love. They too want to experience the joy of giving—those jigsaw puzzle wreaths and paper doily angels lovingly made by small hands are how children show their love. I know, you are busy—we live in a stressful time. But our leading such busy lives is precisely the reason why it is important for us to make good use of the time we do have. Children learn best by example. When we take the time to create a more thoughtful Christmas, we help them grow up to be the kind, caring people we wish them to be. I hope Gifts from the Heart helps you and your children to create a holiday rich with loving memories and simple traditions and to experience the joy that comes from reaching out to others not only at Christmas, but also throughout the year. Sincerely, Virginia Brucker www.webelieve.ca

Life is short and we have never too much time for gladdening the hearts of those who are traveling the dark journey with us. Oh he swift to love, make haste to he kind.

—Henri Frederic Amiel

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Chapter One The Gift of Giving

Example is not the main thing in influencing others. It is the only thing. —Albert Schweitzer Children love to give—it's fun to watch a loved one's face light up when they open a handmade card or gift. Young children enjoy sharing; the challenge is helping them maintain their enthusiasm for giving as they grow older. If you model generosity at every opportunity when your children are young, they are likely to grow up to be generous, thoughtful people. How do you begin? Early in the fall, have a meeting to brainstorm all the possible acts of Christmas kindness you can think of. Listen carefully to your children—they have lots of good ideas to share. When volunteering or making a charitable donation, let your children choose the organization they would like to help. Adults can then provide the support, the encouragement, and the materials necessary for their success. It's easy to become overwhelmed during the holidays, so try choosing just one project to get you started. Consider your family's strengths and interests to help you narrow down the choices. Are you great pet lovers? You'll find some wonderful ideas in Chapter Thirteen, "An Animal Lover's Christmas." Do your kids miss having older relatives around? You'll find lots of ways to connect with elderly people in Chapter Sixteen, "Remembering Seniors at Christmas."

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If you have very young children, making gifts for grandparents is a great way to encourage giving. Chapters Twenty-One, Twenty-Two, and Twenty-Three have lots of kid-tested crafts. In addition to considering the amount of time you can find, think about your family's finances. What kind of project best matches your wallet? You may have time to share, or you may find it easier to give money. Ideally, we'd like to give both, but it's one of the facts of life that we seldom have both time and money to offer. Make cash donations more meaningful for your children by having them count the coins or bills together, and involve them in the shopping, wrapping, or mailing of your family's gifts. With your help, even very young children can make meaningful contributions. Here are some suggestions to get your family started: Collect your change all year long in a family "giving box." Decorate a jar or box in early January and save as much as you can for next December's special projects. Sign up for savings-bond deductions through your payroll at work. Set aside some of your savings for your own shopping and donate a portion to a special cause. Give your children a small allowance and provide the following guidelines: one third is for spending, one third for saving, and one third for sharing. Let your children decide how to donate their sharing portion.

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Help your children save part of their allowance to purchase or make gifts for their brothers or sisters and other family members. It's easier for very young children to understand the concept of giving to the family first before extending it to a charity or the community. Decorate a large cardboard box with Christmas wrap early in the fall. Every time you shop for groceries, help your children pick out a nonperishable food item to put into the box. Try to include some treats as well as staples: pancake mix, syrup, hot chocolate, and marshmallows would certainly make someone's Christmas breakfast special. Drop it off at your local food bank together. Help your children go through the toys collected from fast food restaurants and check to make sure they are in good shape. Package them into simple homemade felt stockings or lunch bags decorated with Christmas drawings or stickers. In addition to the toys, include some well-wrapped Christmas

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candy and drop the bags off at a soup kitchen. The kids who eat lunch there will enjoy receiving a special Christmas goodie bag. Host a "giving party" where children or teens get together and make cookies, small gifts, ornaments, or cards to give away. Make up a Christmas care package for someone at college or for a neighborhood family who has moved away. Include some drawings and letters, Christmas music, decorations, and, of course, a tin of their favorite Christmas treats. Have a baby shower at your church, daycare, or school. Decorate a big box or borrow a cradle for the manger. Add a doll to represent Jesus. Encourage families to bring items a baby needs, such as warm clothing, crib sheets, formula, diapers, and sleepers. Donate them to a transition house, shelter, or young mothers' group. Slip a gift certificate for a food store into a Christmas card. Give it anonymously to a friend, family at school, co-worker, or neighbor who needs a little help this year. In early November, help your children look through their toy box and closets for items to donate to your local thrift store or family shelter. Make sure the toys and clothing are in good shape—wash and mend anything that needs sprucing up.

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Make helping others an annual tradition at your workplace. Instead of exchanging gifts with co-workers at your office this year, pick a charity to help. If each person donates a few dollars, it will add up to a sizable donation. Collect small items such as toiletries and candy for a shelter or hospital. On your lunch hour, have a "work bee/' where you all work together to fill small baskets, bags, or stockings. You can make simple felt stockings with pinking shears and some glitter glue! Serve hot chocolate and cookies and play Christmas music softly while you work. Organize a collection drive for winter coats. Do any necessary mending and wash or dry clean the coats. You may find a local dry cleaner will volunteer to do them for free. (If so, make a large thank-you poster to be displayed in their window. Perhaps their customers will bring in more coats!) Publicize your coat

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drive in the local newspaper. When the coats are ready to distribute, tuck some warm mittens or gloves and a Christmas treat into each pocket and donate your collection to a local shelter, the Salvation Army, a preschool, or a needy school. Start a teddy bear drive. Police officers and hospitals often give bears to children who have been traumatized. Use the bears to decorate your office or school entrance until it's time for them to go to their new homes. If you put up a notice explaining your project, people who visit your office or business may also want to contribute a bear. Because kids love stuffed toys, this is a fun project for a school to undertake.

Organize a group from your workplace, church, or service organization to volunteer for Habitat for Humanity. This amazing organization helps build

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housing so that low-income families can purchase their own homes. Sign up together to help in the New Year. You'll build team spirit while you work and you'll meet lots of wonderful people. Can't commit to help with painting or construction? Call your local Habitat office to see what items are on their wish list. They may tell you they need new paintbrushes, primer, neutral colors of interior paint, hammers, nails, and screws. Rather than exchanging office gifts this year, collect money to send as a group donation or hold a bake sale at lunch and send Habitat the proceeds. Organize children or teens to assemble shoeboxes filled with Christmas cheer for children in war-torn or developing nations. Millions of boxes full of grooming items and tiny treasures have been sent all over the world. You can read more about it online by doing a search under "Operation Christmas Child." You can modify the idea to share locally: schools can make up shoeboxes filled with items such as mittens, hats, snacks, and toiletries for homeless people.

Three things in human life are important: The first is to be kind; the second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind. —Henry James

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Chapter Two Volunteering As a Family

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If you give money, spend yourself with it. —Henry David Thoreau Children make great volunteers—they are full of enthusiasm, energy, and optimism. There are many good reasons why kids should volunteer. Studies show that people who help others are healthier and happier. Children enhance their self-esteem when they volunteer as they learn new skills and make new friends. Volunteer activities also help children build character and teach them social responsibility: they will come to see themselves as kind people capable of making a difference and learn to live more hopefully; they will develop a stronger, richer sense of self and greater empathy and compassion. Helping others is particularly important for teens. Those who do volunteer tend to show less "at risk" behavior: they are more likely to stay in school, out of trouble, and off drugs. They may develop a better appreciation of their own families too. Volunteering also offsets some of the materialism of our culture by helping children of all ages see that who you are is more important that what you have. But the most important reason for volunteering is that it's the right thing to do. The key to getting your children to volunteer is to find a cause they really identify with, whether it's helping the environment, animals, or other kids. You will of course want to consider your children's safety and

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supervision very carefully. Children should never go unaccompanied door to door to collect for a cause. You will want to accompany your young children when they volunteer, and even if they are teens, you should go along for the first visit or two. Your family can: Deliver meals at Christmas for Meals on Wheels. Regular volunteers are often out of town during the holidays and extra help may be needed. Sort food at a food bank. Help serve a Christmas meal on Christmas Day at a shelter or mission. Organize a Christmas dance at school or church. Ask the teens attending for a donation or to bring items such as toys or food for a local charity. Make a pillow, quilt, or stockings for a shelter or Ronald McDonald House. This is a great project for a home-ec class, youth group, or 4-H club. Sports-oriented families can help with the local Special Olympics program. Even if you can't make a long-term commitment, you can help with the Christmas party or donate new or gently used sports equipment. Shop for another child and donate the gift to the Salvation Army, a shelter, or a transition house. Gifts for older kids and teens are always in short supply.

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Here's a list of appropriate gift ideas: earrings backpacks sewing kits blank journals school supplies flashlights hair salon gift certificates sleeping bags toiletries movie passes flannel shirts art supplies music store gift certificates oversized T-shirts nightshirts fast food coupons a prepaid phone card board games tube socks an inexpensive watch gloves a Walkman long Johns make-up kits playing cards hair-care products baseball caps

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Donate items your family has outgrown to a local shelter. Items could include a crib, bedding, baby clothes, or baby toys, along with some baby food or diapers. Organize your teenage children and their friends to offer a "Mom's Day Out" or "Dad's Day Out" so parents can have half a day to go shopping. This is a super project for a church youth group. Help the teens plan a simple program with crafts, snacks, and perhaps a Christmas video. An adult with a car and a good first-aid kit should be on hand in case of an emergency. Volunteer at the pet shelter. Organize a toy drive for a daycare center or transition house. Start by contacting the center to see what types of toys they need. Make craft kits with the instructions and materials necessary for a holiday project. Wrap the tops and bottoms of shoeboxes separately and pack the items inside. Donate the kits to the children's ward at your local hospital. Have a pajama party. Instead of wearing pajamas, ask kids to bring a pair to donate to a family shelter. Make simple stockings or buy small gift bags to fill with items such as candy, chips, gum, mittens, toiletry items, socks, or a music CD. Donate the stockings or bags to a shelter or to street kids. This is a great youthgroup project.

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Bake Christmas treats for a family or an organization that needs your help. Rice Krispie squares can be tied up with long, thin pieces of red licorice to look like packages. Cupcakes are easy to dress up with red or green icing and a gummy bear on top. Teens can set up a Christmas wrapping station in a local mall to raise money for a charity that has special meaning for them. Collect school supplies or books for a family shelter or a school that needs them. Make some decorations, placemats, or table centerpieces for a shelter or mission that serves Christmas dinner. Organize a "big buddy" tutoring program where teens help at-risk children with reading. Help your teens organize a food drive through their school, youth group, or sports team. Juices, canned fruit or vegetables, canned soup or chili, canned chicken or turkey, canned salmon or tuna, boxes or cans of pasta, dry or canned beans, Jell-O or pudding mixes, and tomato or spaghetti sauce are always needed. Snack or breakfast items such as granola bars, cold and hot cereals, pancake mix, and syrup are appreciated. Staples such as flour, sugar, vegetable oil, coffee, tea, peanut butter, cake mixes, muffin mixes, cans of evaporated milk, and crackers can always be used. Remember pets and babies— include pet food, baby formula, and jars of baby food.

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Christmas items such as canned cranberries, stuffing mix, hot chocolate mix, aluminum foil, foil pans, holiday napkins, potatoes, dinner rolls, and gravy mix are special additions in December. Toilet paper, soap, shampoo, shaving cream, disposable razors, toothpaste, toothbrushes, disposable diapers, combs, and feminine hygiene products are always needed too.

Those who bring sunshine to the lives of others cannot keep it from themselves. —James Matthew Barrie

Chapter Three Making Time

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What we love to do, we find time to do. —John Lancaster Spalding Christmas should be a joyous, magical time for children, as well as a time for families to create loving legacies of rich memories. Sadly, many people find the holidays another source of stress in an already hectic life! It is hard to make time in our already crowded schedules for baking, shopping, wrapping, decorating, school concerts, and entertaining—how can you possibly find the time to organize your own Christmas and to help others too? Begin by refining your expectations—decide what can be reasonably accomplished and let some of the "have to's" go. Put your energy into creating a more satisfying Christmas that focuses on people rather than on gifts. Plan carefully in order to make time for the activities your family treasures most. Hug people and write letters telling friends and family what you love about them. Watch some of those wonderful classic Christmas movies together. Laugh often. Spend your time with family and friends. Set aside one day to help a cause or a friend who really needs your support. For most of us, extra time is almost impossible to find. One way to manage is to do less and enjoy more. Another is to plan carefully: being organized is one of the best Christmas gifts you can give yourself. If you

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buy presents all year long, you can wrap each one as you bring it home—you'll save money too. Finish up shopping and get your cards ready by the end of November. Bake easy-to-freeze treats late in October or buy your baking instead! In December, you'll be able to visit old friends, attend a Christmas performance of The Nutcracker, or take youngsters to a Christmas lunch and movie. If you do have to shop in December, visit one of the excellent craft fairs or specialty stores nearby. Here are some time-saving tips: Have a family meeting. Mark off special concerts and parties on the calendar and ink in the events your family really enjoys. Make a list of some of the things you don't enjoy and, wherever possible, cross them off! Brainstorm creative solutions for others. Share the responsibilities. Save some of your annual vacation time so you can take some days off work during December to spend with your children when school is out. If that's not possible, schedule some vacation time in November so that you can get organized. And if that won't work, take one day of banked overtime each week. If you have children, make sure you reserve weekends in December for family activities. Try hard not to get too busy with social commitments that do not involve your family. You can always visit with your co-workers and friends in the long winter months ahead, but you cannot recapture this time with your family. Make a list of the jobs to be done and start delegating. Things may not be done exactly as you like them, but you can adjust. Refuse to be a perfectionist.

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If you can't avoid shopping in December, go earlier in the day as well as earlier in the week. Pick up Christmas wrap, bags, cards, and ribbon on sale after the holidays. Gift bags and tissue make wrapping easier, and the bags can often be recycled for several years. Keep a small hardcover book with your list with you at all times. List a couple of choices for each person's gift. Keep the last few years' lists in the same book so you don't give the same present twice. Send your spouse out with a detailed list to do some of the shopping too. Give magazine subscriptions—you don't even have to leave the house to order them! Give family gifts rather than individual ones to friends and relatives. You'll save time, wrapping, and money. Make a wrapping station by putting all the things you'll need in a tub or box and store it under a table or in a closet. Buy lots of tape. Keep all receipts in an envelope in your purse so it's easy to return or exchange items. Rather than trudging from store to store, use your phone to shop.

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Looking for a particular item? Let family and friends know so they can call you if they see it; perhaps they can pick it up for you. Try theme shopping this year: do most of your shopping in one place. Is there a terrific craft fair you can attend? Can you give several people books from your favorite bookshop? Antique malls, museums, hardware stores, and office supply stores often have marvelous gifts. Don't overspend—you'll be sorry in January, and it just creates additional stress and worry. You can never buy enough "stuff' to show people how much you really love them. Find other ways to show how much you care. Make sure you don't shortchange yourself on sleep in November or December. It never pays off and you'll end up grumpy or sick. Get your car serviced in November so that you don't have to worry when traveling over the holidays. Trade babysitting with a friend for half a day once a week throughout November. You can get a lot done in three or four hours with no children along. You'll both have more time in December for family outings. Plan some easy Christmas craft projects when it's your turn to babysit. You'll find lots of good ideas in Chapters Twenty-One, Twenty-Two, and TwentyThree. The children will enjoy having handmade gifts to give their family. Wrap them up together so their folks will be surprised.

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Have a weekly family night throughout the fall to work on making cards, gift tags, ornaments, or baking that can be used in December. Make double batches of chili and spaghetti early in the fall and freeze half for busy days in December. Use your crock-pot to make meals while your family works on Christmas projects. You can find lots of terrific crock-pot sites on the Internet and there are good recipe books at the library. Here's a very simple recipe to get you started: Crock-Pot Stroganoff Cut up 2 or 3 Ibs. of inexpensive steak into \" pieces, or use pre-cut stewing meat. Put the meat into the crockpot. Add a package of dried onion soup mix and a can of golden mushroom soup. If you wish, add a can of drained mushrooms and a dash of Worcestershire sauce for a little extra zip. Cook for 4 hours on high, or 6 hours on low. Just before serving, add a cup of sour cream and stir gently. Serve with noodles and carrots. Sheila's Crock-Pot Mediterranean Meat Loaf This recipe takes 20 minutes to prepare. 1 egg, slightly beaten 2 tbsp. milk 1/2 cup dry bread crumbs 1/2 tsp. salt 1/2 tsp. dried oregano, crushed 1 /4 tsp. pepper 2 cloves garlic, minced

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1 1/2 Ibs. lean ground beef 1/2 cup feta cheese, crumbled 2 or 3 fresh tomatoes, chopped, or 1/4 cup sun-dried tomatoes 1/4 cup tomato-based spaghetti sauce or pasta sauce

In a medium bowl, combine egg and milk. Stir in bread crumbs, seasonings, and garlic. Add beef, tomatoes, and feta cheese and mix well. Shape into a loaf to fit in the bottom of your slow cooker and spread sauce over meat loaf. Cover and cook for 7 to 8 hours on low, or 3 1/2 hours on high. You may serve the meat loaf with rice or noodles, or you may cook your potatoes at the same time. Wash unpeeled potatoes, cut in half, and place cut side down on top of meat loaf. Do you think the kids would notice if you added a little spinach? Barbecued Meatballs

Kids love these meatballs, and you won't believe how simple they are to prepare. Make a batch and tuck them in the freezer. Meatballs: 3 Ibs. lean ground beef 1 - 13 oz. can evaporated milk 1 cup rolled oats 1 cup cracker crumbs 2 eggs 1/2 cup onion, finely chopped 1/2 tsp. garlic powder 1/2 tsp. pepper 2 tsp. salt

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Sauce: 2 cups ketchup 1 cup brown sugar 1/2 tsp. garlic powder 1/4 cup onion, chopped, optional Meatballs:

Combine all ingredients (mixture will be soft) and shape into walnut-sized balls. Place in single layer on cookie sheets lined with wax paper. Freeze until solid. Store frozen meatballs in freezer bags. (Makes about 80 meatballs, so use half for one meal and save half for another.) Sauce.*

Just before baking the frozen meatballs, combine all sauce ingredients and stir until brown sugar is dissolved. Place the frozen meatballs in a 9" x 13" glass baking pan. Pour on the sauce and bake at 350°F for I hour. Served with rice and green beans, these meatballs make a super meal that kids love! You can also use the same meatballs with pre-made pasta sauce for a quick spaghetti dinner. No time to do crafts with your children? Many craft stores have excellent workshops for kids. Sign them up so they can have fun while you do some Christmas shopping. Or pick up a couple of good kits with all of the necessary supplies and hire a teenager to help while you bake or wrap gifts. Do a thorough house cleaning early in December. Enlist the help of everyone in your family. If you can afford to, hire someone to help with the cleaning. It

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will help them earn some extra cash for their own shopping. Put away as many knick-knacks as you can while cleaning to make room for the Christmas decorations you'll soon be putting out. Spread your Christmas decorating throughout December. If you've shopped early, you can spend an hour or two decorating each weekend. Encourage everyone in your family to be responsible for one area. It's their Christmas too! Plan activities such as skating, tobogganing, or outdoor walks to collect evergreens for wreaths. Exercise helps minimize stress. Your children will enjoy the time with you and will be better behaved if they are using up some of that extra energy. Participate in a baking exchange. The amount of time spent baking is reduced enormously and you get to spend an afternoon or evening with your friends. If you're planning to get together in late November or early December, ask everyone to make items that freeze well. An exchange works well with eleven participants who each bring twelve dozen of their favorite Christmas treat. Each person should also bring along some tins or plastic storage containers to take their baking home in. Use half of the extra dozen treats each person brought to serve with coffee or tea. Give the other half to someone you know who is unable to bake this year. Decorate a big box with Christmas wrap and put a large bow on the outside. Fill the box with your treats and drop it off around December 21st!

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For your contribution to the baking exchange, try these easy, delectable squares: Raspberry Almond Bars 1 3/4 cups roiled oats 1 cup flour 1 cup brown sugar 1 tsp. baking powder 1/4 tsp. salt 3/4 cup butter, melted 3/4 cup raspberry jam 1/2 cup flaked almonds

Combine oats, flour, sugar, baking powder, and salt. Stir in melted butter. Mix until crumbly. Press two-thirds of the crumb mixture into a greased 9" x 9" pan. Spread with jam. Sprinkle with the remaining crumb mixture and top with almonds. Bake at 375°F for 25 to 30 minutes. Have potluck dinners when entertaining in December. Your guests will be glad to bring their best company dish. For your contribution, serve this delicious seafood pie—it's incredibly easy and sure to please: impossible Seafood Pie 2 - 6 oz. cans salmon, well drained, or 1 cup leftover cooked salmon 1 cup sharp cheese, grated 1 - 4 oz. package cream cheese 1/4 cup green onions, thinly sliced 2 cups milk 1 cup Bisquick 4 eggs 3/4 tsp. salt a dash of nutmeg

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Combine the salmon, cheese, cream cheese, and green onion in a greased 10" glass pie plate. Blend remaining ingredients on high speed in blender for 15 seconds. Pour over salmon mixture. Add a bit more grated cheese on top. Bake for 35 minutes at 375°F. Let stand 5 minutes before cutting. Serve with a crisp green salad. Oven Fried Rice Company coming and no time to cook? Try this incredibly easy dish—it's a great way to use up leftovers! 2 cups uncooked rice (not instant) 3 1/2 cups water 1/2 cup soy sauce 1/2 cup vegetable oil 1 envelope dried onion soup mix 1 onion, chopped 1 - 10 oz. can mushroom pieces, drained 1 green pepper, finely chopped 1 stalk of celery, chopped 3 cups of leftover meat (ham, turkey, or chicken work well) Mix all the ingredients together and cook covered in a large casserole dish at 350°F for 11/2 hours. Now wasn't that simple? Have a coffee arid dessert buffet where everyone brings a dessert and you provide the coffee, tea, and Christmas music. If you need a very quick dessert, you can have this pie in the oven in less than 10 minutes. Use a pre-made frozen pie shell—no one will know!

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Raisin Pecan Pie

1 cup sugar 2 eggs, beaten

6 tbsp. butter, melted 1/4 cup milk 1 cup raisins 1/2 cup pecans, chopped

Mix all the ingredients together and bake in an unbaked 8" pie shell at 350°F for 45 minutes. Garnish with real whipped cream or serve with ice cream. Another dessert that is very simple to prepare is this pumpkin square recipe. You don't have to fuss with a crust, and it serves 16 to 20 people easily. "/'// Never Make Pumpkin Pie Again" Squares 1 - 28 oz. can pumpkin 1 - 13 oz. can evaporated milk 3 eggs 1 cup sugar 1/4 tsp. salt 2 tsp. pumpkin pie spice (or 1/4 tsp. ginger, 1/4 tsp. nutmeg, 1 tsp. cinnamon, and 1/8 tsp. cloves) 1 Duncan Mines yellow cake mix 1 cup butter, melted 1 cup pecans or walnuts, chopped

Mix the pumpkin, eggs, evaporated milk, and spices together and beat well. Pour mixture into an ungreased 9" x 13" pan. Cover with dry cake mix. Drizzle melted butter over the top until completely covered—you may have to use a little more butter. Sprinkle with chopped nuts. Bake at 350°F for 50 minutes, until a knife inserted in the center comes out clean. Chill, and serve with whipped cream.

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Looking for a quick gift for a teacher, the mailman, or a co-worker? You can7t go wrong with the lemon loaf below. Many years ago, a dear family friend brought some every couple of weeks to my housebound grandmother; Maryrs visits were as much appreciated as her delectable treat. Twenty years later, I found the recipe and was surprised to see how simple it was. I love it because it only takes a few minutes to prepare and the recipe makes one delicious loaf to keep and one to give away.

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Mary's Luscious Lemon Loaf 1 Duncan Mines lemon cake mix 1 - 3 oz. package lemon Jell-O 3/4 cup oil 4 eggs

Dissolve Jell-O in 1 cup of boiling water and let it cool. Blend the cake mix and oil together. Beat in the eggs one at a time, mixing thoroughly with the electric beater after each addition. Add Jell-O and mix well again. Pour into two greased and floured loaf pans. Bake at 350°F for 35 to 40 minutes. While the loaves are still warm, make a glaze with 1/4 cup lemon juice and 1/2 cup icing sugar or granulated sugar. Poke holes in the loaves with a skewer and pour glaze over the top. Allow loaves to cool in the pans, then wrap well in plastic wrap. Serve the next day. Freezes or keeps in the refrigerator beautifully. No time to bake? Pick up a batch of your favorite frozen cookie dough and add some red and green M&M's. Enjoy the smell of cookies baking in the oven. Sheila's Overnight French Toast

This recipe will quickly become a new Christmas tradition. Prepare it the night before and pop it in the oven in the morning. 6 cups white bread (or raisin bread), crusts removed, cut into 1" cubes 6 oz. cream cheese 6 eggs, well beaten 1 cup milk 1/2 tsp. cinnamon 1/3 cup maple syrup

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Place half of the cubes in a greased 8" x 8" pan. Cut the cream cheese into small squares and sprinkle over the bread. Cover with the remaining bread. Combine the eggs, milk, cinnamon, and maple syrup and pour over the bread. Cover with plastic wrap and refrigerate overnight. In the morning, remove the wrap and bake in a preheated 375°F oven for 45 minutes. Cut into squares and dust with icing sugar if desired. Serve with more maple syrup, crisp bacon, and fruit salad. You can add other ingredients, such as finely chopped cooked ham or bacon, or a cup of fresh or frozen blueberries. Try the recipe with French bread if you wish.

You will never "find" time for anything. If you want time, you must make it. —Charles Buxton

Chapter Four The Gift of Gratitude

A thankful heart is not only the greatest virtue, but the parent of all other virtues. —Cicero Christmas is an ideal time to reflect on the many blessings in our lives and to be grateful for the gifts our hearts receive each day: children, love, good health, friendship, a home, good food, books, and pets. Unfortunately, the real spirit of Christmas sometimes gets lost. It is important to celebrate the good things we have; by encouraging appreciation and contentment, we help our children lead happier lives, now and in the future. One of the most important ways we can encourage gratitude is to model it ourselves at every opportunity. Make sure your kids know you are grateful for them! Let them know they are really your greatest blessing, and tell them often. When you notice your children being generous or expressing their appreciation, make sure you acknowledge their actions. That's how they learn what you value, and generous or appreciative behavior is more likely to become the norm. "& Make a commitment to spend more time with your family in December.

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Many of the best things about Christmas are free. Spend lots of time outdoors. Make angels in the snow while you look at the stars together. Be thankful for stars and wildlife and trees. Help your children write to Santa on Christmas Eve, thanking him for last year's gifts. Leave their notes out along with his milk and cookies. Show your children that little pleasures like sipping hot chocolate while reading a good story together are to be savored. They will learn to appreciate everyday joys. Keep a record in December of how much time you spend with your family and how much time you spend shopping. Is there an imbalance here? What does that tell you?

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Read Antoine de Saint-Exupery's terrific book The Little Prince together. It has a timeless message of love to share. Throughout the year, go around the dinner table occasionally and ask each person to mention something they are grateful for that day. Try to eat together most evenings. Speak positively of your friends and family in front of your children: they are more likely to become kind, appreciative people if they hear you do so. Give your children small notebooks in their stockings to use as journals to record the things they are grateful for. Include a box of thank-you cards in your children's stockings. Make it a tradition that Christmas presents can't be used until thank-you notes have been written, or set aside part of New Year's Day each year to send notes to friends and relatives. If your children are too young to write, you can either write their thank-you notes for them or help them phone the gift-giver. If possible, send a photo of your children opening or enjoying their gifts along with their thank-you note. Have your children practice opening imaginary gifts and rehearsing what they will say. Discuss how to acknowledge a gift gracefully even if it is something they already have or don't really want. For example:

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"Thank you for the crocheted boxers, Aunt Martha. Purple is my favorite color/' You can make a funny game out it, but it will encourage polite and thoughtful responses. Insist upon acknowledgment of gifts; you are helping your children become the kind of people others will like and enjoy being around. Make a special Christmas card for each person in your family to open Christmas morning. Thank them for the special things they do throughout the year. Help your children gather the materials needed to make a card for someone important in their lives. Their teacher, bus driver, principal, neighborhood or school librarian, music teacher, sports coach, or Cub or Brownie leader doesn't need a gift but will appreciate being remembered at Christmas. If you are trying to think of a gift, a small gift bag with a few cookies is always welcome. This super easy fudge also makes a delicious present. While teens can make it themselves, younger children will need your help. Super Simple Chocolate Fudge 3 cups semi-sweet chocolate chips 1 can sweetened condensed milk 1 1/2 tsp. vanilla 1/2 cup nuts, chopped a pinch of salt

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Mix condensed milk and chocolate chips in a microwave-safe bowl. Microwave on medium-high for 1 minute. Stir and microwave again for another minute. Stir until blended. Add vanilla, nuts, and salt. Stir gently again just until mixed. Turn into an 8" x 8" pan lined with wax paper and refrigerate until firm. Cut into squares and store in the refrigerator in an airtight container. For individual treats for your child's classmates or friends, wrap each piece in plastic wrap and then tie up with curly ribbon to look like tiny Christmas packages. Makes 13/4 Ibs. Freezes well. Rather than give your child's teacher a mug or an ornament, consider giving a gift that all of the children in the class can enjoy, such as a kids' CD, a book for the classroom library, or some glitter glue. One year, my student Brock and his mom gave our class a new globe! Teachers love to receive cards with thoughtful messages inside. If your budget can support it, add a note that says your family has made a small donation to a worthwhile cause. Some of the cards I've received indicated that children and their families helped the SPCA or put a little "jingle" in the Salvation Army's Christmas kettle. Those have been very special "gifts from the heart"! Draw a tree on green poster board and cut out simple paper ornaments. Have your children draw something or someone they are thankful for on each ornament (photographs can be also be used). Rather than a paper tree, you may use a small live or artificial tree to display their creations.

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Encourage your children to make a special point of letting their grandparents know they are loved and appreciated. Give hugs, phone often, make cards! Acknowledge the contributions firefighters, police officers, and hospital staff make to our lives. Bake or buy some cookies or muffins. Drop them off with a card that says, "Merry Christmas. Thanks for keeping us safe/7 Bake a simple cake and decorate it with white icing. Help each family member light a candle while they make a wish. Create a "sharing tree/' Decorate a tiny tree or a large twiggy branch with handmade ornaments, cookies, cards, or paper hearts that your children have written a thoughtful message on. Your children can give each guest something from the "sharing tree" along with a simple, "Thanks for coming to be part of my Christmas."

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Be sure to show your appreciation to store clerks at Christmas. Remember, children need to see their mom or dad act courteously—that's how they learn good manners. Model contentment yourself. If you are always talking about what you wish you had or want to buy your children will copy your attitude.

Think contentment the greatest wealth. —George Shelley

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Chapter Five Fighting the Gimmies

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Where there is too much, something is missing. —Anonymous Christmas is often spoiled by the dreaded "gimmies." You may not be able to get rid of them, but you can reduce them by planning for some unhurried times together and by creating simple family traditions that focus on fun. Here are some useful suggestions provided by parents: Reduce the amount of television your child watches, particularly in November and December. Mute the sound during toy commercials. Discuss the unrealistic claims made by commercials. Let your children buy their toys with part of their allowance. Kids quickly become smart shoppers if they are spending their own money. Reduce your own debts. Show your children that it is important to be prudent with money. Teach them how to save for that proverbial rainy day. Learning to manage money well is a terrific gift to give your children.

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Replace television watching with activities such as making cards and gifts, reading Christmas stories, and baking. If your kids really miss watching television, rent Christmas videos instead—they don't have commercials, and many emphasize the spirit of sharing and giving. One of the biggest reasons parents give too many gifts is because they feel guilty for working. Try to give the gift of your time—your children won't feel they need to be filled up by getting lots of "stuff/7

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Ask your child to make a list of gifts that don't cost any money, such as a drawing, giving or receiving a hug, or picking the menu for dinner. They should include things they would like to give as well as receive. Make some of these wishes into coupons to give to each other. If your family is used to lots of presents, you may want to begin reducing the number of gifts gradually. Cut back a little each year. Tuck some coupons into your children's stockings that promise to take them skating or swimming, to the library, or out for a picnic lunch. Make sure you honor your promises. During the last week of November, make an advent paper chain. Cut \" x 9" strips of colored construction paper. Number them in order from one to twenty-four. On each strip, write down something you will do on the corresponding date in December. For example: attend the Christmas concert; go to Aunt Sheila's; watch How the Grinch Stole Christmas!; go shopping for a toy for the Salvation Army's Angel Tree; or bake cookies. Your children can help you generate ideas for the activities. Put the strips in numerical order and build the chain by gluing the strip for December 1st into a loop, then sliding the one for December 2nd through and forming the second link; repeat until you've built a chain with twenty-four links. Hang the chain with the December 1st link at the bottom. Make a star to mark the top. Remove one link each day and enjoy the activity described. Count the remaining links to find out how many days are left until Christmas. Kids love this project!

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Keep a kindness calendar. Provide your children with a large blank calendar for December where they can record their good deeds. Leave it out on Christmas Eve for Santa to see. Santa can leave a note of encouragement when he visits. Assign everyone another family member's name. Throughout December, they are that person's "secret elf." Their mission is to perform random acts of kindness without being caught. On Christmas morning, announce who each "elf" helped.

Choose a family charity or service project each December. Your children will realize there is more to Christmas than presents for themselves. Encourage your children to draw up a list of people they want to give homemade gifts or cards to. It will encourage your child to see Christmas as a time for giving as well as for receiving. Set reasonable limits on expectations for gifts. If Santa brings everything on your children's lists, he won't have room for other kids' presents. And if you are giving your child an expensive gift, let that one

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be from Mom and Dad. It's hard for children to understand why Santa brought their best friend a computer while they got a hockey stick. When your children ask for something, acknowledge their wish. "Wouldn't that be nice? Let's add it to your list." When it's closer to Christmas, ask them to highlight the three items they really want—one big gift, and two smaller ones. Help preschoolers make a short, simple list for Santa. Cut out a construction-paper stocking and ask them to draw a picture or cut photos from a catalog of one big gift and a couple of inexpensive ones that they would like. Label their pictures and mail their list to Santa. Your church or school may want to adopt a foster child in another country. It's quite an expensive undertaking for an individual family but is affordable for a larger group. Study the adopted child's country and share his or her letters and pictures on a bulletin board. It will help children realize that most of us have more than enough and that we should share what we have. Encourage well-meaning relatives to consider giving family gifts rather than lots of individual presents. A family pass to the aquarium, planetarium, or a museum; tickets to a Christmas play or concert; a family swimming or skating pass; a magazine subscription the whole family can enjoy; a Christmas video or CD; a board game; a variety of craft supplies; and a really good "how to" craft book are all good choices.

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Spread out the excitement of gift opening. Allow your children to open presents when relatives bring them—they will enjoy seeing your children's pleasure. Save some gifts for your kids to open over the twelve days of Christmas. Each gift will feel special. Make the opening of gifts last longer on Christmas morning. Ask the oldest or youngest person to hand out the presents. Open them one at a time and then pass each one around for everyone to admire. Organize the gifts under the tree by the giver's name. Each person passes out the presents they are giving and says something thoughtful to the recipient. Write gift tags that give clues about the recipient or the gift inside. For each gift, you must read each clue and make guesses before opening it. Have a Christmas treasure hunt where gifts are hidden and written clues are left all over the house. If a gift is too big to fit under the tree, hide it in a closet or the garage. Tie a piece of wool to the end of the present and loop it throughout the house. Fasten the end of the wool to a gift tag and place the tag under the tree. The recipient follows the string to discover the gift. If you are giving just one large gift to each person, this will "stretch out" the fun! Introduce a new tradition: each family member must receive at least one homemade present.

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Involve children in making their own gifts or in shopping for others. Too often we pick up something for them to give to Grandma—the kids miss all the fun. Read stories that emphasize the joy of giving at Christmas. Franklin's Christmas Gift and Arthur's Christmas are great books for younger children, and O. Henry's classic story "The Gift of the Magi" is perfect for older ones. Young children need to practice giving gifts. They need to practice handing them over because they often want to keep everything for themselves. Twoor three-year-olds may not be able to print their name on the tag, but they can put the gift in someone's hands and give them a hug. Think of a silly rule for this year's gifts, such as all presents must start with the same letter as the recipient's name or must cost less than an arbitrary amount, like $3.94. The focus will be on fun rather than on the price of the gift. Give gifts that develop your children's interests and abilities. An inexpensive craft kit can keep them happily engaged for a long time. Give the gift of music. Research shows that learning an instrument at an early age plays a powerful role in brain development, and, even more important, it is good for the soul! If you can afford it, give your child music lessons.

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Cut back on gifts and put the money in educational funds for your children instead. Small amounts add up over time. Having the opportunity to pursue a trade or career that they love is a superb gift.

If there is to be any peace it will come through being, not having. —Henry Miller

Chapter Six The Gift of Imagination

Imagination is more important than knowledge. —Albert Einstein One of the reasons children have "the gimmies" is because many toys do not meet their creative needs. Although there are many well-designed educational toys on the market today, they are often overlooked in favor of the ones heavily advertised on television. If a well-meaning relative asks what your children would like for Christmas, gently encourage them to look for toys that allow children to be children, rather than miniconsumers of the latest fads. If you are a baby boomer, think back to your childhood in the '50s or '60s. We had very few toys, but the ones we did have were well used—a little red wagon, Lincoln Logs, Mechano, or Tinkertoy sets, and old clothes worn for dressing up kept us busy. We'd turn over chairs and throw a sheet over the top to make a cave or play house. We made puppets from socks and a puppet theatre from a cardboard box. Board games kept us occupied on rainy days and sharpened our math skills. When Christmas shopping this year, visit a teacher's store or one of those wonderful shops that specialize in quality science and math toys. You'll find all sorts of fun, durable gifts. If someone asks you what your child might like for Christmas, or if you are shopping for grandchildren or

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nieces and nephews, here are some suggestions designed to keep children actively engaged and to promote the gift of imagination: One to Three Years Old simple board books stacking or nesting toys dolls (not too small) bath toys balls (not too small) push-and-pull toys playground toys made of durable plastic connecting toys with large beads or links mowers or gardening toys a paint apron, tip-proof paint pots, and large paint brushes a sturdy easel a well-made wooden rocker a simple, sturdy wooden or plastic wagon smooth wooden blocks a beginner's tricycle larger-sized cars, trucks, trains, or wheelbarrows a toy telephone dress-up clothes Four to Six Years Old Lego books and puzzles featuring dinosaurs plastic dinosaur toys or models a bug house and a book about bugs a good magnifying glass a scale with two pan balances a kaleidoscope puppets and a puppet theatre a collection of plastic animals and a snap-top container to keep them in

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good quality CDs or tapes for children jewelry-making kits with easy-to-construct projects dress-up clothes and a suitcase (often found at thrift stores) art supplies a children's oven a plastic bin with a lid and some plastic bottles and a funnel to use as an indoor sandbox for rainy days (include a bag of rice, which pours as well as sand but isn't as messy) a kid-sized picnic bench set (easy for a handy uncle or grandpa to build) homemade or store-bought play dough Holiday Play Dough

This is a great gift for children. Put the play dough in a clear plastic bag and tie it up with curly ribbon. Add some cookie cutters and a child-sized rolling pin from the dollar store. Tuck it all in a gift bag for a gift that will provide hours of fun. 1 cup flour 1/2 cup salt 2 tsp. cream of tartar 2 tbsp. cooking oil 1 cup water food coloring

Mix dry ingredients together in a large bowl. Add oil, water, and food coloring. Place the mixture into a very large pot and cook over medium heat until it gradually forms into a ball. Remove the dough from heat and let it cool. Knead well, then refrigerate in a covered container. After a few hours, knead it again until it is really pliable. Store the dough in a recycled margarine tub in the refrigerator.

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Six to Eight Years Old: a bubble-making kit a wooden shelf to keep special treasures on a small set of miniature cars and a carrying case a T-ball stand with a bat and ball a globe more dinosaur stuff a plastic bead ornament kit spool knitting supplies a special pillow or a bean bag chair a beginner's crochet kit a plaster casting kit to make fossils art kits, a big set of crayons, or washable felt markers a cash register with play money a modeling clay kit a dried flower kit nature books about the rainforest, butterflies, insects, rocks, sea life, and other animals

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an inexpensive watch a coin set for the current calendar year Eight to Twelve Years Old:

Many of the items above are suitable for eight- to twelve-year-olds as well—look at the recommended ages on the products carefully. This age group would also enjoy: a friendship bracelet kit a microscope a calligraphy kit a plastic air mattress, flippers, snorkel, and/or mask a starter aquarium kit a good quality basketball or soccer ball a basketball hoop supplies to decorate hair barrettes a sewing box with scissors, needles, pins, a measuring tape, thread, and some felt squares instructions and materials to make simple quilted projects such as potholders, a doll blanket, or a wall hanging a bird house or bird feeder kit with pre-cut wood parts a T-shirt and some fabric paints to decorate it a hockey stick and puck or road hockey ball a pair of walkie-talkies a hockey net a sleeping bag for sleepovers inexpensive binoculars a magic kit a silver locket, bracelet, or ring

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An iguana is best left in its natural habitat, and I don't recommend that they be purchased at pet stores. There are iguanas that need a good home; sometimes you can adopt one that has been turned over to a reptile recovery center. Tyson, an environmentalist-in-training, provided wonderful care for his iguana.

Teens:

Teens are incredibly difficult to buy for. It is almost impossible for an aunt, uncle, or grandparent to choose anything a teen would want to wear, read, or listen to. Teenagers generally reject clothing just because you picked it out; this age group wants to assert their growing independence by choosing their own. Rather than giving a gift that may go unused, try: a gift certificate to a favorite music, clothing, or book store a gift certificate for a course at the local community center or college

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a coupon that promises a contribution to a driver's education program for teens a gift certificate for a couple of hours of computer instruction at the local college or one of the smaller computer stores where staff have the time to share their expertise a handmade certificate that indicates you have made a donation to the teen's favorite cause, such as the SPCA or Save the Whales a savings bond for college a cookbook geared to teens a sports bag or backpack an inexpensive camera a tent or sleeping bag camping equipment a radio with a snooze alarm a swim or fitness pass for a month a magazine subscription

Joy is not in things; it is in us. —Richard Wagner

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Chapter Seven The Gift of Tradition

The way you celebrate Christmas can be a gift in itself— handing on traditions that will give your child a feeling of continuity, comfort, and joy in all the Christmases to come. —Mr. Rogers Take a few moments to reflect on the Christmases you experienced as a child. Did you always put your tree up in front of the picture window in the living room? Did the youngest child put the star on the top of the tree? Perhaps your mother always served a particular meal on Christmas Eve. Did you open one gift before going to bed on December 24th? Simple customs repeated over time become much-loved traditions. While they need not be expensive or time-consuming, traditions are important. Research shows that families with traditions are stronger and more resilient. Children especially look forward to the comfort and security traditions provide. In good times, traditions reaffirm the importance of family, loved ones, and togetherness; in times of sorrow, they provide us with comfort, stability, and consolation. Creating a few simple traditions together with your children is a very meaningful gift to give them. When planning new traditions, try to choose some that include family members of all ages—cousins, grandparents, aunts, and uncles give children a sense of where they belong in the whole family. If you have a very small

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family, include some elderly neighbors or old friends. Children need lots of people to love them! I hope you will find two or three ideas in this chapter that will make your holiday more memorable. Just after dark each Christmas Eve, look for Santa in the sky. Can you spot a red light? Is it Rudolph's nose? Make a wish for the world on the first star you see each Christmas Eve. Leave a small scrap of torn red velvet somewhere in the. living room near the chimney (or front door if you don't have one). Tell your children this is the patch that was torn from Santa's pants when he went back up the chimney or out the door. Sprinkle some glitter around the fireplace or doorknob after your children have gone to bed on Christmas Eve. The next morning, tell them this is the magic dust Santa uses to make himself fit in small places. Serve hot chocolate with a candy cane, warm apple juice with a sprinkling of cinnamon, or eggnog. Give special mugs as stocking sniffers. Pick a small item to put in stockings every year. It doesn't really matter what you choose—it could be funny socks or underwear. One friend told me her husband's family always put a potato in each person's sock! Her husband doesn't know why, but his dad always did it, so he does too.

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If you are having a family gift exchange, you'll enjoy this game: each family member brings a gift that costs less than $5 and which should be suitable for any member of the family. One person reads "'Twas the Night Before Christmas" aloud. Every time you hear the word "the/' everyone passes their gift to the person on the right. At the end of the story, each person opens the last gift they were passed. Create a new ornament together each year. Give new pajamas to your children and allow them to open them on Christmas Eve. Cozy flannel will feel wonderful all through January and February, and your Christmas morning pictures will look great. To make it easier to get the kids to bed early, attach a note from Santa saying that he wants the children to go right to bed after putting the new pajamas on so that he can visit. Put on a play each December with your children. It could be the story of the first Christmas or you can write your own. If a play sounds too complicated, ask your children to sing a familiar song or recite a Christmas poem. Add the new performances to the videotape from past years. Send copies to grandparents who can't attend. When your children are a little older, write a family poem or song each Christmas. Use the tune from a song everyone knows, such as "Jingle Bells." Keep a copy for your scrapbook or put it on tape.

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Start a Christmas collection. It doesn't have to be expensive. You could save all the cards with snowmen or Santas to put out each year or you could collect a particular type of ornament or decoration. Don't forget to write the date on each one. Hang up some mistletoe. Give family members a hug or a kiss every time you catch them under it. Visit Santa together on the same day each year. Pick the same day each year to go for a drive to see the lights. Serve your family's favorite supper first and then hop in the car. Take along your favorite Christmas tapes or CDs. Invite someone along who might not see the lights otherwise. Buy one new cookie cutter every December to add to your collection. Make a fruit salad together on Christmas Eve. Ask each family member to help prepare a fruit. Mix it all up and serve it with cinnamon rolls or banana bread for an easy breakfast on Christmas morning. When you put away your Christmas decorations each year, fill a baggie with cinnamon sticks and some whole cloves. Poke a tiny hole in the bag to allow the scent to escape. When you open your boxes next year, you'll be surrounded by the delicious scent of Christmas. Learn some Christmas poems to recite together at the dinner table in December.

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Put out a treat for the birds each Christmas Eve. If you no longer have children at home, attend a Christmas concert at a nearby school. It will really give you the Christmas spirit! Call ahead to check the date and time—most schools have a dress rehearsal which is usually not as well attended, so you are more likely to find a seat. If you are helping put on a concert at your preschool, school, or church, invite local seniors to attend your dress rehearsal. Make a holiday "fun jar/' Write down activities such as "read a Christmas book together" or "bake your favorite cookies" on small slips of paper. Put them in the jar and let the family member who has shown the most Christmas spirit that day choose a slip for that day's activity. Buy a new board game each December and learn how to play it together. Start a Christmas jigsaw puzzle on December 1st. Try to have it completed by Christmas Eve.

There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved. —George Sand

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Chapter Eight O Christmas Tree!

Of all the gifts I have each year (some are sparkling bright and glowing), I think the gifts I hold most dear are the ones so green and growing. —-Anonymous What would Christmas be without a tree? When you close your eyes, can you still see the trees of your childhood? While they didn't resemble the lush, cultivated trees popular now, to a child, each one was magical. The sweet smell of a freshly cut fir is one of the most delightful pleasures of the holiday season. My best friend Sheila has a small tree farm where families can enjoy a glass of hot apple cider or cookies made with honey from her own hives before picking out their tree. What a wonderful outing for families! If you look in the yellow pages of your phone book, you may discover a terrific tree farm to visit nearby. When you buy your tree locally, you have the assurance of knowing your tree will be fresh and therefore more fire resistant. Trees purchased from large chain stores are often cut in October or early November and dry out quickly once inside the house. Remember to take a tape measure. Have some sturdy rope handy to tie your tree to your car with, and call ahead for directions and hours of operation. Dress for the weather— warm jackets, boots, mittens, and hats will make you all more comfortable. If you don't have a tree farm nearby,

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consider buying your tree from the Boy Scouts; they really appreciate your support. Can't decide between a real tree and an artificial one this year? It may help you make up your mind if you consider the following: Real Christmas trees are renewable and recyclable. Artificial trees contain plastic and metals that do not break down in landfills. Manufacturing artificial trees requires lots of chemicals, which end up in the air or water. Real trees can be cut up for mulch and compost. For every live tree that is cut down, several seedlings are planted. Millions of trees grown especially for Christmas produce much-needed oxygen while they are growing. Real Christmas trees provide local employment opportunities. Buying a real tree is environmentally sound because it requires less energy than transporting an artificial one made on the other side of the world. Some Christmas tree traditions to consider: Shop for your tree at the same tree farm or Boy Scout lot every year. Take the whole family tree hunting every year. Include grandparents, your own brothers and sisters, and your children's cousins. Take turns having a potluck dinner after the families have selected

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their trees. No family close by? Then go with your best friends. Place the tree in the same spot in your house each year. Put up your tree on the same date every December. Commemorate your baby's first Christmas by planting a tiny Christmas tree in the yard. When it's time to decorate the tree, put on a Christmas CD and get the whole family involved. Assign each person a part of the tree to be responsible for. Mom, Dad, or big brother or sister can do the lights. Younger children can decorate the bottom with unbreakable ornaments. Your tree may not look like the ones in glitzy magazines, but the memories of your time spent together will last forever. Give your children an ornament each Christmas to represent a special event in their lives from the past year, such as ballet slippers for the new dancer, skates for the skater, or a dog or cat ornament the year a new pet joined your family. You can find hundreds of ornaments at a Christmas specialty store, and craft sales often have ones that are very reasonably priced. If you enjoy crafts, see Chapter TwentyOne for some ideas on making your own. Let the youngest person present put the star or angel on the top of the tree while everyone else closes their eyes and makes a wish. Each year, sing the same carol in front of the tree after you've turned on the lights for the first time.

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Invite the same relatives or friends back each year to have hot chocolate and cookies while you decorate the tree together. Make or buy a Christmas tree skirt. If you have a young family, look for one made from washable fabric. A round red or green tablecloth can be turned into a tree skirt quite easily. Fold it carefully in half and then in half again. Cut along one of the folds to the center of the tablecloth. Use a small saucer to trace a curved edge along the top edge while the cloth is still folded in quarters. Cut along the traced line to make a circular opening. Finish the raw edges by turning them over and zigzagging with matching thread. You can trace your family members7 hands on the material and then outline handprints with a fabric pen or paint. (Print people's names inside their handprints.) You can also stamp gold stars or gingerbread men on and then label each one with a family member's name. Look for a type of compressed sponge called Miracle Sponge at your local craft store. Cut out the shape you want and then soak the sponge in water. Squeeze it out well and then pounce it up and down on a tray of fabric paint. Stamp the sponge on the fabric carefully. Felt is even easier to work with. Cut a 45" or 60" circle from red, dark green, or blue felt. Trace some cookie cutters on various colors of felt and sew or glue them onto the skirt. Add some sequins and fabric glitter glue if you like. For a country-style skirt, use embroidery thread to buttonhole-stitch your appliques onto the felt. Embellish each shape with some buttons.

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If you can't make a tree skirt, put it on your Christmas list as a possible family gift. Check out craft fairs too; you may find gorgeous tree skirts that are very good quality and quite reasonably priced. Let children have their own tiny Christmas tree in their room to decorate as they wish. Use some shiny gold garland rather than electric lights. Santa's elves love to stop by so they can tell him how wonderful your family's tree looks. The morning after you've put up the tree, leave a little note and a small treat or an ornament from the elves! Save a piece of your Christmas tree's trunk for next year's yule log. Burning it is supposed to bring you good luck! You may want to try an old English tradition: before lighting the log, place one sprig of holly for each family member on top. Each person makes a wish as the yule log burns.

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Blessed is the season which engages the whole world in a conspiracy of love. —Hamilton Wright Mabie

Chapter Nine Making Memories

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Our hearts grow tender with childhood memories... —Laura Ingalls Wilder Browsing through photographs of the children sitting on Santa's knee or opening gifts under the tree is a wonderful way to recall past holidays spent with the people we love. If you are like many families who grew up during the '50s and '60s, you may not have a lot of photos—cameras, film, and developing were expensive in those days. Why not preserve your family's Christmas memories by recording a video of your mom and dad talking about the Christmases when you were growing up? Include funny and sad memories, as well as Christmas anecdotes about family members who are no longer alive. If you are a grandparent, one of the best gifts you can give your children when their first baby is born is a camera! l2r Have your children's picture taken with Santa each year. Make a special display on the buffet or mantle or put the photos in an album to display on the coffee table throughout December. If you can afford to, get multiple copies so each of your children may have their own set some day. Collect the photos in a special album; it will make a wonderful gift when they move out on their own.

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After Christmas, get multiple sets of your Christmas pictures. Give each child an album as one of their Christmas gifts. Let them write their own captions under each print. Make sure you record the dates. Take a picture under this year's tree to include in next year's card. Keep a loaded camera within easy reach throughout Christmas. The best opportunities come when least expected. Store your pictures all year long in one drawer or in a plastic bin with a lid. Over the Christmas holidays, set aside a day to reminisce while you put them in albums. Make a video for a family member who can't come home for Christmas this year. Ask each family member to add a special, "I love you, because..." Make audio or video recordings of Grandma and Grandpa. What were their most memorable Christmases like? What did they do on their Christmas vacation once school was out? Was there usually snow? Did they skate or toboggan? What were their most memorable gifts? Did they make gifts for their family? What do they remember about their schools7 Christmas concerts? If they grew up in another country, what kind of traditions did their families have? Tape your children reading a Christmas story. Add to the tape each year.

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Store your negatives with another family member or in a fireproof box. In the event of a fire, you'll be able to replace your precious photos. Besides photos, there are many other ways to revisit the spirits of Christmas past: ' Make up a family Christmas trivia game. Each family member interviews another and writes down several questions on one side of a file card and the answers on the other. Very young children will need someone to help write their cards. Mix up the cards, form a couple of teams, and have fun. Save the cards from this year to add to the game next year. Make a Christmas box from an old trunk, suitcase, or cardboard box. Decorate it simply. After Christmas is over, ask each family member to choose a special card, a piece of clothing, an art project from school, or a photo to add to the memory box. Do you have a new baby? Start a special Christmas album and invite family members and guests to write in it. Store the album along with their first Christmas outfit; someday it will make a great Christmas gift for their first Christmas as a newlywed or new parent. Buy or make a baby's first Christmas ornament for each child. Give one as a gift at baby showers. If you can afford to, buy one for the baby and one for the parents to keep when the children move out. Save your children's first Christmas outfits. Put them

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on teddy bears or dolls and use them as part of your Christmas decorations. Save your children's tiniest mittens or shoes. Turn them into tree ornaments by adding ribbon and a bell. Place one of those ornaments that hold a small photograph into your children's stocking each year. Remember to write the date on the back! Display them on your family tree or create a smaller memory tree from a large bare branch. Discuss your family's special holiday memories while eating Christmas dinner. Set aside an evening in December to have a quiet date with your spouse. Talk about your Christmas memories together. Watch your favorite Christmas movie with your family Pick the same date each year (such as the first Sunday in December) for your children to write to

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Santa. Tuck their letters in their boots or slippers for Santa's elves to pick up. Spirit the originals away for a memory book; if you send letters to Santa via the fire in the chimney, make a copy first. Keep copies of your annual Christmas card letter— one for each child and one for you. They make a wonderful record of the important events and milestones in your lives. When your children are old enough, encourage them to add their own news to your family's letter. ' Make Christmas pillows or wall hangings from plain muslin squares. Ask your children to draw a picture on the muslin with indelible felts or fabric pens. Sew a border cut from Christmas fabric around the square and attach a backing if it's going to be a wall hanging. If you are making pillows, make a pillow slipcover that fits over pillows you already have so you don't have to buy extra pillow forms.

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Give newlyweds a special ornament for their first Christmas. A box of decorations and some minilights, a tree skirt, or Christmas stockings make great wedding gifts. If you make the stockings yourself, add a yard or two of the fabric to the box to make more stockings if there are future additions to the family. If a special bride is having her dress made, try to obtain some scraps of the fabric to dress an angel for the top of the newlyweds7 tree. You can buy an inexpensive angel and make a new overskirt from a small piece of leftover bridal fabric. You could also use the scraps to make an ornament, cuffs on stockings, or incorporate them as part of a tree skirt. Give newlyweds a collection of your family's favorite Christmas recipes along with a Christmas cookbook. Save a piece of your first Christmas tree as newlyweds, as well as from each year a new family member arrives. Drill a hole and make an ornament out of it. You can "Modge Podge" a photo onto the wood quite easily. Record the date and event on the back with an indelible felt pen. Give some of your special treasures for gifts: a book you have always loved, a special teacup, a family brooch or ring. Encourage the recipient to open the gift with you present so you can enjoy their wonderful reaction.

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Save some of your children's Christmas artwork from year to year to create a unique display. It makes young artists feel very special. Pick up affordable frames at garage sales. Write a letter or record a tape for your spouse. Tell them why you love and appreciate them. Wrap it up with a big, red bow—it will be their best present!

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Write a letter to your parents thanking them for making your holidays special. Describe some of your favorite memories. Thank them for being your parents. Tell them you love them. Keep a copy for your own Christmas memory box. If you are upset with a family member, try to make peace with them over the holidays. Send a card or make a phone call. Life is too short to harbor grudges for long. Create a time capsule after Christmas to open in ten, twenty, or thirty years. Ask your children to add drawings theyVe made of the family.

God gave us memory so that we might have roses in December. —James Matthew Barrie

Chapter Ten Christmas and Divorce

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A torn jacket is soon mended; but hard words bruise the heart of a child. —Henry Wadsworth Longfellow Most of us have a vision of Christmas that includes two loving parents and a couple of happy children. If only it were always so. Over half of today's children will experience Christmas as part of a divorced family. Many others will join blended families with all the complications that combining two sets of children entails. Some will spend Christmas with a parent who is still grieving the loss of their marriage. Divorce is hard on children, parents, and grandparents; there is so much anger, pain, and resentment. Many of you may feel anything but "merry" as you adjust to the pressures and financial worries of single parenting, and Christmas may feel like an impossible challenge this year. Here are some practical suggestions for coping with Christmas as a divorced parent or as a step-parent. These tips may help you give your children the gift of peace and harmony between the two households: Acknowledge your children's feelings. Reassure them that while Christmas will be different this year, you will do your best to ensure it will still be a good one. Anticipate their concerns and discuss their worries with them.

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Not divorced yet? Try to negotiate holidays into the settlement. It may save a lot of stress in the years ahead. Make decisions about ''who is going where with whom" long before Christmas holidays actually start. Let your children know what the plans are and why you made the decisions that way. Consider having your children spend Christmas Eve with one parent and Christmas Day with the other. That way both parents can enjoy seeing the children open their gifts. You and your children may want to arrange to spend Christmas Day with family or special friends this year. The first holiday on your own is especially difficult. Listen carefully to what your children want to do about traditions. Some children will really need the comfort of old family rituals; others may prefer to create new ones. Have a family meeting in November to discuss their preferences. Give your children what may be the best gift of all: say positive things about their other parent or say nothing at all. Keeping in Touch Even if you are angry, don't deny your ex or your ex's relatives access to your children unless there are safety issues. Keep in touch with your former in-laws. While it may be extraordinarily hard for you to do so, it

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is a very special gift you can give your children. Kids need lots of people to love them! Help your kids buy or make a gift for their mom or dad and their other set of grandparents. Even if it is hard for you to do, it's really important. Give gifts that encourage your children to stay in touch with you or your ex. Long-distance phone cards or a writing kit with pre-stamped, addressed envelopes help kids stay connected. Web cams allow you to see your children while you chat online. It's a great tool if you can afford one for both households. When you take your Christmas film in to be developed, get extra sets of prints. Your kids can make up gift albums for their mom or dad and both sets of grandparents. Help your children phone the "other side's" relatives to say hello during the holidays. Make sure your children send thank-you cards to both sets of relatives. If your child loves sports, watch the same event and call to talk about the big game afterwards. If he or she is learning a new sport, pick up a good book about it and send it along with a note. Talk or write about your experiences with sports as a kid or teen.

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Visit your children's school. Introduce yourself to their teachers. Attend joint parent conferences or arrange a separate one if necessary. If your ex doesn't let you know about special events like the Christmas concert, provide some stamped, self-addressed envelopes and ask teachers to mail you a copy of school and classroom newsletters. Can't be at the concert or special events? Call to say "I'm thinking of you tonight." Volunteer together for a cause you both support. Send small gifts in the mail often. Pop a package of stickers, a hair ornament, a comic book, newspaper articles, or cartoons in the mail with a little note saying, "Thought of you when I saw this. Love you!" Many of the ideas in Chapter Seventeen work well for long-distance parents too. Helping Your Kids Cope Don't try to compensate for time away from your child by giving in to their every demand. Kids will want to test the limits more than usual, but secretly they want the comfort of knowing that you are still the grownup and that the rules haven't changed. Be sensitive to your children's moods and needs. If both households are trying to fit in lots of activities, there may be too much excitement. Choose some calming activities: read together, bake cookies, go for walks, and play board games.

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Dysfunctional spouse? Difficult in-laws? While you can't control their behavior, you can offset it by providing as much continuity and security for your children as you can. Spend time with family or friends who are good role models. Help your children get more exposure to effective families. Offer encouragement to help your children cope with the many changes they are undergoing. Talk about other changes in their lives that they've learned to deal with successfully. Reassure them that they will cope with this change too. Keep your private life private. Date when your ex has the kids. Don't introduce every new acquaintance to your children. Get to know someone well before letting your kids meet them. Be sure they will respect you and will be good to your children. For your own child's safety, do not allow new people into your home until you feel comfortable with them and have checked out their family and friends. Be fussy. Be cautious. Be careful. Your children's safety must come first. Help keep your kids healthy when they are with you. Provide nutritious snacks such as fruit, yogurt, nuts, and cheese as alternatives to candy. Talk to your ex about keeping bedtimes consistent between the two households. Exhausted children don't enjoy the holidays and can make life difficult for others.

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Try to have consistent rules for behavior at both houses. Firm but loving expectations help kids, and parents, cope. If possible, talk to your ex about the chores you expect your children to do. Again, consistency between the two homes helps your children feel secure. Discuss sensitive issues with your ex when your children can't overhear your conversation. Make sure you have friends, family, or a support group to provide emotional support; don't make your child a confidante. Alone for the holidays? Don't tell your children how lonely you'll be; Christmas will be hard enough for them because you aren't there. If you won't be seeing your children at Christmas, mail or deliver your gifts early. Your child is counting on you! Try to call your children on Christmas Day. If at all possible, stop by for quick hugs and kisses. When it's your turn to pack the lunches, tuck loving notes inside. Consider registering your children in Rainbows, a program offered in many communities across North America that helps children cope with divorce or death. With skilled counselors present, kids talk with other kids about their concerns.

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Gift Giving If possible, discuss your children's Christmas lists with your ex. You can split the lists so that each person shops for certain items. Ideally, the person with the larger income should absorb more of the cost of Santa's gifts. If your relationship with your ex allows it, consider combining funds for an expensive item, such as a bike or snowboard. It's probably best not to label gifts from "Mom and Dad." It could give your child false hope that you are going to get back together again. If you are the parent with more money, be sensitive to the fact that your former spouse may not have a lot to spend on gifts. Don't give overly extravagant gifts—help with winter clothing, sports or music lessons, or other expenses instead. Give gifts that help your children cope with going back and forth between two households. Extra toiletry items, clothing, pajamas, toys, books, art supplies, or an attractive comforter with a matching pillowcase will make both households feel like home. Don't fall into the trap of buying tons of gifts in order to relieve a guilty conscience. Spend more time doing things with your children instead, not only at Christmas, but also throughout the year. Children need to know if gifts are expected to stay in the house where they are given or can go back and forth between both households. Be sensitive to their

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wishes. Is it more important that the gift stays at the house where it was given or that your child enjoys it as much as possible? Helping Yourself Cope Be kind to yourself. Treat yourself well physically and emotionally during the holidays; pamper yourself in inexpensive ways. Alone at Christmas? Do something you've always wanted to do this year. Cook something special for yourself. Rent a bunch of your favorite movies. Eat comfort food. Stay in your pajamas all day if you want to, or go for a long walk. Let friends know your plans ahead of time; good friends want to be there for you, but they may not know you are on your own. Arrange to spend time with family and friends who make you feel good. Give yourself permission to grieve. It's natural to be sad about your separation or divorce. Holidays intensify these feelings. Remember that nobody is perfect. That includes you. You are probably going to say and do some things you will regret. Give yourself permission to press the "delete" button and mentally erase your mistakes. Be flexible with your ex when you can. Someday you may need a favor! Being rigid may feel righteous at the time, but it's hard on your kids and your health. Some of the things your ex is going to do may drive you crazy. Focus on the issues that are important to the well-being of your children and let the other stuff go.

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Acknowledge what your ex does well with the kids. Everybody does better with a little encouragement. If s natural to be bitter and angry, but try to reframe your thinking. Instead of thinking about what you don't have, find ways to share what you do have. Caring for others is good for your health. If you are denied access or phone calls to your children, write a special holiday letter to each one. Tell them what you love and admire most about them. If you aren't able to give it to them this year, put it away in a special memory box. Too busy to shop or not used to being the Christmas shopper in your family? Shop online. Give gift certificates. Give a gift to charity in someone's name. In time, try to forgive your ex. Do it for yourself. Do it for your kids.

He who cannot forgive others destroys the bridge over which he himself must pass. —George Herbert

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Budget Problems Be honest with your children. Let them know ahead of time that their gifts may be more modest this year. There are plenty of affordable ways to have fun: make snowmen; drink hot chocolate; snuggle up on the couch and watch a classic Christmas movie together. Develop a Christmas budget and stick to it. Pay cash whenever possible. In a tactful way, be more specific than usual when someone asks what your children would like for Christmas. Let your parents or in-laws help Santa this year. Ask them to pick up one of the items on your child's wish list. Pick up small gift items or stocking stuffers all year long. In July or August, start buying a few extra nonperishable grocery items each month that you can set aside for December. Purchase a small savings bond each month to set aside for holiday expenses. Trim your gift list; people will understand. Give homemade baking or an ornament your child has made along with a big hug. Give friends or family a babysitting coupon. When it's your ex's turn to take your kids, take their children

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for the evening, day, or weekend. It may help ease the heartache of missing your own children a little. Give your parents the gift of your time this year. Make up coupons offering help with household chores. Save postage: send an e-mail note rather than Christmas cards. Buying kids' clothes can be a real challenge for single parents. If your family wants to give clothes for gifts, provide them with a list of the items and sizes needed. Encourage relatives to buy separates where practical—kids wear our pants much faster than other items. Dark colors don't show stains as quickly as lighter ones. If possible, buy unisex clothing that can be worn by an older child and then passed on to a sibling. A navy, gray, or dark green winter coat may be a better choice than a pink or a purple one. You can always buy a hat and mitts in your child's favorite color to jazz it up. Encourage relatives to buy clothes that wash easily and don't need ironing. You have enough to do already. Teenagers will get more for their money at the afterChristmas sales. Tactfully let friends and relatives know that gift certificates for your teen's favorite store would be especially welcome this year. Allow others to offer assistance if you really need it. Someday you will be able to pass on the kindness yourself. This year, allow people to give to you.

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Celebrating Christmas with a Blended Family Christmas with a blended family can be extraordinarily difficult. Anger, resentment, and conflict can wreak havoc on carefully made plans. It takes time and tact to combine old traditions as you discover new ones. Have a family discussion about plans and expectations and allow each family member to express their feelings. Try to compromise where you can. If you expect some disharmony, you will be better prepared to deal with it. Holidays can be trigger points for emotional outbursts; children grieve for a long time for the family and the holiday they used to have. Remember who is the grownup. Be patient. Give extra hugs. If you can afford to, consider spending Christmas somewhere new this year. A place that has no history for either part of your blended family is a better choice than one where either side has previously visited. Take lots of games and activities along. Ask your children which traditions they really want to bring to the new family and incorporate some of their ideas. While all children need the stability and comfort old traditions offer, children in blended families need them even more. Create some new traditions together—ordering pizza on Christmas Eve, going skating, or making a wreath with boughs and pinecones collected on a family walk might be fun ones to begin with. Spend the same amount on gifts for each child. Make sure that the number of gifts children receive is also as even as possible—children are quick to spot unfairness.

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Talk to grandparents about gifts. Perhaps they could give a family gift rather than individual presents, or all of the children might get a small gift such as a cozy sweatshirt or a pair of pajamas. Clear your calendar as much as possible to make time for family. People will understand when you explain that your family has made a decision to spend more time at home together this year. If the two sets of children don't normally live together, try to find a bed for each or have all the kids camp out on sleeping bags in the family room. It's hard to be the kid who has to give up their bed or whose "Visitor status" is made very apparent because they don't have one. Bunk beds and rollaway cots may help. If you hang stockings, make sure there is one for each child. If everyone will be biking or skating, borrow or rent some equipment for the children coming for the holiday. Help the children make or buy small gifts for each other. If you are going to be including a family letter in your cards this year, ask all of the children to contribute a paragraph to it. If you send a picture, choose a photo that has all of you in it. Make sure there are photos of both sets of children in your home.

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If your children get along well, consider some joint gifts such as board games. If you are just getting to know one another this year, find books or craft kits that will allow each child some private time during the holidays. Be sensitive when choosing Christmas movies the first year. Find funny ones neither set of children has seen before. ' If your "in-house" children are very young, sharing toys can be difficult. Help them decide ahead of time which toys they feel they can share. Find a box with a lid to put the other toys in and put the box away in their closet to keep safe until after the holiday. Many of us bear the scars of divorced parents and difficult holidays. You have the opportunity to change that for your own children.

You can't change your own past, but you can build a good past for someone else. That's not a bad way to repair the damage. —Andra Medea, author of Conflict Unraveled

Chapter Eleven When the Holidays Hurt

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Blessed is the influence of one true, loving human soul on another. —George Eliot It is when we are ill or grieving that we are most in need of comfort and of reassurance that our friends, despite the frantic pace of Christmas, have not forgotten us. It's easy to get caught up in our own lives in December. We don't mean to be deliberately insensitive, but we are often so overwhelmed by the holidays that we forget how painful this time of year can be for others. We make excuses, telling ourselves we'll call later on when life slows down a little, or we put off visiting because we don't like hospitals. Many of us are particularly uncomfortable with mental illness and depression. All too often we say, "Let me know if I can help," and are surprised when we don't receive a call. It takes great courage for someone to admit they are lonely or in need of help. If someone you know is ill, don't wait to show that you care—think of something appropriate to do and then do it! Small acts of kindness make difficult times more bearable, not only for the person who is ill, but also for their spouse, children, and caregivers. Your compassion and empathy may be the most important gifts you give this year. Here are some ways you can help:

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Call ahead to make arrangements. It's hard for sick people to do things spontaneously. Often they need to adjust their schedule in order to conserve their energy for your visit. Ask the person who is ill if there is anywhere special they would like to go during the Christmas season. Perhaps there is a special movie or a light display they would like to see. Plan ahead, but be understanding if changes must be made. A trip to the hairdresser might be a welcome gift. Arrange to take your friend or for a stylist to come to them. Go shopping together for a wig, hat, or scarf for a very close friend who anticipates hair loss due to chemotherapy. Go out for lunch afterwards. Your moral support will be appreciated. Help make sure your friend's or relative's Christmas outfit and those of their kids are ready. Drop off and pick up any clothes that need dry cleaning. Set aside two half days to help put up and take down your friend's Christmas tree. Put up and take down their outdoor lights. Take their children to a tree farm to choose a tree. Have lunch with the kids before or afterward. Make a cookie kit for their kids, complete with frozen or chilled dough, a tub of icing, sprinkles,

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and cookie cutters. Set up a time to supervise the baking and decorating. Invite their children to your house for a baking or craft session so their mom or dad can have a nap. Give a pre-baked gingerbread house kit for Christmas. They are available at most large grocery chains. Help the kids put it together. Organize some friends, parents, or church members to bake an extra dozen of their favorite treat. Arrange an appropriate time to deliver the goodies. Ask your church group, neighbors, friends, or school's parents to have a "freezer meal" blitz. Let the family receiving the meals know ahead of time to make sure freezer space will be available. Make a meal with all the fixings and drop it off on an appointed night. If you don't have time to cook, have a pizza delivered or pick up some pasta or roast chicken and a couple of salads at the grocery store. Videotape the Christmas concert for someone too ill to attend. Drive their children to and from the concert if necessary. Take their children to see Santa and pick up the photos afterward.

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Make a commitment to take their children to a sports event or club when you are driving your own kids. Skating lessons, hockey, swimming, Brownies, and Cubs play an important part in keeping the lives of the children involved as normal as possible under the circumstances. Take your friend and their children for a drive to see the Christmas lights. Phone and ask if you can do some shopping for them when you are going to the mall. Offer to sit with a person who can't get out so their caregiver can have a rest or do some of their own Christmas shopping. Bring a terrific Christmas movie to your friend's house and watch it with them. Don't forget the popcorn. A CD of a contemporary recording of Christmas classics is a relaxing Christmas gift. Give their children cuddly toys for Christmas. Stuffed animals can provide a lot of comfort. Help wrap, deliver, or mail their gifts. Help your friend with their cards if they wish to send them. Sometimes there are great financial hardships associated with illness. Find out discreetly if your friend or family member needs help. If so, arrange to pay their electrical, phone, or heating bill anonymously.

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If you live too far away to visit often, phone and send cards and letters with snapshots regularly. Encourage your children to make special cards to send. Buy a warm nighty or pajamas, cozy slippers, or a collection of soothing herbal teas for a gift. Give a nicely framed picture of your family to a close friend or relative who is in the hospital. Decorate a relative's hospital room with a small wreath, a tiny tree, or some colorful drawings from your children. For someone who will be in the hospital on Christmas Day, fill a stocking with tiny treats like hand cream, a word search book, a favorite snack, some hard candies, and a small bottle of cologne or aftershave. Too often we don't say the things closest to our hearts. Write a Christmas letter saying what you love, admire, and cherish about your friend or relative. Make a personalized pillow for your friend or relative to snuggle up with. Take your photo and a piece of plain, light-colored fabric to a local print shop where they can transfer the image to the fabric. Frame the photo panel with an attractive print and sew it into a pillow.

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People are often cold while going through chemotherapy. It's easy to make a warm quilt with polar fleece. Just buttonhole-stitch, zigzag, or serge around the edges. Cut family members' handprints from multicolored fleece and applique them onto the quilt. Wrap it up with a card that says, "Warm hugs from us to you." Give a photo album with pictures for Christmas this year. Make a special memory album for their children. Christmas can be very emotional for people with serious illnesses. Give the gifts of patience and understanding. Real friendship is shown in times of trouble; prosperity is full of friends. —Euripides

Christmas and Grieving When someone we love dies, holidays can be very painful. Reaching out to a friend or relative who has experienced a recent loss may be the best gift you give this year. Make a special point of visiting over the holidays. Bake some cookies and stop by for coffee—give lots of hugs. If you are trying to deal with loss, the following suggestions may help: Balance your family's needs with your own. Have a meeting to discuss what you would really like to do (as well as what you would prefer not to do) this year. Begin a new tradition or ritual that is meaningful for your family—a toast or blessing before meals, a

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special ornament, or a much-loved song may bring you comfort. Encourage children to find their own special way of remembering loved ones. My little neighbor Ryan set up a "donation station" in memory of his grandfather. He made a display with candles and a big sign inviting friends and family to make a contribution to cancer research. When he was seven, he decided to grow his hair to make a wig for children with cancer. Share your feelings with a friend or relative who is a good listener. Accept the help that is offered. If a good friend volunteers to help with baking, cleaning, shopping, or to look after your kids for an afternoon, let them help. Spend time with people who restore your spirits. If you can afford it, this may be the year for a Christmas trip. If not, you may want to plan to visit friends or relatives on Christmas Day.

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After an emotional crisis, you'll be tired and need more down time over the holidays. This year, choose to do a few things that are really important and let the others go. Skip sending cards or buy your baking if you wish. Give yourself permission to do less. If you have young children, use some of your vacation time to spend with them over the holidays this year; they will need your loving attention. If you can't arrange time off, perhaps grandparents, an aunt and uncle, or a friend can spend some extra time with your kids. You may wish to have Christmas dinner with another family member, a friend, or at a restaurant. If you are staying at home, you may want to make small changes such as using a different tablecloth or dishes, changing the time of the meal, or serving a buffet rather than a sit-down meal. Try hard to do something for someone else this year. Help at a food bank, serve a meal to the homeless, or pick out a toy for a needy child. It will help fill the void. If you can afford to, give a donation in memory of your loved one to a cause that would be meaningful to them. Select an ornament for each of your children or grandchildren that represents something special about your loved one. When a much-loved teaching assistant died in our school district, her friends and colleagues decorated a tree for her teenaged daughter. Each person

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brought an angel ornament and read aloud a message about her mom as they hung their ornament on the tree. They also placed messages in an album for her daughter to read and re-read later on. The following December, a candlelit walk was held in her memory. What a memorable tribute to a special person! Many children need additional support with grief. The Rainbows program is offered in many communities and does a fine job supporting children affected by death, divorce, or separation. Your child's school counselor and other community agencies may also be able to help you and your child find access to counseling. Your community may have a hospice program that supports people in the last stages of life. In addition to caring for people who are ill, most hospices also offer individual or group support for family members. Please be aware that this extraordinary "gift from the heart" is available for you when you need it most. And if you are able to help a hospice by making a donation in memory of a loved one at Christmas or during the year, your gift will be very much appreciated. When my father died, I found comfort in looking for the first evening star and thinking of him. Did you know that you can name a star after a loved one? You can, and it can cost as little as $50. Contact the closest planetarium to inquire. Pick up some adhesive stars at a stationery store to decorate a handmade card to accompany your star adoption certificate. Write a comforting message inside.

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Chapter Twelve Comfort Food

A good meal soothes the soul... —Frederick W. Hackwood Do you have memories of favorite dishes that take you back to your childhood? One of our family treats was warm gingerbread cake with pears and a dollop of whipped cream. Pot roast, chicken and dumplings, shepherd's pie, macaroni and cheese, warm banana bread, pineapple upside-down cake, and oven-baked chocolate pudding all bring back fond memories. This chapter is full of tried-and-true recipes that were provided by friends and family. Some have been passed down by generations of terrific cooks. When cooking for your family, make a double batch to share with someone who needs a little comfort. Patricia's Baked Macaroni and Cheese 2 cups elbow macaroni, uncooked 1/2 cup butter or margarine 1/2 cup flour 1 1/2 cups milk 1 1/2 cups sour cream 10 oz. brick of Cheddar cheese, grated 1/2 tsp. pepper 1 tsp. salt

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Preheat oven to 350°F. Cook macaroni, drain and rinse with cold water, then place into a large bowl and set aside. In a medium pot, melt butter and stir in flour. Gradually stir in milk and sour cream. Add salt and pepper. Cook over low heat, stirring constantly, until sauce bubbles and thickens. Reserve enough grated cheese for topping and add the rest to the sauce, stirring to blend. Pour sauce over the macaroni and mix well. Spoon into a greased 3-quart casserole dish and sprinkle reserved cheese over top. Bake (uncovered) for 60 minutes, or until bubbly and golden. Serve immediately. Aunt Trudy's Calico Beans 1 Ib. hamburger 1 cup onion, chopped 1/2 Ib. bacon, cut into small pieces 1-28 oz. can pork and beans 1 - 15 oz. can butter or lima beans, drained 1 - 15 oz. can kidney beans, drained 2 tsp. vinegar 1/2 cup ketchup 3/4 cup brown sugar 1 tsp. dry mustard

Brown meat, onions, and bacon together. Combine all ingredients in a 3-quart casserole dish. Cover and bake for 1 hour at 300°F. This may also be cooked in slow cooker on low for 3 to 5 hours. This tastes even better the next day. You may add a small can of well-drained crushed pineapple if you wish. You may substitute sliced hot dogs for bacon and omit onions if you are cooking for children. This hearty dish freezes well.

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Bev's Almost Cabbage Rolls Casserole

If you love cabbage rolls but think they're too fussy, you are going to adore this recipe. It's a perfect winter meal. 1 Ib. lean ground beef 3/4 cup long-grain rice, uncooked 1 large onion, chopped 2 cloves garlic, minced 1/2 tsp. salt 1/4 tsp. pepper 1 - 28 oz. can tomato sauce 1/4 cup cider vinegar 2 tbsp. brown sugar, packed 1 tbsp. dry mustard powder 8 cups (approximately 1/2 head) cabbage, coarsely chopped

In a large bowl, mix together beef, rice, onion, garlic, salt, and pepper. In a small bowl, stir together tomato sauce, vinegar, brown sugar, and mustard. Layer onethird of cabbage in the bottom of a deep 3-quart casserole dish. Arrange half of beef mixture on top. Cover with another one-third of cabbage. Top with remaining beef mixture, then with remaining cabbage. Pour the tomato sauce mixture over top, but do not stir. Casserole will be very full; cover and let stand at room temperature for 20 minutes. Bake at 325°F for 2 hours without stirring. Makes 4 to 6 servings. Mom's Meat Loaf

This was a favorite in our house, and I know your family will enjoy it too. Serve with baked potatoes and green beans, carrots, or corn. While you have the oven on, pop in a dish of hot fudge or raisin delight pudding.

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Meat loaf: 1 1/2 Ib. lean hamburger 2/3 cup quick-cooking rolled oats 1 - 10 oz. can tomato soup 1 tsp. salt 1/8 tsp. pepper 2 eggs 1 tsp. Worcestershire sauce, optional 1 small onion, finely chopped Topping: 1/2 cup ketchup 4 tbsp. brown sugar 2 tsp. regular mustard, optional

In a large mixing bowl, combine beef, rolled oats, soup, salt, pepper, eggs, Worcestershire sauce, and chopped onion. If you don't have an onion, substitute half an envelope of dried onion soup mix. Mix well and pop into a greased loaf pan. Combine ketchup, brown sugar, and mustard. Spread over meat loaf and bake in a 350°F oven for 60 to 75 minutes, depending on the size of the loaf pan. Serves 6.

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Nancy's Sour Cream Chicken Enchiladas 4 cups cooked chicken or turkey 2 - 10 oz. cans cream of mushroom soup 2 cups sour cream 1 cup onion, chopped 3 cups cheese, grated (you can use half Cheddar and half mozzarella if you wish—reserve 1 cup for topping) 8 to 12 floured tortillas Chop cooked poultry into small pieces and mix with 2 cups of cheese, soup, sour cream, and onion. Pour onethird of soup mixture into the bottom of a 9" x 13" greased pan. Spread one-third of the mixture on tortillas. Roll up tortillas and put seam side down in pan. Spread the reserved third of soup mixture on top. Sprinkle remaining grated cheese on top. Bake at 350°F for 45 to 60 minutes. Shelley's Hamburger Casserole 1 Ib. ground beef 1 carrot, grated 2 stalks of celery, chopped 1 onion, chopped 1 - 10 oz. can tomato soup 1 - 28 oz. can stewed tomatoes salt and pepper to taste 1 tsp. chili powder 1 tsp. oregano 1 tsp. basil 1 clove garlic, crushed 1 cup dry elbow macaroni 1 1/2 cups cottage cheese 1 egg 1/4 cup Parmesan cheese

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1 cup mozzarella cheese, grated additional grated mozzarella for topping

Saute ground beef, onion, garlic, carrot, and celery until onion is transparent. Add soup, stewed tomatoes, salt, pepper, and spices. Simmer for 45 minutes, stirring occasionally. When beef mixture is nearly ready, cook macaroni in salted water. Drain well and return to the pot. Add cottage cheese, egg, more salt and pepper, and cheeses and mix well. Spread the macaroni mixture in a greased 9" x 13" pan. Top with beef mixture. Sprinkle with reserved grated mozzarella cheese. Bake at 350°F for 30 to 40 minutes. Serve with a salad and crusty rolls. Carol's Chicken Pie

The perfect way to use up leftover turkey or chicken. 2 tbsp. butter or margarine 1/2 cup onion, chopped 1 - 10 oz. can cream of chicken or cream of mushroom soup 1/2 cup milk 1 to 2 cups boiled potatoes, diced 1 cup frozen mixed vegetables 1 cup cooked chicken, cubed a pinch of thyme or marjoram salt and pepper to taste 1 pie crust (you can use a frozen pie crust or frozen phyllo pastry)

Saute onions in butter. Add soup, milk, and salt and pepper to taste. Bring almost to a boil and add mixed vegetables (except potatoes). Arrange chicken and potatoes in a greased casserole dish and cover with soup mixture. Place pastry on top and poke a few holes in the crust. Bake at 425°F for 25 minutes, or until golden brown.

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Auntie Elvira's Happy-Ever-After Lasagna 1 - 10 oz. package frozen spinach 1 tbsp. cooking oil 1 medium onion, chopped 1 clove garlic, finely chopped 1 Ib. lean hamburger 1 - 28 oz. (or 800 ml.) jar of spicy spaghetti sauce 1 - 10 oz. can mushrooms, drained 1 tsp. oregano 1 tsp. basil salt and pepper to taste 1 1/2 cups cottage cheese 3/4 cup Parmesan cheese 4 tsp. vegetable oil 1 tsp. salt 1 egg, beaten approximately 1/2 box no-boil lasagna noodles 6 oz. mozzarella cheese, grated

Thaw spinach and drain well. Chop and set aside. Heat oil in a skillet and brown hamburger, garlic, and onion. Add spaghetti sauce, mushrooms, and spices. Bring to a boil and remove from heat. Combine the cottage cheese with Parmesan cheese in a bowl. Add the oil, spinach, salt, and egg and mix well. Put one-third of meat sauce in a 9" x 13" pan. Cover with a layer of noodles, top with one-third of meat sauce, add another layer of noodles, then spinach and cottage cheese mixture, and then another layer of noodles. Top with remaining meat sauce. Cover tightly with foil and bake at 350°F for 45 minutes. Uncover, sprinkle with grated mozzarella, and bake another 15 minutes. Let stand 5 to 10 minutes before serving.

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Food should be prepared with butter and love. —Swedish proverb Joanne's Creamy Com Chowder This corn chowder is delicious with the dropped cheese biscuits from Chapter Sixteen or the "Mile High Biscuits'7 in this chapter. 1 - 10 oz. package frozen kernel corn 1 large potato, peeled and chopped 1 medium onion, chopped 1 small orange or red pepper, finely chopped 1 - 10 oz. can chicken broth 1 - 6 oz. can evaporated skim milk 1/4 cup apple juice 1/2 tsp. cumin salt and pepper to taste

Mix all the ingredients together in a large saucepan or kettle and bring to a boil. Cover and simmer gently for 10 minutes, or until potato is tender. Put 2 cups of soup into a blender and blend until smooth. Return to

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saucepan, cooking until heated through. Garnish with parsley or cilantro if desired. Serves 4.

Of soup and love, the first is best. —Spanish Proverb Company Chicken and Biscuits

Before the term "slow cooking" became popular, my grandmother used to spend a whole afternoon preparing chicken and biscuits for Sunday supper. This recipe will take you back in time! 3 Ibs. chicken pieces 3 cups water 1 medium onion, chopped 2 stalks celery, including tops with leaves, chopped 2 medium carrots, chopped salt and pepper to taste 11/2 cups vegetables, fresh, frozen, or canned

Place chicken pieces into a Dutch oven and cover with water. Simmer with onion, carrots, celery, salt, and pepper until tender (approximately one hour). Place chicken on a plate, cool slightly, then remove the meat from the bones. Reserve broth for stock or soup. Cut chicken into V pieces. Place chicken and vegetables into a greased casserole dish. You may use carrots, peas, mushrooms, tiny pearl onions, broccoli, or cauliflower. If you use cauliflower or broccoli, you may add 1/2 cup of grated cheese to the cream sauce.

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Cream sauce: 3 tbsp. butter 3 tbsp. flour 3 cups whole milk 1/4 tsp. savory or seasoned salt salt and pepper to taste

In a medium-sized saucepan, melt the butter and flour. Cook over medium-low heat for a few minutes. Carefully blend in the milk, stirring constantly until the mixture thickens. Stir in seasonings. Pour cream sauce over chicken and vegetables. Bake at 375°F for 15 minutes. Remove from oven and top with baking powder biscuits. Turn heat up to 425°F. Return dish to oven and cook until biscuits are golden brown (approximately 12 to 15 minutes). Mile High Baking Powder Biscuits 3 cups flour 3/4 tsp. cream of tartar 3/4 tsp. salt 4 1/2 tsp. baking powder 3/4 cup shortening 1 egg, slightly beaten 1 cup milk

Sift flour before measuring. Mix dry ingredients. Cut in shortening with a pastry blender. Mix egg with milk and add to dry ingredients. Stir quickly with a fork to make a soft dough, but don't over mix. Turn dough out onto a lightly floured surface. Knead 10 to 12 times with well-floured hands. Roll dough to 1" thickness and cut out biscuits with an overturned juice glass. Place biscuits on an ungreased baking sheet. Bake at 425°F for 12 to 15 minutes, or until golden brown. These are delicious served warm with butter and jam.

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Bev's Apple Pie Cake

Served warm with maple syrup, flavored whipped cream, custard sauce, caramel sauce, or the vanilla sauce below, this cake is the ultimate in comfort food. 1/4 cup butter 3/4 to 1 cup sugar, depending on tartness of apples 1 egg 1/4tsp. salt 1 tsp. cinnamon 1/2 tsp. nutmeg 1 tsp. baking soda 1 cup flour 1/2 cup raisins, optional 21/2 cups diced or grated apple 2 tsp. hot water 1 tsp. vanilla

Cream sugar and butter until fluffy. Add egg and mix well. Stir in dry ingredients. Add apples, water, and vanilla. Spread mixture in a greased 9" pie plate. Bake for 45 minutes at 350°E Vanilla Sauce 1/4 cup sugar 1 tbsp. flour a few grains of salt a pinch of nutmeg 1 cup boiling water 2 tbsp. butter 2 tsp. vanilla

Combine sugar, flour, and salt. Add boiling water gradually, stirring constantly. Heat on low until thickened. Remove from heat and add butter, vanilla, and nutmeg.

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I know the look of an apple that is roasting and sizzling on the hearth on a winter's evening, and I know the comfort that comes of eating it hot, along with some sugar and a drench of cream... I know how the nuts taken in conjunction with winter apples, cider, and doughnuts, make old people's tales and old jokes sound fresh and crisp and enchanting. —Mark Twain Mary's Bare Apple Pie

If you struggle with pie crust, as I do, try Mary's easy no-crust apple pie. 1 egg 1/2 cup brown sugar 1/2 cup white sugar 1 tsp. vanilla

a pinch of salt 1/2 cup flour

1 tsp. baking powder 2 medium apples, pared and chopped 1/2 cup pecans or walnuts, chopped

Beat egg in a medium-sized bowl and then add remaining ingredients. Spread the mixture into a greased and floured 9" pie plate and bake for 30 minutes at 350°F. When cool, top with whipped cream or ice cream.

One can say everthing best over a meal. —George Eliot

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Sheila's Favorite Pancakes

These delicious pancakes will quickly become a family tradition. 1 1/4 cups flour 3 tsp. baking powder 1 tbsp. sugar 1/2 tsp. salt 1 egg, beaten 11/3 cups milk 2 tbsp. oil 1 cup berries, optional

Combine dry ingredients. Mix wet ingredients and add to dry ingredients. Stir just until combined; the batter will be lumpy. Bake on a greased hot griddle or in a frying pan. If you wish, sprinkle pancakes with your favorite berries or slices of banana before turning them over. Makes 6 to 8 small to medium pancakes. Double the recipe if necessary. Crock-Pot Apple Cinnamon Oatmeal

Porridge is very comforting. Here's an easy way to ensure your children start their day with a warm tummy. 2 cups rolled oats (not quick-cooking) 1 tsp. cinnamon 1/3 cup brown sugar 4 cups water a pinch of salt 2 apples, cored and chopped (and peeled if your kids are fussy eaters) a handful of raisins or dried cranberries, optional

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Mix apples, dried fruit, cinnamon, and brown sugar in the bottom of a crock-pot. Sprinkle oats over the apples, then pour in the water and salt. Do not stir. Cook overnight for 8 or 9 hours on low setting. Serve with additional brown sugar and milk. Half-Hour Raisin Delight Pudding

You may remember this delicious self-saucing pudding from your childhood. It was a favorite with our grandmothers because it was inexpensive and used ingredients they had in the pantry. Sauce: 1 cup brown sugar 1 tbsp. butter 1/2 tsp. vanilla 1/2 cup raisins 2 cups boiling water

Place sauce ingredients in a pan; bring to a boil, and set aside. Batter: 1 tbsp. butter 1/2 cup white or brown sugar 1 cup flour 1/2 tsp. salt 2 tsp. baking powder 1/2 cup milk

Preheat oven to 350°R Cream sugar and butter until fluffy. Measure flour, salt, and baking powder. Add to the creamed sugar mixture alternately with the milk. Spread batter in a greased 8" x 8" pan and pour raisin syrup over the batter. Bake for 30 minutes.

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During baking, the cake rises to the top and the sauce settles to the bottom—it's magic! Serve warm, either plain or with whipped cream. Hot Fudge Pudding

This is another old family favorite many readers will remember. It's sure to please the chocolate lovers in your family. Batter: 1 cup flour, sifted 2 tsp. baking powder 1/2 tsp. salt 3/4 cup white sugar 2 tbsp. cocoa 2 tbsp. butter, melted 1/2 cup milk 1 tsp. vanilla Sauce: 3/4 cup brown sugar 4 tbsp. cocoa 1 3/4 cups hot water

Preheat oven to 350°R Combine flour, baking powder, salt, sugar, and cocoa together in a bowl. Combine melted butter, milk, and vanilla and stir into the flour mixture until well blended. Spread mixture in a greased 8" x 8" pan or medium-sized casserole dish. Combine sauce ingredients and pour over batter, but do not stir! Bake for 45 minutes.

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There is nothing like staying at home for real comfort. —Jane Austen

Chapter Thirteen An Animal Lover's Christmas

Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawakened. —Anatole France If you are looking for a surefire way to get your kids involved in helping others at Christmas, pick a cause that involves animals. It can be especially good for children who need a little extra love themselves as a healing experience for their own hearts. It's easy to get started. Ask your local grocer if you can leave a decorated box by the exit doors for people to put pet food in when they are shopping. A group of children can organize a car wash or a penny drive and give the proceeds to an animal shelter or collect used towels and blankets to drop off. Here are some additional tips provided by animal lovers and the SPCA: Don't give your children a pet for Christmas. There is too much going on at this time of year. Too many guests, excited children, and potential hazards like Christmas trees and decorations make December an impractical time to bring home a frightened kitten or puppy. Instead, place a cuddly plush dog or cat under the tree or give a collar and leash for Christmas. Visit the shelter in January to choose your new family member.

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Decorate a jar and collect your change in order to make a donation to your local SPCA. Help your children sort and count the coins. If your local grocery store or a big chain store allows you to donate your bonus points for shopping there to the SPCA, do so. The shelter can use the points to buy staples such as dog food. Pet shelters report they are always in need of the following items: cat litter, dry dog or cat food, paper towels, Kleenex, bathroom tissue, bleach, dog leashes, dog and cat toys, animal carriers, collars, office supplies, towels and blankets, garbage bags, and postage stamps. If you are able to give any of these

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supplies or cash, it will be greatly appreciated. Call ahead to see exactly what is needed. Take your child with you when you drop off your donation. Does your area have a wildlife recovery center? They are great places for family field trips. You may find you want to volunteer there. They also need many of the items requested by animal shelters. Make some items for your local SPCA's Christmas bazaar. Use acrylic paint to make paw prints on the exterior of plastic bowls—add some doggie treats and tie the bowls up with cellophane! Make some car blankets from polar fleece for dogs and cats to snuggle up on. Cat and dog stockings and ornaments are always popular. Sew up some small fabric bags and fill them with dog biscuits or cat treats. Help your child make a stocking for your family pet. If you use felt and finish the edges with pinking shears, it's simple to do. A glitter-glue pen makes it easy to add your pet's name. Take your child shopping to choose some small items to fill the stocking. Make a family commitment to walk dogs at your local animal shelter. Even once a month is helpful. If your cat or dog isn't spayed or neutered, make an appointment now for the New Year. Make or buy some muffins or cookies for the staff and volunteers at the SPCA. The banana orange muffins made by the following recipe are always popular and very healthy:

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Stella's Banana Orange Muffins 3 cups bran 1 cup flour 1 cup raisins 1/2 cup wheat germ 2 tsp. baking soda 2 tsp. baking powder 1/2 tsp. salt 1/4 cup vegetable oil 1/4 cup molasses 1/2 cup liquid honey 1 1/3 cups milk 1 egg 1 large ripe banana 1 whole orange

Stir together bran, flour, raisins, wheat germ, baking soda, baking powder, and salt in a large bowl. Pour oil, molasses, honey, milk, banana, and egg into a food processor or blender. Mix. Divide orange into eighths. Discarding the seeds only, drop the rest—including the peel—into the blender and blend until the mixture is still slightly chunky. Pour liquid ingredients into dry ingredients. Stir just enough to moisten. Spoon or scoop into 12 large or 18 medium greased muffin cups. Bake at 375°F for 15 to 20 minutes.

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Give a book about birds along with a bird feeder and birdseed. You can make bird feeders very easily by dipping pine cones in peanut butter and then rolling them in birdseed or by hollowing out half a grapefruit and filling it with birdseed. For a young carpenter, there are many well-made, reasonably priced birdhouse or bird-feeder kits available. Decorate your tree after the holidays with birdfriendly snacks like popcorn and leave it outside for them as a winter shelter. Read some of James Herriot's stories together. His stories for children include The Christmas Kitten, Only One Woof, and Moses the Kitten. Dog lovers will enjoy his delightful collection of dog stories. For farming families and 4-H kids, here are some ideas from a young farmer for making Christmas on the farm extra special:

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"Christmas on the Farm" Christmas on the farm is special to me because our Christmas dinner is mostly homegrown. There is no big rush to get to the grocery store because we have most of it ready. "Turkey day" is lots of fun. We start early in the morning and usually finish late at night. Everyone has a job. Lunch is always hot and hearty. By the time dinner time comes we all feel and smell like turkeys! Weighing the birds is exciting. Everyone likes to guess what the biggest turkey will be. We always try to get ahead on the barn cleaning so that part is all taken care of for Christmas Day. We also like to have everything looking clean and tidy for when other farmers come to visit. They always want to see how the livestock is doing. We pay special attention to the show steers. They are well groomed and clipped, ready for any visitors, because we

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always want to show them off and have fun guessing weights and comparing hip and loin size with them. It's like playing "pick the winner." The animals are always fed and taken care of before we have presents and brunch! I fork extra silage and say "Merry Christmas" to them all Christmas music is on the barn radio because it plays 24 hours a day. I always like to get and give farm stuff as presents. Last year I got a nice Western hat and a new grooming comb. Farm calendars are grabbed up quick. I like the ones with tractors. Although I like school, being on the farm for the Christmas holiday is great fun for me. Raymond T. Farmer, age twelve

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Chapter Fourteen The Gift of a Green Planet

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My soul can find no staircase to heaven unless it be through Earth's loveliness. —Michaelangelo Christmas is not an environmentally sound holiday. We make lots of extra trips, which produces extra emissions. Mountains of wrapping paper end up at the dump, and hundreds of thousands of unwanted gifts sit in our closets. The Center for a New American Dream reports that Americans alone produce five million additional tons of trash between Thanksgiving and New Year's. It's easy to make a few changes that can really make a difference—think of it as your gift to our planet, as well as to future generations. Plan your shopping so that you make as few trips as possible. Use the bus if your city has a good public transit system. Take a friend shopping so only one car is used; you'll get to spend time together while you shop and help reduce greenhouse gas emissions. Think carefully about the gift you are giving. Is it truly something the recipient wants or needs? My grandmother used to say, "Don't give old people something they have to dust. Food or a plant is better." You can't go wrong with a cheery poinsettia or a basket of warm muffins.

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Give food gifts such as a basket with all the ingredients for a pasta supper. Tuck in a couple of your most successful recipes. Recycle last year's cookie tins and baskets by filling them with newly baked or purchased cookies, bars, or muffins. If you don't have time to bake, fill Mason jars from your local thrift store or recycling depot with the cookie mix in a jar or brownie mix in a jar recipes found in Chapter Twenty. Consider pooling your resources with other family members in order to give one really special gift. Most people have too much stuff and would be thrilled to get one item they really want. Give gifts that will last. Visit local craft fairs, where you'll find lots of high quality items made from wood, stained glass, or handwoven materials. Shop at antique stores and second-hand bookshops. You'll find wonderful treasures. If you are buying candles, choose those made from real beeswax. They are non-toxic and don't give off fumes that can aggravate allergies. Take along your own shopping bags. Reasonably priced, lightweight muslin bags are available at many stores. Give a couple of bags to an environmentally conscious friend for Christmas.

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Use wrapping materials you already have in the house. Scraps of material can be sewn into reusable bags. Brown paper bags can be cut apart, turned inside out, and stamped with gold paint. Add some raffia and a piece of cedar bough for an elegant package. Use sturdy gift bags that can be recycled several times. Use recycled Christmas cards for tags. Reuse ribbon—if we all recycled just a couple of feet each year, we could tie a bow around our planet. Use your extra photos as gift tags—the recipients will love them! Make your own wreath from natural items rather than purchasing a plastic one. Buy or make a loosely woven grapevine wreath and tuck lots of cedar or fir boughs between the twigs. Wire on some pine cones and a big bow. Wreaths make wonderful, affordable, environmentally sound gifts. (Save the grapevine base to reuse next year.) Use natural materials such as cedar boughs and pine cones when decorating. You can use them for mulch or compost after the holidays are over. Give a savings bond—there's no wrapping and no waste. Real gingerbread cookies make lovely, edible deco-

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rations. Before baking, insert a small tube cut from a paper straw through the top of each cookie so you'll have a hole to thread a ribbon through. Use cloth napkins and washable plates rather than disposable paper products. Recycle plastic beverage containers and tin cans. Shop for food with the least packaging. Give gifts to children that don't require batteries but do require imagination. Popped popcorn makes a great packing product to protect breakables when shipped. Put a note in asking the recipient to feed it to the birds after opening your gift. Turn off your Christmas lights whenever you can, not only as a safety precaution but also to reduce electrical consumption. For ,the person who has everything, consider giving a gift certificate for a course related to their favorite hobby. Your local college's continuing education program probably offers courses in computer skills, gardening, cooking, astronomy, or genealogy. Take the kids for a walk or hike outside during your holiday. Look at the wildlife or stars. Reflect on the miracles of nature. Give books about wildlife, nature, ecology, and gardening to children and adults alike.

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Give your children or your school's library a good book about recycling projects for kids. Alter Christmas, help start a club at school for kids who care about our planet. The National Wildlife Federation has all the materials you need, and they're free. Give a gift that gives twice—purchase your cards, calendars, or gifts from an environmental organization or nature center. You can contact The Canadian Wildlife Federation, The National Wildlife Federation in the United States, or the World Wildlife Federation. Some communities will pick up Christmas trees and use them for mulch in parks or playgrounds. Before or after Christmas, donate unwanted items to a non-profit organization that supports environmental projects. If you are tired of buying gifts that seem to be unwanted or unneeded, or if you are just plain broke, make a coupon and tuck it into a beautiful Christmas card. You can offer to help with housework, babysitting, cooking, or snow shoveling. When Christmas is over, make sure you honor your promises. Vlake a coupon that entitles the bearer to homemade baking once a month for an entire year. This is a gift that is especially appreciated by seniors, who will look forward to your visit as much as your baking. This sounds like a lot of work, but it's easy to make

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a tew extra murrins or cookies wnen you are Daking some for your own family. Arrange the treats attractively on a plate and add a seasonal decoration, such as a paper heart for Valentine's Day. Pumpkin muffins would be great in October. Irish Soda Bread is simple to make in March. Irish Soda Bread 2 cups whole wheat flour 2 cups white flour 2 tsp. baking powder 1 tsp. baking soda 1 egg 1 1/2 cups buttermilk 2 tbsp. syrup (any kind)

Combine dry ingredients. Combine wet ingredients. Mix both together until dough lets go of the side of the bowl. Knead 5 or 6 times on a floured counter. Shape dough into a round loaf and place it on a baking sheet. Score the loaf with a few lines and bake at 375 °F for 50 to 60 minutes. Give carpentry lessons to a youngster. Help them make something simple such as coasters, a trivet, or a garden ornament. Teach a child to crochet or knit. A ball of yarn, a crochet hook, and a coupon for lessons with you is an easy, inexpensive gift, especially if you are a senior on a fixed income. Take a tin of cookies or some fresh donuts to the recycling depot staff. They work hard and would love to be acknowledged!

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Truly Decadent Gourmet Cookies

These cookies make a fantastic gift—they are absolutely sensational. 1/2 cup unsalted butter (at room temperature) 3/4 cup dark brown sugar, firmly packed 1/4 cup white sugar 1 tsp. vanilla 1/4tsp. salt 1/3 cup chunky peanut butter 1 egg 1/2 tsp. baking soda 1 cup flour 3/4 cup unsalted roasted peanuts, coarsely chopped 2 cups semi-sweet chocolate chips

Preheat oven to 350°E Grease the cookie sheets. In a large mixing bowl, cream the butter with the brown sugar, white sugar, vanilla, and salt. Beat until fluffy. Beat in the peanut butter, egg, and soda. Stir in the flour and then add the peanuts and chocolate. Mix well. Put into a smaller bowl and chill for at least 4 hours or overnight. Use 2 or 3 tbsp. of dough for each cookie. Shape into balls. Leave at least 3" between cookies. Bake for 10 to 12 minutes (until the cookie springs back when lightly touched). Don't overbake. Cool for 2 minutes on cookie sheets before transferring to a rack. Makes 20 to 32 large cookies.

My friend Mary gave her daughters a special gift that made a difference! Through World Vision, Mary's donation enabled a family in a developing country to receive chickens. You can browse World Vision's online gift cat-

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alog, decide how much you can afford to spend, and make your purchase. A gift certificate is provided to forward to the recipient. If you are on a limited budget, you can make one purchase and send cards to several families to let them know that they are sharing a goat or chickens. Shop online or by phone—save gas and time too!

Humankind has not woven the web of life. We are but one thread within it. Whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves. All things are bound together. All things connect. —Chief Seattle

Chapter Fifteen Celebrating with Books

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Anyone who has a library and a garden wants for nothing. —Cicero One of the most important gifts you can give your children is the love of good literature. Kids who love to read are seldom bored—a book can be their best friend on a rainy day or a long trip. Reading new books and rereading old favorites should become an important part of your family's Christmas celebration. Of the hundreds of new Christmas books published each year, a few will join the ranks of the classics. When you are tired and frazzled, turn on the Christmas tree lights and snuggle up on the sofa together with a great book. Books are also meant for sharing. Consider giving a book to your school's library as a Christmas gift. Librarians often have lists of books they would like to purchase but may not be able to afford because of budget restrictions. If your school doesn't have a program to encourage families to donate a book, start one. If you see good books that are reasonably priced at a markdown sale or a garage sale, pick them up to donate to a family shelter, day care, or children's hospital. All children need good books, and kids in distress need the comfort of being read to even more. Don't forget to include a chapter book for older children too.

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Here are some superb books for your family to enjoy: Read Clement Moore's classic poem '"Twas the Night Before Christmas7' with your family every Christmas Eve. A Child's Christmas in Wales by Dylan Thomas is a wonderful addition to your Christmas library. For older children and teens, consider reading together one chapter from A Christmas Carol by Charles Dickens each night. Read Barbara Robinson's The Best Christmas Pageant Ever aloud together; you'll laugh 'til you cry. Pick up a couple of extra copies to give to your children's Sunday school teacher, favorite aunt, grandparents, cousins, or special friends. If you want a book that will encourage your children to consider the needs of the homeless but is sensitively written for youngsters, try Natalie Savage Carlson's The Family Under the Bridge. Afterwards, organize a family project that will help the homeless in your community. Beginning readers love Lillian Hoban's "Arthur" series. Try Arthur's Christmas or Arthur's Christmas Cookies. A perennial favorite for seven- to ten-year-olds is Laura Ingalls Wilder's Christmas in the Big Woods.

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Susan Korman's book Annabelk's Wish encourages caring and generosity. With its timeless message of the power of love, The Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams makes a lovely Christmas gift. Margaret Wise Brown's books have brought comfort to children and parents alike for over fifty years. Look for two classics: The Runaway Bunny and Goodnight Moon', they're terrific gifts for preschoolers. Robert Munsch's Love You Forever is a fantastic gift for parents with a new baby. Kids up to nine love the humor and sound effects in his other zany books. Look for books by Jan Brett; her illustrations are exquisite. Children in Kindergarten to Grade Three love The Mitten, The Hat, The Wild Christmas Reindeer, and Christmas Trolls. Children under six love "lift the flap" books like the "Nicky" series by Harriet Ziefert and the "Spot" books by Eric Hill. For children who aren't fiction readers, shop for books that match their interests. There are many easy-to-read science books about dinosaurs, lizards, volcanoes, motorcycles, and bugs. More Ways to Encourage Reading Ask some of your guests to read a Christmas story to

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your children. Children need to see lots of people model reading. Encourage older kids who are reluctant readers to take turns reading with you, each reading a chapter on alternate nights. Look for the books that have won the Newbery Medal, an award given to outstanding children's literature—the anthology entitled A Newbery Christmas is excellent. Your librarian can help you find more great stories. Give bookstore certificates as gifts to your children, nieces, nephews, and older relatives. Give subscriptions to magazines such as Owl, Chickadee, or National Geographic Kids. Your gift will keep coming all year. Collect Christmas books to bring out each December 1 . Read a different story each night. Supplement your own collection by visiting the library. When planning your shopping, don't forget babies need books too. Look for sturdy board books. Counting books and ABC books are a hit with younger children. Older children can record a story to give along with a book for younger relatives. They should practice reading the book several times first in order to develop fluency and expression. Remember to tell the listener when to turn the page. Don't be too quick to give away books once your children have read them. Children love to read old

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favorites as their reading ability grows. Books that you might consider too easy for older children can be read to younger siblings or small visitors. Visit your local library and get applications for your children's library cards. Roll them up, tie them with colorful ribbons, and tuck them into their stockings. Get to know the children's librarian in your local library as well as a salesclerk or the owner of your favorite bookstore. They have a wealth of information to share with you about the best fiction and non-fiction books for children. If they've been very helpful, buy or bake some cookies as a thoughtful thank you. Ideas for Sharing Books Set up a donation box for gently used books at your school, gym, or office. Collect children's books or pocket books for a hospital or shelter. Host a book-swap party for children or adults. Ask each guest to bring several books to trade. Volunteer to teach an adult to read. It's a terrific way to make a real difference in someone's life, and you may make a new friend! Collect books or cash donations for a school or daycare center that needs books. Drop off copies of current magazines at your local hospital when you've finished reading them.

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Give a children's magazine subscription to the pediatric ward at your local hospital. If your school uses one of the book club programs, consider donating some of the bonus books to an organization that needs them. Children also need lots of opportunities to write. Put pens, stickers, and tiny blank notebooks in their stockings. Use family photos to illustrate your own books. Make an extra copy to give to Grandma! Write your own family version of "'Twas the Night Before Christmas." Make a counting book for a younger family member, friend, or cousin. Use photos, your own drawings, recycled Christmas cards, or pictures from magazines as illustrations. Help your children write a letter to their favorite author. Send it to the publisher's address inside the front of the book. Maybe they'll write back, but even if they don't, authors love receiving mail from young fans. Give how-to books along with the necessary supplies to project-oriented kids who are not generally readers. Make visiting the library as often as the video store a priority for your family in the New Year.

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Help Others See So They May Read Many people are unable to afford an eye exam or glasses. Every sixty seconds, somewhere in the world a child loses his or her eyesight due to a lack of vitamin A. Give the gift of eyesight so that others may read too. Did you know that you can help fund an eye exam or save your old eyeglasses to help people at home and abroad? Many optometrists, ophthalmologists, service clubs, and foundations are involved in providing eye care and glasses for low-income residents locally and for people in developing nations. Set up an eyeglass donation box in your school, office, a seniors' center, or church. Collect glasses and forward them to an organization that will distribute them. The Lions Clubs in Canada and the U.S. have a very effective program: their Lions Eyeglass Recycling Centers (LERC) collect and distribute hundreds of thousands of pairs of glasses each year. They also collect hearing aids, soft eyeglass cases, safety glasses, and prescription and nonprescription sunglasses. Search online to find the nearest Lions Club. Operation Eyesight and New Eyes for the Needy are just two of the many wonderful organizations that help provide eye care, surgery, and glasses. Make a donation in the name of someone you love this Christmas. If your school can afford to, perhaps you can help a student whose family cannot afford glasses.

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Organize a chores for change' drive in your school, church, or community and donate the proceeds to an organization or club that supports the gift of eyesight.

In a library we are surrounded by many hundreds of dear friends... —Ralph Waldo Emerson

Chapter Sixteen Remembering Seniors at Christmas

I miss having someone to love and having someone who loves me. I miss seeing children, and hearing them laugh. —Elsie, nursing home resident We used to grow up in close contact with our grandparents, aunts, uncles, and elderly neighbors. Unfortunately, this isn't as true today. Many grandchildren live hundreds of miles away from their grandparents, and even when they do live nearby, families are often too busy to get together with elderly relatives. Most of us don't know our older neighbors at all. Whether your kids are five or fifteen, they can benefit from spending time with older relatives or from making friends with seniors. Begin by reading Tom Hegg's marvelous book A Cup of Christmas Tea, or the sequel, A Memory of Christmas Tea, with your children over the holidays. Then plan some acts of Christmas kindness for seniors. Christmas at the Seniors' Residence Residents in seniors' residences love to see young families in December or anytime throughout the year. Call ahead to arrange a suitable time. Ask the director for the names of residents who seldom get visitors and make a special point of spending a few minutes with them.

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Encourage your children to prepare for the visit by baking homemade cookies, making cards, or drawing Christmas pictures. Ask the activity director if you and your children could help with a craft session. After helping once, you could arrange to bring a project of your own along with the necessary materials. Many of the crafts that children enjoy are suitable for older people too. Take your children and a musical friend along to play the piano while you sing. A Guide or Scout troop can provide a wrapping station for seniors. Make sure you advertise the date and time so residents can have their presents ready. Ask each child to bring a different item—you'll need tags, wrap, ribbon, bows, and lots of tape. Ask the children to bring their items a week earlier so you'll be sure to have everything you need. Make your own gift wrap and tags ahead of time if you wish, or simply use store-bought materials. Foil is easier to wrap with. Practice wrapping ahead of time. Pot up a tiny tree in a small clay pot to give to a relative living in a nursing home. Make an extra one for the nursing station. If you are working with a large group of children, make one for each dining room table. You can paint the pot or leave it plain. Dark green paint is attractive when you put gold paint over top and then gently rub some of it off. A light color such as off-white is also effective if you want the children

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to write Christmas messages on the pots with colored permanent markers. An adult should spray the pot with a clear acrylic sealer in a well-ventilated area. Now you are ready to add a tiny tree. If you are in the woods, look for a very small tree growing beneath a larger one—it won't survive because it can't get enough light. If working with a large number of children, you could ask a local forestry company to donate seedlings. You can buy tiny wrapped boxes to place under the tree at a craft store. Add some miniature garland and tiny ornaments. The children's thoughtful gift will delight seniors. Offer to spend a few hours mending residents' clothing so they'll feel well-dressed for the holidays. It's a worthwhile project for a home-ec teacher's senior students to undertake. Ask for the name of someone who seldom receives mail and send seasonal cards for a whole year.

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A good project for a class at school or a Brownie or Cub troop is to make some small decorations to fit on the residents' trays for Christmas dinner. You could also purchase plain white paper placemats for the children to decorate for tables or trays. Add some sparkly glitter glue to dress up the children's drawings! Encourage an older child to be a reading buddy for someone who has lost his or her eyesight. If time allows, make this a long-term commitment. If not, volunteer for an afternoon and take along some Christmas short stories to share. Your local library can assist with selections, and women's magazines are also a good source of Christmas stories. Make sure your child rehearses the reading material first in order to develop confidence. Make some simple stockings. Fill them up with small items like candy and toiletry accessories collected through your church or school and donate them to residents without families.

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Bake gingerbread men or fancy cookies to decorate trays. This can be a family or group project—it's also fun for home-ec classes. Make corsages for the ladies. It's not very hard to do. Baste gathering stitches along a 12" piece of flat lace and gather it into a circle. Use glue to attach a satin bow and a fabric flower. Make boutonnieres with artificial Christmas greenery for the gentlemen. Attach large safety pins rather than corsage pins— they are much easier for arthritic hands to fasten.

Arrange for your school or church's band or choir to play carols. Bring along cards or decorations to give the audience. If your choir is too busy at Christmas—as many are—arrange to visit near Valentine's Day instead and bring valentines to pass out to the residents. If you have a relative in a nursing home, help your children make a special card for the staff, thanking them for taking good care of their grandma or

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grandpa. Bake or buy some cookies for the staff's coffee break. A box of Christmas oranges would be welcome as well. Organize a big buddy/little buddy program where a Brownie or Cub troop or a class becomes special friends with a group of seniors. They can exchange letters and get together for special days. Make paper plate wreaths to decorate residents' doors. Make a felt banner for your special senior's room. Use lots of sequins and glitter—children love working with sparkly stuff. It's easy to do with good tacky craft glue and some simple felt shapes cut from cookie cutters. An ideal project for an older group of kids or teens is to make tote bags, cushions, or lap quilts for seniors. Look on the Internet for sewing project ideas or ask your local quilt guild to join you in making this project more successful. Christmas and Alzheimer's Relatives of family members with Alzheimer's would appreciate your support at Christmas: Plan a very calm, quiet Christmas if you are spending it at home with an Alzheimer's patient. Too much excitement can be very distressing for them. Give simple-to-manage clothing for Christmas gifts. Tube socks, shoes with Velcro, and jogging outfits are easy to put on.

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Give materials to sort. Pennies and penny folders, a bag of buttons, nuts and bolts, or large beads are good. A muffin tin makes a good sorting tray. Favorite songs often bring back special memories. Find some special CDs. Take your friend or relative for a short car ride to see the lights. Take along another family member or friend to sit with them so you can concentrate on driving. Bake their favorite kind of Christmas cookie. Spend a few hours with the person needing care so the caregiver can do their Christmas shopping. Give the caregiver a gift certificate for a massage, a soothing bath basket, a book you know they'll enjoy, or their favorite treat. Listen—really listen—to your caregiving friend. It is devastating to realize that their spouse, mother, or father no longer recognizes them. Encourage them to use some of the support services available so they can have a break. Make a commitment to help whenever you can. If you are an out-of-town relative, find ways to support the family member who is doing the majority of the caregiving. Give up part of your holiday to ensure they get a much-needed rest. If you can afford to, arrange for someone to help with housework or yard maintenance.

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Closer to Home Perhaps you have an elderly neighbor who would welcome your visits or help: Prepare several containers of homemade soup along with small packages of buns for your elderly neighbor or relative. If you have a bread machine, it's easy to make fresh buns; if not, pick up half a dozen at your favorite bakery. Here is a hearty, nutritious soup recipe: Meal-ln-a-Soup 1 tsp. butter or margarine 1 Ib. hamburger or ground turkey 2 medium onions, finely chopped 1 medium potato, peeled and diced (omit if freezing soup) 11/4 cups cauliflower flowerets or any other vegetables you want to use up 1/2 cup carrot, finely chopped 1 - 19 oz. can diced tomatoes or 2 cups fresh tomatoes, chopped 1 1/2 tsp. salt 1/8 tsp. pepper 6 cups water 3/4 cup uncooked macaroni or small shell pasta

Melt butter in a large pot. Add hamburger or turkey and brown slightly. Add all remaining ingredients except the pasta. Cover and bring to a boil. Reduce heat and simmer for 30 minutes. Add pasta and cook for another 10 minutes. Garnish with Parmesan cheese before serving. Makes approximately 12 cups.

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Patricia's Cheese Biscuits

These drop biscuits are easy to make and are fabulous with homemade soup. 2 cups flour, sifted 3 tsp. baking powder 1 tsp. salt 7 tbsp. butter or margarine (just short of 1/2 cup) 1 cup milk 2/3 cup cheddar cheese, grated a pinch of thyme, Italian seasoning, or paprika, optional

Preheat oven to 400°E Sift dry ingredients and cut in butter until mixture is like coarse cornmeal. Stir in grated cheese. Make a well in the center of the dry ingredients and add liquid all at once. Mix quickly with a fork. Drop biscuits onto a parchment-covered or ungreased cookie sheet. Bake 10 to 12 minutes, or until golden brown. You may need to adjust the baking time to suit the size of the biscuits. Make a commitment to shovel an elderly neighbor's walkway while school is out over the holidays. If possible, continue doing so throughout the snowy season. Working alongside your child will make it more fun! Do a little extra baking to share with an older friend. Ask someone who is housebound if you can help with Christmas shopping when you are going to the mall. When you are going shopping, arrange to drop off and pick up a neighbor who no longer drives.

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Help compose a Christmas letter for a neighbor who finds it hard to write. Photocopy it and address their envelopes. Help an elderly neighbor by putting up their outdoor lights. Set a date to take them down too and mark it on your calendar. Pick up an extra live tree for an elderly person or help put up their artificial one. Again, be available to help take it down after Christmas. Invite an elderly person for Christmas tea or take a tea party to them! If you know someone will be alone for Christmas, invite them to dinner. If they are housebound, fix a plate of turkey and all the trimmings and assign the role of delivery person to one of your teenagers or guests. Phone an elderly neighbor just to say hello on a regular basis.

You must give some time to your fellow man. Even if it's a little thing, do something for those who need help... —Albert Schweitzer

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Chapter Seventeen With Love from Grandma and Grandpa

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The joy that you give to others is the joy that comes back to you. —John GreenleafWhittier What children really need from grandparents is not lots of presents, but a close relationship throughout the years. Today's grandparents are pretty busy, but it's important for them to make time to reach out to the younger generation. Don't feel you have to spend a lot of money on gifts—the most important gift is that of spending time with your grandkids! Give your grandchildren lots of hugs and keep hugging them when they are teenagers! Here are some terrific ways for grandparents to develop close, loving relationships with grandchildren: Teach them how to bake. Kids of all ages enjoy cooking. If you don't, use frozen cookie dough and decorate the cookies together. The memories and time together are more important than the recipes. Are you a long-distance grandparent who would love to be able to read to your grandchild? Visit a bookstore that specializes in children's literature. The staff will be able to recommend good books to read aloud. Make a tape and send it along with the book for a unique gift. Practice first, but don't focus on perfection; your grandchildren will love hearing your voice.

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Phone on the first snowy day and ask if anyone would like to come for hot chocolate and a snowman building session. If you can't be together, make up a snowman kit with some buttons, a scarf, a hat, and some twigs for arms. Mail it to your grandchildren early in December. Set aside a day to serve your grandchildren their favorite lunch or to take them to a restaurant. Afterwards, take them to a Christmas play or movie. Invite the grandchildren for a weekend so their mom and dad can get organized for Christmas. If you are on a limited budget, this can be your gift to your son or daughter. Make a video to send to grandbabies who you don't get to see often. Visit your library and borrow a book with fingerplays and simple songs for babies. You may feel a little silly singing lullabies or playing peekaboo—using a hand puppet helps. Take lots of pictures when with your grandchildren. Make an album with captions to accompany each photograph. Ensure that you are in some of the pictures too! Give one copy as a gift and keep another for yourself. Phone your grandchildren at least once a week. Long-distance phone plans make it very reasonable to talk often. Send a special card or letter to each grandchild often. Children love getting mail. Give them a special box to save the letters in.

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Write down your favorite Christmas memories from when you were a child, a teen, a new parent, and a grandparent, and send each of your children a copy to share with their children. Explore nature together. Spend time together outside whenever you can; it's good for you and for the kids. Teach a skill like woodworking or crocheting to your grandchild. Remember to be patient and encouraging; the process is more important than the product. How well the project turns out is not as important as the closeness you develop. Ask an older child to give you computer lessons for your Christmas present. You will be amazed at what they can teach you when you haven't even found the "on" switch yet. Ask them to teach you how to e-mail.

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Start a collection for your grandchildren. Choose something inexpensive like buttons, stamps, shells, or postcards. Give one of your nicest teacups to a granddaughter to begin a collection. Build a wooden chest or jewelry box for a teenaged granddaughter as a special keepsake. No grandchildren close by? Invite a young family to come for a cup of Christmas tea and cookies. You'll enjoy their excitement. Make a family tree going back as far as you can. Your grandchildren may want to explore their roots some day. You can pick up an inexpensive frame at a yard sale or craft store. Record memories of your family's funniest stories, traditions, and activities. Even if you live in different places, you can make a date to watch a Christmas special such as A Charlie Brown Christmas. Call ahead to set it up, and call afterwards to talk about it.

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Find a way to volunteer together for something that is especially important to your family, whether it's the Heart and Stroke Walk for Heart, Relay for Life, Run for the Cure, the Terry Fox Run, Multiple Sclerosis, or your national Mental Health Association. Even though you aren't together for the event, your adult children and grandchildren will know that you are all helping a cause you believe in. Start your own book-of-the-month club for your grandchild. Choose an inexpensive paperback to pop in the mail every month. If you are on a limited budget, watch for books at yard sales. Read the book first so you can talk about it together. Rather than buy one expensive gift, pick up twelve small gifts to send once a month along with a loving note. Think of the pleasure receiving mail each month will bring all year long—kids love to get mail!

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On New Year's Eve, make an agreement to light a candle wherever you are and make a wish for yourself and your grandchild for the coming year. Don't give up calling or writing if your grandchild forgets to acknowledge a gift or letter. Maintaining the grandparent connection is important. If your family has been affected by death or divorce, make every possible effort to maintain the bond with your grandchildren. Many of the suggestions in Chapter Ten will help.

To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die. —Thomas Campbell

Chapter Eighteen Sharing the Joys of Cooking

I'm never happier than when I'm in the kitchen with my apron on, cooking for the people I love. —Georgina Woolsey (Virginia's Grandmother) My grandmother was a truly exceptional cook. Her lemon pie was so good that people would line up an hour early for church suppers hoping to get a piece. She believed that children needed to be actively involved in Christmas preparations, so from the time I was six or seven we would begin baking together late in November. At first, my role consisted of choosing which cookie cutters to use and putting lots of icing and sprinkles on the sugar cookies. While we baked, we talked about her Christmases as a youngster at home. She told of the pen wipers and hankies that she sewed for gifts. She loved to tell me about her six brothers and sisters and their favorite Christmas dishes, which included bread pudding with caramel sauce, carrot pudding, butter tarts, and "ice box" cookies. The phrase "quality time" had not been invented yet, but that is what our time together was. We enjoyed each other's company while she shared the irreplaceable gift of her memories. She loved music and taught me many of the marvelous songs popular in the early years of the century. Later on, when her hands were crippled by arthritis, it was my turn to mix and knead while she supervised. Each Christmas, I use many of her recipes. In my heart, I still hear her rich alto voice singing.

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You too can create a wealth of warm memories with your children or grandchildren when you cook together. You'll find lots of simple but successful recipes in this chapter for both children and adults to try. Give some as gifts—baking is never the wrong size or color. Gifts for Cooks Give a child a set of cookie cutters, an apron, and a cookbook. Add a coupon indicating how many cooking sessions you will help them with. The baker on your list would be grateful to receive a basket of cookie cutters, a rolling or springerle pin, an icing bag and tips, a cake tester, a candy thermometer, or some of those wonderful insulated cookie sheets. A new cook can always use kitchen scissors, a set of measuring cups, a kitchen timer, or a basic cookbook. Wrap up a new wire whisk with some chocolate kisses and a tag that reads: "We whisk you a Merry Christmas, with lots of hugs and kisses." Don't know what to give a teen? Compile a special cookbook of family recipes to use when they move out on their own. Ask their grandparents, aunts, and uncles to contribute recipes too. Copy them neatly on file cards to give in an attractive recipe box. If you've been involved in making a cookbook at work or school, order an extra one to give your child when they are older.

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' If an older relative or friend needs help compiling a collection of their recipes for their children or grandchildren, volunteer to type them up and have copies made. Christmas Recipes Best Ever Butter Tarts

If you need an easy treat for a cookie exchange, these tarts are truly fabulous. Buy pre-made shells if you are short of time. 1/3 cup butter 1/2 cup golden syrup 1/2 cup golden sugar 1/2 to 2/3 cup raisins or currants 1/2 tsp. vanilla 1/4tsp. salt 2 eggs (for a syrupy filling, use only 1 egg)

Line twelve 3" tart cups with pastry. Chill while you are making the filling. Melt the butter in a mediumsized pan and add all of the ingredients except the egg. Mix well. Let the mixture cool, then add the egg, beaten just enough to combine the yolk and the white. Pour the filling into the pastry-lined tins and bake on the lowest oven rack at 400°F for 15 to 20 minutes. Once baked, loosen the edges with a pointed knife and let stand at least 10 minutes before removing from tins. Cream Cheese Sugar Cookies

I've used this recipe very successfully with my students for many years. Kids love to decorate sugar cookies, and these are really easy to roll. You can make

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the dough one day and bake the next, or you can freeze the dough for a few weeks. 1 cup sugar 1 cup butter 3 oz. cream cheese, softened 1/2 tsp. almond extract 1/2 tsp. vanilla 1 egg yolk 2 3/4 cups flour

Combine butter, cream cheese, and egg yolk. Beat until fluffy, by hand or with a mixer. Add sugar very gradually and continue beating. Blend in vanilla and almond extract. Mix in the flour gradually. Dough should be chilled for at least 1 hour. Preheat oven to 375°F. Roll out dough on a lig;htly floured board until 1/8" thick, using one-third at a time. Cut dough using cookie cutters. Bake on an ungreased cookie sheet for 7 to 10 minutes. Makes several dozen, depending on the size of your cookie cutters. Lemon Bars The tart lemon flavor of these bars is always appreciated—they make a superb gift or a delicious addition to a buffet table. And best of all, you usually have all the ingredients you need on hand. 2 cups flour 1 cup butter 1/2 cup icing sugar 1/2 tsp. salt

4 eggs, beaten 2 cups sugar 1/2 tsp. baking powder

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4 tsp. flour 5 tbsp. fresh lemon juice rind of 1 lemon, grated Cream the 2 cups of flour, butter, icing sugar, and salt together until crumbly. Pat down gently into a greased 9" x 13" pan. Bake for 20 minutes at 325°R Combine remaining ingredients and pour over the hot crust. Bake for an additional 25 minutes. Remove from the oven and sprinkle with sifted icing sugar. Let cool, and cut with a wet knife. Make some gingerbread men to give to your friends, your children's classmates, a seniors' center, or your local Meals on Wheels program. A local women's shelter or soup kitchen would love to receive some too. A small tree covered with gingerbread ornaments makes a great raffle prize for an organization wishing to raise money. A wreath decorated with cookies would make a great second prize. Easy Gingerbread Cookies 1 package (6 serving size) of regular butterscotch pudding or pie filling, not instant 3/4 cup margarine 3/4 cup brown sugar

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2 1/4 cups flour 1 tsp. baking soda 3 tsp. ginger 2 tsp. cinnamon Cream the pie filling mix with margarine and sugar. Add egg and blend well. Combine flour, baking soda, ginger, and cinnamon and blend into pudding mixture.

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Chill dough until firm—at least 10 minutes. Roll on a floured board to 1 /4" thickness and cut shapes out with cookie cutters. Place on greased baking sheets. Bake at 350°F for 10 to 12 minutes. Let cool on a wire rack and decorate as desired. Cherry Pineapple Squares This recipe is one of my grandmother's very best. Surprisingly, it doesn't require a lot of sugar. It may sound a little fussy, but is well worth the effort. The cherries and pineapple are very colorful and the meringue looks like a blanket of snow. Base: 2 cups flour 1 cup butter 2 tbsp. sugar a pinch of salt

Filling: 1 - 14 oz. can of crushed pineapple, undrained 1/4 cup sugar 2 tbsp. cornstarch 1/4 cup cold water 3/4 cup maraschino cherries, well-drained and chopped Topping: 4 egg whites 2 tbsp. sugar 3/4 to 1 tsp. almond extract 1 cup coconut, optional

Mix the base ingredients together until crumbly and pat mixture into a greased 9" x 13" glass pan. Bake at 325°F for 15 minutes, or until lightly golden.

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Meanwhile, put the pineapple in a saucepan. Stir the cornstarch into the cold water, then add it to the sugar. Add this mixture to the pineapple. Add the cherries, and bring to a boil. Cook until thickened and clear, and spread over the base. Beat the egg whites as you do for a meringue, slowly adding the sugar. Add the flavoring and coconut and spread it over the pineapple and cherry layer. Bake at 400°F until meringue is golden brown. Watch very carefully as it only takes 3 to 5 minutes. Let cool, then use a wet knife to cut into squares. Mar's Spiced Ginger Mounds

A batch of these cookies makes a great gift. Be sure to include the recipe! 2 cups flour 1 tsp. baking soda 1 tsp. cinnamon 1 tsp. cloves 1 tsp. ginger 1/4 tsp. salt 3/4 cup margarine or butter, softened 1 cup sugar 1 egg 1/4 cup molasses 1/4 cup sugar to roll cookies in

Preheat oven to 325°R Sift dry ingredients together. Cream butter and sugar together until light and fluffy, then beat in egg and molasses. Stir in dry ingredients and mix well. Shape the batter into small balls, then roll them in sugar. Place about 2" apart on greased cookie sheets and bake for 12 to 15 minutes until edges set and tops crackle. Makes 4 dozen cookies.

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Sasha's Double Chocolate Cookies If you love chocolate, you'll adore these. 1 1/4 cups butter, softened 2 cups sugar 2 eggs 2 tsp. vanilla 2 cups flour 3/4 cup cocoa 1 tsp. baking soda 1/2 tsp. salt 2 cups semi-sweet or mint chocolate chips (or a mixture of both) Cream butter with sugar until light and fluffy. Add eggs and vanilla and beat well. Combine flour, cocoa, baking soda, and salt and blend into creamed mixture. Stir in chocolate chips. Drop by teaspoonfuls onto an ungreased cookie sheet. Bake at 350°F for 8 to 9 minutes. Do not overbake. Cookies will be soft and will flatten while baking. Let cool slightly, then remove from cookie sheet onto wire racks. Makes about 4 to 5 dozen cookies. Sandy's Whipped Shortbread 1 Ib. butter, no substitutions 1 cup icing sugar 1/2 cup cornstarch 3 cups flour 1 tsp. vanilla maraschino cherries, drained well and cut into quarters, optional Beat all the ingredients with electric mixer until they have the consistency of whipped cream. Drop by teaspoonfuls onto an ungreased cookie sheet. If a smoother

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appearance is desired, roll each spoonful of cookie dough gently with your hands and press down lightly with a fork. Decorate with cherries if you wish. Bake 15 minutes at 325°F until a very pale golden color with lightly browned bottoms. Watch very carefully.

Diane's Vanilla Spritz Cookies

Another special recipe from the mom of one of my students. This is the perfect spritz cookie-press dough. 2 cups butter 2 1/3 cups sugar 4 cups flour 1 egg 1/4 tsp. salt 1 tsp. vanilla

Cream butter and sugar together. Add egg and vanilla. Blend in flour gradually. Chill dough for 1 hour. Fill cookie press with a small amount of dough and

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press into desired shapes. Place cookies onto an ungreased baking sheet. Bake at 350°F for 10 to 15 minutes until golden brown. Baking time depends on the size of the cookies. Makes several dozen. Tara's Oatmeal Shortbread 1 cup butter, softened 3/4 cup sugar 1 1/2 cups flour 1 1/2 cups rolled oats 3/4 tsp. salt 1 cup semi-sweet chocolate chips, optional

Beat butter with sugar until light and fluffy. Gradually stir in flour, rolled oats, and salt. Press evenly into a greased 9" x 13" pan. Bake at 325°F for 35 minutes, or until light golden brown. Let cool in the pan on a rack for 10 minutes. Cut into squares or triangles and then cool completely. These are even more delicious when one end of the triangle is dipped into melted chocolate. Granny's Cherry Snowballs

A family tradition for over fifty years, these will melt in your mouth. 1 cup butter 1/4 cup icing sugar 2 cups flour 1 - 8 oz. jar maraschino cherries, drained well 1/4 tsp. salt 1 cup almonds, ground 1 tsp. vanilla 1/2 to 3/4 cup superfine sugar

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Cream butter with icing sugar until fluffy. Add remaining ingredients except cherries. Mix dough well with hands. Flatten a teaspoon-sized piece of dough in the palm of your hand and then place a cherry on the circle of dough. Cover cherry by pinching dough up around it and roll between hands to smooth. Place on a greased baking sheet. Bake 25 to 35 minutes at 325°R While hot, roll the balls in superfine sugar. Let cool on a rack. Monica's Mint Coconut Snowballs 1/2 cup icing sugar 1 cup butter or margarine 1/2 tsp. peppermint extract 2 cups flour 1/2 tsp. salt

Cream butter with sugar and gradually add remaining ingredients. Shape into 1" balls and place on ungreased cookie sheets. Press lightly with a fork and bake at 325°F for 8 to 10 minutes. Let cool. Ice top of cookies with pale green or light pink buttercream icing and sprinkle with coconut. Auntie Florence's Shortbread Snowballs

My great aunt made these every year. They look cute in a coffee cup wrapped in cellophane. Look for a cup with a snowman design. 2 cups flour, sifted 1 cup butter, softened 1/2 cup icing sugar, sifted 1/4 tsp. salt 2 tsp. vanilla 2 cups almonds, walnuts, or pecans, finely chopped

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Gradually add icing sugar to butter, creaming thoroughly. Add flour, salt, and chopped nuts and blend well. Chill dough for at least 1 hour, then shape into small balls. Place on greased cookie sheets and bake at 350°F for 15 minutes. Roll the balls in icing sugar. Let cool, then roll them in icing sugar again. These freeze beautifully. Helen's Cherry Pound Cake This delicious cake keeps well. 1 1/4 cups butter, softened 2 3/4 cups sugar 5 eggs 1 tsp. almond extract 3 cups flour 1 tsp. baking powder 1/4 tsp. salt 1 cup evaporated (not condensed) milk 2 cups maraschino cherries, well drained and chopped into quarters icing sugar, sifted

Beat the butter, sugar, eggs, and almond extract together on low speed. Blend well, then beat on high speed for 5 minutes. Batter should be light and fluffy. Combine the flour, baking powder, and salt. Add dry ingredients alternately with milk to the creamed butter mixture. Blend gently after each addition. Fold in cherries. Pour the barter into a well-greased and floured 12cup tube or bundt pan. Bake at 350°F for 55 minutes. Cover very loosely with tin foil (shiny side out), and continue cooking for another 15 to 20 minutes until cake tester comes out clean. Cool thoroughly. Invert cake on plate and, when completely cooled, dust with icing sugar.

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Cheryl's Best Cranberry Bread 1 cup sugar 1/4 cup butter, softened 1 egg 2 cups flour 11/2 tsp. baking powder 1/2 tsp. baking soda 1 tsp. salt 1 tsp. orange peel, grated 3/4 cup orange juice 1 cup fresh cranberries, chopped 1/2 cup nuts, chopped

Preheat oven to 350°R Cream sugar, shortening, and egg together. In another bowl, sift dry ingredients. Combine juice and peel in a small bowl. Alternately add wet and dry ingredients to sugar mixture. Mix to moisten, then fold in berries and nuts. Bake in a greased loaf pan at 350°F for 60 minutes. Let cool, then wrap. This loaf tastes even better the next day. Dee's Cranberry Orange Scones

Scones are all the rage in coffee shops. These lowsugar treats are incredibly simple to make. 2 1/2 cups flour 1 /4 cup brown sugar 4 tsp. baking powder 1/2 tsp. salt 1/4 cup butter, cold zest of one orange juice from orange 1 cup buttermilk 1 tsp. vanilla 1 egg 1 cup fresh or dried cranberries, coarsely chopped

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Preheat oven to 375°F. Grease a cookie sheet. In a large bowl, mix together flour, brown sugar, baking powder, and salt. Cut in butter with a pastry blender until crumbly. Make a well in the center of dry ingredients. In a small bowl, beat egg until frothy. Squeeze the juice from the orange into a measuring cup and add enough buttermilk to make one cup; add to beaten egg and stir. Pour wet ingredients into well and stir with a fork to form soft dough. Turn out onto a lightly floured surface. Knead 8 to 10 times. Divide into two equal parts. Pat each part into a 6" circle. Cut each circle into 6 pie-shaped wedges and transfer to a greased baking sheet. Bake until golden brown (approximately 20 to 25 minutes at 375°F). You may also prepare these as dropped biscuits if you don't want to knead them. May be served hot with butter and jam. Makes 12 scones. Chocolate Sour Cream Banana Cake

If you have a teenager who is hard to buy for on your list, you could bake this cake to wrap up along with a good beginner's cookbook. 1 cup butter or margarine 2 cups sugar 2 large eggs 1 tsp. vanilla 3 cups ripe bananas, mashed 2 tsp. baking powder 2 tsp. baking soda 3 cups flour 1 cup sour cream 1/2 cup brown sugar 1 tsp. cinnamon 1 1/2 cups semi-sweet chocolate chips

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Cream together butter and sugar. Add eggs, one at a time, beating well after each addition. Add vanilla and mashed bananas. Combine flour, baking powder, and baking soda; add to banana mixture alternately with sour cream, ending with dry ingredients. Spoon and spread half the batter into a well-greased 9" x 13" glass pan. Combine cinnamon and brown sugar. Sprinkle remaining half of this mixture over the batter in the pan. Top with half of the chocolate chips. Repeat layers. Bake at 350°F for 50 to 60 minutes. This cake is very moist, keeps well in the refrigerator, and freezes beautifully. Mom's Morning Glory Muffins

These moist, fruit-filled muffins are great to serve Christmas morning along with a fruit salad. Put some in an attractive basket lined with a square of Christmas fabric for a gift. 1 1/4 cups sugar 21/4 cups flour 1 tbsp. cinnamon 2 tsp. baking soda 1/4 tsp. salt 1/2 cup shredded coconut 1/2 cup raisins 2 cups carrot, grated 1 apple, shredded 1 - 14 oz. can crushed pineapple, drained 1/2 cup walnuts or pecans 3 large eggs 1 cup canola oil 1 tsp. vanilla

Sift the sugar, flour, cinnamon, baking soda, and salt together into a large bowl. Add the fruit, carrots, and

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nuts. Stir to combine. In a separate bowl, whisk the eggs with the oil and vanilla. Pour this mixture into the bowl with the dry ingredients and blend well. Spoon into 16 cupcake tins that have been lined with muffin liners. Fill each cup to the brim. Bake in a preheated 350°F oven for 35 minutes, or until a toothpick inserted in the center of a muffin comes out clean. Let cool in the pan for 10 minutes, then turn out onto a rack. These muffins freeze and keep well.

Are you tired of doing all the work for the Christmas meal? Assign everyone in the family one part to prepare. Little ones can help tear the bread for the stuffing; older ones can help with the salad. You'll love both of these recipes: Moist Whole Wheat Raisin Stuffing 1 large onion, chopped 1 cup celery, chopped 1/2 cup butter or margarine 16 cups fresh brown bread crumbs 1 cup dark raisins 1 cup walnuts, chopped, optional 1 cup apple, chopped 1 to 2 tbsp. poultry seasoning (or thyme and sage mixed equally) 1 tsp. salt a pinch of pepper 1 chicken bouillon cube 1 cup hot water

Put your children to work tearing the fresh bread into chunks while you chop the celery. Using the tops as

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well, saute celery and the onion in butter. Pour the melted butter along with the onion and celery over the bread. Add the raisins, nuts, and apples and toss well. Sprinkle with seasonings. (I prefer the sage and thyme mixture to the premixed poultry seasoning.) Dissolve the chicken cube in hot water and sprinkle the liquid over the stuffing. Mix well. This stuffs a 20-lb. turkey easily. You can bake extra dressing in a casserole dish. Always moist and delicious, this stuffing could become a family legend. Christmas Orange Salad 1 head romaine lettuce 1 - 10 oz. can mandarin oranges, drained, reserve juice 2 green onions, sliced 1/2 cup slivered almonds 1/4 cup white vinegar 1/4 cup sugar 2 tbsp. orange juice 1/4 cup salad oil

Tear lettuce into bite-sized pieces. Add drained oranges and green onions, and chill. Toast almonds at 350°F for 5 minutes. Mix salad oil, vinegar, and sugar with the orange juice, shake well, and chill. These three steps can be done several hours ahead of your meal. Just before serving, toss lettuce gently with dressing and sprinkle almonds on top. Pineapple Almond Turkey Casserole

Wondering what to serve your "after Christmas company" with your "after Christmas turkey"? You can't go wrong with this casserole:

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6 oz. broad noodles 2 tbsp. butter 1 tsp. salt 1 tbsp. flour 1 cup milk 1 - 10 oz. can cream of chicken soup 1 - 19 oz. can pineapple chunks, drained 2 tbsp. green pepper, optional a pinch of pepper 1 cup of slivered almonds, blanched 1 tsp. Worcestershire sauce 2 cups cooked turkey, chopped

Cook noodles as directed on the package. Melt butter and saute green pepper. Remove green pepper, stir in flour, and add milk. Stir constantly until thickened. Stir in the rest of the ingredients and half of the almonds. Layer ingredients in a greased casserole dish, beginning with noodles and ending with creamed mixture. Sprinkle remaining almonds on top and bake at 350°F for 25 minutes. Recipes for Children If you are a mom, a teacher, a daycare supervisor, or a Sunday school teacher, you'll love these recipes and your children or students will remember them forever. What terrific memories you are making—and it's so easy! Reindeer Chow 1 handful of frosted shredded wheat squares (represents hay with snow from the North Pole) 1 handful of pretzel sticks (for tender twigs) 1 handful of raisins (for dried berries) 1 handful of red candies such as M&M's (for fresh berries) a baby carrot

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Put all of the food items in a zip-lock baggie. Close it up tight and shake well—kids love the shaking part! Add a note that says, "Even Santa's reindeer can use a snack now and then. Leave me out with cookies and milk for Santa and his reindeer on Christmas Eve/' If you leave out the carrot (which would not stay fresh), kids can make up a few bags for a Christmas bazaar or craft sale. Change the note to say, "Add a baby carrot and leave me out for Santa and his reindeer/' Bagel Wreaths

Cut mini-bagels in half. Give children softened cream cheese as well as some coconut that you've tinted green and let them decorate the bagels. Add some tiny pieces of chopped maraschino cherries for the berries. If you wish to make a healthier snack, use some fresh chopped parsley or lettuce and tiny bits of red pepper instead of coconut and cherries. Reindeer Sandwiches

These are always a hit with youngsters. Cut brown bread in half diagonally and then cut again so you have four small triangles. Remove crusts if you wish. Spread with peanut butter. Put a piece of maraschino cherry on the bottom for the nose, two chocolate chips or raisins for the eyes, and two curved pretzels for the antlers. Make some to leave out for Santa. Ice Cream Cone Christmas Trees

These are great fun to make with the "under eight" crowd. Fasten an ice cream cone upside down onto a paper plate with a dab of icing. Frost with green icing and decorate with candies, colored mini-marshmallows, or Froot Loops. Be sure to buy pointed cones.

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Snowman Snack

Use two or three mini-rice cakes or popcorn cakes for the body. Spread with softened cream cheese to make white snow. Add raisins for the eyes, nose, mouth, and buttons. A thin licorice whip or a carrot curl works well for the scarf.

Chapter Nineteen The Gift of Good Company: Party and Potluck Favorites

Every house where love abides and friendship is a guest is surely home, and home, sweet home; for there the heart can rest. —Henry van Dyke Time with family and friends is a gift we give each other and ourselves, and what can be better than sharing good food together! Potluck dinners suit our busy lives as well as our Christmas budgets. A little organization helps—you don't want to end up with just desserts, or do you? Perhaps you want to have a potluck featuring only appetizers or desserts. For a lunch or dinner, the host usually asks guests to bring one item from a category such as appetizer, main dish, side dish, or dessert. Sometimes it's hard for people to cook. If someone has to travel quite a distance to your home or is ill or stressed, make it easy for them to attend. Suggest they bring something simple to prepare, like buns and butter, cheese and fruit, wine, or pickles. Whether you are a guest or a host, these tips will help your party be a success: Assemble extra serving dishes, platters, bowls, serving utensils, and baskets beforehand. Guests should cook their items ahead of time; the food can be reheated at the party.

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Don't worry about matching dinnerware—mix-andrnatch tableware is in style. Ask guests to clearly label their food containers. Have small disposable containers available so your guests can take home leftovers. Ask guests to bring extra copies of their recipes along. Ask guests to list ingredients on a file card and display the information on the buffet table so that people with allergies will know what is in each dish. Invite one guest to bring the ingredients for a nonalcoholic punch. Fill a large cooler or planter with ice to keep beverages chilled. If children are present, serve a light-colored punch (rather than a bright red one) to avoid serious stains from potential spills. Ask guests to label their dish in order to reduce confusion when it's time to clean up. Clean your refrigerator and oven beforehand. Set up the food and beverage areas in different locations to avoid congestion. Lay the table with plates and utensils, followed by side dishes, main dishes, vegetables, salads, breads, and relishes.

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Set up your coffee cups, teacups, and desserts in another area or bring them out after the main course has been cleared away. There's no need to purchase an expensive centerpiece. Place colorful glass ornaments in a decorative bowl or tall vase. Oranges look pretty in a glass bowl. Choose a recipe that's an old favorite you can count on rather than a new one you've never tried before. Exotic or heavily spiced dishes may be better served another time. Casseroles, chili, and chicken wings are popular items. Try to include at least one vegetarian dish. Prepare at least one large pasta dish or pasta salad to ensure everyone is fed if someone cancels at the last minute. If you have a very large crowd and limited seating, ask guests to bring foods that do not have to be cut with a knife. Pies and fruit crisps are perfect potluck food, but scooping ice cream can be awkward. Place single scoops in paper cupcake liners and pop them back in the freezer until dessert is served.

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Transporting Food? Place a paper towel under the lid of the casserole dish before replacing the cover; it will absorb condensation and keep moisture from dripping onto the food. Place your dish and other items in a heavy cardboard box or laundry basket for traveling. Both hot and cold dishes need to be kept in an insulated cooler. No ice pack? Ice cubes in a heavy freezer bag work well. Phyllis' Cranberry Banana Mold Phyllis serves this with turkey every year. Her family and friends love it, and we think yours will too! If you are having a big crowd, double the recipe. 1 - 3 oz. package raspberry Jell-O 1 cup boiling water 1 - 14 oz. can whole berry cranberry sauce 2 medium bananas, sliced 1/2 cup pecans or walnuts, chopped Dissolve Jell-O in boiling water. Add cranberry sauce and stir. Chill until partly thickened. Add bananas and nuts. Pour into a mold or pretty dish and chill several hours. Mary L 's Cranberry Punch 1 - 355 ml. or 11 oz. can frozen cranberry cocktail 1 - 355 ml. or 11 oz. can frozen orange juice

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1 - 355 ml. or 11 oz. can frozen lemonade (limeade if you prefer the punch to be tart) 4 cups water 1 liter or 26 oz. bottle of ginger ale or 7UP (adjust to taste)

Thaw frozen juices and blend together well. Place in punch bowl and slowly add pop. Cranberry Ice Ring

A pretty way to keep your party punch cold! fresh or frozen cranberries, well rinsed water 4-cup ring mold

Fill 4-cup ring mold with approximately 3/4" of water and freeze. Arrange cranberries over ice. Fill with water and freeze for at least 6 hours. Dip bottom of mold in warm water for a few seconds to remove from mold. Salmon or Tuna Pate 2 - 6 oz. cans salmon or tuna, well drained 1 - 8 oz. package cream cheese, softened juice of one lemon 3 tbsp. horseradish, optional 1/4 cup green onions, chopped 1/4 cup nuts, chopped

Combine salmon or tuna, cream cheese, lemon juice, and horseradish in a blender (or with a mixer). Add half of the green onions and mold into a ball. Roll ball in remaining green onions, then nuts, and refrigerate until needed. Serve with crackers.

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Audrey's Artichoke Dip

Everywhere Audrey takes this dip, folks request the recipe. Take copies of the recipe with you. 1 - 8 oz. package cream cheese, softened 12 oz. mozzarella cheese, shredded 1 cup mayonnaise 1 cup Parmesan cheese, grated 1 onion, finely chopped 2 cloves garlic, finely chopped 1 cup marinated artichoke hearts, drained and chopped

Combine all ingredients and blend well with a mixer. Bake at 350°F in an uncovered casserole dish for 30 minutes, or until bubbly. Serve with pita bread or plain nacho chips. Cranberry Cream Cheese Pate 1 - 8 oz. package cream cheese, softened 1 1/2 cups extra old Cheddar cheese, shredded 1/4 cup green onions, chopped 1/4 cup sweetened dried cranberries 2 tbsp. brandy or cognac 1/2 tsp. pepper 1/4 cup whole berry cranberry sauce

Mix the cream cheese, cheddar cheese, onions, dried cranberries, and pepper in food processor until smooth. If you don't have a food processor, use your blender, but mix longer. Store the pate in a tightly sealed container. Refrigerate for at least an hour (keeps well up to 3 days). To serve, spoon into an attractive serving dish and top with cranberry sauce. Serve with crackers. Makes 2 cups.

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Wild Rice Casserole 1/2 Ib. Cheddar cheese, grated 2 heads of broccoli, approximately 2 Ibs. 1 - 6 oz. box wild rice mix 2 - 10 oz. cans mushroom soup

Cook rice mixture as directed on the package. Chop broccoli into pieces and boil until slightly crunchy. Mix soup and cheese. Alternate cheese soup mixture, broccoli, and rice in layers in a buttered casserole dish. Sprinkle with additional grated cheese. Cook at 350°F for 60 minutes. Auntie Marie's Salmon or Crab Com Cakes

Auntie Marie is a fabulous cook. Her corn cakes are not only amazingly easy to make, but the result also looks very impressive. These tiny pancakes freeze well. You can warm them up and add the toppings at the last minute. Pancakes: 1 1/4 cups pancake mix 1 egg 1 cup milk 1 tbsp. oil (olive oil works well) 1/2 cup creamed corn, undrained 2 tbsp. chives or green onions, finely chopped additional oil for cooking

Follow the directions on the pancake mix box for making the batter. Add the corn, oil, and chives. Add a sprinkle of dry pancake mix if the batter is too thin. Cook small pancakes approximately 2" in diameter. Dab with paper towels to remove excess oil. Corn cakes may be frozen at this point.

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Topping: 1 - 4 oz. package cream cheese, softened 1 to 2 tbsp. horseradish 4 oz. candied salmon, smoked salmon, or cooked crab additional chives for garnish

Mix the cheese and horseradish together and spread on the corn cakes. Top with a small piece of seafood and a sprinkling of chives. Freezing tip: place corn cakes in a single layer on a baking sheet and freeze. Transfer to an airtight container, placing parchment or wax paper between layers. Freeze for up to 6 weeks. After thawing, place in a warming oven for a few minutes. Add toppings and serve. Charlie's Spinach Pie 2 packages frozen phyllo pastry, thawed for 2 hours 2 bags fresh spinach, washed and drained well 16 oz. feta cheese, crumbled 8 oz. cottage cheese 2 eggs, beaten 2 scallions and stems, finely chopped, optional 1 3/4 tsp. dried mint a pinch of oregano salt and pepper to taste

Steam the spinach in a colander over salted, boiling water for 2 minutes. Mix cheese, eggs, spinach, onion, and spices. Roll out 1 package of phyllo. Line the bottom of a greased 9" x 13" glass pan with half of the phyllo pastry. Cook at 400°F for a few minutes. Pour in cottage cheese and spinach mixture. Roll out remaining phyllo and cover spinach with top crust. Poke holes in top crust with a fork and bake at 400°F for approximately 45 minutes, or until golden brown. Delicious hot or cold.

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Auntie Elvira's Hot Chicken Salad

Another super way to use up leftover chicken or turkey. 3 cups cooked chicken, diced 1 1/2 cups celery, chopped 3/4 cup slivered almonds 1 - 6 oz. can water chestnuts, drained, optional 1/2 tsp. salt 2 tbsp. onion, grated 3 tbsp. lemon juice 11/2 cups mayonnaise 1 - 10 oz. can of cream chicken soup 3/4 cup sharp cheese, grated 1 1/2 cups potato chips, crushed

Combine everything but the cheese and potato chips in a greased 9" x 13" baking dish. Toss cheese and chips and sprinkle on top. Bake at 325°F for 45 minutes until lightly browned. Try serving this with Christmas orange salad! Charlie's Seafood Lasagna

If you are looking for a superb dish for Christmas Eve or New Year's Eve, this is it. A little fussy but well worth the effort. Your guests will adore you! 8 no-boil lasagna noodles 2 tbsp. butter 1 cup onion, chopped 1 - 8 oz. package cream cheese, softened 1 1/2 cups creamed cottage cheese 1 egg, beaten 2 tsp. basil 1/2 tsp. salt

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1/8 tsp. pepper 2 - 10 oz. cans cream of mushroom soup 1/3 cup milk 1/3 cup dry white wine 1 - 5 oz. can crab, drained 1 Ib. cooked shrimp 1 - 10 oz. can sliced mushrooms, drained, optional 1/4 cup Parmesan cheese, grated 1/2 cup sharp cheddar cheese, grated

Lay 4 noodles in the bottom of a greased 9" x 13" baking pan. Saute onion in butter. Add cream cheese, cottage cheese, egg, and spices. Spread half of the cheese mixture over noodles. Combine soup, milk, and wine and stir in seafood. Spoon half of the seafood mixture over cheese layer. Repeat all layers. Sprinkle with Parmesan cheese and bake uncovered at 350°F for 45 minutes. Top with sharp cheddar cheese and brown gently under broiler. Let stand for 15 minutes before serving. Wow! Bev's Chicken Penne

Bev is a fabulous cook. You'll love her recipe—it takes a little while to prepare, but the results are well worth it. 2 tbsp. olive oil 1 1/2 Ib. ground chicken 2 onions, chopped 2 cloves garlic, finely minced 1 carrot, diced 1 red pepper, diced 1 - 28 oz. can crushed tomatoes 2 tbsp. tomato paste 2 tbsp. dried basil

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1 tsp. salt a pinch of black pepper 4 cups cooked penne 2 packages frozen spinach, thawed and drained Cheese Sauce: 3 tbsp. butter 1/4 cup flour 3 cups milk 1 1/2 cups mozzarella cheese, grated 1/2 tsp. salt 1/4 tsp. nutmeg 1/4 tsp. pepper Topping: 1/3 cup Parmesan cheese, grated fresh parsley, chopped, optional

Heat olive oil in a skillet over medium heat. Add the chicken and cook until it is no longer pink. Add the onions, carrot, red pepper, and garlic. Cook until soft. Stir in the tomatoes, tomato paste, basil, salt, and pepper. Simmer gently for 30 minutes. While your chicken mixture is simmering, prepare the cheese sauce. Melt butter in a saucepan over medium heat. Add flour and stir for 2 minutes. Whisk in milk and bring to a boil. Reduce the heat and let simmer, stirring constantly for 5 minutes until thickened. Stir in mozzarella cheese, salt, pepper, and nutmeg. Toss cooked penne with chicken mixture. Pour into a 9" x 13" baking dish. Top with spinach, then pour cheese sauce over spinach and sprinkle with cheese. Bake for 45 minutes at 375°F. Top with chopped parsley. Let stand for 10 to 15 minutes before serving.

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Mary's Potluck Broccoli Salad

Our quilting group loves Mary's broccoli salad, and you will too! 2 cups broccoli flowerets, chopped 1 cup celery, chopped 2 tbsp. green onion, finely chopped 7 slices bacon, fried and chopped, optional 1 cup cashews 1 cup mandarin orange sections Dressing: 1/2 cup mayonnaise or yogurt (half of each is good too) 1/8 tsp. ginger 1/2 tsp. curry powder 1 tbsp. sugar

Mix broccoli, celery, and green onions in a salad bowl. Add bacon if you wish. Mix dressing ingredients separately and then add dressing to salad. Adjust the amount of dressing if necessary. You want the salad coated but not runny in consistency. This salad is best made the night before so that all the flavors can blend together. Just before serving, add cashew nuts and mandarin oranges. Ann's Maple Pecan Squares

If you like maple syrup or pecan pie, you are going to love these squares. Base: 1 cup flour 1/4 cup brown sugar 1/2 cup butter

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Maple pecan layer: 2/3 cup brown sugar 1 cup maple syrup 2 eggs, beaten 1/4 cup butter, melted 1/4 tsp. salt 2/3 cup pecan halves 1/2 tsp. vanilla 2 tbsp. flour

Preheat oven to 400°E Make the base by mixing together the flour, sugar, and butter. Press into an 8" x 8" baking pan. Bake 5 to 7 minutes. Combine 2/3 cup brown sugar and maple syrup in a small saucepan and simmer 5 minutes. Let cool until lukewarm. Stir in melted butter and eggs. Add pecans, vanilla, and flour. Mix well and pour over partially baked crust. Bake at 400°F for 5 minutes, then reduce heat to 350°F for 20 minutes. Bavarian Apple Cheesecake

This dessert sounds complicated but it's actually very easy. If you don't have a springform pan, you can use a 9" x 9" square pan. Served with whipped cream, this is sure to wow your guests. Base; 3/4 cup butter 1/2 cup sugar 1 tsp. vanilla 11/2 cups flour Filling: 2 - 8 oz. packages cream cheese, softened 2 eggs 1/2 cup sugar

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3/4 tsp. vanilla 1/2 tsp. lemon zest, grated Topping: 4 cups apples, sliced 1/2 cup sugar 1/2 to 1 tsp. cinnamon 3/4 cup flaked almonds

Cream together the butter, sugar, and vanilla. Mix in flour slowly as you would for bread dough. You may want to use your food processor. Pat dough into the bottom and up the sides of an ungreased 10" springform pan and set aside. Beat cream cheese until soft. Add sugar and beat well. Add eggs and vanilla and beat until smooth. Pour into pastry-lined pan. Mix apple slices with sugar and cinnamon and arrange in circles on cream cheese layer. Sprinkle with almonds. Bake at 450°F for approximately 10 minutes. Reduce heat to 300°F and bake for 1 more hour. Loosen torte from rim of pan. Let cool before removing. After torte is cool, refrigerate until served. Serve with whipped cream. Cathy's Raspberry Ribbon Slice

This colorful slice is a pretty addition to a buffet. And even if you are full, it's easy to find room for this light dessert. Crust: 11/2 cups graham wafer crumbs 1/3 cup brown sugar 1/3 cup butter or margarine, melted

Mix ingredients and press into springform pan or 9" x 13" glass pan, reserving 1/4 cup of crumb mix. Chill crust while preparing cream cheese layer.

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Cream Cheese Layer: 1 - 8 oz. package cream cheese, softened 1 tsp. vanilla 1/4 cup icing sugar a pinch of salt 1 to 2 tbsp. milk

Beat together the cream cheese, vanilla, icing sugar, salt, and milk until smooth, then spread the mixture over the crumb crust. Chill. Raspberry Layer: 1 - 3 oz. package raspberry Jell-O 1 cup boiling water 1 tbsp. lemon juice 1 - 15 oz. package frozen raspberries in syrup

Dissolve Jell-O in boiling water. Add lemon juice and raspberries with syrup. Stir berries into }ell-O mix until raspberries have thawed. Refrigerate in bowl until partially set. Spread over cream cheese layer. Chill until set. Topping: 11/2 cups whipping cream

Whip cream until stiff. Spread over raspberry layer and sprinkle 1/4 cup reserved crumbs on top and chill. Lightly toasted flaked almonds may be sprinkled on top instead of reserved crumbs.

Laughter is brightest where food is best. —Irish proverb

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Chapter Twenty Gifts from the Kitchen

Giving presents is a talent; to know what a person wants, to know when and how to get it, to give it lovingly and well. —Pamela Glenconner Gifts from the kitchen are a thoughtful way to show we care. A coffee mug filled with homemade biscotti or candy is a special gift for teachers or co-workers. A scrumptious batch of cookies or a special cake is the perfect gift for people who have everything. You don't need to spend a lot—a little creativity will enhance your presentation. Don't wait until the last minute to make your gifts from the kitchen; cook ahead and use your freezer. Test new recipes beforehand or use recipes that are tried and true. Make sure you have all the ingredients you need before you begin. Don't rush: set aside plenty of time to bake. Put on some Christmas music and enjoy your time in the kitchen. Let friends know you are collecting baskets, tins, and plates—they may send some of the ones they have received your way to be recycled. Baskets are easy to find at the recycling center, garage sales, or thrift stores. Wash them gently or freshen them up with inexpensive spray paint. Line the basket with bright tissue paper, tuck in some

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homemade goodies, and wrap it all up in cellophane. Tie on a candy cane or an ornament with curling ribbon. Keep an eye out for attractive mugs to fill with homemade drink mixes, cider, wine mulling spices, or cookies. Thrift stores, flea markets, and garage sales are also great places to find interesting plates, tins, baskets, and jars for homemade cookies or candies. You can often find antique sealer jars at thrift stores. If you have storage space, shop the sales the week after Christmas and stock up on gift wrap, ribbons, and packing supplies. Don't worry if you've missed the clearance sales. In November, dollar stores and liquidation shops carry inexpensive and interesting boxes and packing supplies, such as jars, bottles, plates, cookie jars, mugs, ribbons, gift bags, and gift wrap. If you have a paper shredder, you can make basket or gift bag filler material by shredding colored paper. Old wrapping paper can have a new life! Treat yourself to a pair of craft scissors that cut a decorative edge. Buy a jumbo roll of good quality, heavy cellophane. It really enhances presentation. Many "big box" or restaurant supply stores carry all

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sorts of take-out boxes and containers that work beautifully for handmade goodies. You can purchase inexpensive disposable aluminum loaf pans and baking pans too. Pick up some blank file cards and stickers to make gift tags. Those brown luggage-style tags are very attractive and can be found in most craft stores. Pressed for time? Give a bottle of wine with an I.O.U. for a home-cooked meal. Wrap up a homemade loaf in plastic wrap, place it on a small breadboard with a potholder, and wrap it all up in cellophane. Package treats for older people in smaller containers so that smaller portions can be frozen to enjoy later on. Attach a cookie cutter or kitchen tool to your gift. Present items that go together well in a basket: coffee cake and coffee samplers, muffins and a tea assortment, or jam and homemade bread. A homemade dried soup mix with some cheese biscuits is a welcome gift. Use pretty holiday napkins or tea towels to line baskets or wrap gifts. Most dollar stores have packages with twelve cellophane bags which are perfect for loaves or cookies. Look in the party section.

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Give homemade cookies in a cookie jar for a thoughtful family gift. Every time someone takes a cookie from the jar, they'll remember your kindness. Add some color to your baking by tucking some red and white peppermints or other wrapped candy into your tin or tray. Make a gift tag or card with a family photo to personalize your gift. Jingle bells or an ornament attached with curly ribbon will dress up your package. Robin's Christmas Truffles 8 oz. semi-sweet or hazelnut chocolate 3/4 cup whipping cream 2 tbsp. butter 2 tbsp. of your favorite liqueur or 1 tsp. of your favorite artificial extract icing sugar cocoa

Melt chocolate over hot water in a double boiler. Remove from heat and add cream. Whisk in butter and liqueur. Chill mixture until firm. Shape into small balls with a melon ball scoop, working quickly so the mixture doesn't melt. Chill at least 1 hour, then roll in equal parts of icing sugar and cocoa. Keep refrigerated. Serve in tiny Christmas paper cups.

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Grace's Chocolate Clusters

These easy no-bake cookies will bring back memories for baby boomers! 2 cups sugar 1/2 cup butter 1/2 cup milk 1/2 cup cocoa 1 tsp. vanilla a dash of salt 3 cups rolled oats 1 cup coconut

Mix the sugar, butter, milk, and cocoa together in a saucepan. Bring to a boil over medium heat and boil for 4 minutes, stirring constantly. Mix in rolled oats and coconut. Drop by teaspoonfuls onto wax paper. Let cool in the refrigerator. Nana's Brown Sugar Fudge

This is a truly fabulous gift. Invest in a candy thermometer—you'll be making this fudge every Christmas once you've sampled it. Wear a long-sleeved shirt and oven mitt while you are making it. This mixture can get really hot and should be made by an adult. 3 cups light brown sugar, firmly packed 1 cup milk or cream 2 tbsp. white corn syrup 2 tbsp. butter 1 tsp. vanilla 1 cup nuts, chopped

Combine the sugar, milk, and corn syrup together in a saucepan and cook, stirring constantly, to 236°F on a

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candy thermometer, or to the soft ball stage. Remove from heat and add butter but do not stir. Set aside to cool to 110°F, or until lukewarm. Add vanilla and beat until mixture loses its gloss and a small amount, dropped from a spoon, will hold its shape. Stir in nuts. Pour into a greased 8" x 8" pan. When cool, cut into squares. Makes 11/3 Ibs. You may substitute mini-marshmallows, raisins, dates, figs, or crystallized ginger for nuts. For maple walnut fudge, substitute maple syrup for corn syrup and use maple extract rather than vanilla. Christmas Caramels 2 cups light corn syrup 1/2 Ib. butter 1 Ib. brown sugar 1 cup nuts, chopped, optional 1 can sweetened condensed milk melted chocolate, optional

An adult or responsible teen should be in charge of the stove, because the syrup gets very hot! Mix together the corn syrup, butter, sugar, and nuts. Simmer, stirring continuously, until mixture reaches the soft ball stage (240°F). Add nuts and pour into a well-buttered pan. Let cool and then refrigerate. After the mixture is very firm, cut it into small squares. Dip one end in melted chocolate if desired. Wrap each caramel in wax paper. You may rewrap the squares in colored foil if you wish. Marble Bark

Homemade almond bark is very easy to prepare. 6 oz. bittersweet chocolate 6 oz. white chocolate 1 cup whole almonds, toasted

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Carefully microwave each type of chocolate in separate bowls on medium power until melted. Stir half of the nuts into each bowl. Spoon the chocolate mixtures onto a cookie sheet lined with wax paper. Use a knife to gently marble the two types of chocolate and refrigerate until firm. Put the bark in a plastic bag. Tie it up with curly ribbon and pop it into an inexpensive gift bag lined with tissue. Gumdrop Cookies

Tucked in a tin or a plastic tub from the dollar store, or piled on a Christmas plate wrapped in cellophane, these cookies make a wonderful family gift. 1 cup shortening or margarine 1 cup brown sugar 1 cup white sugar 2 eggs 1 tsp. vanilla 2 cups flour 1/2 tsp. salt 1 tsp. baking soda 1 tsp. baking powder 2 cups rolled oats 2 cups gumdrops (black ones removed), cut in small pieces 1 cup coconut

Preheat oven to 350°F. Cream the shortening and sugars together. Add eggs and vanilla and beat well. Mix flour, salt, baking soda, and baking powder and stir into creamed mixture. Add rolled oats, then fold in gumdrops and coconut. Drop by teaspoonfuls, 2" apart, onto ungreased cookie sheets. Bake for 12 minutes until golden brown. Let cool on wire racks. Makes approximately 6 dozen.

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Sandy's Fudge Rum Balls

If you like rum balls but don't want to fuss, here's a very simple recipe. 1 package chocolate cake mix 3 tbsp. apricot or raspberry jam 3 tbsp. cocoa 1 tbsp. rum or 1 tsp. rum extract 2 tbsp. water 2 extra tbsp. jam chocolate sprinkles or coconut 1/4 cup walnuts, finely chopped, optional

Grease and flour a 9" x 13" pan. Prepare the cake mix as directed on the package, let cool, and then crumble. You'll need 3 cups of cake crumbs. Stir crumbs in a large bowl with a fork until very fine. Mix cake crumbs, cocoa, 3 tablespoons of jam, and rum to make a stiff paste. Add 1/4 cup of finely chopped nuts if you wish. Roll mixture into 24 balls. Warm 2 tablespoons of jam with water. Dip rum balls into jam mixture and roll in chocolate sprinkles or coconut. Refrigerate. Just before serving, place the balls into small cupcake liners.

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Jo's Coconut Macaroons These macaroons make a very special gift when tucked inside a gift box lined with tissue paper and a layer of wax paper. 3 egg whites 1/4 tsp. salt 1 1/4 cups sugar 1/2 tsp. vanilla 1/2 tsp. almond extract 21/2 cups sweetened coconut

Beat egg whites and salt into soft peaks. Add the sugar gradually, beating until very stiff. This may take longer than you'd expect. Fold in vanilla, almond extract, and coconut. Line cookie sheets with parchment paper. Using a teaspoon, drop cookies on pans. Bake at 325°F for 20 minutes. Let cool before removing from the pan. Helen's Christmas Cherry Bars Everywhere I take these bars, people request the recipe. You might know them as "dream bars/' They are superb and the pink icing is so pretty! Base: 1 cup flour 1 cup rolled oats 1 cup brown sugar, packed 1 tsp. baking soda 1/4 tsp. salt 1/2 cup butter Filling: 2 eggs 1 cup brown sugar, packed 1/4 tsp. almond extract

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2 tbsp. flour 1/2 tsp. salt 1 tsp. baking powder 1 cup coconut 1 cup maraschino cherries, drained and halved 1 cup pecans, halves or finely chopped Icing: 1/4 cup butter, softened 1/2 tsp. almond extract 2 cups icing sugar, sifted 3 to 4 tbsp. cherry juice

Preheat oven to 350°K Grease a 9" x 13" pan well. Mix together flour, rolled oats, 1 cup of brown sugar, soda, and salt. Add butter, and mix until crumbly, then press into pan. Bake for 10 minutes, turning the pan in the oven after 5 minutes. Beat eggs and stir in brown sugar and almond extract. Mix flour, baking powder, and salt together and add to the egg mixture. Fold in coconut and cherries. Spread over crust and sprinkle with pecans. Bake 25 minutes, turning pan after 15 minutes. Let cool completely. Beat icing ingredients together until very smooth. Spread over cooled bars. Norma's White Chocolate Cranberry Jingle Bars Base: 1/2 cup butter, softened 1/2 cup white sugar 1 egg yolk 1 1/4 cups flour 2 tbsp. custard powder

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Glaze: 1 cup dried cranberries 1 cup flaked almonds, toasted 3/4 cup brown sugar 1 1/2tbsp. corn syrup 1/2 cup butter

Topping; 3/4 cup white chocolate chips, melted

Lightly toast the flaked almonds in the oven and set aside. Combine the first five ingredients to make the base. Press the mixture onto a lightly greased, 11" x 15" rimmed cookie sheet. Bake at 350°F for 5 minutes. Remove the base from the oven and spread the cranberries and toasted flaked almonds over the base. Make glaze by combining the brown sugar, corn syrup, and butter and simmering for 5 minutes. Pour the glaze over the cranberries and almonds covering the base. Bake at 350°F for another 5 minutes. Drizzle the white chocolate over the base once it has cooled. This is very rich, so cut into small squares (about 50). Skor Toffee Chocolate Bars

Lisa introduced me to these; a wonderful gift for a teacher! 3/4 cup butter or margarine 3/4 cup brown sugar, packed 1 1/2 cups flour 1 can sweetened condensed milk 2 tbsp. butter or margarine 1 package (300 g) milk chocolate chips 1 package (300 g) Skor Toffee Bits

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Cream butter, sugar, and flour until well blended and mixture forms into a ball. Pat into a 9" x 13" baking dish. Bake at 350°F for 20 to 25 minutes (325°F if using a glass pan). Let cool on a wire rack. In a heavy pan, heat the condensed milk with 2 tbsp. butter, stirring over medium heat constantly until thickened (approximately 5 to 10 minutes). Spread over baked base. Bake for 12 to 15 minutes until golden brown. Sprinkle milk chocolate chips evenly over top and bake for 2 minutes, or until chocolate is soft and shiny. Remove from oven and gently spread chocolate evenly over second layer. Sprinkle toffee bits on top, pressing gently into chocolate. Cool completely, then chill just enough to set chocolate. Remove from refrigerator and cut into bars. Store at room temperature. Makes 48 bars. This recipe freezes beautifully.

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Mars Bar Squares

These easy bars are sure to please the teens on your list. Tuck some of the brightly wrapped mini Mars bars available at Christmas into the container too. 3 king-size Mars bars 1/3 cup butter or margarine 3 cups Rice Krispies 3/4 cup chocolate chips

Melt the chocolate bars and butter in the microwave. Add cereal and spread in a greased 8" x 8" pan. Spread 3/4 cup melted chocolate chips over top. Chill until firm enough to cut into squares.

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It's not how much we give, but how much love we put into giving. —Mother Teresa Stella's Chocolate Peppermint Bars

The perfect gift for someone who loves chocolate and mint! Ease: 1/2 cup butter 2 eggs, beaten 1 cup sugar 1 tsp. salt 1/2 tsp. peppermint extract 2 oz. unsweetened chocolate 1/2 cup flour

Melt the butter and chocolate together and remove from the stove. Add eggs and beat well. Add sugar, peppermint, flour, and salt and beat well again. Pour into a greased 9" x 9" pan. Bake at 350°F for 20 minutes and let cool. Middle layer: 1 cup icing sugar 2 heaping tbsp. butter 1 tbsp. cream or milk 1 tbsp. peppermint extract a few drops of green food coloring, optional

You may use 2 tbsp. of creme cle menthe rather than the peppermint extract and green food coloring. Mix sugar and butter until smooth, then add remaining

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ingredients and mix well. Spread over base and chill until set.

Icing: 2 oz. semi-sweet chocolate 2 tbsp. butter

Melt the butter and chocolate together. Let cool, then drizzle the mixture over the middle layer. If you'd like even more chocolate, double the icing layer and ice the top completely. Stella's Double Chocolate Biscotti

1 know, you don't think you can make biscotti, but you can with this simple recipe! Package it in a jumbo mug wrapped in cellophane or combine it in a basket with gourmet coffee samples. 2/3 cup almonds, coarsely chopped 1/2 cup butter 3/4 cup sugar 2 eggs 2 tbsp. Amaretto, Kahlua, or double-strength coffee 2 cups plus 2 tbsp. flour 1/3 cup cocoa 1 1/2 tsp. baking powder 1/4 tsp. salt 2/3 cup milk chocolate, chopped

Bake nuts in a shallow pan in a preheated 350°F oven for 8 to 10 minutes until golden brown. Let cool. Cream the butter and sugar in a mixing bowl until light and fluffy. Beat in eggs and liqueur (or coffee). In another bowl, combine flour, cocoa, baking powder, and salt. Add to the creamed mixture, stirring until blended. Fold

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in nuts and milk chocolate. Divide dough in half. On a greased and floured cookie sheet, pat out two logs, about 1/2" high, 11/2" wide, and 14" long. Space them at least 2" apart. Reduce heat to 325°F and bake in the middle of oven for 25 minutes, or until lightly browned. Transfer onto a rack and let cool for 5 minutes. Place on a cutting board and slice logs diagonally at a 45° angle with a serrated knife. Slices should be about 1/2" thick. Place the slices upright on the baking sheet, 1/2" apart Return to oven for 8 to 10 minutes to dry slightly. Let cool on a rack. Stone in a tightly covered container. Makes 3 1/2 to 4 dozen cookies. Auntie Elvira's Cheese Treats

A small tin of cheese treats makes a welcome gift for people who don't like sweets. 1 cup sharp or old Cheddar cheese, grated 1/2 cup butter, softened a scant 1/2 tsp. Tabasco sauce 1 cup flour 1/2 tsp. salt 1 cup Rice Krispies

Blend cheese, butter, and Tabasco sauce well. Add flour and salt and mix well. Fold In Rice Krispies. Cover in plastic wrap and chill the dough thoroughly. Take a small spoonful of the dough, roll into a ball and place on a cookie sheet. Press them down with a fork. Bake 15 minutes at 350°F. Let cool completely and store in an airtight container. These freeze well. Babs' Nuts and Bolts

My neighbor Babs made this delicious treat as a Christmas gift for over sixty years.

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3/4 Ib. butter 2/3 tsp. curry powder 3 tsp. chili powder 5 tsp. Worcestershire sauce 1 tsp. salt 1 tsp. garlic salt 1 tsp. seasoned salt 1 1/2 cups mixed salted nuts 1 1/2 cups Cheerios 1 1/2 cups Shreddies 11/2 cups pretzels 1 1/2 cups Mini Ritz crackers 1 1/2 cups Cheezies, broken into bits 1 1/2 cups Corn Chex or similar cereal Bring the first 7 ingredients to a boil, stirring constantly. In a very large roasting pan, mix dry ingredients together. Pour melted butter mixture over dry ingredients. Stir thoroughly. Bake 1 hour at 250°F, stirring every 15 minutes. Store in airtight containers. Monica's Pecan Caramel Com This recipe gets very hot and should be made by an adult or responsible teen. 6 quarts popped popcorn (remove any unpopped kernels) 1 cup butter or margarine 2 cups brown sugar 1/2 cup light corn syrup 1 tsp. salt 1/2 tsp. baking soda 1 teaspoon vanilla 2 cups pecans and almonds, unsalted

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Put popped popcorn, almonds, and pecans into a large, lightly buttered roasting pan. In a saucepan on medium heat, bring butter, brown sugar, corn syrup, and salt to a boil, stirring constantly. Boil without stirring for 5 minutes, then remove from heat. Add baking soda and vanilla and stir briskly. Pour over popcorn immediately and mix well with a long-handled spoon. Bake at 250°F for 1 hour, stirring every 15 minutes. Cool well and store in an airtight container. Sandy's Sugared Walnuts 1 1/2 cups brown sugar, packed 1/4 cup sherry 2 tbsp. corn syrup 1 tsp. pumpkin pie spice 1/4 tsp. salt 5 cups walnut halves sugar

In a pot, blend the packed brown sugar, sherry, corn syrup, pumpkin pie spice, and salt and then heat until sugar is dissolved. Stir in walnut halves until well coated. Roll the nuts in sugar and let dry on baking sheets. Store in a loosely covered container. Makes 5 cups. Lark's Spiced Nuts Present these spiced nuts in small sealers or small jam jars. Dress your jars up with a circle of Christmas fabric and a pretty ribbon. 1 egg white 2 cups mixed nuts 6 tbsp. sugar 1 tbsp. cinnamon 1/8 tsp. nutmeg

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1/8 tsp. cloves 1 cup raisins a pinch of salt

Beat egg white until it has a smooth consistency. Add nuts, stirring to coat each. Mix sugar, cinnamon, nutmeg, and cloves together in small container and stir into nut mixture. Spread mixture on a baking sheet. Bake in a 325°F oven for about 20 minutes, stirring 2 or 3 times. Remove from oven and stir in raisins and salt immediately. Let cool. Store in a covered container. Makes 3 cups. Snowman Sippers

Sydney's Snowman Sippers make a delightful gift. 1 or 2 packets hot chocolate mix 3 Hershey's Kisses a handful of marshmallows a small transparent bag curling ribbon a candy cane an ornament or decoration a mug, preferably with a snowman design (a solidcolor blue, green, or red mug also looks attractive)

Place the marshmallows, Kisses, and hot chocolate mix in the transparent bag. Add the candy cane (which will stick up through the bag). Tie up with curling ribbon and pop the snowman sipper bag into the mug. This is a great gift for teachers or daycare providers!

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Cookie Mix in a Jar

Children love these colorful cookie mixes—they make great fundraisers for a bake sale as well. (Use the plain M&lVfs since some children have peanut allergies.) You'll need: a 1-quart wide mouth Mason jar, lid, and screw-top 1 cup brown sugar 1/2 cup white sugar 1 cup plain, red and green M&M's 2 cups flour 1 tsp. salt 1 tsp. baking soda

Mix the salt and baking soda wilh the flour in a bowl. Layer half of this mixture, then half of the white sugar, half of the brown sugar, and oil of the M&M's in the jar. (Pat down the brown sugar layers very firmly.) Now

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layer the other half of the brown sugar, white sugar, and the flour mix. (You may have to tap the jar gently on the counter to get the entire top layer of flour in.) Use pinking shears to cut a 9" circle of Christmas fabric to cover the lid. Place the fabric circle over top of the sealed jar and secure it with a rubber band. Cover the rubber band with a raffia or ribbon bow. Attach a card with the following mixing and baking instructions: Cookie Mix in a Jar

Preheat oven to 350°R Cream 1 cup of butter or margarine. Add 1 egg and 1 tsp. vanilla. Add cookie mix in a jar. Mix until well blended. Drop by teaspoonfuls onto a greased baking sheet. Bake 8 to 10 minutes.

Children can also help mix up the following delicious brownie recipe for an inexpensive gift: Brownie Mix in a Jar 1-quart wide-mouth Mason jar, lid, and screw-top 2 1/4 cups sugar 2/3 cup cocoa 1/2 cup walnuts or pecans, chopped 1 1/4 cups flour 1 tsp. baking powder 1 tsp. salt 1/4 cup white or semi-sweet chocolate chips, optional

Mix the baking powder, salt, and flour together and set aside. Layer the other ingredients in a 1-quart widemouth Mason jar. Wipe the inside of the jar with a dry paper towel after adding the cocoa. Press each layer down very firmly before adding the flour mixture last.

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If layering the ingredients seems too fiddly, just mix the dry ingredients together in a zip-lock bag and put the bag inside a festive fabric bag you've sewn. No time to sew? Pop the brownie mix into a gift bag lined with tissue. Attach the following directions: Brownie Mix in a Jar Empty the brownie mix into a large mixing bowl. Stir well with a fork. Add 3/4 cup of melted butter and 4 slightly beaten eggs. Mix until well blended. Spread batter into a greased 9" x 13" baking pan. Bake at 350°F for 30 minutes. Let cool completely in the pan. Ice if you wish or just add some chocolate chips to the batter. Cut into 2" squares.

The only gift is a portion of thyself. —Ralph Waldo Emerson

Chapter Twenty-One Kid-Tested Crafts

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The gift you give to another Need not be an expensive thing, As long as you've tucked some love inside Before you tie the string. —Anonymous Children love to make crafts, and making crafts with them is a terrific way to have fun together. When you spend time with your kids, you are letting them know that family time is important and that you enjoy their company. Your time and attention are very special gifts, and the memories will last forever. Choose two or three projects to try this year. Read the directions carefully from beginning to end and make a list of all the craft supplies you'll need. Pick them up early in the fall when the selection in craft stores is at its best. Store all the materials together in a box or plastic tote bin with a lid. On craft night, cover your table with an inexpensive plastic tablecloth that can be reused. Remember to print the name of the child and the date on the back of each project. Keep some baby wipes on hand for quick cleanups, and have fun! If you are making crafts with a large group of younger children, ask a couple of parents to pre-cut some of the project pieces. They'll be glad to help. Make sure you provide a sample and very clear instructions of exactly what you would like your parent helpers to do.

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Christmas Orange Wreath Supplies: 7 or 8 Christmas oranges 10" x 24" piece of clear cellophane (or plastic wrap) 3 yards of 1"-wide Christmas ribbon Lay the oranges flat along the length of the cellophane rectangle. Leave a couple of inches between each orange, as well as on each end of the rectangle. Fold the cellophane over and turn the folded edge to the back. Fasten with tape. Tie Christmas ribbon where you've left spaces between the oranges. Gather the top edges of the cellophane together and fasten with a piece of twist tie. (Leave some of the cellophane on each end.) Tie a big ribbon bow on the top. Wasn't that easy? These wreaths make a great gift for a teacher or daycare provider.

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Santa Advent Calendar Supplies: a large, sturdy paper plate flesh-colored paint or crayon red construction paper white paper crayons or felt pens cotton puffs glue

Color or paint the paper plate with a skin color for Santa's face. Draw the eyes, cheeks, and mouth with crayons or felt pens. Glue cotton puffs on for the moustache. Paste a construction-paper cherry nose on top of Santa's moustache. Add some cotton puff eyebrows and a red hat cut from construction paper. Make a beard shape from white paper and glue it on the bottom of the paper plate below the mouth.

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Print the numbers 1 through 24 on the beard (or run off photocopied beards with the numbers already on for a large group of kids). Decorate a paper lunch bag and put 24 cotton puffs inside. Each day, children glue a puff on the appropriate number on Santa's beard. It makes more sense to kids if you put the first cotton puff on the number 24—the next day they know there are 23 days until Christmas, and so on. You'll know it's Christmas when Santa's beard is full! Christmas Party Crackers Supplies: leftover paper towel or wrapping paper tubes, cut into 5" lengths crepe paper or wrapping paper to cover tubes ribbon or cord to tie ends of crackers tiny gifts such as rings, earrings, or toy cars from the dollar store fortunes or jokes written on small slips of paper snappers and paper hats are optional (available at craft stores)

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Cut crepe paper or wrapping paper into 7" x 15" rectangles. If you have them, use pinking shears to cut the short edges. If you use plain-colored crepe paper, run a line of white glue along both short edges and shake glitter over the glue for a really glamorous effect. Write a riddle, joke, or fortune for each cracker and tuck it inside along with the gifts. Center your filled tube along the long edge of the wrapping paper. Fasten with plain tape. Roll the paper tightly around the tube and tape the seam shut. Gently tie a piece of ribbon or cord around each end. Decorate with Christmas stickers or a name card for each guest. You may personalize the crackers for the guests who are coming. If you want to recycle the cracker covers next year, use fabric rather than paper to cover the tubes. Gurndrop Wreaths Supplies: thin floral wire a dull pair of scissors to cut the wire a package of red, white, and green gumdrops curling ribbon

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Cut the wire into 12" lengths for small wreaths. Thread the gumdrops onto the wire. You may want to make a red, green, and white pattern. Twist the top of the wire together. Tie on some ribbon and use dull scissors to make a curly ribbon bow. For a country look, you can use the same technique with cranberries. Twist the wire in a circle or heart shape and tie with a raffia bow. Yummy Snowmen Supplies: 3 large marshmallows per snowman fruit leather straight pretzels mini chocolate chips gumdrops and gumdrop rings toothpicks

Push one long, thin pretzel up through the middle marshmallow so part of it is showing on either end. Add another marshmallow on the top and the bottom. Wrap a piece of fruit leather around the neck for a scarf. Poke chocolate chips through the top marshmallow to make the eyes, mouth, and nose. Poke two or three more through the middle marshmallow for buttons. Add pretzel arms. Put a flat gumdrop ring on the top marshmallow to form the base of the hat, and then add a regular gumdrop to form the top. Fasten the hat to the head with a toothpick. These snowmen make cute decorations for the Christmas table. Your children could also make some for their classmates at school. Make sure toothpicks are taken out before eating.

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Proof Loops Christmas Trees

Supplies: Froot Loops green and yellow construction paper white glue in a squeeze bottle

Fold a 9" x 12" piece of green construction paper in half. Cut a triangle-shaped Christmas tree with a base using pinking shears or regular scissors. Cut out a star shape from yellow paper for the children to glue on the top of the tree. Children place dots of glue where they would like their decorations to go, then drop Froot Loops on top. If you are working with a large group of children, you'll probably want to pre-cut the trees and stars. Preschool children can make these successfully.

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Votive Candle Holder Supplies: red and green tissue paper, torn in small pieces white glue small baby-food jars (soak well to remove labels) tea light candles a fat paintbrush

Pour the white glue into a recycled container and dilute it slightly with water. Use a fat paintbrush to paint the glue mixture all over the outside of the babyfood jar. When the children put the tissue pieces on top of the glue, they should press each piece down well around the edges. Cover the entire jar and let it dry well. Put the tea light candle inside and you have a great gift! A delightful way to present the gift is to give it with a card with a construction-paper candle pasted on the outside. Add some glitter to make it sparkle. Inside the card, write, "Because you light up my life." Any grandma or grandpa would treasure this special gift. Craft Stick Snowmen Supplies: jumbo craft sticks scraps of black construction paper white acrylic paint a small paintbrush tiny twigs for arms (nice, but not absolutely necessary) ribbon to make a loop for hanging felt pens tacky craft glue

If you have lots of time, collect small twigs a couple of days before beginning this project and let them dry well. If not, the snowmen look fine even without arms.

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Paint the whole jumbo craft stick white. Let the front dry, then flip it over and paint the back. Make several snowmen at once; they look cute tied on parcels! Cut out hats from the black construction paper and glue one on top of each stick. Use felt pens to add black eyes and an orange nose. Tiny buttons or beads may be glued on the middle for buttons. A scarf can be made from scraps of fabric, felt, or construction paper. Glue on tiny twigs for arms and a ribbon loop on the back from which to hang the ornament.

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Craft Stick Santas Supplies: jumbo craft sticks regular Popsicle-sized craft sticks, cut in half red acrylic paint a small paintbrush a recycled margarine lid to put paint in scraps of white, red, pink and black construction paper cotton puffs (or bits of real fleece) scissors felt pens tacky craft glue

Paint the front of the jumbo craft stick and two halves of the smaller Popsicle stick red. Let dry, then paint the backs. The large craft stick will be Santa's body. Glue the smaller pieces on the back of the jumbo stick to form the arms—angle them down slightly. When dry, cut out a circle from pink paper for Santa's face. Glue it one-quarter of the way down the jumbo stick. Add a red construction-paper hat and glue it above the face. Cut out a belt from black construction paper and glue it halfway down the body. Make black paper mittens and paste them on the ends of the arms. Glue on cotton puffs or a bit of fleece for the beard. Add eyes and nose with felt pens. Glue a loop of ribbon on the back so the ornament can be hung. Egg Carton Sleighs

These make wonderful gifts for family and friends, a seniors7 center, or a homeless shelter. We make these sleighs each year as decorations for Meals on Wheels trays. You could also make some for your child's classmates at school or daycare.

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Make lots—they serve as lovely place cards for the table or can be given to guests at a children's party They go together easily and kids and adults love them. Supplies: corrugated cardboard egg cartons a red pipe cleaner for each sleigh, cut in half green tempera paint a small paintbrush glitter—multicolored, silver, or gold a recycled plastic lid to shake the glitter into small candies (red or green M&M's, no peanuts) small squares of plastic wrap curling ribbon a homemade or purchased gift tag for each sleigh felt pens tacky craft glue

An adult needs to cut the egg carton apart into individual cups. Cut the front a little lower than the back to give the appearance of a sleigh. Paint the cups and let them dry Painting one day and decorating the next works well.

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Shake some glitter into an upturned margarine lid. Run a bead of glue around the top edge of the painted egg cup and then dip it in the glitter. Let dry. Bend the front of the two pipe cleaner pieces to form curved runners and glue the egg carton sleigh on top of them. Use good tacky craft glue. Let dry well. Put six or seven small candies into each square of plastic wrap, fold the top edges together, and tie with ribbon. Use dull scissors to curl the ribbon, then tuck the tiny bundle of candy into the seat of the sleigh. If you know who you are giving the sleigh to, tie a gift tag to the bundle of candy with the recipient's name on it, or just write "Merry Christmas from..." Shell Santa Ornaments If you have access to clam or oyster shells, these ornaments make a wonderful project. If you don't live near the ocean, ask someone who does to save you a few shells (or purchase them at a craft store). Primary-aged children can make these with some help. Older children won't need much assistance. Supplies: a clam or oyster shell for each necklace an electric drill red or burgundy, white, flesh-colored, and black acrylic paint artist's paintbrushes a small, white pompom for each Santa clear acrylic sealer spray thin satin ribbon—red, burgundy, white, or green felt pens tacky craft glue

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If you found your shells on the beach, an adult should boil them so they are really clean—add a few drops of bleach to the water to make sure. Let the shells dry well, then use an electric drill to make a small hole in the top of each one. Use the natural shape of the shell to design Santa's face. Oyster shells work especially well because the wrinkles form wonderful beards. Use the natural contours to decide where to place the nose and eyes. Clamshells make a more modern Santa . Use the wider, round part for the bottom of the beard. Draw a hat on the top part and sketch an oval shape just below it for the face. Paint the hat red or burgundy. Let it dry. Paint the face a flesh color and let it dry. If necessary, touch up the white part of the shell for the beard and paint a white moustache. Let it dry, then add a red nose, two blue eyes, and two pink cheeks with felt pens. An adult may spray the ornaments with clear acrylic sealer in a well-ventilated area. Glue a white pompom on the top part of Santa's hat before threading the ribbon through the hole. Use a long ribbon if you are making a necklace and a shorter one for an ornament.

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Easy Gingerbread Houses Kids love making their own gingerbread houses. It's easy when you use graham crackers. To make the base more stable, save half-pint milk cartons to use as a foundation for the house. This way, the walls won't collapse! Supplies: graham wafers a sturdy paper plate as a base a well-rinsed half-pint milk carton plastic knives royal icing (buy the powdered mixture for the icing at your local craft or cake decorating supply store; it is safer than the homemade recipe made with raw egg whites) an assortment of candies

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Cover each side of the milk carton with royal icing and one graham cracker. Have younger children work with an older child in a buddy system. Use two crackers, one on each side, to make a peaked roof on the top; the slope of the milk carton helps you make the roof easily. Let the house dry before gluing on the decorations with royal icing. Because these houses are not very big, small candies look more attractive. Fasten the house to the paper plate with more royal icing. Use some green gumdrops as trees around the base of the house. If you are working with a large group of children, ask each child to bring a cup of candy. Shake some of each type of candy into several containers so each group of children has an assortment to choose from. For a pioneer Christmas, children can turn their house into a rustic log cabin by covering the graham cracker foundation with straight pretzels placed lengthwise along the walls and by using Shreddies for shingles on the roof. Button Trees

Supplies: small buttons medium-weight cardboard (green or plain) yellow construction paper tacky craft glue Cut simple tree shapes from the cardboard. You can use a recycled cereal box and have the children paint the trees green, or you can purchase green posterboard. Children glue the buttons on with craft glue. Glue a yellow paper star on the top of the tree and use a hole punch to make a hole at the top for the ribbon to go through. A variation on this project is to cut out red cardboard candy canes and use small white buttons to make the

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stripes. If you want to make refrigerator magnets rather than tree ornaments, buy lightweight wooden shapes at your craft store, paint them, glue on the buttons, and then fasten one or two pieces of magnetic tape on the back.

Snow Globes Supplies: recycled baby-food jar mineral oil (available at the drug store) pearly white or silver glitter tiny plastic miniatures (pick them up on sale after Christmas and put them away for next year) extra-strong, waterproof craft glue

Wash the jar well. If you want a more attractive globe, paint the outside of the jar lid with acrylic paint or have an adult spray the lids in a well-ventilated area. Put dabs of glue on the inside of the lid and then drop the tiny miniatures onto the glue. Let dry for a few hours. Fill the jar with mineral oil and sparkles. Make sure a grownup screws the lid on really well. Older children enjoy making these, younger ones enjoy shaking them!

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Jigsaw Puzzle Wreaths Supplies: jigsaw puzzle pieces (from your local thrift store) inexpensive gold or green spray paint medium-weight cardboard such as a cereal box large sequins or small pompoms wool or ribbon pre-made bows from the ornament section of your craft store tacky craft glue

Cut out a cardboard circle the size of a dinner plate. Use a smaller plate to trace the inner circle of the wreath. Cut an "X" in the center and cut out the inner circle. (Ask a helper or two to prepare the wreaths ahead of time.) Children glue a layer of jigsaw pieces on the circle, putting the glue on the plain side of the puzzle pieces. Add another layer on top of the first one, overlapping the pieces. Press down really firmly to make sure the pieces are secure. Let dry overnight. An adult should spray-paint the wreaths in a wellventilated area. Gold or green wreaths are attractive. Wear an inexpensive paper face mask from the hardware store when using spray paint. Let dry overnight. Give children sequins or pompoms and a bow to glue on their wreaths. Tape a paper clip on the back and thread a piece of thin ribbon or wool through it so the wreath can be hung. Children can make tiny wreaths and glue their photographs behind them for affordable gifts.

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So-Simple Napkin Rings Supplies: an empty paper towel tube Christmas ribbon or felt small shapes cut from recycled Christmas cards, or tiny artificial poinsettias tacky craft glue

An adult should cut the paper towel tube into widths that match the width of the Christmas ribbon. You can use strips of felt instead of ribbon if you wish. Wrap the ribbon or felt strip around the tube and glue it down. Add some sequin trim or a narrower satin ribbon or lace. Glue a Christmas card cut-out or small artificial flower on the front. Your children will be very proud when their creations decorate the Christmas table. Classes at school or Brownies or Cubs can make some to decorate trays at a nearby hospital or seniors' home. Slide a plain red dinner napkin through each napkin ring and deliver them along with a card expressing your best wishes for a happy holiday.

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Mini Wreaths Supplies: small grapevine wreaths (5" or 6" in diameter) fir or cedar greenery, cut in short lengths tiny pine cones ribbon or a pre-made bow thin ribbon for hanging tacky craft glue

When choosing the wreaths, look for loosely woven ones with lots of open spaces so children can easily squeeze in the pieces of fir or cedar. You can find small wreaths at almost any craft or dollar store. Tuck in fanshaped pieces of greenery. Glue or wire on a few tiny pine cones, add a bow, and tie a thin piece of ribbon around the top for hanging. These wreaths can also be used as centerpieces with a fat candle inside. Be very careful when using candles in a centerpiece: never leave it unattended. Magic Reindeer Food Magic reindeer food is easy to make with some dry rolled oats, birdseed, and a little superfine sugar. You can put it in a snack-sized zip-lock bag, but it's more fun to make a special reindeer food bag.

Supplies: rolled oats birdseed superfine sugar brown paper lunch bag dark brown construction paper red pompom or red construction-paper nose wiggly eyes or black construction-paper eyes glue stick

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blank index card Christmas stickers

Round off the top of the lunch bag and save the parts you cut away to make teardrop-shaped ears. Trace your child's hands on brown construction paper and cut out to make antlers. Place the reindeer food in the bag and fold the bag over. Glue on eyes and nose, antlers and ears. Copy instructions below onto a blank index card embellished with some Christmas stickers and staple to reindeer bag. Instructions for Magic Reindeer Food Sprinkle magic reindeer food On your moonlit lawn. The sparkle will guide Rudolph to your home Before you wake at dawn.

Santa Key

Is your child worried that Santa can't visit because you don't have a chimney? Make a magic Santa key to open the door.

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Supplies: old key with a hole large enough to thread gold cord through thin red satin ribbon gold cord paper or cardboard for instructions tag Christmas stickers to decorate tag

Old-fashioned skeleton keys are nice but not necessary. Grandma or Grandpa may have one, and thrift stores often have jars of old keys too. Thread the keyhole with thin gold cord and tie the key onto a longer red satin ribbon. Make a tag with the poem below to tie onto the satin ribbon. If you know of other families who don't have a chimney, make some extra Santa keys. These would sell well at a craft sale in areas where most children live in apartments. Dear Santa, I don't have a chimney For you to climb through, But if you don't visit me, I don't know what I'll do! Some people say you are magic And can use any key, I'll hang this one in a place That you will surely see. Now I can go to sleep, I won't worry any more, Because you can use this magic key To open up my door! Love

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Snowman Can Collect coffee cans during the year to make these delightful treat containers or decorations. Purchase the coffee cans that have a sealed foil lid under the plastic lid—they have nicessmooth interior rims. Supplies: jumbo coffee can, or 1-lb. coffee can if making a smaller container heavy gauge wire for handle grey metal primer spray paint medium or dark blue spray paint white, red, orange, green, and black acrylic craft paints artist's paintbrushes (sold in inexpensive packages) container of water to rinse brushes small pieces of sea sponge (available at paint stores) paper towels graphite pencil (available at craft stores) 1" x 20" strip of decorative, red and white gingham fabric

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Make two holes on opposite sides of the top of the jumbo coffee can. An adult should spray-paint the coffee can with metal primer paint. Be sure to work in a well-ventilated area and wear a disposable paint mask, following manufacturer's directions. Allow paint to dry thoroughly, then spray-paint the can medium or dark blue. Let paint dry again. Using a graphite pencil, sketch placement of design. If painting a snow scene, sponge-paint snow all around the base of the can, then sponge-paint or brush-paint a snowman on. Add trees if you wish. Allow the white paint to dry briefly before adding a scarf, orange nose, and other details. To make snowflakes, use the wooden end of the paintbrush: dip it in white paint and dab on tiny circles. Let dry before fastening wire through the holes to make a handle. Tie on the fabric bow. Line the can with white tissue paper before popping your gift in. This is lovely when presented with a cellophane bag full of shortbread snowballs. You can use smaller coffee cans to make mini gifts. Santa Can

Lindsay, one of my Grade One students, gave me this Santa can, lined with white tissue and filled with shortbread cookies with cherries on top. What a special gift! Supplies: jumbo coffee can or 1 -Ib. coffee can metal primer spray paint dark red spray paint heavy gauge wire for handle flesh-colored, red, and white acrylic craft paints artist's paintbrushes small pieces of sea sponge

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paper towels graphite pencil (available at craft stores) 1" x 20" strip of Christmas fabric for a bow

Follow the preparation of the can as above with the snowman can, but paint the can a dark red instead of blue. Draw Santa's face on with graphite pencil. Paint skin first. Allow to dry, then add eyes, mouth, and eyebrows. Using a very dry brush and no water, pounce a little "blush" on Santa's cheeks. After the face is thoroughly dry, Santa's beard can be sponged or pounced on with a fat brush. The moustache is added after the beard, and the nose is painted on at the very end. Add a wire handle and fabric bow.

Candy Cane Mouse

These are lovely tree ornaments and make great tags for presents. You will get more mice from each piece of felt if an adult cuts out the body parts. If working with a large group of children, organize some adults to help you make up bagged kits with the necessary supplies for each mouse.

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Supplies: green felt or construction paper red felt or construction paper pompom nose wiggly eyes scissors tacky craft glue wrapped miniature candy cane for each mouse

Cut an egg shape about 4" long from green felt or paper. Cut two slits about 1" wide horizontally. Glue on red ears, pompom nose, and wiggly eyes. Slide candy cane through slits for tail. Candy Cane Mittens Supplies: red, green, or blue felt scissors toothpicks glitter or sequins wax paper thin ribbon for hanging needle thread, same color as ribbon miniature wrapped candy cane for each mitten tacky craft glue

Make a small mitten pattern and trace it onto a piece of felt. Pin two layers of felt together and cut out both layers at the same time. Place one layer of the pair on a wax paper surface. Squeeze glue carefully in a line around the edge of one of the mittens. Lay matching mitten on top and allow to dry. Older children may enjoy sewing the mitten rather than gluing it. Decorate the mitten front with glitter glue or by gluing on star or

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circle sequins. Kids tend to get carried away with the glue—it works best with young children if an adult places tiny dots of glue on the mitten with a toothpick and children drop the sequins on the glue. Allow mittens to dry before sewing or gluing a ribbon loop from which to hang them. Tuck a tiny wrapped candy cane inside each mitt. Make candy cane mice or mittens to give to guests or friends. They also make delightful decorations or tray ornaments for seniors in a care home or the Meals on Wheels program. Candy Cane Seeds a small clay pot white and red acrylic craft paint artist's paintbrush a small piece of sea sponge wrapped red and white peppermints cellophane red or green curling ribbon paper or a tag

A tiny clay pot full of candy cane seeds is a sweet gift for your child's teacher, bus driver, daycare provider, or relatives. Help your child sponge-paint the rim of the pot with white paint. Let dry and add red diagonal stripes. You may want to mark where the stripes should go with a pencil. After the pots are dry, fill them with red and white wrapped peppermint candies. Wrap the whole pot in cellophane and tie it up with red or green ribbon. Add a tag that says "Candy Cane Seeds/'

Chapter Twenty-Two Handmade with Love

Every gift, though it be small, is in reality great if given with affection. —Pindar Children of all ages love making gifts for family and friends. When you make gifts together, you are helping your children develop their creativity. You are also enhancing their self-esteem by developing their sense of competence. But the most important reason for making gifts is to help your children understand that giving gifts is as important as receiving them. A gift can say, "I love you, I appreciate you, and I care about you"; a handmade gift says all of this but more eloquently. These treasures made by tiny hands leave a special impression on the heart of the fortunate recipient. Early in November, help your children make a list of friends and relatives they would like to make presents for. Set aside some time each week over the next month to work on handmade gifts; try to be finished by the end of the first week in December. You want your craft time to be enjoyable, not another "have to do" item on your long list. All of these projects have been tested with children aged two to fifteen years old with great results. Hands-and-Feet Reindeer

You can make a simple muslin banner or decorate a

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T-shirt or sweatshirt with your children's footprints. These very special reindeer are sure to be a big hit with grandparents. Supplies: a T-shirt, sweatshirt, or muslin banner (banner requires a thin wooden dowel) brown, red, and black acrylic paint fabric medium to add to the acrylic paint if making a washable shirt (follow instructions on product) recycled plastic container lids to pour the paint in a fat paintbrush a jingle bell, needle, and thread 1/2 yard of narrow red or green satin ribbon or wool

If you are making a banner, cut a muslin rectangle, fold over the top edge, and sew a straight seam to form a pocket that allows the insertion of a thin dowel. Cut the bottom edges to a point. Use pinking shears to finish them or leave them unfinished. Collect all the items you need together with an ice cream pail full of warm water, a bar of soap, and an old towel. Paint the sole of your child's foot with brown paint and stamp it on the muslin or T-shirt. It's important to leave the toes unpainted or your reindeer will look funny! Wash and dry off the foot. Paint hands with black paint and

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carefully position them to form the two antlers. Wash and dry the hands. Dab thumb in red paint to form the nose, then wash thumb. Dab pointer finger in black paint and dab on eyes. Wash thoroughly. After the banner or T-shirt has dried, you or your child can add, "Noel," "Joy/' or "For a Dear Grandma." You may be able to fit two smaller children's footprints on one banner or T-shirt. If you are making a banner, sew a jingle bell on the bottom and tie the ribbon on both ends of the dowel. If you think this project is too messy, just trace your child's hands on black paper and their foot on brown paper, then combine to make a paper reindeer. These can be tucked into a Christmas scrapbook and are fun to look at each year. Your child will enjoy seeing how much their hands and feet have grown. You can also paste them on a card to delight a special relative. Handprint Wreath

I have made these with children on muslin banners as well as on good quality paper. Supplies: red and green acrylic paint a muslin banner (about 14" x 14") a thin dowel red or green 1/4" satin ribbon a plain index card

Cut out the muslin and use pinking shears (if you have them) to finish the side and bottom edges. Fold the top edge over by 11/2" and sew a casing. Trace a small circle with a plate in the center of the banner as a guide to show where to place the handprints. Put green paint on an ice cream pail lid. Press your child's hand in the

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green paint and go around the circle building a wreath. Turn hand toward the inside of the circle sometimes to fill in the center of the wreath. Wash hands, then dip a finger in red paint and dab on several berries. You can paint a red bow on with a finger or make a bow from ribbon and tack it on. Be sure to put your child's name and the date on the back with an indelible felt pen. Grandparents love these special banners. Print the following poem on a plain index card (adjusting the name to suit the person you are giving it to) and fasten it with a small safety pin to the banner: My little handprints made this wreath, My little thumbs each berry, And Grandma, I hope this helps you have A Christmas that's extra merry. I love you, Grandma!

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Popsicle-Stick Picture Frames Supplies: 8 wooden Popsicle sticks for each frame glitter thin wooden hearts, trees, snowmen, or stars glue a photograph of your child a strip of magnetic tape tacky craft glue

Help your child paint the Popsicle sticks. Select a color that complements the photograph you have chosen. Allow the sticks to dry and then glue them together to form the frame. Lay the Popsicle sticks down in pairs to form a square. Glue the left- and righthand sets on top of the upper and lower pairs, moving the ends in slightly. Let dry. Glue on some sequins, confetti trees, or snowflakes to dress up your frames. Let dry. Glue your child's picture on the back and add a strip of magnetic tape on the top and the bottom, or tie on some ribbon so they can hang on the tree.

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"I Love You" Mugs Supplies: an inexpensive ceramic mug from the dollar store special craft paints for use with ceramics artist's paintbrushes

Wash and dry the mugs well with warm water and vinegar. For best results, make a sketch on paper first— you can't go wrong with a white snowman on a blue mug. Follow the manufacturer's instructions for the paints and have fun. Remember to add your child's name and the date on the bottom of the mug. Put some hot chocolate packets or wrapped candies inside the mug and tie with cellophane and curling ribbon. Although many of the paint products available will make a dishwasher-safe mug, they'll last longer if washed by hand.

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Christmas Candles It's fun to make beeswax candles with children. They are quite easy to do if you warm the wax gently with a blow dryer as you roll them up. Simple shapes are best for small children—just cut each sheet into four fat rectangles, lay the wick down, allowing 1" to hang over one end, and roll the wax up slowly, trying hard to keep it rolled tightly. You can cut decorations from a contrasting color of wax with tiny cookie cutters. Holly and berries are attractive on an undyed candle; press them on carefully after warming up the area where you are attaching them. Candles make a nice gift when given with a card that says: I made this candle by myself, It comes wrapped up with my love. Thanks for being my special Love

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Handprint Angel Supplies: heavy posterboard or construction paper yellow, blue, hair-colored, and flesh-colored paint ice cream pail filled with warm water soap and an old towel artist's paintbrush felt pens glitter glue or white glue and sparkles

Gather all the items you need. First, paint your child's hand with blue paint. Carefully press one handprint on the paper. Wash hand and allow handprint to dry slightly. Paint both hands with yellow paint and make handprints to form wings; the wings should be positioned slightly below the blue handprint. Wash and dry hands and allow wings to dry. Turn the paper around and apply arms, using blue paint and finger or brush. Allow to dry. Add a circle face and hands with a finger or brush, using skin-colored paint. Use a finger or

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paintbrush to dab on the desired color of hair. After face is dry, add eyes and mouth with fine-tipped felt pens. Robe and wings can be decorated with sequins or glitter glue. Rather than painting a face, you can also attach a photo of your child on the angel; scan the photo to enlarge if necessary Paint a yellow halo or make one with gold glitter glue. Handprint angels look cute on a tote bag, sweatshirt, or fabric banner. Pre-wash the fabric items to be painted and use acrylic paints mixed with a fabric medium, following the manufacturer's directions. Snowmen Christmas Ball Supplies: unbreakable blue Christmas ball ornament ice cream pail filled with warm water soap and an old towel white acrylic craft paint artist's paintbrush fine-tipped permanent felt pens or paint markers

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Paint your child's palm and fingers white. Place the ornament into the hand carefully so that the palm print forms the snow on the base of the ornament and the fingers form five snowmen. Let dry Using the wooden end of a paintbrush dipped in white paint, add a few dots for snowflakes and let dry again. Add hats, faces, and scarves with fine-tipped permanent felts or paint markers. Make a tag with the poem below to attach to the ornaments. Dear Here are five small snowmen, Look carefully and see, I made them with my handprint, A special part of me, And when you hang this ornament Upon your Christmas tree, Look back and remember Your special [grandson, granddaughter, niece, nephew, little friend] ME! Love

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Snowman Ornament Box Decorate a plain, white ornament-sized box with a blue, sponge-painted snowman or use a blue felt pen to draw a snow scene. Wrap the snowman ornament up in blue or white tissue paper and pop it in the box.

I'm sending you these tiny gifts and know you'll understand Why I'd rather send you something that I made myself by hand. —A Victorian Christmas Card

Chapter Twenty-Three Wrapping It Up with Love

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Fond are the memories I have of opening Christmas cards and thinking myself loved. —Anonymous Handmade cards, tags, and wrap are simple for children to create. Use some of your children's drawings as Christmas cards this year—color copiers make it easy to do. Your local office supply store will be glad to help. Use your duplicate family photos as gift tags and add glitter glue, stars, or stickers. You can also use photos to design your own gift wrap: paste them on a sheet of 11" x 17" photocopy paper and visit an office supply store to have copies made. Black-and-white photos look great and are much less expensive to copy. Grandparents and other relatives will love gifts wrapped with your family's unique tags and paper. Brown Bag It It's amazing what you can do with a brown lunch bag. Children can add drawings or glitter-glue designs or turn the bag into a house by adding construction-paper doors and windows. Add touches such as tiny paper trees and a wreath on the door. Put the gift inside before stapling a folded piece of construction paper on top to make the roof. A snowman and snow scene are also attractive. Cut a snowman, snow bank, and trees from construction paper. Add details with paper and crayons.

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Teens or adults can use fusible interfacing to make easy appliques from Christmas fabric to iron onto brown bags. Look for fabric that has a design with small squares or rectangles printed on it. Cut around each square or rectangle and fuse them individually onto the paper bag, following the directions on the interfacing. Fold the top of the bag over, hole-punch two holes and tie with ribbon or raffia. Pompom Tags Supplies: 1" red, white and green pompoms 1/4" pompoms (the sparkly kind look great) white, green, or red lightweight cardboard a hole punch thin satin ribbon or wool 1/2"-wide plaid ribbon tacky craft glue

Pre-cut the rectangles and squares from the cardboard for the tags. Try turning a cardboard square diagonally so it looks like a diamond. Form a wreath with green pompoms. Glue them in a circle on the tag. Add some tiny red pompoms for berries. Make a plaid bow

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to glue on the bottom of the wreath. Write the recipient's name in the center of the wreath with a red felt pen. Punch a hole in the top of the tag and thread thin ribbon or wool through. You can also spell out the recipient's name or build a tree or snowman with pompoms! Holiday Cards Supplies: heavy 8 1/2" x 11" white paper green paint red paint glitter pens, glitter glue, or white glue and loose glitter a fat paintbrush

Experiment on some scrap paper before using goodquality paper. Fold the paper in half, short side to short side, and then fold the other way to make a card. Put some green paint onto the brush and then dab it several times on a scrap of paper to get rid of the excess paint. Pounce up and down, much as with painting stencils, to create your basic shape. For a wreath, create a circle. For a tree, paint three overlapping triangles. Experiment

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with painting a border all the way around the card. Let the card dry before adding your decorations. With glitter glue or white glue and loose glitter, create berries, bows, and ornaments. For a sparkly, snowy look, dab a little white paint on your trees and frost the tips of the white branches with white glue before sprinkling crystal or white glitter on top. Angel Cards Supplies: 12" x 18" sheet of blue construction paper 1 large, round, white paper doily scraps of construction paper for hands and face wool or felt scraps for hair cotton balls for clouds white glue gold or silver glitter glue, or white glue and loose glitter adhesive stars

Fold the construction paper in half, short side to short side, to create the card. Cut a simple triangle shape from the doily to make the angel's robe—use the scalloped edge to form the bottom of the gown. Cut two small triangles for sleeves, and then cut two triangle

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wings from the leftover pieces of the doily. Cut a pink circle for the face and two smaller circles for hands. Paste the wings on and then glue the dress on top of the wings. Position the sleeves and the hands and glue them down before gluing the face. Add some wool for hair or cut out a simple hairdo from felt. (Children like to match the angel's hair to their own hair color.) Add a nose, mouth, and eyes with felt pens. Stretch out a cotton ball to make a cloud and glue it below the angel's feet. Add a gold or silver halo and place adhesive stars in the sky. Inside the card, write, "My grandma (or mom or auntie or teacher) is an angel. Thanks for all you do. Merry Christmas, love..." We've also used these angels to make cards for our parent helpers or pasted several on a mural to thank businesses in our community for donations to school events. Candy Cane Gift Wrap, Bags, and Tags

Children enjoy making their own wrapping materials. You can use this cute candy cane technique to make wrap, cards, or tags. If making gift bags or cards, make the candy cane prints on a small rectangle that can be glued to the face of the bag or card. That way, if it doesn't turn out well, you haven't wasted the bag.

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Supplies: a roll of brown wrapping paper or brown kraft paper gift bags blue or green paper rectangles, if making cards or tags blank index cards or tag board, folded in half, for gift tags red and white tempera or acrylic craft paint ice cream pail with warm water soap and an old towel corks (fingertips work well too) paper towel tacky craft glue

If you are making gift wrap, use a ruler and cut the brown paper roll into more manageable pieces first. Your child's project will turn out more successfully if you lightly pencil in the candy cane shapes; this way, the candy canes will be spread out evenly on the wrap or positioned attractively on the card. To make the candy cane stripes, you can use either fingerprints or very

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small corks purchased at a craft store—both work well. If working with a cork, dip the cork in white paint, then blot slightly on paper towel before stamping on paper. If working with fingerprints, just work directly on the surface being decorated. Leave spaces between the white prints to fill in with red prints afterwards. Allow white paint to dry before adding red. If you are working with a large group of children, jumbo rolls of brown paper are available quite inexpensively at many paint stores. You can buy larger quantities of brown gift bags with jute handles for an even lower cost at a store that specializes in bags for retailers. Look in your yellow pages for one near you. Snowmen Wrap, Cards, or Bags Supplies: a roll of brown wrapping paper or brown kraft gift bags with handles small paper rectangles, if making cards or tags blank index cards or tag board, folded in half, for gift tags white tempera or acrylic craft paint assorted felt pens corks paper towel

You can use corks and white paint to make snowmen wrap, tags, or cards. Pre-cut the wrapping paper roll into squares or rectangles before beginning, and make a light pencil mark to guide your child's placement so the snowmen are evenly spaced. Dab a large cork in white paint, blot gently on paper towel, and then press onto paper to form the bottom of the snowmen. Add smaller circles for the heads. Let the snowmen dry before adding arms, buttons, eyes, and other features with felt pens. Below each snowman, dry brush a snowbank.

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Candy Cane Hearts

Two baby candy canes glued together to make a heart and topped with a ribbon for hanging make cute gift tags or ornaments. You can make a picture frame by gluing a photograph behind the heart. Handprint Reindeer Bag or Ornament

We've made cards and bags as well as ornaments for the tree using this simple technique. They are perfect for a "Dear Dad" or "Dear Grandpa." When making a gift bag, it's best to work on a paper rectangle—if the handprint doesn't turn out well, you haven't wasted a bag. The paper rectangle can then be glued onto the bag. Supplies: brown kraft paper gift bags with handles or lightcolored posterboard dark brown tempera paint ice cream bucket with warm water soap and an old towel small red pompom for nose black felt pen for feet and eyes brown felt pen for antlers dark brown pipe cleaners for antlers (for ornament) black pompom for tails heavy cardboard, if making a tree ornament light blue construction-paper rectangle, if making a card or bag a hole punch ribbon or cord for hanging (for ornament) tacky craft glue

Paint your child's whole palm, fingers, and thumb with brown paint. Press gently onto the surface of the paper or posterboard, stretching the thumb out away

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from the fingers to form the neck and head of the reindeer. The palm of the hand forms the body, and the four fingers form the reindeer's legs. Wash and dry hand. Let handprint dry before adding eyes and hooves with black felt pen. If making an ornament, cut out handprint when dry. Hole-punch a circle above the head to thread half of a pipe cleaner through—twist to make antlers. If making a card or bag, draw the antlers on with a felt pen. Glue on red pompom nose and black pompom tail. On the reverse side of ornament, write, "For a dear Dad, love , [along with the date.]"

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Gingerbread People Gift Tags or Ornaments Supplies: gingerbread person cookie cutter brown construction paper or craft foam a hole punch thin ribbon for hanging small buttons, narrow rickrack, or glitter glue for embellishments photograph of your child's face

Gingerbread people make sweet gift tags or tree ornaments. Trace a gingerbread cookie cutter onto brown paper or craft foam and cut out carefully. If working with very young children, an adult should cut out the gingerbread person first. Hole-punch the top of the gingerbread person's head to thread ribbon through later. Carefully cut out the photograph of your child's face and glue it on to the gingerbread person's head. Decorate with glitter glue, rickrack, or tiny buttons. Let dry before threading ribbon through for hanging. Children may write a message and the date on the back. Kids' Crafts Events As Fundraisers Hosting a craft workshop at your school, youth group, or community center is a great way to raise funds for an organization you believe in. We raised $500 for a program that provides breakfast and lunch for hungry children by putting on three separate one-hour workshops where children could come and make bags and wrap. Children paid $5 to attend a workshop, which included all the materials. It sounds like a lot of work, but when several adults work together, the preparation goes quickly. Another year, we had a lunch-hour club at school

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and made crafts to sell at a Christmas event at our school. We wanted to raise funds to support Ryan's Well Foundation. Ryan Hreljac was just six when he decided he wanted to do extra chores at home in order to raise $70 for a well in Africa. Since then, he's raised over $1 million to provide clean water for more than three hundred thousand people. He's one of my heroes! This Christmas, consider donating to Ryan's Well Foundation as a gift. Make up a tag to say that you have made a donation in the recipient's name. Tie the tag to a bottle of water to present to friends and family. What could be a better Christmas gift than helping a village have clean water?

No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted. —Aesop

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Epilogue I used to do a lot of holiday baking, put up two Christmas trees, and decorate the house from top to bottom. But over the past few years, my priorities have changed. Through Gifts from the Heart I've met many wonderful people whose remaining time is all too short. They have taught me the importance of living in the present and of savoring small pleasures. I no longer worry about finding the perfect gift or the perfect wrapping paper. If we get the tree up before the 25^, I'm happy. Fortunately, friends invite us to Christmas dinner and send us home with a little homemade baking; we are grateful for their warm hospitality. Although I'm busy, I find time to send cards, because connecting with old friends is important. In November and December, I concentrate on helping my students create those precious "gifts from the heart" that mean so much to the children and their families. Charlie and I do as much secret Santa work as we can. The real magic of Christmas is that it provides so many opportunities for us to express our love and appreciation. Don't wait for December to show you care.

I will honor Christmas in my heart and try to keep it all the year. —Charles Dickens

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Index Alzheimer's, 190-191 angel cards, 316 handprint, 306 Angel Tree, The Salvation Army's, 65 animals fundraising for SPCA, 57, 79, 155,156,157 helping at Christmas, 155-157 Wildlife Recovery Center, 157 Canadian Wildlife Federation, 169 appreciation showing appreciation of bus drivers, 56, 296 coaches, 56 co-workers, 48, 247 fire department, 58 grandparents, 58 hospital staff, 58 librarians, 56 mailman, 48 neighbors, 22 parents, 106,119 police, 58 recycling depot staff, 170 SPCA staff, 157 spouse, 102,105 store clerks, 59 teachers, 56-57,112,176, 247, 265, 272, 296 See also gratitude baby's Christmas album, 101 first Christmas, 93,101 first Christmas ornament, 101 first outfit, 101-102

baby showers, 22,101 baking exchange, 44-45 birds bird feeders, 77,159,161 birdhouses, 77,159 blended families, 120,121,122 books celebrating with, 175-182 grandparents and taped reaings of, 199 love of, 175 recommended Christmas books, Annabelle's Wish, 177 Arthur's Christmas, 69,176 Arthur's Christmas Cookies, 176 Best Christmas Pageant Ever, The, 176 Child's Christmas in Wales, A, 176

Christmas Carol, A, 176 Christmas Trolls, 177 Cup of Christmas Tea, A, 185 Christmas in the Big Woods, 176

Christmas Kitten, The, 159 Family Under the Bridge, The, 176

Franklin's Christmas Gift, 69 Gift of the Magi, The, 69 Hat, The, 177 Little Prince, The, 55 Love You Forever, 177 Memory of Christmas Tea, A, 185 Mitten, The, 177 Moses the Kitten, 159 Newbery Christmas, A, 178

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children, craft projects for, 271-296, 299309, 313-323 divorce and, 109-117 gift suggestions for, 73-79,170 grandparents and, 199-204 gratitude and, 53-59 volunteering and, 19, 23-25, 29-34. See also volunteer projects wish lists and, 66-67 Christmas Day traditions, 68 Christmas Eve traditions, 54, 8387,120,176 Christmas trees, decorating, 93, 94, 95 real vs. artificial, 92,191,196 tree traditions, 91-96 tree farms, 91, 92 church groups calendar see Brownies Santa Advent, 273 community service kindness, 66 see volunteer projects coupons planning Christmas and, 38 cancer giving as gifts, 65,119 chemotherapy, 126,130 crafts, gift ideas for people with, 125Advent calendars, 65, 273 button candy canes, 285 130 helping people with, 125-130 button trees, 285 candles candles, 305 beeswax, 305 candy cane votive candle holder, 278 gift wrap, bags, and tags, candy cane 317 gift wrap, bags, and tags, 317 mittens, 295 mittens, 295 mouse, 294 mouse, 294 ornament, ornament/320 seeds, 296 seeds, 296 cards, 313, caregivers angel, 316 supporting, 125-128 candy cane, 317 holiday, 315

"Nicky" series, 177 Only One Woof, 159 Runaway Bunny, The, 177 "Spot" series, 177 'Twos the Night Before Christmas, 85,176,180 Velveteen Rabbit, The, 177 Wild Christmas Reindeer, The, 177 suggestions for sharing, 175, 179-180 writing family books, 180 writing to authors, 180 Brownies, Cubs, Scouts, 4-H clubs, churches, youth groups, and schools, projects for, 23-25, 30-34, 185-190, 271-296, 299309, 313-323

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Christmas orange wreath, 272 Christmas party crackers, 274 clay pots with trees, 186 corsages, 189 craft stick Santas, 280, snowmen, 278 egg carton sleighs, 280 Froot Loops Christmas trees, 277 gingerbread houses, 284 people, gift tags, and ornaments, 322 gumbdrop wreath, 275 handprint angel, 306 reindeer, 299 reindeer bags or ornaments, 320 wreath, 301 holiday play dough, 75 "I Love You" mugs, 304 jigsaw puzzle wreaths, 287 magic reindeer food, 289 mini wreaths, 289 paper chain Advent calendar, 65 pillows, 103 Popsicle-stick picture frames, 303 Santa Advent calendar, 273 can, 293 key, 290 shell ornaments or necklaces, 282 snow globes, 286 snowman ornament box, 309 can, 292

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snowmen Christmas ball, 307 wrap, cards, and bags, 319 so-simple napkin rings, 288 stockings for pets, 157 votive candle holders, 278 wall hangings, 103 yummy snowmen, 276 Cubs see Brownies decorating natural items and, 167 decorations making for Meals on Wheels, 280, 296 seniors, 188, 296 shelters, 33 depression, 116,125 divorce blended families and, 109,120122 budget problems, 118-119 family letters and, 121 family photos and, 121 former spouse and, 110,112117 gift giving and, 110,112,115, 116 grandparents and, 109,110, 121, 204 helping children cope, 112-116 helping yourself cope, 116-117 keeping in touch with children, 110-112 117 planning Christmas, 109-110, traditions and, 120 vacations and, 120 donation station, 131

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cooks, 208, families of people who are ill, 126-128 grandchildren, 199-204 grandparents, 20, 278, 299309 newlyweds, 104 seniors, 185-190, with Alzheimer's, 190191 family street kids, 32 gift exchange ideas for, 66-69 teens, 30-31, 78-79, 208, 220 gift ideas for, 66-67 toddlers, 73-75 toys that develop imaginameetings, 19, 38,110,130, volunteering as a, 19-25, 29-34, tion, 74-79 155-157 wrapping, 33, 39,186, 313, 317foster child program, 67 318 gingerbread cookies, 167-168,189, 211 games Christmas family trivia, 101 houses, 127, 284 gift exchange, 85 people, ornaments, or tags, 322 grandparents gifts baking with grandchildrenallowances and, 20, 21, 63 199, 201, 207-208 blended families and, 115,120divorce and, 204 122 keeping in touch with, 199-204 coupons as, 65, 79,118,119, making videos for grandchil169 dren, 99-100, 200 expectations for, 65-67 reading books to grandchilgift giving at work, alternadren, 199 tives to, 23-25 sending mail to grandchildren, gift opening ideas, 68 200, 203, 204 inexpensive gift ideas, 39,55, volunteering with grandchil56, 65, 69,167,170, 202, 203, dren, 203 287 gratitude, 53-59 recycled, 165-172 fighting the "gimmies," 63-70, reducing number of, 65-67 73 green planet suggestions for, adults, 165-170 decorating ideas, 167 cancer patients, 125-130 environmental tips, 165-172 children, 73-79,170 gift giving tips, 165-172 educational fund, 70 elves family and secret elves, 66 Christmas trees and, 95 environment see green planet eyesight charity projects, 181,188

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recycling, 166-169 grieving coping with Christmas and, 130-134 Rainbows program, 114,133 Habitat for Humanity, 24-25 hospices, 133 illness Alzheimer's, 190-191 cancer, 125-130,131 gift ideas for patients, 125-130 helping caregivers, 125,128, 191 helping children, 126-133 helping families, 126-133

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saving annual Christmas letters, 102-103 spouse and, 102 taping plays or poems, 85 taping stories, 100, 202 videos, 85,99,100,127, 200 weddings and, 104 National Wildlife Federation, 169 Operation Christmas Child, 25 Operation Eyesight, 181 organizational tips, 37-50

party tips, 22, 32,179, 229-232 pets Christmas and, 78, 93,155 keepsakes gift ideas for, 157 see memories giving as gifts, 155 making stockings for, 157 shelters, 32,156,157 Lion's Clubs, 181 lists pillows adults and, 38, 39,118,119 Christmas pillows, 103 gift ideas for, 30,129 children and, 65, 66, 67,118 literacy potluck dinners buddy tutoring and, 33 recipes, 45-47, 232-243 See also party tips ideas for encouraging, 175-182 reading to seniors, 188 priorities, 37 Rainbows Program, 114,133 Meals on Wheels, 30 reading decorations for, 211, 280, 296 memories encouraging, 175-180, 203 sharing, 179-180, 203 albums, cameras, photos and, 99,100,101,103, 111, 130, suggestions for, 69,176-177, 185 200 recipes babies and, 99,101 cooking and, 137,199, 207-208, Apple Pie Cake, Bev's, 147 Apple Pie, Mary's Bare, 148 family time capsule and, 106 memory box, 101,106,117 Artichoke Dip, Audrey's, 234 Baking Powder Biscuits, Mile parents and, 100,106, 201, 302

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High, 146 Banana Orange Muffins, Stella's, 158 Barbecued Meatballs, 42 Bavarian Apple Cheesecake, 241 Broccoli Salad, Mary's Potluck, 240 Brown Sugar Fudge, Nana's, 251 Brownie Mix in a Jar, 267 Butter Tarts, Best Ever, 209 Cabbage Rolls Casserole, Bev's Almost, 139 Calico Beans, Aunt Trudy's, 138 Caramels, Christmas, 252 Cheese Biscuits, Patricia's, 193 Cheese Treats, Auntie Elvira's, 262 Cherry Bars, Helen's Christmas, 255 Cherry Pineapple Squares, 212 Cherry Pound Cake, Helen's, 218 Cherry Snowballs, Granny's, 216 Chicken Enchiladas, Nancy's Sour Cream, 141 Chicken Penne, Bev's, 238 Chicken Pie, Carol's, 142 Chicken Salad, Auntie Elvira's Hot, 237 Cookies, Truly Decadent Gourmet, 171 Chocolate Clusters, Grace's, 251 Chocolate Fudge, Super Simple, 56 Chocolate Peppermint Bars, Stella's, 260

Chocolate Sour Cream Banana Cake, 220 Coconut Macaroons, Jo's, 255 Company Chicken and Biscuits, 145 Cookie Mix in a Jar, 266 Cranberry Banana Mold, Phyllis', 232 Cranberry Bread, Cheryl's Best, 219 Cranberry Cream Cheese Pate, 234 Cranberry Orange Scones, Dee's, 219 Cranberry Ice Ring, 233 Cranberry Punch, Mary's L's, 232 Cream Cheese Sugar Cookies, 209 Corn Chowder Soup, Joanne's Creamy, 144 Crock-Pot Apple Cinnamon Oatmeal, 149 Crock-Pot Mediterranean Meat Loaf, Sheila's, 41 Crock-Pot Stroganoff, 41 Double Chocolate Biscotti, Stella's, 261 Double Chocolate Cookies, Sasha's, 214 French Toast, Sheila's Overnight, 49 Fudge Pudding, Hot, 151 Fudge Rum Balls, Sandy's, 254 Ginger Mounds, Mar's Spiced, 213 Gingerbread Cookies, Easy, 211 Gumdrop Cookies, 253 Hamburger Casserole, Shelley's, 141

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"I'll Never Make Pumpkin Pie Again" Squares, 47 Irish Soda Bread, 170 Lasagna, Auntie Elvira's Happy-Ever-After, 143 Lemon Bars, 210 Lemon Loaf, Mary's Luscious, 49 Macaroni and Cheese, Patricia's Baked, 137 Maple Pecan Squares, Ann's, 240 Marble Bark, 252 Mars Bar Squares, 259 Meal-in-a-Soup, 192 Meat Loaf, Mom's, 139 Mint Coconut Snowballs, Monica's, 217 Morning Glory Muffins, Mom's, 221 Nuts, Lark's Spiced, 264 Nuts and Bolts, Babs', 262 Oatmeal Shortbread, Tara's, 216 Orange Salad, Christmas, 223 Oven Fried Rice, 46 Pancakes, Sheila's Favorite, 149 Pecan Caramel Corn, Monica's, 263 Pineapple Almond Turkey Casserole, 223 Raisin Delight Pudding, Half Hour, 150 Raisin Pecan Pie, 47 Raisin Stuffing, Moist Whole Wheat, 222 Raspberry Almond Bars, 45 Raspberry Ribbon Slice, Cathy's, 242 Salmon or Crab Corn Cakes,

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Santa Advent calendar, 273 can, 293 key, 290 shell ornaments, 282 thank-you letter to, 54, 66,102 savings bonds, 20,118,167 schools projects for, see Brownies Scouts see Brownies secret elf, 66 seniors Alzheimer's and, 190-191 gift ideas for, 186-190 cards for, 58,186,189 choirs and, 189 corsages for, 189 helping, 185-194 making crafts with, 186 making stockings for, 188 reading with, 185,188 remembering at Christmas, 185-194 visiting with, 185-187,190 sewing projects, 30,103,187,190 sharing tree, 58 shopping tips, 37-40 Special Olympics, 30 stockings, 21,23, 30,32, 55, 65, 67, 84,102,104,121,129,157,188 stress, 37, 40, 44, table decorations Christmas party crackers, 274 egg carton sleighs, 280-281 for shelters, 33 placemats for seniors, 188 yummy snowmen, 276 teddy bear drive, 24

teens gift ideas for, 30-31, 78-79,119, 208 volunteering and, 29-33 thank-you notes, 55 thankful tree, 57 thankfulness, 53-59 theme shopping, 40 time-saving tips, 37-50 toy buying suggestions, 73-79 traditions blended families and, 120-122 board games, 73, 87 Christmas lights and, 128 Christmas trees and, 92-95 collections and, 86,178,202 divorce and, 110,120-122 elves and, 66 importance of, 63, 83-84,110, 120,130 jigsaw puzzle, 87 mistletoe, 86 ornaments and, 85, 86, 93,101, 104,130-131 pajamas, 85 photos with Santa, 99 Santa traditions, 54, 84 stockings and, 30, 32,104, Yule log, 95 tree skirts giving as wedding gifts, 104 tips on making, 94-95,104 trees buying, 91-92 children's own, 95 decorating, 93, 94,132,167 ornaments and, 93,101-102 real vs. artificial, 92 safety, 91, 92 traditions, 92-95 tree farms, 91-92

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television commercials and, 73 gimmies and, 63 reducing exposure to, 63, 64 vacations blended families and, 120 volunteer projects allowances and, 20, 21 animals and, 32,155-159 baby showers, 22 baking for shelters, 33, 211 books and, 33,175,179-180 care packages, 22 coat drive, 23-24 collecting school supplies, 33 craft kits for hospitals, 32 food bank, 21, 30, 33, 34,132 giving box, 20 giving party, 22 goodie bags, 21-22 hospitals, 23, 32,129,175,179, 180 pajama party, 32 stockings for shelters, 23, 32 teddy bear drive, 24 thrift store, 22 toy drive, 32 visiting seniors, 185-187,190, 191-194 wall hangings, 103 weddings gift ideas for, 104 World Vision, 171 wrapping brown bag it, 313-314 candy cane gift wrap, 317 handprint reindeer bag, 320 holiday cards, 315-317 pompom tags, 314

snowmen wrap, 319 wrapping station, 33, 39,186 wreaths bagel, 225 Christmas orange, 272 gingerbread, 285 grapevine, 167 gumdrop, 275 handprint, 301 jigsaw puzzle, 287 mini, 289 youth groups see Brownies Yule logs, 95

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