The Charismatic Lover: Journey, Wisdom and Meeting Women on Facebook

The Charismatic Lover: Journey, Wisdom and Meeting Women on Facebook Disclaimer: This book contains sexual content and adult themes. This book is un-edited and in its entire original form. The book is not perfectly edited. To edit this book in such a way would have been to destroy the very essence of what being a Charismatic Lover is all about. There is perfection inside imperfection. This book is split into three parts: My journey, the wisdom (and insights) that I picked up along the way and my guide on how to meet women on Facebook.

ISBN 978-1-4092-8978-4 Copyright © 2009 by Adam Taste. Printed in the United Kingdom. All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced in any manner whatsoever without written permission except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles and reviews.

This book is dedicated to my father, the one person who never gave up on me when I was going through hard times and to this day, has never stopped believing in me. I am proud to call this man my father.

Contents

Part One: Journey

Who Am I?

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Your Legacy

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Transformation

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The Day I Decided To Change

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The One Girl Story

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Stylelife Adventure

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Transcended

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Facebook Girl Part 1

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Facebook Girl Part 2

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Blowjobs and Oreos

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Part Two: Wisdom

The Gift

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Balance

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Express Yourself

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Your Ideal Self

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Passion

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Abundance

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Vision Board

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The Rejection Challenge

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Boundaries

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Honest Intentions

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Commitment

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Lessons From a Rockstar

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Lessons From a Motivational Speaker

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The Ideal Date

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Taking Liberty

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Freedom

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Be Sexual Mindset

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The Energy Orgasm Pattern

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The Rose

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Part Three: Meeting Women On Facebook

Why I choose Facebook

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Setting up your Facebook Profile

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Insight on Facebook

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Meeting Women On Facebook: First Message

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Meeting Women On Facebook: Response

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Facebook Message Transcript

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Acknowledgements

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Women are waiting for an amazing guy like you to come into their life and whisk them away on a beautiful adventure. She craves that excitement that she cannot get off any other guy. Her life is consumed by that one beautiful and amazing moment, the moment that she'll be one day swept off her feet by an amazing man. Her entire identity, self esteem and happiness thrives on this one big moment to take place in her life. She reads romantic novels, watches romance films and TV shows to remind herself that such a man does exist. She is but a lonely soul in an abundance of useless men who just don't get it. It isn't their fault that they don't get it... after all they are blinded by society’s standards. There does however come some blessings in disguise, but they turn out to be an act and underneath their shell lays a frail, needy man who just doesn't get it. Then one day she is doing her ordinary thing, grabbing a coffee... she's on her lunch break and she doesn't expect a man like you to arrive. But then you see her and you see her beauty and instantly you are curious to see if that beauty lies on the inside too, it's an urge... a burning desire... a voice that tells you “Go to her...” you can't resist that urge. You go up to her and instantly... you both recognize each other... you talk and share a beautiful moment with each other... She instantly senses that you are the guy she has been looking for all along... but because she's been misled and disappointed by false prophets... she has to test your willingness... after all a man who is willing to create beautiful moments to share, is the guy she dreams to be seduced by. The more she tests and

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banters with you... the more she realizes that this is what she has been waiting for... this one moment that she has fantasized about for years... this is the moment for her to indulge into the beauty of life... with a guy like you and she can let go... she feels like a free bird... she can open up and become a beautiful woman indulging in her fantasy... finally letting go and being completely free... knowing that in that moment... anything could happen... she can truly open to you romantically and sexually... because she desires to be released... she craves to release her beauty within you... that ultimate connection that allows you to go in unison with each other.... It’s in those moments in which you begin to understand your true passion in life... to meet beautiful women.... act on your intentions... share amazing adventures and rescue them from a sea of needy men... and it is in that moment you realize what you truly are... a fucking adventurer... a charismatic lover. The truth is... women are the real chasers... they chase the perfection of a worthy man to come into their lives and seduce them... It's a never ending cycle of searching for the perfect soul mate... It's searching for beauty in its rawest form... its gratification. Worthy men are explorers of beauty... Consumed by the images of perfection... Although it looks like we chase... we never truly chase after women... we merely want to explore the beauty of women... it's a never-ending adventure with a thousand meanings and a thousand moments... We seek to conquer beauty... to live in the momentum of our legacy... the legacy that we will one day pass down to our sons.

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Who Am I? Today I sat in college re-doing the GCSE’s that I didn’t pass in my teens due to “not giving a fuck about” school. I’m 22 years old and I feel like I’m in high school again, only this time to the left of me is my fake “learning disability assistant” and to the right of me is a “hot girl with a broken soul.” No, I don’t have a disability, although I should have for the stunts that I pull off. I told my college that I’m learning impaired and that I need an assistant to help me get through the day, when in reality this is the girl that I take home at night to cum in her asshole, a pretty unprofessional assistant if you ask me. See, Claire is an American girl who I met through Facebook and became sexually interested in, which launched into phone sex and her buying a plane ticket to come down to my place in the UK and have endless nights of passionate sex. What I love about Claire (my fake assistant girl) is the fact that not only is she alluring but she is stinking rich. She is this beautiful, exotic girl who has a millionaire daddy to take care of her financially. The thing that drives me to seduce this beautiful woman isn’t her money, but the way she is passionate about everything in her life and that she shares that with everyone around her. We are like two souls seeking pleasure and passion, so we confide in each 12

other and enhance our lives like it was some kind of magical kingdom of Narnia. Even though I love this beautiful, rich and passionate girl, I could never get into a relationship with her. I tell them all at the beginning, truthfully, that I have a huge sexual appetite that craves variety and even though we will have all the moments of a healthy relationship, the love, the sex and the comfort, the passion and the seduction, we can never have the commitment. Of course there is always the commitment of having a bi-sexual girlfriend who has threesomes with you, which some of you may know better under the term “Living the good life” but that is a different story. I genuinely love women. A woman’s body to me is like an art form that entices and teases your senses to test your dominance and patience, only to then stimulate your mind and open up to you in such a way that makes being a seducer worth every minute. They call out to you, begging you to fuck them as they open their bodies to you, to be explored, desiring to feel that passion penetrating each part of her body, softly but slowly anticipating the moment of the warmth of your touch sliding over her soft beautiful skin. To finish this amazing feat off by having her beg for your dick inside her mouth, having her lips tightly wrapped around your dick as she savors every last fucking drop of your cum. To know that this beautiful moment was all made possible, just by messaging her through Facebook. Then there is “hot girl with a broken soul.” She knows that

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she is beautiful. She is surrounded by five desperate guys who desire to fuck the hell out her. She’s here to study and to become more successful, yet she uses these guys to get her drinks and cigarettes simply because she can. She draws in the attention of every man as she twiddles with her hair and seductively opens her thighs, being completely aware of the impact that this move has on all the desperate guys in the room. She looks at me with her “I can get anything I fucking want” eyes, telling me in a commanding voice “Pass me that pen.” I look at her straight in the eyes with a smile on my face. “Your mum.” Her facial expression changes and she tests me “I beg your pardon.” Unfazed, I look at her cheek and tell her “You have a piece of sauce on your cheek.” Instantly she goes to the mirror and starts checking her cheek for stains, “There is nothing there.” I smile and pick up the pen and gently throw it to her “That’ll cost you a tenner.” She smiles, knowing that I have just done something that no guy in the class room has ever done to her, I had communicated to her emotions and not to her logic.

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On the left, my beautiful fake assistant is conjuring up plans to get my attention because she can sense that the hot girl is into me. She gets closer and starts rubbing my dick through my trousers, she wants my undivided attention. The orbiters are getting antsy because all their showering of soft drinks and cigarettes to the hot girl is now rendered useless. The hot girl brings her “A” game by stroking her hair and smiling at me. Other girls in the classroom begin to notice this kind of sexual aura that I am releasing and they start to entice me with their glancing eyes. Within five minutes I have the entire room mesmerized. You can tell the guys are analyzing me in their minds asking themselves “How the fuck is this possible? All these girls are attracted to him!” Maybe you are one of them as well. Within ten minutes, the hot girl and I go from bantering to making out in the toilets. We go back into math class and sit far at the back. Now, fake assistant girl comes back with a sprite and the look on her face is priceless. It could be because she knew what we had done or because I had lipstick marks on my neck. Did this make her mad? No, after lesson she dragged me to my house which is three minutes away and fucked me as hard and aggressive as she could. “Your life is like a fucking soap opera, you should journal this down.” she says, right after I make her fucking come by triggering an orgasm on her palm sending her into a sexual trance of pleasure.

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This isn’t the first time I’m being told this and I’m starting to truly believe it. My life has become so fucking insane, it feels like I am the dude out of the Truman Show and the world is out to make things interesting for me, otherwise the ratings would bomb. People say I have this type of gift that allows me to experience extreme fun and happiness in my life. Guys have been coming up to me and asking me “What do you have that I don’t have?” I wasn’t always like this. Go back to only four years ago and you will see a completely different me. I used to be a fat slump of shit wasting away on my couch, jerking off to my Internet girlfriend who turned out to be a man, constantly playing online games and eating roughly fifteen doughnuts a day. My daily routine consisted of avoiding anxiety and intense panic attacks and being afraid of every little disease that I could ever catch. I never left the house at any given moment. I was confined to my bedroom wallowing in pain and anticipating pain. I would constantly watch Friends episodes to keep me happy and sane. The worst part was I had a friend who always used to pull the women and I would get sloppy seconds. I was the Robin to his Batman and being his Robin meant that I got laid too. The problem however was that I would always get the fat ugly friend. I was a pawn in his game of chess. My sole purpose was to just simply disarm the obstacle. I would fuck the fat friend and actually feel great about it. It

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even got to a point where I went to sex parties and fucked older, uglier women. When guys ask me how I got from where I was merely four years ago, I tell them “I re-invented my entire life.” I changed everything. I went from being fat, anxious about going outside and not being able to look a girl straight in the eyes, to being healthy, getting into trouble in unpredictable adventures all over the world while seducing the most amazing and beautiful high class women. I started by using the Internet and meeting women online because I was afraid to approach in real life at the time. Meeting amazing women online enabled me to go on all these crazy adventures with them and I would meet new girls in the process. It gave me the confidence I lacked at the time because women were coming all the way to see me and I didn't have to worry if I was going to fuck it up because they were already deeply attracted to me from the connection we built through the net. I know you are reading this because there is a hunger inside of you, you have an inner force inside of you that tells you “I deserve better.” A power that rebels against any bullshit. You want to meet and attract amazingly beautiful women and you want to learn new skills and ways of thinking to re-invent your life to the way you desire it. Whether you want to become a social rockstar who has multiple relationships and one night stands or reinventing your life and becoming your best possible self and to even having all the skills to attract an amazing girlfriend into your life and to have her fall deeply in love

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with you. Whatever it is that you desire, it is completely achievable. We live in an age where it is possible to meet the most amazing beautiful women effortlessly and even at a touch of a button. Meeting women online is not a substitute to the beauty of meeting and approaching women in the real world but it's a powerful tool that when used can yield amazing results, so why not use it? Rather than teach you a scientific method on how to meet and attract women, I'm here to teach you everything that I have learnt from my own personal journey. I have learnt from the major seduction gurus to naturals and rockstars and people who have amazing skills with women and live unpredictable and adventurous lives. I learnt from self proclaimed online dating gurus who had mastered the art of meeting women online. It has led me to a crazy journey in which I have met and continue to meet the most amazing women, through the internet and in real life. I can promise you that anything I can do you can do too, maybe even better. I had to face my problems and overcome a lot of limiting beliefs in my life to truly get to where I am now. I travelled the world in search of gurus and mentors to take me under their wing to learn everything I could to finally be happy with myself and with my life. In 2006 I decided it was time for me to take control of the quality of women in my life and my social anxiety, so I decided to enter into a challenge for men called the

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Stylelife Challenge by Neil Strauss. It led me on some crazy adventures that changed my life and I got enough reputation to be voted for the winner of the Stylelife Challenge. I then got to go to San Diego were I met the real masters of hypnosis, Hypnotica and Steve P and my transformation began to blossom like a beautiful flower. So I guess you could say I create this adventurous, dramatized and spontaneous life for myself. I was able to shape and change who I was and bring out the best self within me. Now I’m at a point in my life where I want to share this transformation and help others by using the skills I have acquired to help people make life altering transformations and changes within themselves and bring out the best in them. I also grow a little each day and discover amazing ways to achieve all of my desires. It’s a beautiful thing. This book is about my journey, all the wisdom (and insights) that helped transformed me along the way and it is also a guide on meeting women through Facebook. It is a full guide on everything that I have learnt on how to meet beautiful women through Facebook and what I did to get success. This book is also about living life as an adventure. Because life is a story that one day becomes your legacy and which becomes your magnum opus to pass down and inspire other people with your greatness. This isn’t just about meeting and attracting women, it’s

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about discovering the true beauty of a woman and appreciating a woman for who she truly is. I like to bring out the beauty in a woman and take her on a little adventure with me, she deserves and desires it. There is no knowing what will happen tomorrow, so I live for today. When I wake up, I know that I could end up on a boat to Mexico (Bring it on swine flu!) by the end of the day, because when I get out of bed those cameras begin to role and it is like “Welcome to my world.” I’m Adam Taste and I’m a Charismatic Lover.

Your Legacy If you only had 10 years to live, how would you live your life differently than you do now? What legacy would you leave in the world that would inspire thousands? Let’s face it most people aren’t doing something they want to do. Most people live a routine life of, getting up, going to work, watching TV and going to bed. However, we all have passions and desires in life, yet we are more inclined 20

to be lazy and fall into a routine based life. Has life lost its true meaning of ceasing the moment? We walk around in a daze constantly worrying about the future and being scarred by the past and we allow this infliction to ruin our hopes, goals and dreams. I once knew a talented guy who would create masterpieces of art and he would share that with the world, he could have been the next Van Gogh without the cutting of the ear. But as he grew older and got a job, he lost his passion and stopped doing art and settled for a mundane life. This is not to say that routine jobs are bad, but maybe you should question if your job is making you happy. Does your job allow you the freedom and the opportunity to be “You”? Everything that you do in life is an expression of you, which defines and determines what legacy you will leave in the future. Every little action that you make can determine the entire course of your life and influence others around you. For example, when a drug addict begins to take drugs, it begins to affect his whole perception and outlook on life, the legacy that he will leave will not be an inspiration to others but simply a learning lesson of what not to do. What makes our life amazing is the ability to inspire. People are in love and also jealous with the people who have a passion for something and take action on their dreams. We all want a role model to be inspired by and to help us get back in touch with our passions in life, yet with

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all these role models and people creating and accomplishing all these amazing feats, why are we still stagnating? Because we are told that it’s okay to be lazy and to settle for less, we are told that it’s okay to be lazy as long as you buy the latest DVD and pay your taxes. Society standards aren’t a bad thing, they are there for a reason. The standards are set to guide people into a safe routine based life, society standards are there for the safety of your life and not for your passions. So we have to look past society and search within ourselves to bring our passions out and motivate ourselves to accomplish them. People who are stagnating are generally held back by fear and lack of motivation. I use to be the most unmotivated person I have ever met. I would spend all the hours of my day, wishing I were out exploring life and denying myself the right to live out my passions. What changed was that one day I hit rock bottom, my girlfriend had left me, and I had no money and no friends. I asked myself, “Is this how you want to be remembered? Are you going to settle for a mundane life? What legacy are you going to share and inspire others with when you are gone?” It wasn’t easy at first. No one said that setting out to follow your dreams was easy. It requires motivating yourself and pushing yourself to the limits to achieve that one-step further to your goal. You have to realize that failures in life are inevitable, you can strive for perfection, but you are going to hit bumps and snags in the road along the way. After all, even the universe is made of bumps and snags.

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The difference between a successful person and a person, who gives up and settles for a mundane life, is perception. A successful person will perceive failure as feedback and as an opportunity to get one step closer to their goals and then failure to them simply becomes a motivator to succeed. A person who gives up will want smooth sailing and strive for perfection, only to then hit a few snags and see a dead end road and then the end of their whole dreams. Do you have something that you have always wanted to do? Maybe it is a big goal, like re-inventing your life or being a huge success with women. Or maybe it is a small goal, like getting a cool haircut or joining a band. Ask yourself what is stopping you from going out there and taking action right now. Motivation is a muscle. If you lack the motivation then don’t be discouraged. Motivation is a muscle that needs to be trained and strengthened. Start by motivating yourself in small ways by doing little things and build yourself up to do bigger things, the more little goals you do, the more it adds up to the bigger picture. Life isn’t just one big goal it’s got millions of small steps and directions that set the entire course of your life. You are only one small step away from fulfilling your greatest desire. What is stopping you today from accomplishing something that you have always wanted to do? What if your life was to be over by tomorrow, what actions would you take today? Every time you deny yourself of your desires and dreams, you are denying

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yourself of the joy and freedom of being you. Look outside your window right now and take a deep breath. How can you not be motivated with such a beautiful world out there, waiting to be explored by you and to challenge you to places you have never seen or adventures that you have never experienced. Just knowing that right now there is a woman out there waiting to be approached by you, who is very warming to you and all you have to do is take a small step by approaching her. By setting your own standards and taking action towards your goals and dreams, your legacy of all your greatest accomplishments and your greatest feats, will be remembered for generations and will inspire thousands of people. That will be your legacy. Everything you do in life should be an expression of who you truly are and the beautiful thing is that you get to share that with the entire world. Now, what is your legacy going to be?

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Transformation Today I was looking for my old notes that I had written almost 2 years ago and I stumbled upon my old Diary. As I read some of the entries it felt like I was reliving history, but there was one month that really stuck out like a sore thumb. Back in December 2006 I was going through a rough patch. I had been on a life changing journey and I had all these dreams and goals and I created this character that I just couldn’t live up to. I hit a rough patch and started getting bitter about how my life wasn’t going the way it should have been and I was pissed off because I realized that for 19 years of my life I had lived in a fucking social coma. I was angry at the fact that I had this amazing gift of creativity and this amazing personality that was irresistible to women but I was still in an environment that was stopping me from achieving my desires. I had no friends and the people in my life I did have were keeping me from being the attractive guy I desired to be. It was like on the inside I had my shit together but on the outside, living in a crappy small town, having few people to socialize, was restricting me. I always felt like I was destined for greater things in life. That the environment I was in was alien to me. I rarely enjoyed going out and I never really liked anything that my friends did. I was very American cultured and loved everything about America. I would watch American TV shows constantly and just wish that I was able to live there 25

one day. I always knew I was meant for bigger things than living in a crappy fish town. The people here seemed very fucking depressed, the weather just seemed to be always miserable and no one here really strived for their dreams. December 2006 was when it really hit me. You know those bad luck days you seem to get where everyone seemed to just be pissed off with you? And you think to yourself, “Am I giving off bad vibes or what?” That’s how December 2006 felt to me. I was being constantly disappointed by the people around me and the environment I was living in.

Here are some of my entries: “December 15th 2006: So it is 4 am and I am sat up thinking about my life and how people have treated me just lately. Even my own girlfriend has been treating me like shit. She lashed out on me and attacked me like a crazy ninja today. I’m fucking done with everyone. I’m sick of people back stabbing me and turning their backs on me. I need to get rid of my own girlfriend who has been emotionally crippling me. I need a fresh start with new friends and new girls. This life right now just doesn’t match up to the person I am on the inside. I deserve and desire better. I am done with these good for nothing bastard’s, all they do is drag me down in the dirt.” “December 20th 2006: My cousin had a huge party today and he didn’t even 26

invite me. I only found out through a friend that he was having it and invited everyone but me. He even invited my old friend who I no longer speak to, what the fuck is happening? Why is everyone fazing me out? Ever since I have become a better person they just seem to not want to know me. I did everything for my cousin, I looked after his kids while he worked 2 nights of the week EVERY WEEK! For a whole fucking year! When he was struggling in a huge financial situation, I helped him and his girlfriend out of it! I don’t even get a fucking invite and the fuckers have the cheek to come round and ask to borrow money so that they can get beer for their party. Fuck them. Fuck everyone. I’m starting a new life, I don’t need these fuckers.” So as you can see pretty negative stuff back then. I was frustrated with the people who had let me down and the environment that I was in. The reason I share this with you, is because this was the turning point in my life that I decided to no longer tolerate bullshit. From the pain and disappointment came a great lesson that I will forever remember. I raised my standards of what I would tolerate in life. I erased anything that didn’t align with my life and when I did this it didn’t matter about my environment because when I started to live life at a higher standard, no matter where I was… an adventure was awaiting me. I broke up with my negative and aggressive girlfriend and I cut my focus from the people who were disappointing me and filtered them out my life. I didn’t ignore them I just

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didn’t hang with them and focus on them. I started to focus on the people who truly appreciated me and enjoyed being around me and started to search for more of those people. No matter how bad you think your life is because of the people around you. It isn’t an evil thing to cut them away from your focus. Because when you do this, you are telling the world that you demand respect and you don’t put up with bullshit. When you do this, you are truly living a higher standard life.

The Day I Decided To Change I came from a background where I had hit rock bottom. I was a complete loner with no friends, I was badly overweight (22 stone), I had no career and no money, No girlfriend, No motivation and I sat in all day long because I had nothing to do. I had nadda, nothing. It started when I was 16. I started to experience intense fear and panic attacks. Every day I sat in my room fearful and panicking about every possible thing that could happen and I would experience weird and scary 28

sensations that convinced me that it was something life threatening such as a heart attack or aneurysm. Looking back I could see that it was because I learnt that one day I had to die and that there was nothing I could do about it and that at any moment you could get something life threatening and that was your life over. It scared the living shit out of me to the point that I didn’t want to risk going out in case I would get beaten up or stabbed by groups of chavs or incase a screaming man in an aeroplane would kamikaze into me or something. I was fucked up by the fear of dying and losing my life that in the process I would hide myself in my bedroom where I felt safe in the world. By doing that, I actually lost my life, oh the irony… My social life was taking its toll as I was skipping school until I just eventually stopped going all together. Back then I had one friend “Parker” who I looked up too. Everywhere we went all eyes would be on him and he had so much confidence. I found myself living in his shadow, following him everywhere he went, all the girls I crushed on would get with him instead. Being overweight didn’t stop me from getting girls, but being Parker’s friend meant that he got all the hot girls and I got their ugly friend instead. Whenever I did have an attractive girlfriend I would hide her from Parker like she was some kind of da vinci code that he could magically unravel. Then when I was 17 I had conquered my anxiety and panic attacks. I over came my fear of death but the old patterns were still hard to shake off. I was still a recluse and fell into the same old patterns but I didn’t have terrifying

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panic attacks any more. I wanted to venture forth in life and see what it had to offer but I just couldn’t motivate myself. It felt like I was a prisoner in my own home and I had been so disconnected from life for so long that I didn’t even know where to begin. Life started to look hopeful for me when I was given an inspirational book which was written by Tony Robbins. The book ended up motivating my entire life and changing the way I thought about things. But the more I began to change and improve, the more I drifted away from the one so-called friend that I had. Parker thrived on the fact that he was better than me so when my attitude in life changed, he didn’t like that one bit. Then I met the “Evil woman” and sold my soul for nights of boring and predictable missionary sex. At the time I was just happy to have someone in my life that seemed to love me for who I was, boy was I wrong. It seemed to be going perfect and I grew attached and fond for the she devil whore but out of the blue she decided that she wanted to move into a village away and live a quiet life. She wanted me to join her and I wanted to be with her but my gut feeling was telling me that it was not my destiny and that I was destined for something much greater and beautiful. But like all men who are stung by the tail of the she devil whore, I decided to ignore my gut feeling and go with her any way. I guess deep down I just wanted to escape the bubble that I had created and to have a fresh start in life. I lost contact with Parker for my new friends John Smith and Jack Daniels.

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The village life was so boring and dull that the only way to get through the day was to take up drinking which I hated. However, it made the evil woman appear better looking than she was so there was always that benefit. But nothing could distract me from the boring nights of missionary sex and the days of bitchy drama that would even terrify the likes of Stephen King and Ghandi. After a couple of months I found myself once again in a rut. Was this my destiny? To barricade myself in a building where I felt safe from the world, where I felt comfortable? To have my room be a prosthetic womb which shielded me away from the big scary world out there? One day I just had enough. I got up and forced myself out into the big scary world. I kissed the evil woman on the cheek and ventured off. I ended up walking around the village looking for any possible adventure that would await me. I was like tin tin but all I was missing was snowy and if I was to adventure out in this big world then I definitely needed a snowy. I received a text, “Just having Pizza with James.” I didn’t get jealous because James was her gay best friend. I walked around the village and into the shops, I decided to make my own mini adventure and go by my own rules. I went into shops bought weird combinations of food and tested them out to see if I could be an inventor of some kind of new food just like the Reggae Reggae man. I went to the farmers markets and listened to all the old people about their lives as a farmer and why it is important to grow your own food. I laughed at the village idiot when he fell on his drunken ass after flirting with the village

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whore. I drank with my friend Jack Daniels and sang along to gay boy bands on the karaoke. I made my own entertainment up. It wasn’t the best thing in the world but it passed the time, it still didn’t cut it though because my gut feeling was telling me that there was still something important that I was missing. I decided to head back home. As I put my key into the door and opened it, I heard a loud “OH MY GOD” coming from the evil woman. I thought to myself maybe she was just shocked that she got a celebrity to reply to her on MySpace or maybe she finally owned her own copy of High School Musical. “OHHHH OHH GOD” Okay maybe she’s just praying? “OH MY FUCKING GOD! HARDER! FASTER!” As I walk into the bedroom I see Mr gay giving it to my girlfriend. I didn’t know what shocked me more, the fact that the dude I saw kiss other men was now giving it to my girlfriend or the fact that my girlfriend was sat there getting fucked in front of me. Disaster. A whole year of my life built with this evil woman, gone down the drain for nothing. I was still in the same rut as I was before, so after beating the shit out of her gay friend with a candle (Don’t ask) and breaking up with the devil whore, I decided to move back into my old rut. Because I had left everyone behind, I had no one to talk too and nothing to do again. Parker got back in touch with me and we started hanging out. All that progress I had made seemed like it was for nothing but this time I had a better attitude towards life

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and I wasn't going to settle for less. Temporary happiness came when I met the most amazing girl and I decided to host my first party and invited her along. However, that was shortly lived when I found Parker fucking her in my bed. I vowed to get back at him and to find what really attracted women so that I could steal his girlfriends and give him a taste of his own medicine. It was in that moment that I decided to change everything in my life. That I was going to do an experiment, to see if that one man could actually go from having nothing to getting everything that he desires. Was it possible for one man to discover his dreams and accomplish everything that he desired? Could one man step out of his self created rut and live a life of adventure? This was my project that would put transformation to the test. I needed to find a way out of the rut. Most importantly, I needed to find a way to re-invent myself and change my life for the better. I wanted to learn how to meet and attract women. I just didn’t exactly know where to start. I had heard of inspirational people who had nothing and ended up becoming rich and famous. So living in a rut, TV and the internet being my only friend, I searched for the history of famous and inspirational people who changed their entire lives. I was shocked at how many famous people went from living in a rut and having nothing at all to living an awesome and successful life… One inspirational story that I came across was the famous actor Cary Grant, who transformed himself and changed

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his entire life. He changed everything about himself, from his attitude to the way he dressed and he even changed his name. What was fascinating about Cary Grant is that he started from scratch, he was poor and had no education behind him and yet even in such a poor environment, it didn’t stop him from making something beautiful of his life. He became a success because deep down he couldn’t accept settling for less, he knew that succeeding and becoming famous was his destiny. He re-invented himself and changed his entire life because deep down that was truly who he was. Just like Cary Grant, I knew the person who I was at the time didn't match the person who I desired to be. I knew that I was destined for something much greater and beautiful. That life should be an adventure that is to be explored and not to be observed. I was motivated to transform my entire life and change every aspect to live my ideal life and become the person who I truly desired to be. There had always been a feeling in my gut that would tell me deep down that I was destined for something much greater. That the life I had was not in alignment with my true destiny. I intended to create my own destiny and fill my life with passion and beauty... The day I met “One girl” from MySpace changed everything...

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The One Girl Story The one girl was the best girl that ever came into my life. Everything about her and how we got together was almost like the romantic film “You've got mail” or some shit. Me and one girl met through MySpace when I was testing what was working for me and what wasn't. She was a mutual friend of a friend, but what I didn't realize was that her dad knew my dad. So when we found out about that, we spoke on the phone and we had a fucking awesome conversation which led to us adding each other on MSN. I remember that I always assumed that one girl had a boyfriend. She was just too beautiful to be single. She was my ideal girl, the one. Every time we spoke, we got more playful and things began to get a little flirty. The night we met, was the craziest night I had ever had in my entire life. That day, we were speaking on MSN and I found out that she was actually single. She put the web cam on and her beautiful face just glowed and radiated this gentle warmth of lust and passion. I knew in that moment that I had fell in love. “But how could it be possible?” I thought to myself. I had never even met this girl. It was getting dark and I looked at the clock, it was 8 pm. 35

My dad just got in the house and asked me if anyone had called. “Yeah, One girl's dad just called, something about fishing.” I said. With that, my dad grabbed the phone and called her dad up. It was a small exchange and then the words of dread came out of my dad’s mouth. “Yeah, I will come round and I'll bring Adam so he can meet One girl, they speak all the time on the internet.” But I wasn't ready to meet One girl. I had just gotten into the art of seduction and was learning all these amazing things on an internet community site. But I knew I was a learner and I felt like I was far from ready to go out and apply this stuff. I was frightened that she would reject me because I wasn't exactly the best looking dude. I was in the middle of losing weight, I needed more time and I didn't feel like getting rejected by the girl of my dreams that night. But my dad persuaded me and the members of the internet community persuaded me to just go meet her. They gave me all kinds of tips and tactics that gave me a little more confidence. Off on our journey we went and in the car I was starting to get very fucking nervous. My hands trembled as I thought about numerous worst case scenarios in my mind. I mean, I was fat and she was very fucking beautiful, so the insecurity in my mind was playing over and over again. We turn up at her house and go to the door and I'm greeted by her dad and then I heard someone coming down the stairs. Almost frightened, I ducked for cover.

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There she was the beautiful brunette a mix of a rock chick and the looks of a fucking model. Her clothes barely touched her skin, her beautiful scent inviting me to just indulge. I wanted her right there but I felt so fucking insecure. The only thing on my mind was “She thinks I'm way too fat.” But then she greeted me nervously and her smile made all my worrying thoughts vanish. I felt as if I was given a new life, I had no thoughts or worries and I was completely aware of everything around me, especially this beautiful girl. She took me upstairs and showed me her room. Looking back, I realize that she actually wanted me to seduce her on her bed. She was all nervous and smiley. “You're very cute.” I look into her eyes “You are fucking amazing.” In that moment we kissed. It just felt natural to melt into her lips so slowly and softly that it was almost like two soft petals barely touching each other in such a forbidden kiss. Her breath was taken away. However, as I was nervous I didn't go further than that. I started to tease her about her hair. It was something that I had learnt from the people of the internet community. She started to giggle and held her hand over her hair and playfully brushed it. We didn't say a word. We didn't have too. We just looked into each other’s eyes and smiled. This was the first time in my entire life that I discovered passion. That was when I truly knew what Don Juan Demarco meant by loving a woman for who she truly is. I wanted to just ravage her entire body, but at the same time I wanted to slowly

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explore each part of her body. Her breasts so soft looking made me think impure thoughts of desire and lust. “Adam, we have to get going.” I had to go. But I didn't want to leave this beautiful moment. I wanted to saviour it. Without thinking or any nervousness, I rushly asked her “Stay with me for the night.” She looked at me and paused, I felt like this was the rejection that was going to fuck up everything. She said, “I want too, but I have Steve my best friend coming over.” I felt heartbroken but I wasn't giving up. “Well just invite Steve to my house, we'll play on the PS2.” She smiled at me, “Okay, I'll phone him and tell him where to go.” The ride home was magical. We kept looking into each other’s eyes with such chemistry. We would look away and into each other’s eyes again at the same time and she would giggle “Stop it.” We got home and Steve appeared. Now Steve was the kind of guy that was in love with her. He was the “friend.” And when he saw me and one girl together, he didn't fucking like what he saw. You could see in his eyes that he was jealous. We began playing the PS2 and Steve was out to get me, like a fucking Taliban terrorist with no fucking justice. He would jump over to me on the game and fucking try and kill me and I was on his team! The tension was unbearable. I left to go into the bathroom, as I left the door I heard them speaking. Steve: “I can't believe you are at this loser's house.”

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One Girl: “His not a loser.” Steve: “You said we were going to get together... We shared a kiss remember.” One Girl: “I know, I'm so confused... I like you but I just don't know.” I had read about this kind of situation before. I had to disarm him by giving her to him but in a way that she wanted me. But because I was a newbie, I mistakenly took this to the extreme. Rather than just saying the classic line, “Dude, I'll give you money to get her off my hands!” I began to take it to the extreme by actually hooking them up. This was stupid because I thought that I was actually disarming Steve and making me more desirable to one girl. Not true. Me: “You guys should go out with each other.” One Girl: Why? Me: “Seriously, you guys would be amazing for each other.” One Girl: “Really?” Me: “Face it, you've been friends for years and that's like the most romantic thing to do is get with your friend.” One Girl: “We have thought about it, but I'm not sure.” Me: “Guys, life is way too short and you guys actually have a chance to make something so special that no one ever has.” One Girl: “Okay...” *Steve went to the bathroom in a happy go lucky mood* Me: “He told me, that he found you incredibly amazing, that whenever he saw you his heart skipped a beat and he wouldn’t dare look away from you, afraid that your

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beautiful sight would vanish from his eyes, that it would just feel look looking away from the sun and staring into the void of darkness... that all he ever wanted was to be with you.” One Girl: “Steve said that? You're lying.” Me: “Believe me. He poured out his heart to you... He said that when he stared into your eyes it was like you captured his heart.” One Girl: “OMG that's the most beautifuliest thing I've ever heard... He said that?” *Realising what I had done* Him: “No NO NO NO He didn't!” *Steve comes in and looks at One girl* One Girl: “OMG I can't believe you said that to me, that was so sweet Steve.” Steve: “Uh... Yeah I did!” With that the girl that I fell in love with, was all over the Taliban terrorist wannabe and eventually they ended up going home together. My heart sank and I almost choked on my sickly stomach. From that moment on, they were boyfriend and girlfriend. I felt like a stupid salesman who just sold a jaguar for the price of a banana. A week past and I felt complete shit that this girl who I had fallen in love with was with such a douche bag. However, we began messaging each other again and we couldn't help being flirty and sexual. Steve found the conversation log and banned her from speaking to me. But she would send me texts while he was asleep and we would trade flirts back and forth. We were slowly falling in love with each other, but she didn't want to cheat on

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Steve or leave him because she didn't want to fuck with his heart. I was invited to a party by one girl's friend. I think one girl had asked her to invite me because she just wanted to be with me. But Steve was furious when he heard this and in a jealous rage, he forbid her to even go near me. So I went to the party and I saw her there, she was fucking beautiful but Steve was surrounding her like Kevin Costner in bodyguard. He gave me the worst look you could ever possibly give a person. I didn't trust the dude, I wouldn't have been surprised if he had pulled out an Uzi and tried to gun me down just from the cowboy stare down that we had. Instantly I knew I had to make one girl a little jealous so that she was thinking about me. So I instantly approached two girls and got them flirting with me. I saw a jealous glance from one girl and I just knew that she wanted me. I wasn't going to let this girl get away. So I ran towards her and grabbed her and she followed. Steve came behind me and was like “What do you think you're doing?” and I said “Taking my girl.” I walked off with her and she was a little edgy and unsure. “What if Steve gets hurt.” I then lost track of Steve and I pushed her against a wall outside and looked her in the eyes and just kissed her. Me: “Those words I told you... It's what I felt for you... he didn't say any of them.” Her: “Why did you tell me he said them?”

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Me: “Because I heard about the kiss and I was very drunk and stupid.” (I was sober.) Her: “What am I going to do about Steve?” Me: “I'm falling for you... I want you to be mine... I claim you as mine to the fucking world and I'll make you mine... If you want to go... and go to Steve you can... But I'll always come find you and take you away from him.” With that we kissed. We walked home and I explored her body and fucked her like she had never been fucked before. Looking back, it was a beautiful memory that I will always cherish. You will notice what I did was I took liberty and grabbed her and claimed her to be mine. In every success there is a variation of leading and taking liberty and looking back its funny how I did this stuff without even realizing it because the desire deep inside of me outweighed the risk of getting my ass kicked who looked dangerous enough to be part of a Mafia terrorist family. It's about creating those memories that you one day look back on and smile to yourself knowing that you at one point made a woman feel so beautiful about herself and inspired her by being a dominant man and taking charge of your desires. This girl became my girlfriend and it was a bad heartbreak but I learnt so much from this. From one message on MySpace to a life adventure. I was amazed at how you could just meet a girl through the internet and it could lead into something real and beautiful. This kick started my life and I was more encouraged to meet more women

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on the internet. With all the experience of meeting women from the internet, I gained all my confidence to approach women. Meeting women online became a bonus rather than a substitute. I knew that if I ever did hit rock bottom again that I could always re-build my life from scratch and meet amazing women all from a click of a button, it was just that easy.

Stylelife Adventure Stylelife was a challenge that many men took to improve their lives. It was a 30 day challenge in June 2006 in which the goal was to get a date. The winner who got a date would be determined by votes. So when I received a phone call from Neil Strauss himself congratulating me that I had won, I felt amazed. Summer had just told me she heard the news too. For some reason I knew I was going to win. The prize was kept a secret and when it was revealed that I would be going to San Diego to meet Hypnotica and Steve P the two famous hypnotists from the game. I was almost panicking. Here is what I wrote about the trip to San Diego: A quick introduction: The name is Taste, I was the Stylelife Challenge winner and I received the prize of Intensive 43

Inner Game training with Hypnotica but Steve P and Cameron Teone joined in my journey. The flight cost and hotel were included and all paid for by Neil Strauss. This turned into a bigger journey then I had expected and it continues to grow now… This is going to take me a bit of thinking to properly place most things. Also note that my personal stuff is left out, because it doesn’t need to be discussed. It was the night before San Diego, and I could feel the nervous rush building up inside of me. I had never flown before and it was one of the biggest fears I had to face. Xtra and my family took me to the airport. I could feel the thoughts in my head rushing back… “What happens if I get lost?” “What if…” It was time to leave for my new journey. The first plane ride was pretty nerve wrecking and it actually made me lose my voice. I think taking off was the worst part and the fact that I had a fear of heights. When I got to Amsterdam I was nervous as hell. My confidence was wrecked and this was when I realized that I wasn’t an expert in my game. I was an expert at being relaxed in my own town, in my own comfort zones… So to push out of that took me a lot.

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From being a recluse to doing something like this deserves a lot of credit in my mind. I had to thank myself and this was my reward for getting out there. I was becoming the self that I always wanted to be. When I was waiting for my second flight, I felt a strong anxious feeling in my stomach and I wanted to go home. I felt like crap and I didn’t want to go through with it. I felt like a scared child, but something in my mind told me to shut up and be a man. That I could no longer run away and hide from life. It was now or never France was up next and I have got to tell you, although a very beautiful place, the French are very strict on flights. It made me even more nervous being interrogated by a guy who I could hardly understand. I felt like I was being interrogated for having heroin lodged in my anus or something. The man assured me that it was just a routine check and that it was selected at random. The airport was massive, and I had to use my new found social skills to get myself from A to B. My flight to Cincinnati was amazing! They had movies to occupy me, although this was where I encountered jet leg. I was hallucinating while reading “The Game” en route. I had a lot of time to think on the plane journey. I knew I was an expert in some areas of my life and that’s why I wanted to help people…but I wasn’t an expert in myself. I was focused on other people and I had neglected my own self to help other people overcome the stuff I had overcome in the past. But what I found out was that I was

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not as confident as I thought I was. I had been going through life with a “Fake it till you make it” attitude, which temporarily did help me. However, as soon as reality struck and I had to directly face life, the attitude shattered. I was already shedding my old skin… The San Diego flight was the ice breaker for me. My mind was telling me, I am on the edge of the cliff ready to be changed and all I had to do was jump off it and go with the flow. Life was waiting for me to grab it and take it by the nipples. I finally got my ass to San Diego airport and stood around waiting for my limo. I was getting cold, as time passed and passed, I looked everywhere and maybe it was due to my flight being a little delayed but the limo didn’t turn up so I had to get to the hotel somehow. So here I was in a different country and I had to pluck up the courage to find some way of getting to where I needed to go. Everything was new and I needed to get to the hotel before I passed out from jet leg and got raped by bums. I used my initiative and found a taxi. It was very different from a British taxi and it took me awhile to discover that the taxis were actually parked behind me the whole time. As soon as I got to the hotel, I was tired. At the same time, I wanted to stay up, yet I wanted to sleep. I wanted to go home, yet I wanted to stay. With my head spinning from all the mixed emotions, I decided to call it a night.

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At 3 A.M. I got woken up to a phone call from my Dad asking how I was. I told him I was great and he told me that everyone was proud of me for going on my first plane trip to a different country. I started to really appreciate what Neil Strauss had done for me. I mean the man practically gave me an opportunity of a lifetime. It was like he gave me the key to a new beginning. In the morning I noticed two things. I was thirsty and I was sweating like a pig. I wasn’t use to this heat. I also needed to cool down. This place was really hot for me and sweat became like a form of clothing in this strange and beautiful place. It didn’t matter if I took a shower because within 10 minutes I would sweat again. The phone rang… it was Eric (Hypnotica). He had a husky American accent that spoke of wise words. I could tell this guy had a strong sense of who he was. He asked, “How are you doing buddy?” I stuttered as I didn’t know what to say. My mind was in overload and I couldn’t think properly about my words. “I’m going to have a limo pick you up around 8 and we are going to meet up. I’ll analyze your behaviour and find out what you truly want to learn before we get into the deep stuff.” He took his time to speak, and I noticed he really thought about his words. I understood every word he said and my first impression of Eric was that he was a guy who spoke very clearly to you and had his shit together. You could tell that he didn’t like to leave you confused.

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The phone call gave me a boost of confidence. So I decided to get my ass over to the mall and get some cool and weird items. So I decided to check the plaza out. I had nowhere else to go because I felt nervous just going out into a strange place. I thought to myself that I could get lost easily. So with my map and cigarettes, I embarked upon a journey that involved beggars, pimps, prostitutes and guys with knives. I was like the Christopher Columbus of California. Yes you heard me, guys with knives! But they were actually pretty cool. They seemed to be in some sort of gang but they showed me the way to the plaza which was nice of them. I gave them both a cigarette for taking me there. On the way I encountered a lot of bums. This made me sad to see, even if they were just merely junkies, because where I come from we don’t have this. I sprinkled a few dollars here and there to random homeless guys, I felt like I was Bono. The mall was amazing. It was so big, yet I didn’t recognize any shop names that were of value to me… so I decided to just go into random shops. I went into the cigar shop looking for a lighter so I could smoke my cigarettes. The people in there were very friendly. They recognized my accent and we talked for awhile about how the UK is. After that, the owner gave me a lighter for free and some

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matches. He also recommended me some places to go, which was pretty cool. Then I decided to hit up Hot Topic so I could find my items. It was my style of clothing. I was a rocker and I was very welcome here. The Hot Topic chick stared at me, giving me signs of interest. I knew I had to open her…. “Hey, how are you today?” Her eyes glowed and she responded, “OMG you are not from around here, are you?” This ended up in a discussion of how we British are so reserved, yet people here are so friendly and open. I decided to thumb wrestle her. At this point, I was just purely teasing her. I then went on to do some palm reading, which she loved. Then before I knew it she wanted my email address and wanted to send me the pictures that I took with her. After my shopping, I headed back to the hotel. I decided to go on the net and post about my journey to the Stylelife guys. The hot topic chick was on MSN at the time and she got off at work soon and wanted to come around to the hotel and hang out, but I had plans with Eric. So I got showered and prepared to meet one of the best. It was 8:15 and I was waiting outside. Out of nowhere this girl started talking to me. She looked like Carmen San Diego! She had the hat, cloak and everything. I wanted to tell everyone that I knew where Carmen San Diego was! She was right here outside the Bristol Hotel, annoying the fuck out of me. She was going on about how frustrating it was in America that you have to tip everyone. I had no intention of seducing her. Although it would have been

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fun to say to my friends, “Dude, I fucked Carmen San Diego!” I learned that it was just as fun to be sociable without any expectations. The limo turned up and the driver was one of the friendliest guys I had ever met. We had a lot in common and he told me about Eric and about his strip bar. We pulled right outside his strip bar and the driver went to get Eric. While I waited, I had a quick smoke outside and noticed guys stumbling past me who looked pretty satisfied and drunk out their fucking skulls. Eric came out of the strip bar with the driver and greeted me with a manly handshake. He was very confident and I could immediately tell why he had the ability to inspire people. We talked about my issues and problems that I wanted to overcome while we were chilling in the limo. He listened intently and understood were I was coming from. We talked about my goals and desires. He also shared the story of his transformation with me. This was when I noticed he wasn’t just a guru but he was more of an inspiration. He was just as human as everyone else and he was still learning new stuff each and every day. He had been where I had been and he had changed his whole life around and made it beautiful. We talked about my 3 years of depression, when I was drinking too much and how I gained a lot of weight due to that. He gave me a bit of his philosophy on women and how that looks don’t matter. He actually gained weight and got

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fat so that he could prove to himself that looks aren’t that important. I learnt that it was more about how you present yourself rather than how you look. It was hard for me to analyze what I wanted because in my mind I just wanted to be confident. He told me confidence was a process, that deep down we are all confident about something. We just get influenced by outer forces and grow uncertain. I noticed that every time I doubted myself or spoke negatively, Eric would use a pattern interrupt to get me out of that frame of mind. He explained everything in clear detail and he wanted me to be clear on what I wanted. I was thinking about what I wanted to become instead of usually thinking about what I wanted to get rid of. I wanted to become the person who didn’t give a fuck what other people thought. I wanted to live my life like an adventure. I wanted crazy things to happen in my life so that I had interesting things to say. I just wanted to live. After coffee, the night ended. The next day was going to be a big day. I was going to meet Steve P and a guy named Sam. In Eric’s own words, Sam is a “dark mother fucker.” I’m a dark mother fucker myself so I knew I would get along with him. I decided to write about all the things I wanted to become and then I called it a night. The next day, Sam and Dean (Eric’s roommate) picked me up in Eric’s car outside the Bristol. He greeted me with a fucking massive bear hug. You could tell these guys were definitely inspired by Eric and Steve. Sam told me I needed to loosen up and relax, because he could see my posture and how it was tense. He

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was right I needed to chill the fuck out and enjoy the moment. It was just nerve wrecking knowing that I was going to meet the godfather of seduction. Sam was a funny fucker, he would tell story after story and he got me to loosen up and chillax. He bought some Bud Lights and we drank on the way to Eric’s house. I thought to myself, “Holy shit the dude is drinking and driving!” But I figured if I was going to die in San Diego it would probably be from some kind of forest fire, so I decided to take a risk. As soon as we got near Eric’s house, they put a shirt over my head like I was some kind of hostage. For a minute, I actually thought that it was possible that they could be kidnappers and ransom me off to my parents. But they assured me that it was part of Eric’s plan. I didn’t know what the fuck was going on. Before I knew it I was stood on what felt like a really steep hill and with the possibility that I was about to meet my future potential kidnappers. They placed me in a room that had ambient music. It sounded like birds whistling and then all of a sudden I heard a deep voice say “What is your name?” I had my face covered with what could only be described as a fucking homemade turban. “Adam,” I said in a stuttering voice. “What do you want to learn?” he questioned. I felt pretty fucking nervous so without thinking I said “To not be nervous, to be my best self and to be confident.” I still had my beer in my hand. He removed the shirt off my face and I saw that it was Steve P. He looked like Indiana Jones. All he was missing

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was a whip. Steve was pretty fucking intense. He cut through the bullshit and got to the problems. Some were very personal so I will not discuss them. Let’s just say he used some techniques on me that changed how I responded to my fears. I felt completely hypnotized. His words were soothing. He was talking in metaphors and I was out cold. While I couldn’t remember much of it, what I do remember though was Eric coming in the room and hypnotically talking over Steve. It was some kind of dual induction. I noticed they made up for each of their counterparts. Eric would explain shit, were as Steve would cut through the shit. They were different, but combined they were deadly. I was nervous and Steve pretty much got rid of it within 5 minutes. He said “Now try and trace that feeling back” and I couldn’t, even though I tried to get that feel back. “I can’t,” I stuttered. “Pretty fucking cool, eh?” Steve was a relaxed guy who knew his stuff. He enhanced people’s lives and I could tell that this was his passion. They weren’t gurus in my eyes, they were like big brothers, teaching me and taking me under their wing. My style of clothing didn’t match up to San Diego’s standards. Where I come from, I pretty much dress punk rock/casual. So Eric decided to get me set up. Eric took me to a hair stylist, after which my hair no longer was of Emo standards. Eric paid for it. I felt guilty that he was paying for my improvements, but he smiled and said “It’s your weekend.” Eric and Steve both had a way of

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finding the good qualities in people and bringing them out. I was already becoming the person I wanted to be. After my haircut, Eric shocked me yet again. He bought me some fucking cool clothes. The guys knew I wanted to improve my weight. I was getting a deep understanding of who I wanted to become. After taking a shower at Eric’s (which I had a hard time to turn the fucking tap on his shower and nearly had a “Ben Stiller moment”), I heard his roommate playing the guitar. I walked into the room like some kind of suave guitar genius. I was like “Let me show you something.” I played him a tune he loved it. He put it with drumbeats and I could tell Eric’s roommate Dean had a passion that I had too. After I finished, I was finally a new version of me looking like a proper fucking stud rather than the punked up nerd I was before. I was more confident in myself, I liked the way I looked and I had Eric to thank for that. It was time to leave, tomorrow was going to be an even bigger day. Steve wanted to put me into a trance so he was going to take me to the hotel and do some hypnosis on me. Unfortunately the parking was so shit that me and Steve found it hard to even find a suitable spot. The guy was pretty fucking funny when he was angry though. I got in the hotel where I noticed that people were looking at me. Women approached me and complimented my looks. It was amazing how a simple change could be so life changing.

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I no longer gave a shit about all the criticism I received from winning the challenge or wanting validation. It was petty. I was now in my own reality. This was a spiritual fucking journey on a spiritual fucking level. The next day was amazing. Steve took me to the Pow Wow Festival of Indians. He felt kind of bad for not speaking to me much while he did his own thing, but I couldn’t give a fuck because I was checking out some hot Indian chicks. This culture was so interesting to see that I was mesmerized by it. I had always shared a liking to Indians and their way of life. Cameron Teone (The One) turned up. This guy had fucking game, but it wasn’t just any game. It was natural game. We talked a hell of a lot about the community and he wanted to get a feel of where I was with women. I told him about where I was and where I wanted to be. So we went back to Eric’s place and they did some deep trance stuff with me. Now I don’t mention any of this because I can’t fucking remember any details. I am only getting slight epiphanies of what happened, but they spoke at the same time, each on different sides of me. It was soothing. Now I used to be afraid of hypnosis, because I got scammed for thousands of dollars by this guy who claimed he was a hypnotist. But these guys were the real fucking deal and I was under. It felt like only 2 minutes had gone by, but I was under for 4 hours. After that, it was time to head to the California beach. They wanted to see if I had approach anxiety and stuff.

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Cameron Teone would send me over to some girls and told me to use natural game. It was so much fucking better. “Hey guys, I am not from around here, do you know any cool places to party?” It didn’t matter what I said. It was about being easy going and social. This is where I changed completely. Cameron Teone showed me the way to be natural, in as little as 2 hours. This guy had so much fucking confidence and he was so easy going. He was sociable and he didn’t give a fuck. If there is one guy I wanted to learn from, it was this guy. Eric and Steve kept smiling. They were plotting some kind of evil plan. I just knew they had something crazy in store for me. We had our lunch and got back to Eric’s place, it was time to get ready. I knew we were going out, but I didn’t exactly know were. Steve left and it was just me, Eric and Cameron. After we all got ready, we drove a long fucking distance into what I would call the middle of nowhere. I thought to myself don’t tell me you’re going to take me on a mountain and do hypnosis and confidence building on me. I hate fucking mountains and heights. Instead we ended up in fucking Mexico! We went to this bar that I can’t remember the name of. All I know is that it was a strip bar beginning with the letter ‘A.’ This is where I thought to myself I need to meet some women. There were so many fucking girls. Eric had a smile on his face, he was plotting something wicked. We

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had some beers and I was having a fucking awesome time. All of a sudden, 3 girls came to sit on my lap. I started flirting with them, teasing them, and being natural, they loved it. Something happened and while I don’t want to be a braggart so let’s just say one room + 3 girls at the same time = nuts busted. We got back to Eric’s place, and I was pretty fucking tired after that. We had an awesome chat and I gained more insight into what I needed to change. I felt I had changed already. I knew who I wanted to be now. They had awakened passion within me. It was time to say our goodbyes but I felt it wasn’t going to be forever. I have all their email addresses so I’m keeping in touch, but I just want to say: The Stylelife Challenge was an amazing experience. It was something I needed to have in order to be awakened. It changed my entire life. These guys were like brothers to me. They cared about me, they enhanced my life and all I can say is thank you to them. I am honoured to know such amazing people. You guys are truly an inspiration. That’s what this shit is all about, inspiring people and making the world a better place. You guys changed my life for the better and to repay you guys I am going to make something amazing of my life. Thanks to Eric and Steve. If it wasn’t for you guys I would still be living my life in a box, unaware of all the adventures that I could be having. Thanks for changing my entire life.

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Thanks to Neil Strauss, you helped make this happen man. I loved it and it was an amazing experience. It changed my outlook on life. I respect you not only as a person but as a writer. Thanks to Cameron aka The One. Buddy you helped me change my whole game. It’s amazing how being a natural can be so much better than just using pick up lines. You inspired me as much as Eric and Steve. You have a gift brother. Four hours after the whole experience and after I got off the plane, I hung out with Xtra. We went around to the casinos and stuff, were I opened lots of girls with natural conversation. It was beautiful. That was back then. I hit some bumps and snags along the way after that, but it was from that moment in which my life completely changed for the better.

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Transcended So Rich girl came down to see me because she was missing the adventures that we always seem to have. I always loved her coming down because we would do unpredictable crazy shit, like renting out a limousine and seeing if we could persuade the driver to go through McDonald's Drive Thru or going on a late night road trip and ending up getting on a boat to France. It was like we had no limit on what kind of weird and unpredictable trouble that we could get up too. There was something about this girl that captivated me, maybe it was all the free shit she would buy me or maybe it was because when I looked into her eyes I just couldn't help but want to slam her against the nearest wall and have my way with her. As with any night before she came down, she would get me on the phone and try to plan what we were going to do for the week. But just as with any time that she made plans, I would ignore her and tell her “Let's go with the flow. Geez girl be in the moment!” We would have the same argument with each other about how she should just throw away her schedule and let me take charge. I would tell her to just go with the flow and deal with it in the moment. It felt like I was Eckhart Tolle trying to teach Paris Hilton to chill the fuck out and live in the now. As always, I would get my way and she would just talk about how excited she was to come down and see me again. She was right though, there was something exciting that we would create every time we where together. It was those 59

moments that helped me truly understand the magic of passion and freedom and how it acts almost like an aphrodisiac to a woman and completely captivates her. The next day I get a phone call from Parker. Parker: “Hey dude, I haven't spoken to you in ages! I got this girl and got that girl, blah blah blah.” I began to tell him about Rich girl and how she is coming down today and that she's super hot. He didn't believe me. Parker: “Prove it! I'll come round tonight and I bet she doesn't even turn up.” After all these years he was still the same person who had to prove that he was better than me. But I felt a slight case of the revertigo and wanted to prove him wrong. Me: “Oh it's on dude, come round and you'll see how fucking beautiful she is. She is so beautiful that I bet when she was born, the nurses had to put her away from all the other babies because they didn't want her catching their ugliness.” Parker: “Ha! You are attracted to babies?” Me: “WTF? No that's not what I meant!” Even after all these years, we were still trying to out-wit each other and with me having a slight case of revertigo it made me feel like it was a bad idea inviting him round. I had nothing to prove, he had been my arch nemesis for many years and I had already won that battle many times

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over and surpassed him on so many levels, he was still working at the same place and although he didn't want to admit it I knew he was still with the same girl. I started to get shit ready for when Rich girl arrived. I cleverly stashed a bunch of condoms under my pillow and shaved my hairy balls. After I had done everything, I laid upon my bed and rested. After my dirty dream of fucking her in the ass, it was time to pick her up. Just like every time I would go to pick her up, the anticipation would get the better of me and the excitement would fill my entire stomach and from that feeling I would get all these crazy and different ideas on to greet her. So I stopped at the shop and grabbed a bunch of party poppers. With party poppers stashed in my right pocket and a huge devious smile on my face from the idea that I had in my mind, I found my way to where she was waiting. There she was, long silky black hair and exotic tanned skin, wearing an AC/DC t-shirt that complimented her fucking huge tits. She looked happy to see me. As our eyes met and her face locked onto mine, we drew closer to each other. She was about to give me the most biggest and warmest hug in the world, but like the devious sneaky bastard that I am, I went into my right pocket and I launched the party poppers at her face and scared the living shit out of her! She screamed, “You fucking asshole!” As soon we got back to my place, I threw her onto my bed and teased her.

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Me: “I'm not letting you have my dick until you beg for it.” Rich girl: “I'm not going to b.... Oh god! Stop that!” After 2 hours, 3 condoms later and two satisfied customers, I get a knock on the door. I was hoping it was the pizza man because after fucking a girl for 2 hours you start to get the munchies, but unfortunately it was just Parker. Parker: “Holy shit dude you were right, she's real!” Me: “Of course she is, she wasn't going to be a fucking Cylon was she?” I wasn't even worried about Parker stealing my girls any more. I had learnt everything I needed to know to deal with that problem if it arrived, but it looked like I didn't need to go to that length. While Parker was bragging about his usual self and acting the class clown, Rich girl walked out the room and called for me. Rich girl: “Why is he trying to impress me?” Me: (Sarcasm) “I'm not aware of that... his a nice guy really. Give him a chance, you may just be the perfect couple.” Rich girl: (Looking at me unimpressed) “I don't go for guys that brag.” It seemed that I didn't have to use reverse psychology anymore because it seemed that Parker was losing his touch. It didn't stop Parker from trying and I admired his persistence. He would try anything to get really close to her and she would awkwardly move away. In the end, he

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eventually gave up and decided to invite his girlfriend over and I couldn't help but think, “Poor bastard.” When Parker's girlfriend arrived, he instantly began making out with her and clinging onto her, like he was a scared puppy looking for comfort. His girlfriend looked very young, I felt like asking her what her favourite Hannah Montana song was but instead I got a spontaneous idea and just like with any spontaneous idea that I got, I had to act on it. Me: “Let's go to Scotland!” Parker: “What the fuck. Isn't Scotland like eight hours away?” Me: “Who cares? Let's fucking go to Scotland and swim with nessie.” Parkers Girlfriend (PG... no pun intended): Yeah it's kind of far away... Me: When Christopher Columbus set out on a journey to discover the world, did he turn around and say “You know what? It's kind of too far away...” No! Rich Girl: But you've only just mentioned that you want to go to Scotland, I'm sure Columbus had planned it a long time before he actually went. Me: Oh there you go with your plans and rituals! Live in the now Paris! Pack your bags bitches... Where going to Scotland! PG: I can't go to Scotland. I have course work to do! Parker: And I can't because I have a job to go to. I wasn't going to give up that easy on my new found desire to go to Scotland. The images of bagpipes and loch

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nessie greeting me with a “Welcome to Scotland” sign, was enough to seduce me into wanting to go. Me: So you’re not up for it? Parker: Nah mate I got work and that. I knew there and then that I had surpassed Parker. That I no longer needed to feel like I had to prove myself to outsmart or out-do him. I grabbed Rich Girl and we packed our shit and went on a road trip to Scotland. It was the most spontaneous and adventurous thing I had ever done. I had transcended.

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agrees to meet me there, so I just chill out till she arrives. 9:30 rolls up and I hear the weakest knock on the door that I have ever heard in my entire life. I open the door in excitement expecting Facebook girl to show up. But to my surprise, stood at the door with that big cute face and that oversized jumper which almost fit her perfectly, her lip gloss sparkling in my eyes creating an almost luminous disco effect that would even blind a Japanese anime addict. Seductively she lures me over with her eyes, swirling her metallic hips as she glides to the music, beer in one hand, cigarette in other. She was 300 pounds of pure honey and tonight she was going to be my obstacle... I am greeted by Jason and his girlfriend who are pretty wrecked out their faces “Happy St Patrick's day!” We all dance to a weird Irish song that is on and I do the leprechaun dance, fun times. Then almost like pure magic... I see Facebook girl outside just about to knock on the door... Her tits were huge... Her face was perfect... I was captivated. It was there and then I knew why she was here. This beautiful ray of light was sent down for one simple mission and one mission only “Fuck Adam.” I almost didn't see her, maybe it was because I was in the zone and dancing to the future sex sounds of Justin Timberlake. Or maybe it was because she was hiding behind the 300 pound torso that was blocking the door way.

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I approach her with a “Hey my name is Adam.” She is super happy and tells me her name. (I'd rather call her Facebook girl) I get her to dance with me and I turn up the sexual amp by slapping my dick through my trousers and onto her leg while she grinds me “Slap her with a dick, Slap her with a dick.” She is having fun but simply isn't hooking at this point. The music track changes and she goes to have a cigarette and I am greeted by the 300 pound and her beautiful wave of smoke and tobacco stains on her shirt. She wants to dance and why not? I am not fatist. After all I am overweight and rein a Buddha belly myself. She is like a sister from another mother. We are having fun and I feel that she is attracted to me by the way she is kneeling down and getting out of breath to make out she is sucking my dick and when she rises up, gasping for breath, it is simply poetic. Parker arrives and I greet him with a hug. He is my arch nemesis from my ex gf's days but it seems he has hit rock bottom with his girl cheating on him. I motivate him like Tony Robbins by throwing in a few high fives and "You can do it!" and he is up having fun. Fat chick comes in and starts grinding on him, it's like a disturbed scene from an Usher music video.... I go see were Facebook girl is. Her smile is perfect and her energy is great. I can tell this girl is high self esteemed, she isn't falling for my seduction and I know what I have to do. I do the lying test on her,

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basically it is where you hold their arms and when they lie, their pulse beats faster than normal. She is hooked. I make it all sexual by asking her questions like “Have you ever had sex with another girl?” I made out that she was lying and teased her. She was opening up more and the passion was forming. Parker seemed down and depressed so I went over to him and we talked. I told him about my failed relationship, he heard what she did to me and found it amusing. We hang out for awhile, I am trying to be Mr Motivator but I am captivated and I want to have Facebook girl, so I am conflicted. But bro's come before ho's and we have fun. Jason comes over and shows Parker a YouTube video. I go back to the girl and she is playfully trying to take my hat off. Fat girl sees this and she is like “Guys.....” I can tell she was going to be an obstacle. So I bring fat girl into the conversation and be-friend her. We talk about what it would be like if Paris Hilton was bald and living in the woods like Rambo. Now both of them are trying to get my hat. I whisper to the obstacle that I think Facebook girl is cute and that I want to kiss her. She tells me that she talked to her and found out that she has a bf but doesn't like him and likes me better, but will see what she can do. She asks me to hook her up with Parker because she likes him. FUCK! I am not doing that. I wouldn’t even wish that on my worst enemy! I rub her hair and say “You’re cute, you should go dance with him.” So I get them to dance and have fun while I move in on Facebook girl. The funny thing is Facebook girl hasn't even mentioned

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her boyfriend at this point and she is giving me that sexual look but I feel a little nervous and it's like I am not attached to the outcome but I am drawn to her. So she asks me what I do for a living, I tell her I’m training to be a coach. I tell her about coaching and she is interested in what I have to say. I show her a few tricks like, making her feel dizzy with eye patterns and I show her how she can have an orgasm just through the nerve fibres of her palm. I am rubbing her palm and I tell her that every time she breathes in to imagine that feeling expanding bigger and bigger and every time that she breathes in she wouldn’t be able to control it and it's just going to get bigger till it explodes. She doesn't start orgasming but she starts getting really horny and her eyes go all high and I can’t help but say “Haha... you look fucking stoned.” She looks at me and I look at her, our eyes sparkle and almost in sync like out of some cheesy ass movie in where the characters profess their never ending dying love for each other.... we kiss. I put “the kiss” on her and she is melting, her bottom lip shivers in excitement and I don't want this moment to end, it is beautiful and poetic. Everyone is having fun and we are holding each other in our arms and having fun and kissing and rubbing each other. I start calling her Twatface and Knucklehead and she puts on this cute face. We whisper to each other and I tell her that she should come to my house to watch this funny video on YouTube, when deep down the only thing that I'm going to show her is my dick.

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I tell everyone that we are going and fat chick is all in love for Parker while he is like ignoring her and we set off into the night like Shrek and Fiona. On the way to my place I bump her into lamp posts and just literally tease her like the little retard that she is. We get outside of my place and we make out and I look up to the sky, it is a beautiful night. So I get an idea and I go upstairs to get a cover and she gets confused. I take her out to my backyard and lay the cover down and beckon her to sit with me. I start to look up to the stars with her and point to a star and say things like "That's the penis because it's small and it looks like mine." She laughs and says “I bet you haven't got a small penis.” Now normally I would whip my dick out, but I am enjoying the moment, so I just smile. But she starts to undo my trousers and says “Prove it.” I tell her that it is simply forbidden and that if she were to touch it she would be a very bad girl. I try and pass my ring off as a celibacy ring like I was a member of the Jonas Brother, but it doesn't work. She gets hornier and I unleash my inner animal instincts and I get my dick out and she starts to play with it. I get her tits out but we are cold and my dick feels like it's a fishing rod in the Antarctic so I move this into my bedroom. Then she starts to tell me how no guy has ever made her cum and how that maybe I will be the one to make her cum. She starts going all submissive and wants me to control her. I ram her against the bed, whip on my condom and start teasing her. I tell her to count to 10 and she will

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feel my 5 inch dick penetrate her so fucking hard. She counts to 10 and I tease her by getting up and leaving, but she starts to pull me back and molests me. I make her tight pussy cum so hard she feels like a fully peaked sexual woman, the woman she desires and deserves to be. It gets to around 2 am and she gets a phone call and it's her BF. This is shattering my mind the fact that girls will sleep with you regardless of their BF, but I know that if they had a great BF they wouldn't be cheating or that makes her a shit person. But this girl is getting shit from her BF and she is like “I will come on-line soon... I promise.” Turns out her boyfriend lives in Oxford and comes down like once a month. I find out that she is dating more than just one guy and is a little bit of playerette. She tells me she has to go but she wants my msn instead of just talking on Facebook so that she can show me something cool. So later on I get my ass on msn and she pops on and starts sending me kinky ass pictures of her naked from her webcam. Then she starts to tease me by putting her webcam up and she wants me to dominate her. I am like “Get your top off.” “Show me your tits!” Great night! I am into this girl but I don’t know if I’ll go out with her because simply I know as a man that I crave variety and that I am destined for more girls.

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Facebook Girl Part 2 I have already seduced and laid Facebook Girl (Karen), we have had threesomes together and a lot of other great fun. But she is a playerette and although we enjoy exploring each other’s bodies and enjoy being captivated by each other, she will always have other guys to fuck and I will always have other girls to fuck. I suppose in a way that is why we gravitated towards each other, because we are pretty much similar. I live around the block from Jason and always on a weekend he invites people over to drink and have fun. Jason’s girlfriend always brings her co-workers and friends around to have a drink and a chat. She just got Karen a job so she's a co-worker of hers now. Word has gotten around that I am a player, because one by one I am seducing all of Jason’s girlfriend's co-workers. The player status has actually worked to my advantage and now I have her co-workers curious about me from all the passionate sex and fun that I have had with the rest. Okay let’s begin. Let me paint a picture in your mind.... Tonight I get a call from Jason at around 7:30, asking if I am still coming round. Me: Sure buddy, I'll be over soon. You can tell the girls they'll have to wait their turn! 71

Jason: Lucky twat! I put my cologne on and proceed to walk to Jason’s. The cold air brushes against my face, waking me up from a distracting daze, reminding me that tonight my goal is to mainly seduce Karen and to be in an open relationship with her and to seduce her co-workers into falling for me. I open the door to be welcomed by a rosemary perfumed scent. I knew at that moment, tonight was going to be a fucking blast. Not many people had turned up yet, but Jason always invites me to these little gatherings really early. Maybe it’s because he likes to show what level he is now on World of Warcraft or maybe it's because he tries to coax me into drinking dangerous amounts of alcohol. He knows better, I don't drink anymore and not when I am on a mission, tonight was about seducing Karen and seducing her friends. I chat with my Jason, his girlfriend (JGF) and this other overweight retarded chick who I felt compassion for. OGRE (overweight girl with a retarded education) was constantly asking me questions, “You can hypnotise people?” “You can dance?” “You are half Irish?” “You don't even own a console?” “You don't drink?” I break it off by telling her she would make a great game show host but tonight I'm not drinking so she can't take advantage of lil ol' me. She still tries anyway, just because the cake is lying on the table and she knows it's bad for her, doesn't mean she won’t be tempted to reach over to eat it.

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Finally a guy walks in with a Mohawk. I greet him and tell him that he really has the coolest fucking hairstyle I have ever seen. He smiles but you can tell the dude is kind of socially inept. In walks Karen, she is fucking beautiful. It was right there and then that I wanted that girl. At closer inspection, I see a guy following behind her with her bag in his hand. I call these dudes frustrated servants (FS.) He grabs her hand and holds her. I laugh inside knowing by the end of the night that this girl was going to be mine. I can smell her scent, begging to be explored with my nose and her eyes telling me that right now she is craving for my touch. It was in that moment I understood that I had no option but to ignore her and focus on talking to JGF till others arrived. After like 10 minutes of chatting to JGF about Jason’s World of Warcraft addiction and her weight loss, the most beautiful girl I had ever seen walks in. On a scale of 1 to 100 she is a fucking 98, no doubt about it. JGF: Don't try shacking up with her, she is my boss... keep away from her. Me: (Smile) Come on you know me better than that. JGF: I don't want to lose my job. Me: If you’re good, I'll put a word in for your long overdue promotion. She playfully punches my arm. I look Manager Girl right in the eye and open her.

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Me: Hey, I just wanted to say.... you are absolutely... (Pause for the cause) capable of passing me a cup from over there. MG: Oh.... hey... yeah, sure. (Passes cup) Me: You’re adorable, what's your name? MG: Manager Girl (Stacy but MG is more interesting) I pour water from the sink and into the cup. Me: Opinion... is this cup half full or half empty? MG: Half empty, you can never have too much of anything! Me: I thought you were fucking beautiful... until you said that you gold digger (Smiling) I turn my back and see Karen grinding on FS dude, I want to ravage her tight pussy right there, but she is playing a game with me, thing is she doesn't know who she is dealing with. Manager girl opens me.... MG: Did I say something bad? Me: Depends if you want to be spanked... would you class yourself as a bad girl? MG: What? Me: On a scale of 1 to 10 how adventurous are you? Then all of a sudden Mohawk dude comes in and interrupts! MD: Hey how are you? MG: Fine, you? MD: Super, what's a really sweet girl like you doing here? I walk in the middle of them and just look up at the ceiling... Me: What the hell is that?

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Naturally everyone starts to look up to the ceiling as well, it's a reaction. Cleverly, I turn my back to the dude, while he is looking up and cut him out of the conversation. Me: I fucking hate you... (Smiling) MG: Why?? Me: Because I feel like kissing you but your forbidden fruit... besides you’re not adventurous enough! MG: I am! Me: Prove it! MG: How? Me: Close your eyes... I kiss her on the lips and the feeling of her sort lips begin to melt into mine with passion. This is what I live for and this is what I die for. To be a seducer and to taste women is one of my true pleasures in life. She melts like cold ice to a burning stove. In that perfect moment, she feels like a true woman, I know it and she knows it. I pull her to the couch and this Mohawk dude is fucking stunned. I see Karen in the corner of my eye and she seems pretty pissed off. I give Manager Girl my undivided attention and connect with her. We start to speak about her job and how I bet it makes her feel great when she is in charge. I am always sexually misinterpreting things she says and she is playfully slapping me. In front of our view, Karen comes over and calls out the FS guy to hug her and she grinds on him. It is a ploy to get me jealous. But I am a seducer and I have no time to be chasing women without conviction and proceed to give

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Manager Girl my undivided attention. I show her the orgasm arm technique. A part of her arm that responds very well to orgasms, I softly stroke her arm and she is getting hotter and temptation to fuck each other is getting higher. I tell her this story that really amuses me. I curiosity gaze her and she is very confused and curious and deeply attracted. After 20 more minutes of talking, I simply lead her by the hand to upstairs. We climb up the stairs and she is wondering where we're going. I tell her it is a surprise. I kick open Jason’s bathroom and start making out with her. I fondle with her breasts and get a little resistance. MG: I shouldn't do this, I have a boyfriend... Me: Me too, maybe they can hook up together sometime. I start kissing her and she kisses back even harder. Me: I can only promise you one thing... ultimate pleasure. So pleasuring you would only be the furthest it gets. MG: Okay. I start to kiss her neck and softly glide my hands over her breasts. No resistance. Me: We shouldn't do this.... it's forbidden. I turn my head from her and she pushes me onto the bathroom wall. She kisses me hard and I proceed to get a condom out my pocket and lean her against the bathroom.

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We make sweet slapping sounds... (That means “Sex” for you under achievers) After 15 minutes (Hey, that's all the time I need!) I hear footsteps coming up the stairs and entering the toilet. The thrill of being caught with the manager by my cousin’s girlfriend gets the better of me and I knock on the toilet door. Me: Who's there? Karen: Go away. FS: Yeah, go away... we want privacy! I hear them laughing, clearly they are going to fuck. Manager Girl gets a little freaked out and senses some tension between me and Karen MG: I should go downstairs... I whip my dick out and point to it Me: Really... how adventurous are you? (Smiling) She starts to tug it like it is some kind of cheese making machine. She felt weirded out but eventually she begins to suck my dick. I can hear Karen and FS making out and fondling each other, I get a little jealous and start to get a little feisty to make Karen jealous. Me to MG: (Making sure I can be heard) I really fucking love it when you suck my dick like that... you’re so fucking good.

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Karen unlocks the toilet door and MG quickly gets off her knees and I unzip my pants. Karen storms right past me, she is pissed. I high five the dude (Don't know why) and walk down the stairs with MG on my arm. JGF walks past us and sees me and her manager arm in arm. She gives me this weird look and shakes her head, smiling and walks off. She makes me laugh. I can see Karens face. It is sad. I want to be with this girl, I love holding her in my arms, but I can never have her as my girlfriend. I made that mistake awhile ago with another girl and plus I have a huge sexual appetite that she would not be able to live up to. I walk up to Karen and ask for a hug, she tells me to go away and FS dude steps in. FS: She said go away. Me: Well... if you are taking notes down and delivering messages to people, please tell my mum that I love her. Karen smirks and I hug her and tickle her. She goes all playful but tells me that she is upset because I am with “that girl.” She wants to be the one in my arms. Me: You are in my arms... You know I will always have a soft spot for you. Karen: I will always have a soft spot for you too. The dude is talking shit behind me but I just totally ignore him. Nothing can spoil this moment.

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Me: You know about my appetite and you are the same with all these guys... let's face it... we both know that we couldn't settle down. Karen: True... We are players of the game. Opposite sides of the coin, but we have similar desires and tastes. Passion... Comfort... Variety... Sex. We both love the game that is why we are drawn to one another. It's a beautiful thing. Manager Girl gets a little jealous that I am hugging Karen, but it just looks like I am comforting her. She walks up to me, I can see in her face she is confused from kissing me (a stranger at the time) and going upstairs to fuck me and then being ignored. I need to connect with her some more. I sit on the couch with her and we talk about each other. We connect on a playful level and thumb wrestle. I teach her a few different handshakes and we talk about American culture. She starts to slide her hand over my trousers. I love when a girl does that. MG: So do you and Karen have a thing going on? Me: Yes and about 3 other of your co-workers but they are afraid to tell you, they don't want to get fired. MG: Why would I fire them? Me: The same reason why you haven't given Laura (JGF) a promotion! (Smiling) MG: You’re bad. Me: Pfft... Your worse, I was only here for what... 10 minutes? And you end up seducing me! You kiss me, whisper sweet nothings into my ear and take me upstairs

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and have your way with me! I feel violated.... My life is ruined... (Smiling) She is laughing and having a great time. Here is the important part, right here... I realise that seduction is something that I am, not something that I do. After doing the rejection challenge and understanding all the principles of being a charismatic lover, it just became so much simpler then I imagined. I look over to Karen and can see she is having a crappy time because all I can hear is FS dude asking her a million of questions and bragging about his job. I get up and Mohawk dude instantly zones in on Manager Girl. I go over to Karen while FS is boring her with never ending questions and I grab her hand and take her away, like her cock blocking girlfriend would to the dance floor. I take her outside and make out with her. I hold her in my arms and keep her warm. She has my undivided attention, but it isn't talk that she needs. She lacks passion, it is something that we both crave and desire. Only problem is, FS doesn't know how to give her that passion, so it is my job. For 10 minutes we just hold each other and smile, looking at the cloudy sky, covered in toxic pollution from the factories of Britain, but nevertheless still beautiful. Her eyes sparkle as my eyes look into hers, it's these moments that I cherish with women, these moments in life that truly make developing myself for the better, pay off.

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I walk into the house and Jason tells me he is off to play World of Warcraft and everyone is leaving. Me: Dude, it's still early! Jason: I know but I need to get to level bla bla (forgot now) In other words that is code talk for, “I am going to bang my girlfriend.” At this very moment I am conflicted. I have two options... I can take Karen home with me or Manager Girl. I didn't want to pull for a threesome, because that would weird Karen and her Manager out, because they work together and it might be awkward for them in the long run. So I had a decision to make. Do I take the lovely Manager girl who is fun and playful, not to mention 6 years older than me and sophisticated. Or do I take home Karen, the girl who I am 100% captivated by, the girl that shares my craving for passion and none of the commitment. Its moment’s like these that you realize how far you have come. It's times like these that you really admire your development and by pushing at it and making a commitment to take action, it really pays off. I am a seducer at heart and I know that I could have Karen any time I want, so I decided I would take Manager Girl to my house and let FS have a blast with Karen. Manager Girl is the challenge for tonight. I want to ravage her entire body and explore it slowly and it's hard to do that in a

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bathroom. So for one night, Manager Girl gets my undivided attention, tonight I make her feel like the woman she is at the very core. Karen was kind of disappointed, but sometimes you have to make sacrifices. I walk home with Manager Girl on my arm and we are just teasing each other on the way. I get her to my bedroom and explore her entire body with my lips, I crave her scent and she desires my hard dick. After all, passion is what drives our senses. I can't help wonder whilst fucking this beautiful woman, how it would be like if Karen was eating her out while Manager Girl sucked my dick, sometimes my mind surprises me. Manager leaves after an hour of intense pleasure and we exchange numbers and email. She had to get home because her boyfriend is very strict or something. Whatever... Fun times. I sit on my couch basking in the beauty that had just happened, fulfilled by passion, driven by pleasure. All of a sudden I get a call from Karen. Karen: I want you. Me: I want you too... but what's the magic word? Karen: Now... Me: You know better than that. Karen: I want to change... I want you, I want to change my ways for you. Me: Don't ever change for me, you are cool just the way you are. Karen: You going to let me in then?

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I hang up the phone and go to look at my door. No way was she outside right? But there she stood, shaking from the cold. I hold her in my arms and kiss her. This is unexpected... I start kissing her harder... I feel her breasts and we move to the bedroom... I smell the scent of Manager Girl on my bed, but it doesn't matter. What matters is the moment I was in now, basking in this woman's senses. I crave this woman's touch... we are animals... she craves me and I crave her. But it could never blossom into anything like love. We are animals seeking pleasure, it is our drive and it is our addiction. We aren't in love with people... we are in love with attraction. Ultimately, it isn't our choice. As you can see from my entry I was influenced by passion. This is my driving force, this is what makes me write and this is what I live for. PS: I have no clue where I left the used condom at Jason’s. I just hope he doesn't try to get in the bath!

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Blowjobs and Oreos Today was a beautiful day. After a night of mayhem and drama with Facebook girl (Karen), I decided that it was best to go our separate ways. I Woke up to the screeching of nerdy chick NC: Miss me? Me: I dreamed that you were my sugar momma. NC: hehe... I need a favour. You said that you help people with goals right? Me: Yes that is how I lure 13 year old boys into my basement, playing on their hopes of setting goals to go to Disneyland... NC: Well I have a friend who is struggling at getting things done and she wants to learn how to set goals, could you maybe help her? Nerdy chick had always been there for me whenever I needed her so I was up for helping her friend. So I told her that I'll go over to her friend’s house and talk to her. She phones her friend and let’s her know when I’m coming round. I get my lunch, get dressed up and ready to meet this mysterious woman (MW for future terms, what can I say I like giving girls nicknames!) “Don't shit were you eat, dude don't shit where you eat.” 84

“Don't fuck her, don't tease her and don't use your natural charm on her.” I arrive at her house and glance at this beautiful woman with pure lust. “Fuck this is going to be hard, oh yeah... it is hard.” I thought to myself while trying to conceal my mini erection. Me: Hey I'm Adam. I had my full fucking sexual stare on but I knew I couldn't fuck this girl because on purpose I didn't bring a condom with me. I wasn't going to fuck this up, this was business. I wanted to be a coach and help people get to where they want to go in life and although I wasn't a coach yet, I was still going to practice good business ethics. We talk about her problems and it turns out that she wants to overcome procrastination and take action in life. She smiles at me and touches my arm. I think to myself “Maybe I can shit where I am at least munching.” I go into how self improvement became a passion of mine and how it has inspired me and shaped my own life. I give her some insights on how to overcome procrastination. I point to her curtains. Me: I love those curtains in a totally non sarcastic way

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MW: Thank you, I bought them at (Somewhere I can’t remember what she said) I go up to her curtains and start to lick them. I'm sure she had a “WTF” face on but who cares, I have fun and she was laughing. Me: (Smiling) Do they match the drapes? MW: You’re bad... Me: I know, I sell hand grenades to kids in third world counties... but enough about me, tell me about you? MW: Hehe... (Nerdy chick) told me you were like this, you make me smile. So she tells me about how she became a nurse and how she has a passion for reading and watching Lost. For the first time in a week I feel like I have connected to another female and spread my love seed of happiness to her. In this moment I realise I don't have to tease, but it is fucking fun! I hug her and start to play with her. Me: Can you cook? MW: Yes I am a very good cook! Me: Can you cook cookies?? MW: I can! Me: Prove it! MW: I'm not baking them now! Me: If you can bake me cookies now, then I will put your poster on my wall and devote 2 hours of sexual interest to it a day.

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She laughs like hell and we are just vibing, it's great. Then she kind of gets up with a smile on her face. Me: Ohh you're devious, you have a plan don't you! MW: (Smiles) I made a batch for you earlier. She comes back with fucking Oreo's. Man! I fucking love Oreo's and they have been an underlining theme in every sexual relation I have had... Maybe it's the Oreo's that lead to sex? We sit there eating Oreo's and I get an idea... It's a dumb idea, but fuck it what do I have to lose? I stick an Oreo on my lap (It's like I’m training her to suck my dick or something) Me: Eat it , Eat it, Eat it! (I do the whole “Eat it” thing like I was singing on an avenged sevenfold song) She eats it off my lap and kind of touches my dick through my pants with her soft fingers. Her eyes go all cute and fuzzy. I'm thinking “Kiss her goddamit! Fuck constipation! Let's shit were we eat!” I put the fucking “KISS” on her and she kind of puts her head back and is frozen. It's like I know she loves it and she is completely captivated. What do I have to lose? I do it again! And this time she melts and starts to kiss me heavily, she sucks at kissing but most girls do anyway. She

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starts pushing my head down and I mean she is 29 but this is like she hasn't been laid in years. But I don't have a condom. I am not sticking my dick bare boned in some girl that I hardly know, so what is the option? How can I make this fun for both of us? Then it came clear to me. I'll stick my dick bare boned in her mouth instead. Me: On a scale of 1 to 100 how great are you at giving blow jobs? MW: Hmm... I don't know... Me: Let me be the judge of that. I whip my dick out and her mouth is wide open! She is totally shocked and then smiles at me. MW: Well I would say I am about a 70.... But I don't know. Me: Prove it! MW: But if I suck at doing this don't blame me. Me: Well sucking is what I am hoping for... but you're fucking beautiful and have all your teeth left, so I wouldn’t worry. She starts sucking on my dick and wow it is great! 13 seconds later I am done... Just kidding! She does this for about 10 minutes and I finger her a little but she was on her periods and I know I do stupid shit but I don't like licking blood, so I'm not eating her out. So we talk more and more about her goals and we pinpoint that she is afraid because she doesn't know what

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the future holds and she is nervous to take action. So I do some hypnosis with her and get her relaxed. We do a 10 minute session and delve into her problems and we give her new meanings and new thought processes for success and how it will feel wonderful to just be able to succeed and enjoy it. In the end she is so happy with it she kisses me and hugs me. She tries to give me £30 but I resist because I am not that kind of person to take money off people like that. But she insists with it and eventually she slips it into my coat pocket without me noticing. So I pretty much got paid for getting a blowjob. I feel like a dirty male escort. I had to go meet Nerdy chick, so we exchanged numbers and emails and I wished her the best. We hugged and I rode off into the wind. Life is fucking beautiful.

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The Gift The gift is inspired by Pook, a mentor who influenced and motivated me while I was going through a tough time. There was one article that he wrote that really stood out to me and it gave me a sudden burst of creativity to write The Gift. Lying in your hands is... The gift. But what is the gift? The gift cannot be described in words... It cannot be created and nor can it be destroyed... it just IS... but no one really knows what the gift is or what powers the gift can give to those who understand it... They can only follow the teaching of this most precious gift... A young man sat with all his prized possessions... his trophy girlfriends... his money and his power... yet there was an empty feeling within him that just couldn't be fulfilled... He began to ponder the next phase of life... “It is time” he said, “What am I missing in life? How can I achieve happiness?” He realized “If only there was some way to achieve this happiness without having to obtain more stuff.” And then like some kind of magic, appeared The Gift!

The young man was speechless... The Gift who has many faces decided to appear as an old wise man... He looked at the young man “I will guide you... I will show you the path to real happiness... you must come forth with me... for your happiness doesn't lie in this god forsaken place.” “But Gift!” The young man cried out. “If I follow you... then I give up my most precious possessions... How could I ever replace such valuable things?” The Gift, slapped the young man, “No!” “For happiness can never be achieved in the material world... You must leave your golden palace in return to save your soul from a life of pure unfulfillment.” “But Gift... is it worth the risk to lose everything I have for something that sounds too good to be true.” The Gift replied, “Follow and see.” The Gift led the hesitant young man through the portal of time....

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reading “90% off on skin care products... Buy one get one free Iphones.” The Gift grinned, “Look at all those people... Rushing around... Rushing to buy the latest skin care products to stay young and beautiful... Foolish people.... In a rush to buy the new Xbox 500 to bring another meaningless amusement into their lives... Foolish people.” “But Gift, why are they foolish?” Said the young man who ran towards the free“900 Mega pixel camera phones” stall. The Gift slapped the young man, “Foolish man... Your eyes cannot see... Do you not see the purpose of all these materials? The young man pondered on the thought, “To make us happy?” The Gift looked at the young man in pity, “Foolish man... Do you not see that all these materials are just a distraction?” The young man began to open his mind, “A distraction?” The Gift pointed to a shattered and depressed woman, “Do you see this woman buying the latest Iphone? What you don't see is that whenever a new gadget comes out that is popular... she will be the first to get it... only to brag to her friends of what she has in her life.” “So?”

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“So.... deep down she feels the need to prove that she is better than her friends... because there is a hole inside her that can never be filled... She is always trying to fit in with the cool people...This started from the very age when her friends had my little ponies and she was all left alone to play... So she tries to be the first of her friends to get the cool gadgets... just so she isn't the last person to be left out the loop... deep down it's a distraction... she seeks approval from her friends... truly she isn't happy with her life.” Then appeared a young beautiful woman. The Gift pointed at her, “Do you see her? That woman is racing around the shops to fill her face with skin cream and lavish herself with makeup.... She is unaware that she is distracting herself from the fact that she isn't happy with her life... No matter how beautiful she looks... when she looks in the mirror she is always that ugly witch... So she reads the magazines... observes and envies celebrities and other beautiful women and tries to find how she can make herself as beautiful as them... She is frustrated with her life because she can never find the root to her happiness... In a few years time she will settle down for a nice guy who will always lavish her with attention that makes her feel validated... only to cheat on him for a better guy... Her perception will never allow her to see the true beauty.” The young man began to realize, “I'm starting to realize that... we wrongly seek happiness externally when truthfully it is rooted internally within us.”

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“The lesson here young man is that,” The Gift said... “True happiness is found from within... not from without.” The young man now realizing the error of his ways. “We look around to see what others are doing... to see if people are better off... we compete with others... when someone is doing better off... we perceive that because they have more money, more relationships or more power... that in order to be happy we have to do the same... when truly it's our perception that gets tainted by the media... it plays on our insecurities to gets us in a loop and distract us from the real happiness.” The Gift nodded. And with that the young man realized. “Material possessions are to add on to our happiness not to define it.” “Happiness is a state of mind.” “Remember,” said The Gift “To go within and find happiness... is to alter your perception and realize that success starts in the mind... The person who thinks he can... the person who believes in themselves and not what is fed to them by society... will set a strong foundation to the inner journey of happiness that will never fade or die out.”

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Lesson Two The young man entered the portal wiser then before... with the belief that he had it in him to achieve happiness from within... The Gift led him into a room were an old man was writing a book. The old man put the antique pen to the soft paper and began to write... However he got to only a few lines before his frustrations got the better of him... The old man in a fit of rage, scrunched up the paper and threw it in the bin, were 500 other scrunched up paper balls was residing... He put his hands to his head and mumbled, “What did the great Charles Dickens have that I didn't have! What gave Mozart the ability to write beautiful music! What did Leonardo have that gave him the ability to create masterpieces?” The Gift cleared his voice, “You see a old man here... a man who is blocked... wanting to write... but not having the ability to have those words flow out... very painful... yet most of us in some way have this problem in everything we do... and that is why I brought you here... for you see, the essence to what this man seeks... lies in every person who has ever succeeded in their own happiness and life... these men and women were admired and remembered throughout history... they became muses... they became an inspiration to other men and women.” The young man shrugged, “But... I'm not a writer... I help 98

people... What do I need to know this for?” The Gift slapped the young man, “How can you help others if you cannot find your own creativity... your own inner happiness? Do you not know the flow?” “The flow?” The Gift sighed, “Have you ever looked at a woman and explored her entire body with such passion that it completely captivated you in the moment? Have you ever tasted the essence of a woman's natural desire to make love and tasted the ecstasy and desire from her lips?” “No.” “Then you do not understand the flow... Most people go through life with very little passion... At least this old man discovered his passion for writing... let me show you this lady.” The Gift pointed to a woman in her forties, crying her eyes out. The Gift cleared his throat, “You see this woman? All her life she has been given the easy road... At 16 she gave birth to a son... however instead of being a mother to this young man... she decided that she would go out to bars... getting drunk and hooking up with random men... while the father of the child raised him all alone... while she had the easy route in life... never once did the son or father complain of her absence... yet she continued to turn her back on them by going out more.. getting drunk and sleeping with many men... yet after years of this and this young child grew up into a man... she realized what she

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had missed out in life... while she went out and got drunk... she had no job... no passion in life... no empathy for another human being... just a boyfriend who she could walk all over on just like all the men she had done in her life... yet even though she knew she did wrong... this woman continued to feel sorry for herself... and as she grew older... fatter... she slowly began to realize her charm with men was fading... and soon the fake layer of happiness she fooled herself into believing, faded too...” “So she lacks passion in her life?” “Passion isn't a simple thing... but once you have it in your life... it makes EVERYTHING simple... but this woman never had anything to really strive for... she missed out on her son growing up... a big key in passion is connection with other people and sharing that passion with them... for without people in your life... your passion cannot grow... this woman turned down the biggest key to reuniting with her passions... but she turned that down for fake happiness in disguise of what she thought made other women happy, controlling men and getting drunk in loud clubs... now here lies a shell of a broken woman... who will never realize her passions... are you beginning to understand?” questioned The Gift. “I think so... but isn't it best to have a goal even without passion?” The Gift nodded, “Yes... it's always better to do something then nothing at all... But passion goes further than that... See even though the old man's goal is to write a

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beautiful book... he still cannot get to the flow of things... he is trapped in his own logical mind... with no ideas on a story... because he cannot turn his mind off and let the words flow out... He cannot experience passion and the flow of things.... They call it writers block... but really it's a lack of ingredient.” “Ingredient?” questioned the young man. “Just like for a tree to grow... it needs sunlight and water... to achieve such passion is to add the ingredients that make that passion grow and flow within you... because we all have passion... the first step is believing that everyone has passion... even you... the difference is most people have little passion and some people have a lot of passion.” The young man said, “But I do not understand what ingredients I need in order to have a lot of passion.” With that, The Gift summoned Leonardo Da Vinci “The Great Leonardo Da Vinci... please tell this young man what a man must have to have the passion to lead a happy and successful journey in life.” The ghost of Leonardo smiled, “Well young man, you must experience what it is like to fall in love... when you have truly fell in love... then and only then can you ever understand the true meaning of passion.” And with that the ghost of the great Leonardo Da Vinci vanished into thin air.

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The young man began to understand, “I now realize the true meaning of passion.” “Passion is Love.” “Within the flow of a lovers breath.... the flow of his burning heart... the flow of the way he looks at the world with beauty and love... is a man who feels such passion for everything he observes... he doesn't let the logical mind get in the way of his thinking... instead he just breathes... lets out a big sigh... and becomes one with nature by being in the presence of its beauty.... and you do the same with the person you love... you relax with them and everything just slows down and you forget the outside world... you are in the momentum... and you are leading and in return she follows... you draw into each other's beauty by being in the presence of desire... by hearing each other’s voice and letting it echo in your mind... by feeling that desire... by watching a beautiful shooting star at night... it's in those moments when you truly realize what passion is... because those are the true moments in life in which you open yourself up to... and everything slows down... you take in the beauty... you become vulnerable to that moment and you allow yourself to feel the happiness and the love... It’s in those moments when you truly experience passion.” smiled The Gift. “So for the old man to truly be able to write... he must begin to feel what love really is... to really feel the love for writing... to indulge in other inspirational and beautiful writing without being envious of such great characters in history who wrote it... to take inspiration by falling in love

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with their writing... to fall in love with the pen itself... to take a deep breath and look at the sky and realize that the universe is so much bigger then this tiny planet... and what wonderful adventures could unfold if you were to explore every part of that... and the final ingredient... is that to have passion you have to get curious and enthusiastic about life!” The Gift smile, “That is the key to the flow... the flow is love... and love is passion.” Have you figured out yet what the gift is?

Balance You have been lied to. You are told that women are only attracted to looks, money and status. That in order to have women you have to acquire all those things or die miserable. That the way to win over a beautiful woman is to demonstrate how much affection you can shower her with or how very nice you are and well mannered you are and how much you can prove your worthiness to her. Just like me and many other people, you've have found these idea's to be wrong. That's why you are here, you are much wiser. There is a better and an easier way to have an abundance of women in your life. This is what I want to 103

teach you. Whether you want to find a perfect girlfriend or date multiple women, I want to teach you how to build yourself a lifestyle so your life is filled with beautiful women and adventure. In your search for this journey, you may have come across other teachings too. Teachings which are marketed and flawed on purpose to make you fail and come back for more. Promising you the magic pills and instant success. Although with any teaching there is success, however there is a huge secret that they don't want you to know, because if you knew it, you wouldn't need their products any more. I'm here to tell you that secret, because I too was tooled into believing the bullshit. You are better than that, you deserve better then to be given a flawed way of doing things, designed to only give you half the truth. There are two flawed teachings. One that focuses too much on her and one that focuses too much on you.

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I have to be very entertaining and keep her entertained I have to chase her

Focusing too much on you: I am higher value then her Fuck her, it's her loss I don't need to listen to her I have to be in “that” state of mind She needs to chase me I am the prize to be won and have to play hard to get

The secret is... balance. I spent 2 years tracking down and learning off every selfhelp teacher that I could find. Everything they taught, it all pointed to balance. It is subtle but when you understand this concept, everything you have ever learned or are about to learn, will come to full circle. It will just click! It boils down to ying and yang, the balance of you and her. In every successful interaction that leads to attraction and sex, it's because you are expressing yourself and allowing 105

her to express herself. You succeed because you are feeling good and so is she! You share yourself through expressing yourself and making her smile. You give her space to express herself and she shares herself too. There is no exact mathematical balance, there is just two people feeling great in each other’s presence and that is what it is all about. Although with so many attachments and nervous energy that we all possess we seem to forget this lesson. This has nothing to do with who says the most words or who puts the most energy into it, there doesn't need to be a perfect balance in that, there just needs to be two people enjoying and expressing themselves. When you do this, everything you do or say will work much more powerfully and add to the attractive aura. You are not higher value then her and nor is she higher value then you. When you share within each other and create a connection, you have exactly the same value, whether you believe or she believes otherwise. The value you bring to the table is just as great as the value she does. Granted there are always exceptions, but being a Charismatic Lover is not about playing power games. It's about feeling the passion from within and having that passion flow out of you and sharing that with her. The secret to life is balance... It is evidence in all of society. Look around you and you will see it to be true.

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Express yourself Expressing yourself is the foundation of attraction, when you express yourself fully as a Charismatic Lover it makes everything you do work powerfully. Your pick up is an expression of you. Everything you say or do, you are. Your emotions dictate your state of mind and your state of mind is an expression of you. Everything in life is an expression of itself. You are an expression of yourself. Through the way you weave your words, your emotions, reactions and through the way you act and decide upon things, you are always expressing yourself. What is truly attractive about a musician or poet? Is it the status and fame? Maybe a little, but what truly makes them attractive is their ability to use creativity to express themselves. They do this through songs and lyrics. It is why rock stars are so attractive. Put on a piece of your favourite music and notice the lyrics and the beauty behind the music. How does it make you feel? There is always a story behind a song and that story 107

is an expression of emotions. Take Tommy Lee from Motley Crue as an example, the guy’s attitude, lifestyle, music and image is one big expression of himself. If you have watched Tommy Lee Goes to College, you will see that in everything he does, he is fully expressing himself completely and people get sucked into his reality, it's a fun place to be and that's why people want to be in his reality. This is why rock stars are so attractive, because of the aura that they create when they express themselves. When you are nervous and in an uncomfortable situation, you don't fully express yourself, if at all. Even if you are a confident person, you can still be someone who doesn't express themselves fully. Expressing yourself means to fully give your all. It’s truly an art form.

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Characteristics of a fully expressing Charismatic Lover: Positive aura that sucks people into their reality Very expressive Relaxed emotionally and physically Decisive Warm Charismatic Fun, teasing and playful Takes liberty and risks States his intentions and isn't afraid to say what's on his mind Not attached to any outcome, fully immersed in the momentum

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Here are a few exercises that can help you fully express yourself. 1. Start making more decisions. Start small like deciding to make your bed and work your way up. If you keep this up as a habit you'll be decisive in no time. 2. Practice a wide range of facial expressions in the mirror. Practice feeling different emotions. Practice a wide range of vocal tonalities with a tape recorder. Smile at 5 people a day. Practice holding eye contact with at least 5 people a day. 3. Start speaking what is on your mind more. Don't be afraid to speak up for yourself and for others. State your boundaries. Be honest with your intentions, if you find a girl sexy, tell her she is sexy. 4. Start being the source of fun, do something fun and unexpected every day. Start using your creativity and trying different situations that you normally would hold back on but would love to do. 5. Try being more playful and teasing in conversations. Remember the balance concept, don’t be too cocky, instead be more playful. 6. Remember it's never a big deal. Only become attached to the outcome when you’re about to make plans. Allow that vulnerability to sink in and remember that if she doesn't respond well to you,

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it's never a big deal. If you are rejected by a woman, wish her a good day/night always leave on a good note. Don't resent her and think “Wow well it's her loss.” It's no one's loss because she can’t reject you truly as a person. She can only reject her perception of you.

Your Ideal Self You have probably heard the phrase “Just be yourself.” But what is just being yourself? If you have always been shy and nervous, is sticking to what you have always known being yourself? I've come to find that being yourself is the person you desire to be. As a person you are adapting and always changing, the person you are now will probably not be the person you are in ten years time. The guy you dream of being, the guy who attracts the women and who is the life of the party, the guy who is a Charismatic Lover, the guy you visualize to be in your mind is who you truly are. So rather than just be yourself, strive to be your ideal self. When you fully express yourself you are bringing that ideal self out of you. Being a Charismatic Lover is about a man who is magnetically attractive to women and appreciates their beauty. He is a lover of women, he is loved by many 111

women and he fully expresses himself. He has many traits and many positive emotions that attract women. He can be deep and passionate one minute and the next playful and teasing.

Passion We are told that women want guys with a good job and money. On the surface it may look like women want that, but on a shadow level the truth is that women desire a man with passion. A hard-working, creative, successful and goal-orientated man is driven by passion. Passion allows you to express yourself with purpose and intention, when a man is driven by passion and expresses his interests and shares that with a woman, she starts to feel attraction. Ever notice why women ask a lot of questions about what you're interested in? She is simply curious about you to see if you have passion or goals to strive for in life. Passion determines whether you will lead a successful life or an unsuccessful life. Passion is the life force that drives you towards success. Passion lies within each and every one of us. When you live life without passion, you abandon everything. Passion is the energy that motivates people and changes their entire life. Passion is the essence of a strong emotional connection. 112

When you speak about something you love, you feel those good emotions and women will subtly pick up on those emotions and feel them too. Women always want to be around passionate people because they are a source of pleasure that captivates them. Feeling the passion from within you and having that flow out of you is the real way to create a deep connection with women. You share passion as if you are sharing a $10,000 bottle of wine, you know it’s forbidden to taste but the more you drink it the more pleasure you get from it. Then you savoir it and share this moment slowly with anticipation and it burns a powerful image in your mind that will live with you for the rest of your life. Passion is a form of art that inspires creativity to come to life. Creativity is the child of passion... and passion is the flow of attracting things into your life. You convey passion through how you feel emotions, words and stories and share that with her in the momentum. In the Facebook section I will teach you how to convey passion into your words and stories. Don Juan De Marco had passion. He saw the world through the eyes of a lover. He saw women as an art form to be explored. Don Juan would explore a woman like Mozart played the piano. It's what every successful person in history had in common, a strong passion and desire for something. The trouble is, in our life due to restrictions we lose that passion. When we are children we feel 100% free and the

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reason is because nothing conditions our perceptions until we get older. Fear is a great conditioning and acts like an enemy of Passion. Most of us fall into the “Social Conditioning” and we lose the will to be 100% free. We are lost as a society, searching for what we once had. We envy people with passion and dreams. We become seekers of passion. We go through products and books looking for that missing puzzle. When you have passion in your life... it makes EVERYTHING in your life interesting... You life doesn’t have to drastically change to be interesting... just your perception. The key to awakening your passion lies in perception, beliefs and mindset. Studying people with passion I noticed that nearly every successful passionate person in history would have deeper and vivid dreams when they went to sleep. Also I noticed that no matter what they did in life, they enjoyed it... they saw beauty in everything and they never gave up on their goals and desires. When you awaken the passion within you, then everything comes to a full balance and you experience the flow. The flow is the essence of achieving anything that you focus on and put your mind too. It’s the reason why some people can just come up with creative ideas on the spot. When you have a moment were you have a truly creative idea or do something really creative then you are experiencing the flow We become blinded by the outer forces, when truly everything you ever need comes from within.

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What is the difference between you and someone like Brad Pitt? The truth is only separated by one thing. He awoke his passion.

Here are some exercises to help you become passionate: 1. Become goal-orientated and set goals for yourself. Write down 5 goals that you would love to accomplish and take small steps each day to take action and accomplish your goals. 2. Remind yourself about the success you have had in your life. When you go to bed think about 3 things in your life that you have successfully achieved in your life and are proud of. Allow those feelings to inspire you to achieve other goals. 3. Fully immerse yourself in whatever you are doing. If you are watching a TV show, get into it fully and try and understand how the characters feel. If you are just driving to work, feel what it is like to be in control of a car and the freedom you have of knowing you could just go anywhere. 4. Put more time into the stuff you are passionate about. Share your passions with friends and family. For example if you are passionate about golf then take a friend with you and share that passion with them. 115

Abundance Having an abundant mindset is crucial in surrounding yourself with beautiful women. The difference between a guy who has women in his life and who doesn't have women in is life is that the guy without women usually lives in scarcity, while the other lives in abundance. To truly live in abundance is to see the true beauty of the world. It is to truly see that there is an endless supply of anything you want. Most guys who aren't abundant usually leave it to luck to get a girl and when that one girl comes into his life, he'll cling onto her because it's his only option. Neediness kills passion and is one of the main causes of break ups and lonely men. To truly live in abundance, you have to open your eyes to the truth that there are women out there that are more than ideal for you. There are women out there that desire you and are willing to fuck you even if all else fails. There is an unlimited supply of these women and if you were to take action then you will meet new women every day. When you live in abundance it won't be a big deal for you if you get rejected or if a girl isn’t interested in you because there are millions of other girls out there just waiting to

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jump on you and seduce you. How exciting is it right now to know that there isn’t just one girl but thousands if not millions of girls that would want to fuck you, if only you just took action to meet them. That is why living in abundance is so exciting because there is ALWAYS another better girl out there for you. When you live in scarcity, you are blinded by needing a girl in your life and you begin to lower your standards and you tolerate a lot more bullshit. You blind yourself from the fact that there is a never-ending supply of beautiful women. Think of it this way, there are millions of girls turning 18 everyday and there are millions of girls who have just broke up with a loser and wanting a man like you in their lives and on top of that there are millions of other girls who are single and have no interest in anyone else but you! When you think about it like that, how can you not live in abundance? The world works on attraction. If you're thinking about attracting beautiful women then your perception is going to fine tune itself to find a way to get beautiful women in your life, through your action, opportunities and energy that you put out there. Perception is everything, it's why the rich get rich and the poor get poor. Men who live in scarcity will miss opportunities even if they are there. The secret of life is that whatever you perceive you will achieve. See yourself living in abundance of beautiful women and you will also attract that into your life.

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Women can sense if you are an abundant man. That's why few men get a lot of women and some get a little. Society has taught men to live in scarcity, that its survival of the fittest and that we have to fight for every little thing in our lives. The secret is that it's not a big deal if that girl rejects you or dumps you because there is another million perfect women out there just waiting for you. Remember a scarce man sees women above him, a selfabsorbed man sees himself above women but an abundant man see's a connection with women, he sees them on his level because they share the same desire... The desire to indulge in true beauty.

1. If you ever feel down or feel like you're in a scarcity mentality. Remind yourself, that beauty comes in abundance and so does women and everything else that you desire. You live on a world that generates unlimited beauty, so don't allow yourself to fall for the lie that there is a lack of supply.

2. Write down 10 affirmations and recite them in the mirror every morning. Really feel the words and the true meaning behind them and what these personal affirmations mean to you.

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3. Take a day out of your life to surround yourself in your passion. Indulge on the things you love to do the most and spend a full day feeling those great feelings. This will help you realize that you already have an abundance of good feelings within you that you just need to tap into it more often.

Vision Board Back in 2005 when I was searching for a cure for my anxiety I had contacted a business man on how he overcame his fear of public speaking. After two weeks of eagerly awaiting his email he had replied and he mentioned something called a “vision board” and how by applying a photo shopped image of himself on a stage looking positive and confident with hundreds of people looking at him, he was able to overcome the fear of public speaking. At first this seemed stupid, but little did I know it was about to change my whole perspective on life for the better. A vision board is a simple poster board in which you apply images that help you visualize success in your life. It is very similar to an “image goal map” which you apply all kinds of images of what you want, who you want to become, what you desire to have and places you want to 119

go to. When you start to visualize yourself in all these scenarios and take time visualize the images being you and succeeding, you will notice that your polarity of negativity will shift to positivity quite easily and this will begin to slowly change your outlook on life. It can be images of a man surrounded by a huge social circle or it could be a limousine you want to visualize having or even a beautiful girl that you desire to have. When I started my vision board I was very sceptical and I didn't believe this would help, but after about two months of visualizing I was so enthusiastic about it that I had expanded my vision board into all areas of my life. I wouldn't only just put images and quotes up about being confident, I would put pictures of the quality women I wanted in my life and then I would visualize myself having fun with them in my two million dollar mansion. It got to the point where I would spend three hours a day just visualizing what my life would be like in the future. Eventually I started to only visualize for ten minutes a day and that was enough to charge my day and take action towards my goals. About September in 2007 I was sat in bed with my girlfriend at the time, I looked at my wall in my office and I noticed that I had a picture of a beautiful woman almost resembling my girlfriend. So I took a look at the other images and saw a fake check on my wall for ten thousand dollars and realized I had earned just over ten thousand dollars a month ago. I woke my girlfriend up to show her all of these pictures and she agreed that I had accomplished most of them. I had images of a guy’s smile

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that I desired to have and my girlfriend said “You have that smile!” We got excited about it and I explained to her that over a year ago I had done a vision board to help me achieve my goals and dreams. Although I hadn't accomplished some of the big things on that vision board (like a private jet or a mansion) I did at least accomplish most of the things that I desired and the changes I wanted to make without realizing it. A vision board acts like a focus or a mental construct of your goals and dreams, it can help you achieve and transform yourself in ways you never thought were possible. You may not even notice yourself changing for the better, there are so many subtle things that you can change without realizing (for example how my confident body language is exactly the same as the desired images of the posture that I wanted to have.) Not only will a vision board help you achieve goals and dreams, it will help you become more creative with your goals and even help you visualize effectively. It will help you become more in alignment with what you desire. Some people tend to visualize in foggy images rather than crystal clear images. When you have that crystal clear image in front of you it can make an enormous difference in attracting that desire into your life. When you haven't trained your mind to visualize you'll notice that when you imagine yourself succeeding in a goal, you tend to see the visualization in third person (from a distance) rather in the first person (seeing it as if it’s happening.) When you imagine something negative

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happening to you, the image will usually be seen in the first person rather than the third person. To effectively visualize great positive results you need to associate yourself with the image and feelings of succeeding in first person. Successful people tend to associate great things happening to them and disassociate from bad things happening to them and they mainly do this when they're visualizing. Vision boards have been useful to thousands of people in business, for example in the DVD “The Secret” there was a story by a man named John Assaraf about how he had manifested his mansion with a vision board. John had been visualizing his dream home for years. After a few more years and a couple of house moves later he opens his old boxes and finds his old vision board and realizes that the image of the house on his vision board is the exact house he is living in. Vision boards are a great way of reducing anxiety, stress, fears, worry and panic attacks. When you are in these anxiety states you are focused on fear and worry. You begin to filter out all the positive things and great opportunities around you. When you start your vision board, you shift your focus to positivity were you start to apply your goals and dreams and they begin to manifest and allow you to take action were before you normally wouldn't of seen that opportunity because you was too busy feeling anxious. Shifting your focus away from negativity gets rid of 90% of anxiety (this includes any anxiety, phobias and panic

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disorders.) When you apply what you desire to the vision board, your mind will learn how to disassociate from negativity and associate with positivity and greatness. The way I do my vision board is a lot different and I find it a lot better than most techniques out there. I will use my actual picture of myself in situations such as in front of a crowd. For example if your desire is to have a social circle you could apply a picture of you in the middle of a large circle of people. If your desire is to achieve positivity, take a picture of yourself being positive and doing something you desire to do. Use your creative mind and the rest will flow. Remember that if you wake up and see those images and take time to visualize having what you desire then it is going to have a much better effect on your day.

To create a vision board: 1. Simply use a wall or a board that you can apply images on. 2. Think about all the things you want to achieve and write them down. 3. Have a positive affirmation for every goal or desire, for example if your goal is to lose weight: “I am becoming healthier everyday” or “Weight just drops off me, I 123

have a great metabolism.” 4. Then imagine what the image of that goal would be like, for example if your overweight you can get a picture of a body with the ideal weight you desire to have. 5. Get your picture and make it personal for clearer visualization and better accuracy. 6. Apply the picture to your board and underneath or above apply a written or printed out affirmation.

7. Now try this for 30 days, wake up and go to your board and say the positive affirmations out loud while looking at the picture and for a moment visualize greatness and then do this with all of your images. Feel the positivity flowing from your goals as you feel yourself one step closer to achieving your desires. This is a tool that can be used for profound changes. Try it out for 30 days. You may just be surprised at the results.

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The Rejection Challenge I had a friend who used to struggle with a crippling fear of being rejected. Every time I would go out to meet new women, he would make an excuse on why he couldn't join me. It got to the point where he just couldn't talk around the women he really liked. The only time he would pluck up the courage to go speak to a girl he liked was when he was really drunk. He was like Rajesh off that show The Big Bang Theory, not being able to speak to any woman unless he was intoxicated with a lot of medical drugs and alcohol. One day as he watched me get a hot blonde girl's number, he stepped me aside and said, “Why can't I just be like you, fearless around women.” I use to be worse than him at one point. I remember the first time I began to approach people during the day as a personal social challenge. Every time I would go out to do it, I would find someone to approach and would pussy out and find an excuse on why I couldn't do it. The fear of a woman rejecting me with her ice cold stare would send feelings of dread to my stomach. I had already been rejected once in my life and that was back when I was 14. Back then I really liked this girl in history class and every 125

guy in my class liked her because she was so fucking beautiful. I plucked up the courage to ask her out and she laughed at me in front of everyone in the class. She told me how stupid I was for liking her because there was no chance of me and her ever going out, even if I was the last guy on earth. After that, I began to even fear looking at a woman, in case she looked back at me and rejected me. I knew my friend was in the same position that I use to be in, so I decided to share with him something that really helped me conquer my fears, the Rejection Challenge. Imagine as you are walking down the beach on a beautiful day and the warmth of the sun is radiating down onto your face and as you are walking along in a calm and peaceful way, you see the most beautiful girl laid out on the beach in her bikini and she is just laid there like the beautiful temptress she is and soaking up the sun. You stop for a moment and the feeling in your gut sends a signal to your brain, you know that this signal is telling you to act and to approach her. However, in the split second of feeling that desire to approach, your mind starts to visualize all of the possible worst case scenario's that could occur. The feeling in your stomach quickly turns from desire to fear and every time you want to approach your mind gives you a fearful excuse on what would happen if you did. Afraid that by acting on your desire and approaching the beautiful woman it would land you in a position where you will be rejected and humiliated, so you begin to walk past her and with every step you take, you already begin to feel the regret of not acting on your desire.

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Usually the biggest thing that stops a guy from approaching a girl he desires is the extreme fear of humiliation and rejection. In that moment it can feel like your mind is split into two sides that are battling each other out and as the war rages on in your mind, you can't help but feel the anxiety of all the possible ways that the interaction could go wrong. No one wants to feel this way and get rejected on purpose, but what if you did? What if your mission was to go out there and your whole goal for the day was to get rejected by women on purpose? I created the rejection challenge because I was sick of not being able to approach that beautiful girl because I was literally frozen by the fear of rejection and humiliation. I was fed up of walking past a girl that I wanted to approach and regretting the fact that I didn't take action to meet her and lead with my desire. So I decided to change the way I thought about rejection, instead of worrying and anticipating the worst, I decided to purposely bring out the worst in every interaction I had during the challenge. The rejection challenge is designed to challenge the way you think about rejection and will help bring out an attitude in you necessary to succeed with women. Not only will it destroy your fears and help you put your skills into action, but it will help you understand the secret to rejection.

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The Rejection Challenge

Goal: 15 Rejections. Instructions: You have to be rejected 15 times while using any of the 5 openers below. The Rejection Openers: 1. “Hey, I'm an idiot! Will you be my friend?” 2. “Have you seen my friend Super Mario jumping around here? I swear the dude is on mushrooms.” 3. “I'm giving away free hugs, do you want a hug?” 4. “I am prince charming, at your service.” 5. “You know the guy who invented the toilet brush? That was me!”

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during the day, the rejection will hit you harder but it will have a more rewarding effect on you and you will notice that your confidence and attitude will grow from it. You may already know the secret of rejection but when you do the challenge, not only will you understand it but it'll change you on every level. It may seem really fucking stupid to say the lines and that's exactly what it should feel like because the fear of rejection is fucking stupid and you will notice that when you do the challenge, that there was nothing to really fear in the first place. After you have been rejected multiple times in a row, it will become easier and you will begin to feel calmness deep within you and you will begin to understand the secret of rejection. You will learn it's not about what could happen it's about enjoying what is happening right now. We worry too much about what will happen. In our minds we are in a constant residue of anticipating the worst possible scenario that could happen. As you know, it never does happen the way you anticipate in your mind. That is why when you do the rejection challenge you will find that it will be hard for you to get all 15 rejections because you will find that most girls are open and warm to your new found confident attitude. When we are anticipating rejection every time we want to speak to a beautiful girl, then we tend to have our mindset focused on scarcity. What the challenge will do is show you that there is an abundance of beautiful women and that it doesn't matter if a girl rejects you because there is

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no such thing as rejection. The more you get rejected as you do the challenge, the easier you will find it to approach and the whole meaning of rejection will completely change for you. The rejection challenge is designed to bring out an attitude in you that will help you convey a certain power that attracts women. By doing this challenge you will be able to understand what the power is by feeling it as you do it. You will only understand the secret to rejection when you have finished the challenge, not only will you understand it but you will feel it and it will change you and make you stronger for it. Remember when doing the challenge the “Not giving a fuck” attitude is not about being a total fucking douche bag, it is about not giving a fuck about what could happen and enjoying the moment for what it truly is. Not caring if the worst possible scenario could happen because you know the secret of rejection. That all rejection is merely just feedback and that any pain you feel just enables you to push yourself even harder to achieve your desires faster.

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Boundaries In every beginning of a relationship, whether it's a fuck buddy, open relationship, or an exclusive relationship, there is a subtle battle being played out that most guys are unaware of. It's the battle of the boundaries. At the very beginning of a relationship, when you do not know each other very well, you tend to test each other’s boundaries and see how far you can push to the limit. For example, when I tease a girl and banter with her, I am naturally always pushing and testing how far I can go to see what her limit is. This helps you discover what kind of person she is and how much sense of humour she has. Like most girls who are fun and have a good sense of humour, they don't have a strict boundary on being teased or having a laugh and you find that they are more enjoyable to interact with. If you meet a girl who has really strict boundaries on being teased and is too uptight about it, then you learn that she isn't as enjoyable and not fun to be around. Every guy as a set of boundaries that is important to him. Although deep down he may not realize what those boundaries are but when he meets a girl he likes and she eventually does something to disrespect him then he feels an emotion inside of his gut that tells him, “This is not okay.” Just like a lot of relationships at the beginning, there is probably going to be boundaries that are going to be stepped on out of disrespect and ignorance. She may not even know that these boundaries are being stepped on at the beginning and that is why it is your job to state your 131

boundaries to her when she does step over them. What most guys tend to do when girls step over their boundaries, is they let it slide because they don't want to ruin what they have. But by letting things slide and not stating your boundaries, she will catch onto the fact that she can get away with disrespecting you and will test you even more to see how much further she can go. Eventually, she feels like she can do as she pleases and will take you for granted, which inevitably leads to her cheating on you or breaking up with you. Michael and Julie have been seeing each other on and off for about a month. It isn't an exclusive relationship, but they are beginning to fall in love with each other. Michael decides to text Julie to see if she is free for tomorrow. She texts him back that she is free and they arrange plans. He is excited to finally get it off his chest that he wants to be exclusive with her and plans everything out so it is perfect. The night finally arrives and he gets in his car, a little nervous but on the whole his excited that he will finally get to tell her how he really feels. When he gets to the restaurant, he makes sure everything is perfect and prepared and waits for Julie to arrive. 20 minutes later, there is no sign of her. 40 minutes later, he receives a text, it's from Julie. “Sorry baby but tonight I can't make it, I have a lot of work to catch on and if I don't finish it by the deadline then I'm in trouble, sorry again baby xxx I'll make it up to you.” He sits there angry and frustrated that she didn't text him

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about it sooner. The one thing he really hates is when someone lets him down and doesn't tell him before hand. But he is afraid to tell her that he his pissed, so he lets it slide and gives her a chance to make it up to him. “Okay babes, it's not a big deal, we'll do something another time. Are you free tomorrow? Text me please xxx” He decides to act cool about it, like nothing ever happened and makes plans for tomorrow. Tomorrow arrives and this time before he plans anything, he receives a text from Julie, “I can't go out tonight, my family are coming round.” Although a little annoyed, he cannot argue with her and texts her, “Okay we will plan it for another day, whenever it is comfortable for you.” Slowly the passion dies out and it becomes a struggle to even make plans with her as he becomes her lowest priority. Each time she steps over his boundaries, he keeps it in because he doesn't want to lose her. Eventually she loses interest in him because she realizes that not only can she get away with anything and have him be okay with it, but every time she flakes on him or disrespects his boundaries, he becomes more emotionally invested and clingy. The biggest fear that stops guys like Michael from stating their boundaries is the fear of screwing it up and being alone. The mind plays tricks and blinds you from the fact that there is an abundance of girls out there who will respect you and your boundaries. But if you are not stating your boundaries when you feel that she disrespects you, then over time she begins to lose attraction for you.

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Women are looking for a dominant guy who knows what he wants and states his boundaries if they are stepped on. She wants a guy that isn't afraid to stand up for what he believes in and is willing to walk away at any moment if he feels disrespected. When a dominant guy states his boundaries to a girl, she will respect him and become more attracted to him for it. When you state your boundaries, you must be willing to walk away 100% and risk never seeing the woman again. It may be that she disrespected you because deep down she is a disrespectful person and you have to be willing to follow your boundaries and standards and stick by them. It also may be that you gave her another chance to respect you and she stepped over your boundaries again. For example, if she made plans with you and cancelled on you beforehand it isn't necessarily stepping over a boundary because things happen and plans get cancelled. But if she doesn't have the decency to cancel before the date or let’s say she flaked and cancelled on you multiple times in a row, then that is disrespectful and you have to state your boundaries and be willing to walk away. If you don't state your boundaries, she will just keep doing the same thing over and over again. When guys get into conveying boundaries and setting standards then it can be easy to become too uptight about respect. It is all about balance, if you are too extreme with stating your boundaries then you are going to look like a tight ass and she's going to look for someone who is a little more care free. But if you don't convey hardly any of your

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boundaries and standards and be too care free, then she will walk all over you and disrespect you. It can be hard to find that balance of where you are not being too uptight and where you are not being too carefree. It all depends on what your boundaries and standards mean to you. For example, one of my standards is that I do not allow a girl to disrespect the things that I love and my passions in life. But if she picks fun at my passions or things that I love and is teasing me, then I'm not going to be offended by that. If a girl however was to try and push me away from my passions by trying to control what I can and can't do in life, then I would be offended, I would state my boundaries to her and be willing to walk away at any given moment. If she gave me a hard time about my boundaries and tried to control me further then I would walk away. I would only give her one more chance if she got back in contact with me and understood that she couldn't control what I love to do. If she understood and realized that she couldn't stop me from what I wanted and never tried to again, then I would give her the benefit of the doubt. When you start to state your boundaries don't become trigger happy with it. Stating your boundaries is attractive but if you use it when you haven't had your boundaries stepped over on then you will just look uptight. Some guys will tend to learn this concept and go out and state their boundaries to women straight away and by doing so they turn women off. Not all women are going to step over your boundaries and disrespect you. By applying everything you learn in this book you will find that it is

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very rare that a woman will disrespect you because she is incredibly attracted and captivated by you. It also depends on the relationship you have. No one is perfect and if you are going to be in a relationship with a girl, there is going to be times were she lets you down or it appears she disrespects you, in these moments a charismatic lover won't be such a hard ass on her. He will give her the benefit of the doubt. It is best to try and be as carefree as possible but when your gut feeling tells you, “Hey, wait a minute... something is wrong here.” Then it is best to listen to your gut feeling. When guys are new to this, it can feel exciting for some of them because they have been use to letting girls walk all over them and stepping all over their boundaries. So when they learn about this concept, it can be easy for them to get drunk with power and go to an extreme with it. Ultimately try and be as care free about your boundaries and standards as you can, but never let a girl step over your boundaries and standards. Don't become reactive about it. Tell her how you feel and show your strength of how strongly you feel towards it, but never get angry about it. It's okay to be annoyed and a little pissed off about it but never to the point where you blow up in anger and you are shouting. Be willing to walk away if she disrespects you even more for stating your boundaries and standards. Imagine you have been seeing this girl casually and she invites you over to her house. However, as you are driving

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down to see her and as you are just about to get to her house, she texts you “I will be back in 5 minutes just wait outside.” You begin to wonder that maybe she just hasn't got back home yet or that she probably didn't realize that it takes less than 5 minutes to get to her place. After 15 minutes passes by, it is clear to you that she is just taking the piss and you naturally start to get a little pissed off. You text her, “Where the fuck are you?” You can't but help convey that you are a little pissed off. 5 minutes later you get a text, “I have to stay at Sharon's house now... can we do this later instead please? Sorry xxx” In that scenario, she definitely screwed with your boundaries. Even if you are care free and you aren't attached to any outcome, you are still human and naturally you feel a little pissed off. What would be the right way to state your boundaries? The doormat guy would text back to her, “No problem hunny bun. It happens. Please call me or text me later so that we can see each other again. I really like you xxx.” The doormat guy feels pissed off but he hides it because he feels lucky to have met the girl and he wouldn't want to do anything to lose her because girls like her are so precious and rare. He is afraid to tell her how he really feels and he prefers to hide it. In his mind he thinks that by acting cool with it then she will reward him and make it up to him. He lets her walk all over him because he is afraid to be alone and he was brought up to respect women unconditionally. The more she disrespects him, the more he chases her and gets more emotionally invested. As we

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know, this usually ends up in a train wreck. The reactive guy would text back to her, “WHO THE FUCK DO YOU THINK I AM? DO YOU THINK THAT YOU CAN JUST TAKE THE FUCKING PISS LIKE THAT AND STAND ME UP? YOU CAN FUCK RIGHT OFF!” The reactive guy feels even more pissed off and he doesn't hide it well. The more he thinks about how she disrespected him and made him wait, the angrier he gets. Usually the reactive guy, use to be a doormat and is so use to women disrespecting him that it isn't a surprise to him anymore. He anticipates the moment when the girl is going to disrespect him. It is like he is almost waiting for it to happen. He lives his whole life in reaction and he is growing tired of all the disrespect. The girl sends him texts, apologizing to him of what she had done and how she is going to make it up to him. Even after that ordeal, he pretends to stay angry a while longer because he enjoys it when she is apologizing to him and giving him attention. Even after she steps over his uptight boundaries and standards, he will stay with her because he enjoys the power he gets from having her apologize and making it up to him. The Charismatic Lover wouldn't text back to her. She let him down and made him wait and he doesn't want to waste any more time on a girl who messes him around like that. He doesn't waste time allowing one girl to fuck up his night. He may be a little pissed off with her but he

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isn't going to let that get to him. From where he is, he will call up another girl close by and make plans with her. He is smart, he knows that the girl will get in contact with him soon and when she does, he will tell her, “It's not cool to mess me around like that. I don't like that and I don't like flaky people in my life. If you are going to mess me around like that then I think it's best we go our separate ways.” He tests her commitment but he is 100% willing to walk away. However, he knows that no one is perfect and that people screw up and he is willing to give her one more chance if she is willing to commit to him and not disrespect him like that again. He knows there may be times when she lets him down in the future and he is carefree about it, but he knows the balance of stating boundaries and standards and if he feels disrespected he acts accordingly to what his gut is telling him. You do not react emotionally and get angry and you do not raise your voice. You also do not act like a door mat and let her walk all over on you either. You state your boundaries in a calm but dominant way. You make sure she knows that you aren't going to put up with her disrespect.

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1. You go out to the club with her and she leaves you in the club and goes home with her friends without saying good bye. Any girl that leaves you in the club without saying good bye is not worth ruining your night for. So instead of focusing on what she did, you start to focus on all the opportunities that can act upon to make the night fun. You don't know the full story, so you don't jump to any conclusions. When she calls you the next day, she talks to you like nothing has happened and that is when you state your boundary to her because you don't accept disrespect. “What you did last night wasn't cool, when you are out with someone you should have the decency to let them know that you are leaving. If you are going to be like that then you are clearly not worth my time.” 2. She calls to invite you out but you tell her you already have plans with your buddies and she tells you that you shouldn't go out with your buddies and that if you do that she will be very fucking annoyed with you. Your friends are important to you and anyone who gets between your friends is very disrespectful so you instantly state your boundaries to her, “Whether you like it or not, my friends are important to me. Tonight, I'm going out and enjoying myself and if you don't like that then I think you should leave because I live by my own rules sweetheart.” 140

3. She flakes on you three times in a row, she had the decency to cancel the plans but she keeps flaking on you with lame excuses. You understand when a girl cancels plans with you for a legit reason. It doesn't matter because you have other girls in your life so it's not like she completely stood you up. When she cancels again, you give her the benefit of the doubt because you know that shit happens and situations occur. You don't let it ruin your night because you have other girls to make plans with. When you make plans for a third time and she flakes on you again, you know that there is something up and that you can't allow her to keep flaking on you, so you state your boundaries to her. “I understand that shit happens and sometimes you can't make it and it's no big deal, especially if something important comes up. But I value my time and don't appreciate being flaked on like that. If you are going to commit to plans then you should at least follow them through and I'm here to make real connections and if you can’t commit yourself to that that then it's best for us to say goodbye.”

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Honest Intentions “This girl that I have been messing around with now wants a relationship with me and how do I tell her that I don’t want that?” This is the super-over used email that I get from guys around the globe and my answer is always the same, “Be honest with your intentions.” In our western culture, we are socially conditioned to believe that having fuck buddies or dating multiple women is a bad thing. It is social norm to assume that when you are dating a woman, then that has to be the only woman that you are going to be dating and she will believe this too. What this social belief does to you is it simply puts the fear in you, the fear that by expressing your intentions early on will result in a woman being disgusted and leaving you. However even though that this socially accepted belief is intact in our culture, many men and women will still go and have multiple relationships and fuck buddies. These men and women aren’t sluts either. They are also the men and women who believe in love and want to get married someday. However, they are acting out a desire and fantasy of being sexually explored and ravaged by a variety of different partners. As humans, we are very adaptable to situations and can adapt our standards to act out our drives. At the beginning of any relationship or friendship there is a process in which you create boundaries for each other and test how far you can step over each other’s 142

boundaries. Naturally, the one with the stronger boundary will have more power in the relationship. There are mental category slots in your mind that you place relationships with people in. For example, it wouldn’t feel comfortable slotting a family member into a sexual category slot and vice versa. When a woman feels no attraction for you then she will be more inclined to place you in the “friends” mental slot category. What most guys do not know is that when you are at the early stages with a girl, she is looking to place you in a mental category slot. A woman is always pinging to understand which mental category slot to place you in and it can be quite emotionally painful for her when she doesn’t know where to slot you. This is why women constantly have the “Defining the relationship” talk or constantly ask you “What are we?” When you are not honest with your intentions and just go with the motion, what happens is that society standards take over and influences her to place you in a mental category slot as relationship material or something more. Society standards and beliefs are always default, so if you do not lead or state your intentions, you risk having a relationship on false pretences. Women only cling on emotionally with false pretences and when they feel that you “Led them on” because you didn’t lead the relationship and state your intentions with her. This is where the emotional drama kicks in and why her negative emotions take over and make her do irrational

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things because you conflicted with her mental category slot. When you are honest with your intentions at the beginning and you tell her you want to see other people as well as her, then she will place you in the “Fuck buddy” or “Open relationship” slot and act accordingly with it. A woman will accept your liking of variety and dating other women if you state your intentions early and don’t allow her to step over that boundary. If a woman is attracted to you and you state your intentions early, she may test your boundaries by logically arguing with it at first but deep down she will be cool with it and may find it interesting. When you state your intentions, you are becoming more attractive to her because she knows she is in the presence of a man who knows what he wants and doesn’t fall back on his own beliefs. A woman can never be clingy with a man who states his intentions and doesn’t back down on his belief’s. When a woman is in the presence of a man who clearly knows what he wants with her, be it open relationship or fuck buddy, then she will adapt to his standards to please her sexual drives. This is also exciting and new for a woman to explore and gives her the freedom to grow sexually and enjoy a variety of sexual partners too. A huge problem is that most men don’t even know what they want, so they get into a relationship without stating their intentions only to realize that all along they just wanted a fuck buddy. When they get an emotionally upset

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woman because she wanted more and he didn’t define the relationship, then she gets bitchy and he writes it off as, “Oh, she was low self esteem” or “She was so clingy and needy anyways.” The man will see her as a clingy girl and get scared, while the woman will perceive him to be a creep who just wanted her for sex and had to lead her on to get what he wanted. When you state your intentions early, you do this at the very beginning and this can also even be after you have had sex but it has to be when you have shared something either emotional or physical with her. This will normally happen after you have had sex and you are getting to connect with her, because that is when she will slot you in a mental category. I always state my intentions like this. I will tell a woman “I want you to know that you’re an awesome person and I want to share more adventures with you, but I have to tell you that I can never be in a relationship, I like variety and like to have open relationships. We can have all the fun, all the passion, all the adventures, we can hold each other in our arms and do what lovers do but we can never have the commitment of a relationship. So I can tell you that being with me you will grow with me and we will grow fond of each and it will evolve, but never to commitment because I like open relationships and if you’re not cool with that then I understand.” Women thank and respect me for being honest and become more attracted to me for saying this. We always end up having more sex and she places me in the “Open relationship” mental category slot. We end up as lovers without the commitment and enjoy a variety of sexual

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partners and it is new and interesting to her. I have not had one woman who I stated my intentions to early that became clingy and needy with me.

Commitment I had a friend who was finding it very hard to meet women. He had broken up with his gf for almost a year but it was still affecting his life because he couldn't let go. He wanted to meet another amazing girl but he kept telling himself that he wasn't going to and that women like his ex were very rare. In January 2009 he was to go to Miami University for a foreign exchange program and he was looking forward to it and I was telling him about how amazing it will be that he'll get to meet all those beautiful girls. He agreed but he saw women of quality as very rare. When he arrived in Miami, he had messaged me, “The weather is great, I'm in a hostel right now but I'm surrounded by girls who aren't really that attractive and they are stuck up bitches.” He carried on with the negativity, “I met some people who were from my University back at home but one girl has this really huge nose and all of these people are just fazing me out, 146

whenever I go to talk to them, they walk away and whenever I ask them if I can join them, they tell me that they are busy.” This was all based on what energy he was putting out, he was judgemental and his focus was more about on what he didn't like instead of what was good and positive in his life. He told me that there were no beautiful women at all and that most women were just bitchy. I asked him “Well did you approach them?” He said, “No, most just keep themselves to themselves and are cold.” and I said “Well how do you know that they are cold and bitchy if you haven't approached them? Why don't you go approach some?” He tells me “There are no girls here that are my type... they are just ugly.” I look at the photos he sent me and see beautiful women in the background but instead of being with those girls he was with a guy who didn't seem too impressed to be in the picture with him and a girl who looked miserable, however the whole picture was surrounded by beautiful and exotic women smiling. Things didn't get better for him when he moved into his dorm room. He would complain that his roommate was quiet and would never speak to him, that the people he hung out with pretty much fazed him out and that there was just no girls that he deemed attractive. He was in Miami University surrounded by beautiful women and he was telling me none of them were his type, even though he had never approached a single one of them. I was in the UK at the time and we were exchanging contact through MSN so I couldn't help him as much as I

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wanted to but I decided to coach him. I ordered him to message 5 girls on Facebook and to message them that his new to Miami and that his looking for cool friendly people to meet and show him around. He did this and 5 hours later he tells me “Only 3 replied and one told me to fuck off.” He was still focused on the negative. I got him to speak to the 2 other girls that responded well to him and he added them to his messenger. 2 days later things were going well with the girls but there was nothing happening, no meet and no plans. “I like Melissa but the other one is a little boring.” I said “That's fine, now tell Melissa that you are having a mini dorm party and that she better bring friends and arrive here by 8.” He starts to give me excuses, “Oh no, I don't think she'll go for that, can't you give me a better response, maybe I should tease her a bit more.” I told him “Dude, the time is now, if she doesn't go for it, it's not the end of the world.” But the negativity and excuses began to flood in even more, “What will my roommate think about bringing girls into my dorm?” Again counter-acting his excuses, “Unless he prefers men, I'm pretty sure it'll put a smile on his face that there is hot girls in your dorm and I’m sure that would make you a fucking legend.” It still wasn’t enough to convince him, “But wouldn't it be weird if she turns up with her friends and it's just me here?”

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“No and tell her It's this huge party and everyone is coming and that there will be a DJ who plays all the major clubs in Miami and that you have a personal bar that has all this free alcohol and that you also have a monkey who likes to play poker for shits and giggles and then when she arrives, it's just you with a bottle of wine and you’ll be like... SUPRISE! She will ask you were the hell are the other people and the DJ. You will just smile and tell her that when everyone saw her coming down the hall the monkey got scared and caged itself back into the zoo to be safe and everyone decided to run away from her because she looked like a leprechaun looking for a pot of gold.” I tried to tell him that it didn't matter what he said and it didn't matter if it was just him and the girls, if he doesn't make it into a big deal then neither will the girls. The girls would find it funny and will just go with the flow and enjoy getting to know him with a bottle of wine and some kick ass music in the background. “It's about being the leader of your life, are you ready to take charge and show these girls that you don't need a fucking entourage to be the coolest mother fucker in the world? When you think about Robin Hood do you envision him hiding behind his merry men or do you see him fiercely stood alone with his bow and arrows?” I started out with no friends and in a town where I barely knew anyone and out of that I still managed to meet girls and bring them back to my HUGE house party. When they got there, they saw it was just an empty house and they would question me on where everyone was and

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every time I would tell them,”I am the party! Now who is up for a dance off? “ I would then proceed to whip their asses on the dance mat. The girls would go with the flow and would tell me how much fun they were having. I tried to reassure him, “If you are so insecure and worried about what they will think when they just see you with a bottle of wine, you can always tell them that no one has arrived yet and as the night goes on they won't make it a big deal because you will be in the momentum having fun.” At first, I was worried that being in a new town and away from home was going to be tough and that it was going to be hard for me to go out to clubs on my own. When I decided to go out and face the music, I would tell girls that my friends were wandering around or I would randomly point at people and tell them that I was out with them. The thing was, no girl what so ever asked who I was out with or judged me for it. It was my own insecurity that pressured me into worrying what girls would think of me if I was just out on my own. When I was a little insecure but I wanted to get women and her friends round, I would tell them that “I have some friends hanging out with me tonight we are going to have a movie marathon and get ourselves a big ass pizza... you can bring your friends if you like.” If they brought friends then I would feel a bit insecure when they asked were my friends were but by the time we was watching the little werewolf eat the girl on the TV it didn't matter because we were all having fun and just messing with each other. It

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was in that moment that I realized that it was only a big deal if i made it a big deal and that it was just an issue that was in my mind. I found that if I was having fun then girls would just go with the flow of the moment. “What if I can't find a shop open at this time that sells wine and what if it's cheap wine.” My friend was still resisting, he didn't realize that he was blocking himself from having an awesome time. “Look dude, it doesn't matter if you get 3 dollar wine, girls don't care as long as they are having fun in the moment. You can tell the most far fetch thing to them, like you have a whole fucking carnival in your dorm and it doesn't matter because not only do they find it funny, but they will forget about it and have a good time because you are having a good time and not taking things so serious.” Again he wouldn't give up, “But a 3 dollar bottle of wine would be cheap and they will find out that I am just cheap.” I sighed, “Dude, just tell them it's a 1000 dollar bottle of wine from France and that it was washed up on the shores of Paris and it was discovered that this old bottle of wine was so rare that shaolin monks had to protect it from wine thirsty ninjas... it doesn't matter just have fun with it.” In the end I convinced him to go ahead and invite her. She agreed to come to his mini dorm party. He then went out to get a cheap dollar bottle of wine.

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He came back online 8 hours after and said to me, “The party was great, they arrived and was surprised it was just me and they laughed and we all started to drink from the wine and I told them it was like a 1000 dollar bottle of wine... it made them feel guilty for drinking it because they actually believed it, but we all sat there and talked all night... Although I don't think that Melissa is really my type.” “Well did you do as I said? Did you have fun?” He hesitates, “Well we started speaking about politics and I found out that she was a republican and we had very different views.” Even though this guy had come from the same learning background as me, he never succeeded because his mindset was focused on negativity. It didn't matter if he was in a positive situation, he would always find a way to turn it around so that it became a negative. The problem was he didn't take responsibility for his life, he was focused on all the bad things that could happen and by doing so it became a self fulfilling prophecy. He didn't want success bad enough and he never gave any energy to the positive things that he did desire. All the 5 months that he was in University not once did he approach a girl. His excuse was that he couldn’t find a girl that was his type. He would go out to the bars and clubs but not once did he ever initiate contact with a girl. He would come home and tell me about all the negative things that had happened. It wasn't that he didn't want a

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positive life, it was that he didn't want it bad enough. His energy was spent worrying about what could go wrong. The opportunities where always there, but he just couldn't see them and he couldn’t use his creativity to create adventure. That's why I would go out alone to the clubs and bring girls home to my one man parties and even though I didn't have any friends at the time, I refused to surrender. Every time a hurdle presents itself, a positive person will jump over it, were as a negative person would stop and sit there to analyze it. There are two types of people, the observers and the creators. Are you a creator or are you an observer? Are you going to sit there and observe life or are you going to take action and create something beautiful? Those who don't take charge in life find that excuses and problems come to them easy. They are the observers of life, waiting for the right perfect moment but as we know that perfect moment never comes. You have to make a commitment to take charge and refuse to settle for less. When is a good time to start? The moment is now.

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Lessons from a Rockstar He was just a complete natural with women. Wherever he went, women would be all over him. He didn't even brag about the fact he was in a well known band. He just seemed to have this calmness about him that made him charismatic. In an attempt to find out this Rockstars secret, I sat him down and picked his brains. “If you could give any insight on your philosophy of being an attractive person what would it be?” He smiled and nodded “Okay brother, listen closely because I'm about to drop some knowledge here...” Approaching is all about having good energy. No one is off limits, be social with everyone. It's not about exactly what you say, it's more about the energy behind what you say. When you have that charismatic energy, women will begin approaching you. You have to be in the moment completely, you have to enjoy her and let that desire consume you in order for it to be passionate and good. Don't be afraid to ask her about her fantasies. Be enthusiastic about it and don't judge her for it. Be adventurous, make them happen.

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Music while fucking is sexy. Put on some music that intensifies the mood, sexual music like Marilyn Manson or Nine Inch Nails. Have the eyes of a lover. Feel consumed by your desire for her and project that with your eyes. A good example is Russell Brand when he talks to girls, his eyes are filled with passion and he is consumed by desire. I wasn't born charismatic. I just woke up one day and realized that I had to stop being angry at the world. I had to stop feeling like the victim and I had to take responsibility to make my own life awesome and not rely on other people to make my life awesome. In that moment my energy changed and I felt more at peace with myself. I now feel this good energy radiating from me with everything I do. People opened up to me in ways I had never seen before. Women were coming up to me and flirting with me. Women sense desperate energy because they have been surrounded by it all their lives from the boring and desperate guys that approach her. When you have good energy, women can sense that and in a way that turns them on. It's in the essence of every first impression. You don't have to be good looking to make a first impression because it all comes down to your energy. When you have good energy then women sense that and want to be around that and they are naturally drawn to you because of it. Energy is contagious, it's like how you can be in a room with a negative person and you start to feel it too. People want to be around other people who make them

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feel good. When you have a good energy people want to be around you because you make them feel good, women are drawn to you because they are captivated by your energy. Misinterpret the things she says as sexual. Energy is the driving force behind emotions. Energy is ultimately attraction. Drama can be a great way of keeping it passionate. Drama is a way of releasing energy. Be direct in what you want and be in the moment with it. Don't be afraid to go for what you want and don't be afraid to be direct and open about it. There is a strength in being direct because it's comes from the core of who you are. Always be willing to walk away. Don't use it against her by telling her. Just be prepared to walk away and lose it all at any moment. Tell her how your desire for her consumes you. Tell her how she makes you feel. When this comes from a place of passion it is very fucking powerful. Women are captivated by men who are captivated by them. That desire just consumes you and you radiate this energy between you. I remember the time I was in the club with this girl and we got talking but we couldn't keep our eyes off of each other. I would just look at her with desire

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and lust and she would catch my eye and feel that lust and desire too. And I would notice her doing it to me and we would smile at each other, aware of what was going on. I took her home that night and I have never fucked a woman so hard in my entire life. Curiosity is attractive. Don't reveal everything. Balance it out with challenging her and changing the subject. Like if I say to a girl, “Me and Michelle was doing that today.” and she's all like, “Who is Michelle?” I would be like “Oh just some girl... you don't know her... So what are you doing today?” Don't hide your desire for her, embrace it. Let it consume you. It attracts her because it gives off that energy that is irresistible to her. We create our own reality. What society does is to try and force you to live in someone else's reality. We have to let go of society standards and go for what we truly desire, in order for our reality to be beautiful. It all comes down to your beliefs and convictions and refusing to surrender. If you believe you are attractive then you are going to create that and it's going to become true. Love yourself and others will follow. Find your own unique gifts in this world. Be curious and open to growing and learning new things. Don't take life too serious. I have a friend who worries about everything and I'm the carefree guy who just doesn't

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give a fuck. He will lecture me about the seriousness of a situation and I would always wonder why he was so serious. I was just living for the moment and enjoying it for what it is. The way I see it... you can either be the observer of life or the adventurer living life. Finally, I hold the belief that I am a sex addict. That I am addicted to sex because it is something so pure and natural. Because I hold the belief that I'm a sex addict, I become a sex addict and my desires take over.

Lessons from a Motivational Speaker In my quest to learn how to better myself and appreciate more in life, I travelled all the way across the world to Australia to meet a legendary motivational speaker. When I met him in the flesh it was clear to me that the dude had his shit together. “What insight would you give to a guy who is learning how to become better within himself and with women?” He took a seat and prepared to give me invaluable insights into becoming more of a Charismatic Lover. 158

Become inspired from within. Be original, unique and let yourself shine from without. Don't conform to peer pressure. Find your own original gifts and lead with those. Believe in yourself. If you don't believe you can do it you're already finished before you get started. Believe in your own possibilities. Whatever you want in life, whatever it is that you want if you are determined and there is a fire of passion within you, you will achieve it. Have a clear vision. Unleash that strong gut feeling. Follow that strong gut feeling, to whatever it is that you want to do. Ask yourself if your life could look anyway that you wanted it to be, if you could be, do and have anything you ever wanted, what would that be? We set all these rules that we need to do in order to get started, “I first need to do this before I can do that” “I first need to feel this way in order for me to get there.” But when you tap into that strong gut feeling and you feel that passion for what it is you truly want, you realize that the only thing you ever need to get started is within you. Now is the time to get started. Do something, Do anything. Go out and start talking to that girl. Go out and get yourself that ideal style that you've always wanted to have but felt afraid to have. Do something. Get started. And when you do, don't look back, keep going forward and when those hurdles in life occur and you feel stuck and you have fallen down, pick yourself back up and feel that gut feeling inside of you even more determined to succeed and let

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that power unleash inside of you. That is the power that will change your entire life for the better. When you realize you have the strength to achieve what you desire, you realize that there are no limitations and that there is only freedom and that feeling of freedom, is the greatest feeling in the world. Take inspired action and find role models. The reason why Tony Robbins is so successful is because of the power and the motivation behind his words and the conviction in his energy that when you listen to him you become truly inspired and you start to take action. How badly do you want this? Become inspired by people, surround yourself with people who enhance yourself and help you become better in what you want. Find the people who are better with women, who inspire you and surround yourself with those people, surround yourself with that energy every waking day. What kind of women do you want? What qualities do you like in a woman? Inspire yourself by visualizing that. What kind of skills do you want with women? Find those people who already have that. You have unlimited potential inside of you. I invented my life. I changed everything so I could get to where I wanted. I used the pain when I fell down and I when I stood back up I became even stronger and more determined and that strength inside of me and that passion was so strong, that I refused to settle for anything less. That's what I want for you. I want you to access your

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passion, to access your gut feeling, to connect to that flow because those are the things that separate the successful from the failures. There were times I wanted to give up. There were times when a girl would reject me and it would just tear me apart. There were times everything was messed up, but it’s what you decide to do with that pain that helps you get to where you want. A failure would identify with that pain as his story. The successful one will feel that pain and he will refuse to settle and it will motivate him and push him even more. What is your motivation? What is it that pushes you to want to succeed with women and life? What is that force deep inside of you that pushes you to meet the women you desire? What is your motivation that strengthens you? What is it? Why do you want it? Your dreams are going to evolve. Your taste in women is going to evolve as you meet more women. Your skills are going to evolve, it is inevitable. Growth is a necessary part of life. From reading this you are going to evolve and become the best version of you. Every day, you are expanding and your goals, whatever they are will get bigger. Right now, you may only just want to meet one girl and to be able to have all the necessary skills to not screw it up, but as you evolve and expand into a better version of you, then you may want to meet multiple high class girls and have threesomes, you may want to learn certain skills that you feel you lack. Whatever it is that you want, get into the feeling mode that you can achieve it.

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There is not much difference to you and a famous guy. The only difference between you and say a celebrity is mindset and mindset can be learnt. How amazing does it feel right now to know that all there has to be is a shift in your mindset and with just one little shift, it could change your entire life. You could go from not being able to look at a woman and being able to meet multiple women. The evolution of you is always growing. It's not always going to be easy. It requires your conviction and your drive to build momentum and create those beautiful memories. It's also this conviction and drive that women find intoxicating. It's why they find musicians sexy, it's why artists are sexy to women, it's the feelings that they invoke in a woman because the man has a purpose. What feels better? Feeling good about your life or feeling shit about your life. You know that when you feel good about your life you tend to attract more good things into your life. When you feel bad about your life you can only focus on the bad things and you become momentarily blinded from the good things. You send out a bad energy that repels people and you do this without knowing it. People may not even be aware of it. They are also gravitating towards good energy subconsciously. The more you focus on the bad shit and the more scarcity you feel and the more you'll just attract it. Although I feel appreciation for everything that I have in my life, I am always moving towards the things that I desire. I am constantly growing and I don't settle for

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anything less. I feel blessed to be who I am because not only do I appreciate all the good things in my life but I'm constantly taking action to achieve more great things and to expand. When you are in appreciation, you are connected to abundance. Focusing on lack is why we feel scarce because we feel like we need things. But with appreciation instead of needing things we desire them because it's our purpose. It's about having appreciation for your life and being grateful for the things that you already have in your life because when you do that you are radiating good energy which is attractive to women. Good energy is contagious This is about building a better life. Always have a hunger for more but at the same time be grateful for what you already have and give energy and appreciation to that. Attracting women isn't going to satisfy you in the long run unless you are grateful for all the things that you already have in your life. This is how you become unattached to anything happening. It is connected with abundance because when you appreciate and feel good about the stuff you already have in your life you already feel abundant. This isn't some hippie shit. The balance is to feel grateful about your life and to let that energy drive you to attract more of what you desire into your life. The difference is when you finally understand this you won’t feel that you need it but you will desire it and strive for it. Needy and boring guys butcher appreciation because they do it to get something out of a woman. They come from

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the wrong energy and they use it in a way that's not genuine. It is always better to express your appreciation when you genuinely feel it. Boring and needy guys go to the extreme with appreciation and it loses its power. It doesn't have any good energy behind it because there is no true appreciation. Expressing true appreciation is about feeling that good feelings in the moment and expressing it. You don't do it to get anything from her, you give it to her because you are sharing the good energy and sharing how you genuinely feel. Appreciation is not a chore or a way of impressing people. This will just come off as needy because those guys are attached to getting a reaction in return. I appreciate a woman's beauty and my desire for her and I can't help but express it to her because it's how I truly feel. I'm open and vulnerable to that. When I'm appreciating things in my life then I am feeling good and because when I feel good I tend to attract good things into my life. I attract women into my life because they gravitate towards my good energy. When I appreciate myself and the good things in my life then I am respecting myself and showing others that I value my life. Always move towards beauty and abundance.

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The Ideal Date “Where are all the adventurous men? Why does he always ask me what I want to do? Why do I have to be the one to make the decision on where to go?” Those were all the questions on the mind of the girl I was dating back in 2005. She told me that if I was to get a girlfriend then I had to be more creative and be more of a man. But how does one become creative if he doesn't know where to start? What defines becoming more of a man? I was confused. I was doing everything that I could possibly do. It didn't matter if I took girls on a date to the zoo, cinema, coffee, romantic dinner, night in or even to a concert, they just didn't want to know me. I thought maybe it was me, maybe I just wasn't an attractive guy or maybe my personality just didn't spark anything. I remember the first time I ever really stopped to think about this problem I was having. I asked another girl I was dating and picked her brains. “You are an amazing guy and you are totally funny but I feel like I have to make the decisions all the time and when you do eventually pick a date for us to go on, it just isn't fun.” I went to the seduction community for guidance. I thought, maybe they could recommend me better date idea's.

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Here is the post that I had made 4 years ago: Me: I'm currently dating this girl and she says I don't lead and now that I know this, I got that part handled. But when it comes to dates, I just don't have the creativity to pick an ideal date. If you guys could recommend me some ideal dates that would be awesome thanks. Poster 1: Take her to the movies. Poster 2: Take her to the movies on a Wednesday. Bowling can be good but ends fast... Poster 3: Take her to the planetarium or zoo :-) Poster 4: ...your bedroom? Poster 5: An effective date is to take her to a restaurant but have her pay for her own meal. But make sure she tries something with chocolate, as it is an aphrodisiac.

I was confused, I was doing most of those things but there seemed to be something missing. I began to focus on becoming my ideal self instead and I got results, but I still felt like there was something missing about dates. There was something girls were looking for that I just didn't pick up on and no one seemed to be able to explain it to me. Then when I was in London in 2007, I accidentally 166

stumbled upon it. I met this beautiful girl while I was attending my friend's seminar. It was time for a lunch break and I took the liberty to bring this girl along with me for coffee. She told me about her goals and passions in life and we shared stories. But I was in a spontaneous mood and I felt like doing something different. I just never use to have the balls to act on my spontaneity. Today was different, here I was sat in an open door coffee shop with all these people surrounding us and I whispered into her ear, “Go along with this okay.” She looked at me all curious, “What?” I smiled at her and grabbed some tin foil and began moulding it into the shape of a ring. I got down on one knee and said “Lisa, I haven't known you for that long... But it feels like I have known you a life time. You have touched me were no other girl could possibly touch me and it makes my heart flutter just thinking about the thought of you and me together. Even though it has been pretty short... I feel like I have known you a life time, so I'm going to do this... because it comes from the heart.” Everyone looked at us in amazement and she was laughing. I had only known her for an hour and she clearly knew it was a joke but everyone around us took it serious. I then placed the tin foil ring in front of her and said, “Will you marry me?” Everyone stood in awe and she looked at me and laughed and she played along like I asked her too. “YES! Yes I will!” I put the ring on her finger, hugged her and kissed her and everyone clapped! Everyone came up to us and congratulated us and offered us free drinks and wedding advice. What had happened was like magic in front of my eyes, it

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was an amazing moment that was just created out of pure creativity. After the seminar, she told me “Never have I had such an amazing day, it was so fun and amazing!” That girl ended up becoming my girlfriend and even when we broke up, to this day she will send me texts from time to time and be all like “Remember the time we had our fake marriage? That was so fun.” or “Hey fake husband how is life?” When I began hanging out with rock stars I noticed they do exactly the same thing! No matter where they went or what they did, it was always fun and spontaneous. When I hung out with them it was so exciting because you could never know what to expect or were you would end up next. I felt like I was on the Truman show and cameras were just following us at all times, that we where inevitably part of a story that was our adventure. Women are looking for the exact same thing. They are looking for adventure and to be a part of a story. It's not necessarily about being the romantic hero who sweeps her off her feet. It's about creating an adventure that she gets to be a part of. She longs and desires to be with a man who can bring her out of everyday routine life and into an emotionally driven and exciting world that she gets to be a part of. This is why women envy romance films and why characters like Hugh Grant and Johnny Depp are fantasized and idolized by so many women. They trigger a passionate spark inside of a woman that she cannot get off

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any other guy. She is but a lonely soul in an abundance of indecisive men who just don't get it. She reads romantic novels, watches romance films and TV shows because in that moment she feels like she could be a part of that story too. When she is in the presence of an adventurous man, he generates huge attraction and sexual tension in a woman but most of all, he creates an amazing connection that all women desire and long for. Most men tend to see dates as straight forward and logical. They pick something they want to do, like going to the zoo and ask if the girl wants to join them. When they get to the zoo, they rely on the environment to keep things fun and exciting and they treat it as an interview. Usually if something cool happens in the environment they may get lucky and use it to their advantage which makes the date fun but this is very rare. Women are use to these straight forward dates all the time. We wait around for stimulus and fun to happen when we should be going out there and making it happen. Even guys that are attractive to women can fall short to this. They will be straight forward and ask a woman out on a date. Then they go on the date and he is funny and charming and she is having a good time but there is just no special bond there. She is attracted but there is just no spark and no passion, it's the same old feeling that she is use to. Even though the guy was attractive and had all the right personality traits, it wasn't compelling enough because there was no adventure. She may give him a chance and

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she may even sleep with him but she would easily trade him for that adventurous guy who creates dates into adventures. The strongest man is always the one who can adapt and be creative because being around him gives her good feelings that she soon becomes addicted to and he becomes the source of great positivity and excitement in her life. She never knows what to expect with him and that excites and arouses her. He isn't afraid to just slam her against the wall and fuck her and she knows that with him this could happen at any moment, she feels its risk taking and amazing to just be in the presence of him.

“It's not about being the most dominant guy. It's about being the most creative guy and the most risk taking. Creativity comes before dominance because the creative guy can adapt to situations and make things fun and pull people into an emotionally driven world. The creative guy can create dominance by taking risks.” - Firefly

Most men tend to see dates more as a battleground were the battle of love is played out, in which we win the woman over. She begins to play the role of the judge and by the end of the night she gets to decide in which direction it goes.

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This makes men frustrated because even if they do everything right personality wise they tend to screw up on the date because it is programmed into them by society and the media to act on stimulus rather than create it. When you turn dates into adventures, there is no concept of “You V them” It becomes about “We are having a fun adventure.” You see the world as your oyster and you start to create opportunities and seize the moments by taking liberty. You literally feel free in that moment because there are just tons of creative and inspired thoughts coming into your head, waiting for you to act upon and the more you act upon it the more emotionally driven and exciting the adventure becomes. She doesn't play the role of the judge with you because it does not exist when she is around a guy who is adventurous. She is the beautiful woman that you desire and want to enjoy the moment with and she begins to play along and makes it fun too. You inspire her to be more risk taking and creative, she begins to relax more and sexual tension starts to develop. When you truly turn dates into adventures you don't communicate to her “Judge” side you communicate to the core of the woman, the person who she naturally is. You open her up and as the night progresses and you enjoy yourselves in the moment, she begins to blossom like a beautiful flower. It no longer becomes about you trying to win her over, if anything she fights for your attention. It becomes more about the momentum and the

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feelings associated with it. In that moment only you and her will know what truly happens. This is truly attractive to women. Start treating dates as an adventure. By treating dates as an adventure you no longer play the bullshit roles of “You V Them” and it no longer becomes a power play. When you do this, women can let go and be wild with you. She will feel that she can be herself around you and that all amazing possibilities can happen with you.

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In essence turning dates into adventures is all about: Treat dates as an adventure Leading and making the decisions Taking liberty Being adventurous, spontaneous

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When you create this magical adventure that she gets to be a part of, you capture her heart. This is truly what girls are looking for, that amazing date with that amazing guy that she can tell all her friends about. Girls crave and desire to be a part of an adventure. An adventure that you create out of pure spontaneity and creativity. Girls will read romance novels and watch romantic movies just wishing 173

to be a part of something of a story. This is the passionate spark that is kept alive inside of her, waiting for the day that amazing lover comes and leads her into an amazing adventure that will capture her heart and be in her memory forever.

Try this: Go to a store with a girl. Tell her that you both have to buy each other the best gifts ever on a budget of £2. You can either hand her the £2 or get her to pay for it. And you split up and go around buying each other a cool gift. But you have to make it a surprise and hide it from each other till the end of the date. This creates anticipation and excitement and brings good feelings to the date. Get her something girly and funny. Like a plastic fairy wand.

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Taking Liberty By nature women are naturally submissive and men are naturally dominant. You may have heard women saying, “There just aren't any REAL men around anymore.” That saying is derived from the frustration of women meeting men that are unable to lead and take liberties. A man that takes liberty is a man who acts on his desire, creates opportunity and makes the most out of every situation. He realises that life is too short to make regrets so he seizes every opportunity to make his life fun and adventurous. Women find this incredibly attractive because he demands more from them and gets more from them in return.

In essence, taking liberty is all about: Acting on your desire Creating and seizing opportunities Flirting

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“You miss all the shots you never take.” - Michael Jordan

Usually the worst thing stopping a man from succeeding with women is his own mind because he never took the liberty to act on what he wanted and allowed his fear to get in the way of what he wanted. So many times we do not approach that beautiful woman simply because we become a prisoner in our own minds. We begin to feel the worries and consequences of taking liberty and we chicken out on yet another opportunity. It's almost like there are invisible handcuffs constricting our freedom and our right to take liberty. We become our own worst enemies by being submissive with our own desires. There is a motivational quote in School for Scoundrels that pretty much sums up what taking liberty is all about.

“What does it take to be king of the jungle? Do you have to be the fastest or the strongest? No. Do you know what the lion’s most powerful weapon is? It's his roar. It's that roar that enables the lion to take what is rightfully his. You think a lion asks for his dinner? He takes it! Do you think a lion asks for a promotion? He takes it! Does a lion wait for approval? He takes it!” - School for Scoundrels

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A dominant man, who makes more demands, creates more opportunities, acts on what he desires, who is free from his worrying mind and is a little cheeky and direct about what he wants, will find that women find him incredibly attractive and generally give more to him then she would ever give the submissive man. She may say no to him or reject his demands but it doesn't mean she is rejecting him. It simply means that she is attracted to him and is flirting back and testing his strength. This doesn't always happen and this will only happen in cases were a woman is highly attracted to you but doesn't want to come off as easy to get. The dominant man who takes liberty is not an impatient man. Because she is flirting and testing you then your response to her “No” should always be a flirt. You want to convey that it's not the end of the world and that you can drop a demand but you will pick it back up later if you desire it and be persistent. You are not being a pussy by dropping your demand for the time being. You are simply showing that you aren't attached to an outcome and that it's never a big deal. The next time you take liberty, she will comply positively, as she doesn't want to risk screwing up her chances with such an attractive man.

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Impatient (Frustration): Him: “Come here and kiss me.” Her: “No I won't.” Him: “Come here and kiss me now!” Him: “I'm making myself a sandwich... Show me were you keep the bread.” Her: “No you're not.” Him: “I want a sandwich... So I'm making myself a sandwich.”

Patient (Flirting): Him: “Come here and kiss me.” Her: “No I won't.” Him: *Smiling* “You will later.” Him: I'm making myself a sandwich... Show me were you keep the bread.” Her: “No you're not.” Him: “*Smiling* Ohhhhh I bet you ate all the bread didn't you? It's okay, don't be embarrassed... It's okay to have the munchies, but you should really do something about your smoking weed problem.

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attached to any outcome. It's always better to say something then not to say anything at all. Taking liberty is an art that you practice whenever you have that gut feeling to do so or feel the desire to act. You will find that when you do start to take more liberty in life, that you will simply get more in return. Successful people demand more from life and seize more opportunities, usually the only difference between a successful and an unsuccessful person is that the successful person demanded more from people and life. Don't become too demanding, the guy who asks for things all the time. Taking liberty is something you use when you have the gut feeling to act on a desire or seize an opportunity or if you want to use it as a flirting tool to increase attraction and sexual tension. Taking liberty does not always have to be about “getting something.” I only use “making myself a sandwich” as an example. It can also be about conveying that dominant cheekiness that women find incredibly attractive. You can make farfetched demands and she will know you're not being serious and she will still respond the same way she would if you were acting on your desires.

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Farfetched Examples: *Through texting* Him: “Come here and clean my kitchen.” Her: “Pmsl.” Him: “Also I like my coffee with just a little milk.” Her: “Lol you are cheeky but cute.” *In Person* Him: “Okay that's it... I'm going to tickle you with my penis.” Her: “Haha! No you’re not!” Him: “Your right, I wouldn't be able to control myself.... I'd probably end up cumming on your face or something.” *Phone call* Him: “I'm coming over to update my Facebook status.” Her: “Why? Haha.” Him: “Because it's super important... be there in 5.” Her: “Ok Haha.”

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and he comes round to change it to 'Adam is making sexy time with Chloe at her house.' And then one thing led to another and... It was so exciting!” It's attractive to be “that guy.” I get asked why I can get away with taking liberty and the reason is because I come from a place of self amusement and cheekiness. It's the kind of cheekiness that is sexually flirting with a girl in such a way that it's a little over the top. But I get away with this because I stay true to what I say and I don't flinch and I feel comfortable saying it. It's not like I'm going to start tickling her with my penis and she knows I'm flirting in a sexual way. It still conveys taking liberty because it's still a cheeky flirt and a farfetched version of acting on my sexual desires. By doing this I increase sexual tension. You really can't go wrong with taking liberty if you're doing it correctly but if you don't understand the concept then it can shift from taking liberty to just plain rude. You don't want to convey total rudeness. Instead convey cheekiness. The difference between rude and cheeky is that rude is insulting and hurtful, where cheeky is playful, funny, dominant and flirty.

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looked genuinely scared for her life. She acted kind out of fear and dodged his kiss. This was a bad way to initiate conversation because it is just plain fucking rude and frat boy style that turns women off. Its okay to call girls names in the context of flirting. I even call some women “cunt” but they know I'm teasing and I do it in a playful way. However, this doesn't convey dominance nor flirting, it conveys drunk and weird behaviour. Him: “Suck my dick.” A girl is not going to suck your dick just because you tell her too. This is just plain rude to her. You can get away with saying things like this if it's in the context of flirting and role play, such as “We would go to Miami and chillax on the beach and ride with dolphins... but in all fairness I think you'd just end up sucking my dick.” It becomes a cheeky flirt. This isn't a flirt because it doesn't convey the right cheekiness nor is it really taking liberty. It's behaviour that you would expect from a desperate drunk dude. Him: “Let's fuck.” Her: “Let's not.” (Instant turn off) This is an instant turn off for a girl. It's something you would expect to hear from a drunken dude in a bar. This does not convey flirting, only desperation. It might work on an overly sexual girl but most probably she would have fucked you before saying this. When I was fifteen, I got invited to a small party at my cousin’s house. I didn't feel very comfortable there because I was a very submissive person back then. As I was

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walking towards the house, I felt a feeling of anxiety fill my body, I felt so constricted and out of place. As I entered the house, I saw 3 beautiful girls, my cousin and my best friend. They were all so relaxed and comfortable and just generally rocking the fuck out. I sat in a small awkward space sandwiched between a hot girl and my best friend who was fully relaxed. I was offered a beer and started slowly sipping it. I pretended to ignore the girls out of aloofness but deep down I was extremely nervous. However, I witnessed my best friend get up to see the girls and he danced with them to the music, while I sat there awkwardly watching it go down. “Ever had a three way kiss? We are all going to kiss each other, 1, 2, 3 GO!” I saw my best friend kiss two beautiful women at the same time. I remember asking myself what made him so fucking comfortable? As I finished my beer, I held onto the empty beer can and then my friend looked at me with a relaxed smile, “Dude, give us your empty can, I’ll get you another beer.” He grabbed my empty can and reached into the fridge and pulled out a beer for me. I couldn't believe how comfortable he felt at my cousin’s house. I mean it wasn't even his house and he was going into my cousins fridge and acting like the host. It felt like he owned the place, my cousin never seemed to mind. In fact my cousin encouraged me to do the same. “Make yourself at home.” I just couldn't do it. I was already feeling bummed out that I couldn't approach these beautiful girls to save my life and now I couldn't even feel comfortable in my own family’s house. Then my friend went to the music player and put in his own music CD in and everyone danced to it

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even my cousin, which shocked me because he hated that kind of music with a passion. So I finally plucked up the courage to ask my friend why he felt so comfortable in the house and why he took so many liberties almost to the point where he was being cheeky and he looked at me and said “Because I can.” I remember asking myself, what did my friend have that I simply didn't? I began to notice that my friend never seemed to worry about the consequences and it was almost like he did not give a fuck. The difference between me and him was whenever we had the desire to do something, I never took action and allowed my limiting worries to take over were as he would just act and not give a fuck. I was held back by my own self, almost as if there were invisible handcuffs bounding me to my fears and worries. The reason we don't take liberty is because we don't believe that we have the freedom to do so, we tend to become affected by our most dominant worries and we give ourselves excuses to why it's okay to not approach that girl or to seize that opportunity. When you break away from those invisible handcuffs, it's in that moment you realize that deep down you was always free to do anything you wanted to do and desire, that the only thing stopping you was yourself. Maybe you already broke free from those handcuffs, but for those who haven't, I want you to make a promise to

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yourself that today you break free. The first time I broke free from those invisible handcuffs and took more liberty was the first moment in my life that I truly felt like a fucking rock star.

Affirmation: Today I break away from these invisible handcuffs and from now on I act on every desire and seize every opportunity because I take liberty!

I had a crush on this beautiful blonde girl, she was everything I desired in a girl but I just didn't have the guts to tell her that I liked her. So I sat awkwardly on her couch and we watched Bridget Jones diary in complete silence. I wasn't very good at the time with dates so she was doing most of the leading. As she held onto me while watching the film, she leaned over to me and as she did I smelt the beautiful honey scent perfume that was radiating from her neck. I realised that she wore that perfume because she was expecting me to make a move on her. As the night grew on I began to feel more and more frustrated that I wasn't making the move. My mind was racing with worries and fears, I just felt like I couldn't pluck up the courage to kiss her and I wanted to so badly. As the night winded on and I went into the kitchen to get a drink, I could see that she was disappointed and that she 185

wanted me to make a move. I then had an inspired thought and asked myself what would my friend do? I knew I had to do something. I had to take liberty of this situation. So I asked myself, what did I want right now? I felt sweaty and nervous so I wanted a shower. Then out of pure creativity and pure balls I decided to just get naked. She looked in horror “What the fuck are you doing?” I smiled at her “I'm getting a shower, come join me... I promise I'll get you wet.” She scans my face for seriousness and then just dived on top of me and we made out. It was so passionate and exciting. I felt like a new man inside with the ability to just be completely free. After I got out the shower, I was feeling really hungry and desired a sandwich. Instead of kindly asking if I could have a sandwich I took liberty just like my best friend would of if he wanted a sandwich. “I'm going to make myself a sandwich, show me where you keep the stuff.” I noticed that she began to relax as I made myself at home. Biting on my victory sandwich I realised that this was what it was like to take liberty, that this is what it was like to act on your desire. I swore from this day on that I would always act on my desire and seize all opportunities and I would take more liberty. It became more automatic as I went into her bedroom and got into her bed, she followed and we fucked again. The next day, I received a text and I will never forget what it said “Last night was amazing, never have I met such a guy that was completely relaxed and adventurous, other guys are always so tensed around me but you just made everything into an adventure and I

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generally felt more relaxed with you... You're awesome.” So that's when I started to see the results of how taking liberty is an attractive dominant quality. There is a social pressure that acts crippling to you, that makes you think you are being TOO cheeky and generally taking the piss. But ignore this feeling, as long as you aren't taking this to the extreme and you are going for what you desire then that cheekiness is what makes you more irresistible to women. As children, we naturally had these dominant qualities inside us. Remember when you were a kid and you would grab a cookie from the jar without even thinking about the consequences? We had a cheekiness quality about us that when we saw something we wanted, we took the liberty to get it. However as we grew older, social conditioning took over and we learnt manners and lost touch with most of our natural dominant qualities. A natural never lost his dominant qualities that women find incredibly attractive. A natural doesn't exactly know what his doing because his just doing what he did since he was a child, he actually enjoys taking liberties because it's a true expression of who he is and he feels that it is his birth right. Don't overdo taking liberty. It should flow when you feel its right to do so. If you want to do something with her, instead of asking, just take liberty. The difference between asking and taking liberty is vast and powerful. When you

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simply just ask, you aren't conveying that attractive dominance. Don't take this to the extreme and think that asking for things is submissive. But if you really want to do something and you desire to do it, it's usually better to take liberty then to ask.

The difference between asking and taking liberty is this: *Asking* “Can I come round later so that we can watch a film?” *Taking Liberty* “I'm coming round later and watching a film with you”.

It is perfectly okay to simply ask to do something with a girl. You should always mix it up and never be extreme with one concept. However, it's usually always better to take liberty if you really desire to do something with her and want to make it more adventurous and flirty. When you simply ask her she will usually give you a boring logical answer, “Sure that sounds like fun.” or “I'm kind of busy tonight.” When you take liberty you also appeal to her emotions. When you say you are coming round and watching a film with her, all these emotions build up inside of her, “Oh god I haven't put my make up on yet.” “His really cheeky 188

but I like him.” “My house is a mess!” unpredictable! But it's exciting!”

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These moments create excitement and sexual tension in her because she knows that she is in the presence of a guy who takes charge and goes for what he desires. A girl is naturally submissive so she wants you to take the responsibility to create the adventure and the exciting moments. You become the dominant man she dreams of and desires because its guys like you who take liberty and you get what you want because you feel deserving to do so. You convey your dominant cheekiness and confidence and she gets sucked into your passions and desires because it's that unpredictable spark in life that she rarely gets to be a part of and you possess it and you convey it when you take liberty.

Phone/Text Examples of Taking Liberty: Him: “I'm coming over to your house and eating your food... you better have an Xbox too missy” Her: “Come round then you cheeky bastard! I will beat your ass on my lovely Xbox! Hehe. Her: “What you doing today? Him: “Well I'm coming over and making myself a sandwich.” Him: “That's settles it... You're coming here and we're going to go play guitar hero... then you can cook us your best dish.” 189

Her: “What's your favourite dish? I can cook a great Mexican dish.” Him: “Do you have cereal at your house? Well I'm coming over and I’m making myself a bowl of cereal and watching the TV” Her: “You’re coming over now? Haha okay! But you're not stealing my coco pops... I love them! And now I have to hide them!” Him: “I'm going to sleep in your bed, you can have the couch.” Her: “:O Cheeky man! I'm not having the couch! Can’t we just share the bed?”

Taking Liberty on a Date Examples: “Ever been to Charles Ice cream Parlour? Never? Well I'm taking you now! You can buy me the double chocolate chip ice cream... it's my favourite. *Smiling*” “*Smiling* So when are you wining and dining me?” “Pick me up tonight, around 8 and I suggest you wear something classy because you’re taking me to that Sushi place by the sea... I just hope you tip the waiter this time. *Smiling*” “*Smiling* so when are you going to get me drunk?” “Okay, you can buy me a drink but not too much, I have a 190

weak bladder. *Smiling*” “Let's go back to your place so that I can check my email.” “Let's go to your house so I can update my twitter/face book status.” Smiling is crucial when you deliver liberty. It's the cheekiness in taking liberty and smiling at the same time that make it such a magical combination. Smiling conveys you don't take yourself too seriously and that you are always having fun, that even though you act on your desires and you demand more, that it doesn't matter what happens because you are also amusing yourself. It's also charming and mischievous. It’s this magical combination that creates more attraction and sexual tension.

Text: “I'm calling you right now.” “Come and massage me.” “I'm coming over and using your shower.” “I'm stopping by your house and making myself a sandwich.” “Come here and pluck my eyebrows.” “Come here and wash my car.” “I'm coming round to check my email.” “Call me now.” “I'm coming over to watch a film with you.”

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Your intentions are to flirt and be a little cheeky. Usually she will flirt back and text something witty back or call you cheeky. This is all good because this sets the flirting theme. If you actually want to go round or have her come round its usually best to add afterwards “Seriously though, come round/I'm coming round now.” Sometimes she will text you back and actually acknowledge and expect you to come round to hers or to go to yours. At worst it is a flirt that creates attraction and sexual tension, so you can't go wrong either way. Remember the difference between a want and a statement is the power. A want doesn't have as much power in it because it isn't dominant. Wanting something never actually gets you the thing you want. When you say you want something then you have to rely on her to make the plans because you're not taking action dominantly like you should be doing. This is why dominant guys get away with more because they act on what they want and lead it in the direction they want by stating their desire.

Want: Him: “I want to see you.” Her: “I can't today... I have plans.” Who knows she might have plans but she probably doesn't. She didn't want to feel the pressure of having to make the decisions. Guys tend to lose out big time because instead of taking 192

liberty they simply just say what they want to do and expect an answer or a reaction from the girl. She rejects him because he simply doesn't possess the dominant qualities of leading and taking liberty.

Statement: Him: “I'm coming round right now and playing on your guitar hero... I will kick your ass.” Her: Oh really? Bring it big boy, I always win at guitar hero!” Notice that when I stated what we were going to do, she never rejected it. She flirted back and now all I have to do is show up at her door with my guitar hero game face on and it becomes an adventure. Here are two examples that you can use to make endless demands and desires: “Come here and...” This example is great because you can make endless demands that range from being serious to being overly farfetched. “I'm coming over and...” This is a fun example because it actually involves meeting up and seizing opportunities, this can lead to all kinds of crazy adventures. It also gets her thinking about you and doing things together. These examples are great to use when you are just starting out. Don't expect instant results 193

straight away, as you train yourself to take more liberty, you will begin to notice the more freedom that you actually have and the more freedom that people will give you to express yourself. Sometimes an opportunity to take liberty will open to you and you'll need to be creative. These moments are what make you spontaneous and unpredictable. My friend Firefly has a really cool hairstyle and girl's would come up to him and stroke his hair and say “I love your hair... I want to touch it!” At first he didn't know how to respond to this. So when he started taking liberty, he got a creative idea on how to respond back. He would smile at her with a mischievous look in his eye and say, “And I want to spank your ass.” Then he would spank her ass and would end up in an instant make out session. Another friend of mine Crash would use taking liberty in a playful and teasing way that conveyed the right cheekiness. One time there was this girl he was bantering and flirting with in his business class. He had her kiss his pen, “Come on, pen kisses.” She would flirt back playfully like “Nooooo” Then he grabbed her pen out of her hands and said “Hey let me see.” Teasing her even more and taking more liberty and creating attraction. Then this became a flirting theme and it all revolved around this pen because he used his creativity to make the momentum fun. He wasn't trying to get laid or get the girl. He was just

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creating a fun moment and being creative about the situation that he was in. Most guys tend to have a boring situation in front of them and dwell in the negative energy. But the dominant guy, who takes liberty, is the guy who has the creativity to be in a boring situation and turn it into an adventure and spread the positive and fun energy all around him. Two guys wait for their name to be called out at the doctors. However, the doctor seems to be taking his time and the moment drags on. There is a beautiful girl reading a magazine and a children's book is resting on the magazine rack. Two guys waiting there in the same situation, yet two very different experiences.

The Submissive Guy: He sits down and waits for his name to be called out. 10 minutes pass and he looks at the clock impatiently waiting to be seen by the doctor. He starts to fidget and looks around at random leaflets that are attached on the wall. His whole body looks uneasy as time goes on. He keeps looking at the clock every minute, just hoping that the time will pass. Everyone can sense his uneasiness and impatience. The doctor finally calls his name out and he lets out a huge sigh of relief and follows the doctor.

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The Dominant Guy:

He sits down and waits for his name to be called out. He notices a beautiful girl with red hair and he knows in that moment that he has to approach her. He starts to get creative ideas on how to make the approach fun and playful and within a split second he grabs the children's book and says to the beautiful girl, “Read this to me, I can't read and you look like you know what you're doing.” All while possessing a cheeky smile. She begins to flirt with him and he tells her “I have to confess I can actually read but I just wanted to meet you because you seemed pretty cool.” Then he begins to flirt and tease her some more, they touch in a flirty manner and share stories. Everyone can sense that this is a cool and fun guy. All eyes are on him and this girl. The doctor finally calls his name out and he exchanges phone numbers with the girl and follows the doctor. The situation was no different for either guy. The difference was the dominant guy asked himself “How can I make this fun?” He saw a beautiful girl and he just had to approach her. He had the freedom to act on his desires and create a fun moment for himself and the people around him. While the submissive guy was wrapped up in his own limiting mind, he knew she was a beautiful girl but the limiting and self doubting mindset kicked in and he felt he was out of her league and that she would never go for a guy like him, so he never even dared to try.

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The dominant guy could have been shot down but acted on his desires and took charge, if he was to rejected then he would simply find another way generate fun. In essence, this is what taking liberty is about.

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When you understand this then the world is truly your oyster.

Freedom Freedom isn't about being free from problems. They serve you for a purpose. Freedom isn't about being in the moment because being in the moment is inevitable. Freedom isn't about having no ego or no mind. Freedom isn't about being free from life situations. In the most difficult situation a man can still feel free. Freedom is about having that dream, passion, creativity and gut feeling, indulgence and desire.

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Freedom to dream, freedom to indulge, freedom to desire and the freedom to act on passion and creativity. In order to feel free you have to realize that you already are free. We tend to live life with invisible handcuffs, imprisoned by our worries and constraints. Your job or your financial status does not dictate your freedom. Only you dictate your freedom. When you don’t feel free then you voluntarily put the invisible handcuffs on yourself. The first step is to realize that you are already free. That nothing, not any situation can dictate your freedom, if you were to only realize that you are already free. When you truly realize that you are already free and that nothing can change it, then that's when you start to act on your passion and creativity. When you truly act on passion and creativity without hesitation that is when you are free. A man who lives in freedom knows that his environment doesn't dictate his success. A man of freedom is not affected by the environment. The environment is affected by him. Freedom is a choice. What do you choose?

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Be Sexual Mindset Before we go any deeper I would like to get you familiar with the mindset that will make your life a lot easier. Having a strong sexual mindset will make it easier to set the foundations to become that sexual man you desire to be. When you tell yourself “I am becoming more confident.” Your mind may dismiss it at first, but when you keep telling yourself the same thing over and over again, your mind will install that belief and eventually you will feel confident. Having this sexual mindset alone will increase your success with not only how women react and respond to you but how you respond and react to women.

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EXERCISE: Do this every morning for thirty days. Grab some paper. 1. Write every single affirmation down in this section. 2. Go to your mirror and smile at yourself, knowing that each and every day you are growing in a much more powerful and positive way. 3. Read the affirmations out loud with confidence, and while you do that, take on a visualization of you already becoming this new sexual self, for example: “I am fucking irresistible to women. They just want to fuck me.” Picture yourself walking down the street. You’re being stared at by lots of women, they smile at you and as you mind your own business, they stare at your ass while they walk behind you. Women are the sexual deviants and you know that this is their secret identity. Make your own visualizations to get a better desired result. You are not just shaping your own identity. You are shaping your own reality.

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You would be surprised if I told you that most of the women out there think about sex constantly. I myself don’t think about sex as much as the women I sleep with do. But when you question a woman about this she will respond with “I am not a slut.” Simply because she doesn’t want to be perceived as one by herself and her social circle, that is because social conditioning likes to believe that it’s only men who are the sex driven chasers and the women are merely just the aloof decision makers. If truth be told our sex drive is pretty low compared to a healthy woman’s sex drive. Once you start to understand that women are sexual creatures and are the chasers, you too can be the aloof decision maker. Imagine how you would feel when you have women calling you up telling you how horny they are and you have the decision to pick which girl you want to fuck. If you want proof that women are also the sex driven chasers then try this when you are next with a girl, tease her and delay the sex. Tell her that she can’t have it and that it is forbidden. You will see that the anticipation consumes her and it creates chemicals inside of her that make her explode with sexual excitement and that very anticipation can increase how better your sex will be, she will be very eager to jump on top of you. (No one likes a boring missionary girl) It will soon become evident to you that women are the sex driven chasers.

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Women want to fuck you! The truth is that even if you are not getting laid, there is a woman out there who is very attractive and wants to fuck you. You just haven’t met her yet and the more you go out and approach, the more of the women that you desire will want to fuck you. Even if you aren’t successful with women yet, this mindset alone will create tremendous amounts of confidence. You will be less focused on the outcome because no matter how much you approach, you will always know that there are women out there who you are totally attracted to and are attracted to you and want to fuck you. The only person who is stopping you from having that is you!

Kissing is a natural part of who you are. A lot of guys are scared to go in for the kiss, even when the gut feeling tells them too. Imagine you’re interacting with a woman and you can tell she is really attracted to you, she is laughing at your dumb jokes and the more you are connecting with her, the more your gut tells you to kiss her. But you are scared to go in for the kiss incase you get rejected, yet these natural feelings inside your stomach are saying “Fucking kiss her!” The night goes on and you still haven’t kissed her, so you 202

grab her number in hopes of seeing her next time. Problem is because you didn’t make a move she is now not returning your calls because you didn’t take action and make a sexual connection. Without going in for the kiss or sexualizing the interaction, you become just another guy that she chatted too. That is why kissing should be a natural part of who you are. If it isn’t then women will be thinking “When is he going to kiss me?” It will be killing her as much as it is you. The only reason you don’t go with your gut feeling is to avoid rejection. However, when kissing is naturally a part of who you are, then you will take action on that gut feeling and give her a moment to remember.

Being patient with sex gets a woman all wet!

When you have a woman in your bed, slow down and enjoy the moment. Slow but sexy foreplay makes a girl wetter than a rainy day in Britain. Your key goal is for her to anticipate your actions and not be able to predict what you will do to her next. A guy who is nervous and rushing into things will turn a woman off fast. A patient man is sexy and knows what a woman wants, yet he makes it unpredictable and exciting for her. Imagine how many lovers a woman has had were the guy just sticks it in? Way too many! The best sex is when a woman is so full of raw sexual 203

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The best gift you can give a woman is an orgasm!

Who needs flowers and teddy bears when you can give women all kinds of addictive orgasms? Here is a funny story… I was chilling with my friend, her boyfriend and my girlfriend at the time. My friend is the dominant type who likes to order guys around and I kind of felt sorry for the guy when I heard about this. She was telling me and my girlfriend about how she was mad at him for not returning one little call (This was spoken right in front of him) So she said if he didn’t do something amazing for her then she would break up with him. She looked at him and said to me “He got me a teddy bear, a box of chocolates and a single red rose… every single day for thirty days! How sweet!?” That’s right I am not shitting you, this poor soul had bought his girlfriend 30 teddy bears, 30 boxes of chocolates and 30 red roses. My friend looked at me and my girlfriend and said “What is the most romantic thing you have ever given your girlfriend?” I smiled and said “I gave her an orgasm.” My girlfriend smiled at me, but my friend was shocked “That’s not a very thoughtful present, Gary got me presents for 30 204

whole days and you couldn’t do that.” I smiled again “I can do better that, I gave her 30 orgasms, more then what you’re probably getting.” 2 hours after that me and my girlfriend had amazing sex. Poor Gary and my friend at the time watched “The notebook.” The moral of the story is you don’t have to buy a woman gifts to make her happy, give her an orgasm and she’ll never complain.

You have a sexual aura that women can feel.

Whether you believe it or not guys that are successful with women have a sexual aura that women can sense from a mile away. Notice how once you are getting laid, women are more open and receptive to you? It isn’t because she can smell sex on you. It’s because you are conveying that other women find you attractive and have had sex with you. You subtly convey this through your energy and she can sense it. Notice how a guy who really wants to get laid appears desperate and needy? Because he conveys it in his nervous energy and because of that he doesn’t get laid and other women don’t find him attractive. When I had my first foursome in Mexico I came out a new man. Women were staring at me, looking at my ass like a 205

sexual deviant. They would be more open and receptive to me. That is because I was conveying through my aura that I get with women and that other women find me attractive. When you get laid you will start to convey this naturally. If you don’t get laid then just having this mindset alone can increase your success. Soon you will find that women will be eyeing you down and eventually they will feel what it is like to be in the presence of a man with raw sexual energy.

You are not a slave to the pussy! The worst mistake a man makes when he gets laid is that he becomes enslaved by the pussy. I once knew a guy who could go up to any woman and within 3 minutes he would be making out with her and she would literally beg him to take her phone number. When he had sex it was a different story. After he had sex with the woman he felt that he finally met a woman who he could be with forever. He would have sex and then in the morning he would cook a full English breakfast, with heart shaped toast and then he would proceed to do her daily errands. One time he even looked after a woman’s child while she went shopping for new clothes. Now there is nothing wrong with helping a woman out but if you want to create a real connection then you can’t all of a sudden cling onto her and turn into provider guy.

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This guy would emotionally cling onto a woman right after sex. He also felt that because she surrendered her pussy to him he had to owe her favours. He would stick around and provide for her until she dumped him. He became a slave to the pussy because he was brought up to believe if a woman has sex with you then you need to make it up to her. The above is a great example of what not to do! A woman is more rewarded through sex then you could ever imagine. Compared to your one big orgasm, she can get ones, twos, threes and even twenty five big orgasms! Her orgasms are so different and vast that she can experience and enjoy sex much more on a raw level. You don’t have to feel like you owe her something just because she fucked you because two good lovers are as equally rewarded and sex is ultimately one win/win situation.

From now on you only masturbate when you have women in your life! If you do not have women in your life one of the worst things you can do is masturbate. The reason is very simple. It lowers your sex drive and you don’t feel the need to approach women. Most guys who get into the whole seduction community have a huge problem of not being able to approach. There are many reasons why we fear the approach but some guys will not motivate themselves to take action and get it handled. One reason is because they masturbate to too much porn. 207

When I became anti social I started to download way too much porn. In fact I would have like 20 CD’s entitled “Adam Taste’s secret stash!” After repeating this process of watching too much porn, I became more tired and even worse I didn’t desire to approach any woman at all. Then one day I changed, I set a goal for myself that would change my entire life. I deleted my 30 gigabytes worth of porn, I threw my CD’s out and I promised myself that I would never masturbate until I have a women in my life. After 30 days I was a new man, I approached women constantly and I felt great doing it! When you stop masturbating all of the time, you will feel great within yourself because your instincts as a man who seeks to reproduce start to work correctly and you know that the only way you are going to get that is if you get your ass out that door! Not only will you feel great but you will enjoy sex much more with stronger orgasms.

Women can sense your dominance. You really need to believe that women can sense your dominance because when you do you will start to convey it through your aura. There is nothing worse for a woman then a guy who is a door mat or is afraid to be dominant. In most cases guys are afraid to be dominant because they feel that when they try to be dominant that they are being overly cocky, rude and will get rejected. I once went through this, I believed 208

that dominance and showing male strength was a turn off because every male seemed to do it. But the truth is the most guys come from a weak place and they rarely show true dominance. We also suppress our animalistic urges of playing the role of the dominator simply due to social conditioning and how being dominant is perceived. There is the fear that it is classed as rude and that in order to get women you have to treat a woman soft and gentle (Women love to be touched softly and gently but they also love a guy to slam them against the wall, carry them to the bed and fuck them like a jack hammer.) True dominance doesn’t equal being rude, it is an expression of who you truly are and your passion. It is in those moments that you are at the peak of your masculine sexuality. A woman will follow your lead whilst being turned on and ready to fuck your brains out. When you truly understand dominance you will be able to convey that through your aura and you will be unstoppable.

You have high sexual value.

This is something that I have discovered over the years. Here is a story. About a year ago I had met this girl Susan through my 209

friend Amber. We all hung out and we were enjoying a game on the Nintendo Wii. Susan was sexy, she had been on the cover of the UK nuts magazine and you could clearly tell she had been use to having a lot of guys around her due to her having such a aloof aura. But Susan and I started to connect and I discovered under that aloof aura was an insecure warm girl. I was expressing myself, teasing her, touching her in a playful way. But she wasn’t hooking and this got me really curious and eventually I had to ask “Do you have a boyfriend?” She nodded and I thought maybe she was one of those rare girls who can be really fucking loyal to a guy even if she’s in the room with a rock star. So I started to connect with her even deeper and I found out that although her boyfriend is a footballer and makes a lot of money, he isn’t really that good in bed. I felt like being a Samaritan “I’ll tell you what… If I give you a guide on how to give women orgasms without touching them for your boyfriend then you have to introduce me to all your hot friends.” She was intrigued and agreed. So I searched through all of my writings and there I found it “The Energy Orgasm Pattern” She started to read, her eyes became glued to it as they lighted up with excitement. I left the room to get a drink and she shouts me over and says, “Wow, could you do that on me?” I was confused because I thought that this girl was in a loving relationship.

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“I want you to practice on me first, to see if it works.” I had to question her about it and she told me “My boyfriend never really tries anything new. No guy that I have been with has really ever done anything to make me orgasm. I’m curious about this and want to try it with you.” We did the energy orgasm pattern and it was an amazing experience. She is now studying to become a sex therapist because her curiosity and her passion for good sex led her to her ideal career. Why is the story important? Because that was when I found that the most powerful value that you have is your sexual value. When you know how to make a girl orgasm without touching her, she discovers so many new things about her body and it captivates her.

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The Energy Orgasm Pattern This pattern is a basic overview on how to give any woman, powerful and mind blowing orgasms without even having to touch her. For the past few years, I have shaped and changed the pattern to get an understandable, powerful and 100% working technique on making a woman experience mind blowing orgasms. To make it better I wanted to do it without touching her. I first created this pattern when I had a girl over at my house, she was telling me how that no one had ever made her orgasm and so I had the creative idea to make her orgasm without touching her. First time I tried it, it worked. I couldn’t believe my eyes, but there was something missing and it took me another year to finally grasp the key element of making a woman orgasm through the mind. I recommend that you use this after you have some kind of sexual connection with her.

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Image – Feeling – Sound: For the pattern to be effective you need to have her experience these 3 senses overlap. Image = imagination, feeling = the orgasm and sound = your sexual voice.

Energy Beads: The idea is that an energy bead will shoot from one energy spot to another energy spot, each time getting bigger in size and producing stronger sensations. The energy bead is a metaphor and is not related to anything new age. It is a placebo for the mind to feel intense pleasure. It will start from the crown and slowly work its way down, while describing this you will not only make her feel it, but you will be creating very high sexual tension that will be released powerfully into an orgasm.

Sexual Energy Spots: Energy spots on Males and Females have very different purposes, for example… The male has two sexual energy spots, the rest are known as adrenaline spots, whereas the female has seven sexual energy spots. These are just some quick examples of how we stimulate the 7 energy spots physically. 213

Crown Chakra – Energy spot above the head: Notice how a girl loves her hair being tugged in a sexual caveman way? Third Eye Chakra – Energy spot in the middle of the forehead: Powerful sexual spot, by gazing at this can turn her on or by kissing her forehead slightly to the right or even by softly stroking her forehead. The Throat Chakra – Energy spot in the middle of the throat: This is a very powerful sexual spot. By gazing at her neck or simply by touching her neck or even kissing her neck is a real big turn on for most women. The Heart Chakra – Energy spot in the middle of the chest: Touching her breasts will make her hot, nibbling on the nipples or even stroking around the chest area. The Solar Plexus Chakra – Energy spot located between the chest and the navel: Running your lips around this area gets her sexually stimulated and stroking around the belly button in circles turns her on. The Sacral Chakra – Energy spot on the lower belly: Rubbing your nose around this area or even by slowly tracing your fingers around the area will turn her on deeply.

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The Root Chakra – Energy spot at the base of spine: Well we all know this one, either massaging her lower back or playing with her pussy, either way they are both really stimulating. To stimulate her with the energy orgasm pattern is to not use physical stimulation at all. The mind is a powerful tool and her most powerful G spot is in her mind. Imagine – Feel it – Experience it For her to feel something she needs to imagine it vividly and then when she feels it slightly, she will experience it powerfully. There will be various techniques in the transcript that you will recognize such as NLP and psychology. It is also essential to keep an open mind. Remember, your voice should be soft, sensual, slow and sexual.

Energy Orgasm Pattern Transcript:

It’s not going to work all the time. However most of the time with it does, you will find that it blows a woman’s mind that she can experience explosive orgasms without being touched. If you don’t get the results you want then keep trying, but if you fail then it works both ways, you taught her something new and at the very least you got her turned on through imagination.

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This is an exact transcript that I had with a woman. What made this go smoother was that we both had a strong sexual connection for each other and she was very sexual. Me: You know something… I can tell that you’re a very sensual person. GIRL: Yeah…What makes you say that? Me: The way your eyes sparkle and brighten up when you are talking about feelings, it tells me that you are soft and sensual... I bet you are also very sensitive to touch…. GIRL: My eyes gave it away then, I’m very sensitive to touch, mainly my neck that gets me going. Me: (Looking deeply into her eyes) If I were to touch you in such a sexual way… not only would it excite you but my touch would… really… make… your entire fucking body… feel... completely... alive... but… GIRL: (Intrigued) Sounds, sexy… but what? Me: (Smiling) I’m not going to touch you because it’s forbidden. (I tease her by turning away.) Me: Although me touching you is very forbidden… If I told you I could make you orgasm without even touching you, what would you say?

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GIRL: (Curious) I would say… bring it on! Remember this is a big indicator for sex, if she is willing to go with this then she is pretty much willing to fuck you. Me: Before we do this I’ll explain the history, It was an old technique Indians use to do for their women, it was a gift among the Indian tribes to give their woman amazing everlasting pleasure through ritual, which now has been changed and moulded into something more powerful. But don’t expect naked rain dances. GIRL: (laughs at joke.) Sounds interesting… what are you waiting for? (Now you need to explain Sexual energy spots to her, women are into weird energy and the cosmos so most of the time she will know what you are talking about.) Me: You know what Sexual energy spots are right? GIRL: Nope? Me: Basically you have 7 energy spots on your body and if stimulated… they can allow you to experience intense pleasure… now… how does that sound? GIRL: Interesting, carry on. (As you can see she was very eager for me to do this. Women love to experience new things so if you screw up don’t worry at least you conveyed that you have

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Breathing Orgasm Imitation: Simply put, this acts like an imitated orgasm. You use this as an anchor so that when she is ready to orgasm you can increase the realism and intensity. Basically what you do is get her to remember what it was like to feel that orgasm and what it was like to breathe while she exploded, she will then feel it and then experience it... Me: Close your eyes and I want you to imagine the last time you had a really fucking intense orgasm…now, inside your mind as your just about to put yourself in that scenario, allowing yourself… to go deeper and maybe you can realize that by imagining… you can slowly start to feel what it was like… and you can keep coming and coming to the same image… in your mind… feeling how it felt deep inside of you, how it felt as you were about to explode and release that amazing feeling… now… as you’re visualizing the last time you had an really fucking intense orgasm, notice how it affected your breathing and slowly… start to experience what that was like to just breathe like you were fucking orgasming, knowing how great you can feel… right now, just allow yourself to breathe in a way… that was familiar to you… when you came so fucking badly… you was just begging to be fucked really deep and hard inside you... allow yourself to breathe in deeply and feel it as if you are being penetrated 218

by my dick... knowing that as you breathe you will begin feel it… now open your eyes and breathe like you are experiencing it in that moment. GIRL: (Breathing) Wow… I can slowly feel it. Me: While you’re breathing, tap your finger and thumb together, to allow yourself to remember how fucking good you feel… now when you breathe that way. (So remember that whenever you want to release that orgasm you need to tell her to tap her finger and thumb together.)

The 7 Deadly Sins of Pleasure: This is where we stimulate all 7 of the sexual energy spots. First you need to describe an ideal scenario for her to feel this… Me: Now… describe the scenario in were you would want to have the most amazing sex of your life, now… mine would be on a hot day at the beach and knowing at any moment you could get caught, it sends a rush down to my spine, what would yours be? GIRL: Mine would be… outside, when it’s cold and windy… and dark at night… I don’t know why it just turns me on.

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(Now you can make her experience all of this in her ideal scenario, which makes her feel even more turned on.) Me: Awesome, Okay… now close your eyes and relax, I want you to imagine that you are outside, it’s really fucking cold and the wind is just brushing against your soft legs, it is a dark night and you can see the full moon shining down upon you and everything is really quiet… in this moment... anything can happen… Me: Now… as you breathe in, feeling more relaxed… and as you breathe out feeling even deeply relaxed… your mind can allow itself to wander off into the dark cold night, were the cold softly brushes against your cheek, knowing that in this moment… something exciting could happen... Now while you’re thinking about that… imagine a soft small colored bead of energy, tell me… what colour i it is and what how it feels deep inside your stomach... GIRL: Its pink and it feels really tingly. Me: Now imagine yourself touching that pink bead that really tingles and sends sensations and vibrations… throughout your entire body and allow that bead to gentle travel to the top of your head circling around your hair. Me: Allow yourself to feel that sensation around the top of your head, notice how the vibrations and sensations… feel as if your hair is being gently tugged… it feels sexual… now allowing that pink bead of energy to get bigger and brighter… slowly circling to your forehead.

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Me: Notice how this gentle tingling energy bead is slowly changing colour… from pink to white… and as you experience that you can feel a soft sexual… sensation circling on your forehead, as if you are being gently kissed on the forehead… allow that feeling to really fucking intensify… now… as you breathe in and out… noticing how when you breathe in the bead gets bigger and harder to control and when you breathe out the bead gets brighter as it slowly travels all the way down to the middle of your neck… Me: Now as the … white tingly energy bead circles your neck, notice how it gets so big that it just completely overwhelms you and as it changes from white to green, noticing how that… the sensation travels to your neck as if someone is slowly nibbling on your collar bone… as you breathe in and out, that green energy bead getting bigger and brighter… circling around your neck and throat… it can feel as if you are being softly kissed all over your neck… you feel this warm... soft... fuzzy... sensation... penetrate you.... now as the green tingly bead of energy travels all the way to your chest. Me: Now from your chest notice how the green energy bead circles all around your breasts… slowly circling around your nipples and making you feel so fucking wet... now feel the sensation and vibrations and change the green energy bead into red… as it slowly turns to red… notice how it gets bigger… and brighter… it feels like as if someone is softly brushing their finger tips against your breasts… now… as you feel that… as you breathe in and breathe out, the red tingly energy bead getting even bigger

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and brighter… slowly travelling all the way to your upper stomach… Me: Allow yourself to breathe in and out as the red tingly energy bead circles around your stomach, notice how the red energy tingles and brushes against it… slowly sending vibrations and sensations… softly brushing against your stomach… it’s as if someone is slowly brushing their tongue along the right side of your stomach and slowly circling all the way around your belly button… now as you feel that… feeling like you could just EXPLODE.... at any moment... notice how the red tingly energy bead gets bigger and brighter as it slowly turns to yellow… now feel the yellow tingling energy bead slide all the way down to your lower stomach… Me: Now… as you breathe in and breathe out… this huge… big… throbbing… tingling… yellow energy bead… circling around the lower of your stomach… sending chills… sensations and vibrations all the way down to your thighs, it’s… as if someone is softly rubbing their nose around your lower stomach… making you feel… so fucking stimulated… and aroused as the yellow energy gets bigger and brighter as it turns to purple… notice how it circles around the lower part of your stomach like fingers… slowly brushing against you… now… as it slowly travels lower to your pussy… Me: Now… as you breathe in and out… tap your finger and thumb together… breathing as if you were having an orgasm… as if my dick was DEEPLY PENETRATING YOU... experiencing how that feels… as the big…

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throbbing… tingling purple energy bead gets bigger and brighter…deep inside you... as if fingers… are softly… stroking your clit… all the way deep inside you... as you feel that sensation… in your pussy… it’s as if the purple energy bead is getting out of control… and as you breathe in faster and breathe out faster… feeling that intense… immense pleasure… getting bigger and brighter… (This is where your tonality gets louder and faster) the purple energy so big… so huge… about to explode… notice how it feels as if your pussy is being penetrated so hard… so soft… Exploding so fucking fast… getting faster as it gets bigger and deep inside of you and it EXPLODES.... It’s just SO FUCKING deep inside of you... you keep tapping your thumb and finger together and you can notice how the energy just seems to vibrate all over your body.... it feels like your whole body is being explored... making you feel so fucking good… it’s as if your pussy is being penetrated hard… as you feel the waves of energy pulsating and penetrating your tight wet pussy and as it gets faster and faster as you breathe in and out, tapping your thumb and finger together… you just want to fucking release... you want to release and EXPLODE... making you feel pleasured… very… fucking… turned on… now open your eyes… GIRL: Oh my fucking god, fuck me! Me: Now… I want you to give that feeling a symbol… for example when I feel pleasured my symbol is a star… GIRL: I would say mine is a star too!

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Me: Okay… now picture this star… getting bigger and brighter as you breathe in and out as if you were about to just release that amazing orgasm and fucking explode… looking into my eyes you can see this star getting bigger and bigger, in between us... connecting us in some way... noticing that the feelings are about to just... (Pause for the cause) EXPLODE… and as you RELEASE that feeling... the energy pulsating from that star goes deep inside you and into me... making you feel so fucking pleasured and turned on... GIRL: (Orgasms) fuck me! You can do the transcript word for word if you are good at memorizing. If you read the transcript carefully, you'll see all the principles behind the energy orgasm pattern. I had a friend who asked me, why go through so much bother to give her this? Because simply put it is powerful and women tend to desire and crave powerful and sexual men. It will increase her sexual arousal and desire for you, making your sex life so much easier with her. She is captivated and falls in love with guys who have high sexual value. As for the other benefits? You will have to see for yourself.

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The Rose The rose is a poetic gift that I wrote and it was inspired by The Rose Pattern. I give this to women that I am deeply into. The reason why I share this with you is because The Rose has helped me develop strong feelings in girls and helped make stronger connections with them. It captures a woman's imagination and it melts her heart.

The Rose Transcript: You know I could buy you the world and it still wouldn't be as exciting as the gift I can give you. Because this is something that you already have, you just haven't connected with it yet and no amount of money or objects of affection can compare to it... When I give a special gift to a girl, it has to mean something from the heart... I don't go out and just buy a simple gift that is meaningless... I give something much greater because all that you have ever wanted lies within your own emotions and imagination... And here is my gift to you. Imagine in your hand is a seed... it feels soft and tender in your hand and you have to be really gentle with it... But this isn't any ordinary seed... in this seed lies the essence of great feelings of passion and excitement... that when held in the hands of a beautiful and worthy person, will 225

blossom into the most beautiful rose and to whoever holds such beauty... will share in its essence of passion and beauty... As the wind brushes softly against your cheek... sending a shiver down to your spine, the seed begins to dance in the momentum with the wind... it moves slowly from side to side in your palm... tickling the nerve endings in the centre of your hand... it's really exciting because you know that something amazing is about to happen... you hold the essence of beauty in your palm... The seed begins to open its outer shell and slowly... emerges forth a bright shiny red beautiful light out of the seed and covers your entire palm... the red light tingles softly onto the skin of your hand... it feels like a soft brush of fingers massaging your entire hand... it's so relaxing and beautiful... The bright shiny red beautiful light starts to spin slowly with the wind... growing bigger each time it spins... and as it gets bigger... it slowly starts to cover your entire arm... you can feel the shiny red light trail slowly up your arm.... sending soft sensations and warmth... slowly back and forth up your arm... this warm feeling sends a smile to your face... and as the light gets bigger and bigger... now covering your entire body... you can feel the warmth around your entire body... this feeling is familiar, it's warmth and love... it’s the same feeling when you are hugged by your friends... and most of all by the one that you love...

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And out of the beautiful red shiny light emerges forth a beautiful pristine red rose... You now hold the most beautifuliest rose in your hand.... as you hold it from the stem.... you are careful not to lay a heavy hand on it... This feeling is peaceful... You softly stroke the petals with your finger tips... the feeling sends a smile to your face and as you stare into the center of the rose... you realize... this is what beauty is all about... this is what passion feels like... this is how excitement feels... This rose is more special than any other rose a guy can buy you... because those roses die and fade away with time... but this beautiful rose that you hold in your mind... can never die.... can never fade away... this rose stays with you forever... sharing your passion for life... your beauty.... your love for your friends and family... and your love for that ideal guy you long for and desire.... And that is my gift to you...

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“15!” I was shocked. I knew Andy was a natural at getting women but I had never seen anything like it. I just couldn't believe how someone could go out to lunch and come back to fifteen new messages from girls wanting to hook up. I watched as he showed me his Facebook inbox, fifteen new unopened messages and three new photo comments. I was still sceptical, thinking that maybe those messages were just rejections but as we looked at each message, “Sure I can make Friday.” “Is Thursday okay for you?” “I can't make Monday, but Tuesday sounds good!” I had met girls online before but never like this. These were some seriously hot fucking girls. He boasted about how most guys complicate things and all he does is follow a few simple principles. I wanted him to teach me like he was Mr Miyagi and I was the karate kid. I wanted the same success that he had. It wasn't instant at first, but I started to get results too. I would try new things and discard things that didn't work until I eventually found myself having the same success as Andy. Online dating is definitely a great way of meeting women. I have met a lot of amazing girls from the social networking sites. It is however, not a substitute for real life. I see online dating as more of a side project that you work on but don't invest a ton of your time into.

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Online dating is a numbers game. Because it is a numbers game the only factor we can improve is increasing the odds that a girl will be receptive towards you and willing to meet in person. In real life there are factors that you can control that are very hard to control online. The factor’s online that you cannot control, such as her current mood and if she is distracted or if she's busy, all affect how she responds to you. In real life you can change her mood and change her receptiveness towards you. You can captivate her in such a way that she is 100% in the moment with you. You can control all those factors in real life but online they are out of your control. You cannot convey tone and body language in the online world. So with only just your words of text to work with, it is not as powerful and can easily be misinterpreted.

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In person: You are on the phone with a girl and she is babbling on about how annoying her co worker is. In a teasing and dominant way you say “Oh shut up. You are such a whiny bitch.” The words say one thing, but your tone says another. The power behind your voice indicates that you aren't taking it serious and that you are teasing her in a playful tone.

Misinterpreted online: You are on MSN and you are speaking to a girl and she is babbling on about how annoying her co worker is. Wanting to tease her about it and not listen to her babbling on, you type, “Oh shut up. You are such a whiny bitch.” But she doesn't take it too well. She thinks you are being serious and gets offended.

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becomes a real fear to him because even online he doesn't want to feel rejection. Teasing and banter is a crucial and powerful way to attract a woman, but if you do not know how to convey it right then it can turn into a disaster. Luckily, there is a substitute to conveying playful tone and that is by using emoticons. Without Emoticons: Taste says: Hey slut Leila says: I beg your pardon? With Emoticons: Taste says: Hey slut :P Leila says: Hey asshole! :D Without Emoticons: Taste says: Wow you really are useless aren't you? Leila says: … With Emoticons: Taste says: Haha Wow, you really are useless aren't you :P Leila says: Shut up! lol

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Misinterpretation all depends on your level of teasing. If you are going to lightly tease her like, “You are very small, like a smurf.” Then you wouldn't need to use emoticons because it's obvious that you are teasing her. However, if you are using an extreme tease like the above examples, then it is always best to use emoticons. Sometimes even with emoticons, she may misinterpret it your tease or even be testing you and this is when most guys will apologize or stop teasing them. The best thing to do in this situation is to keep teasing and accuse her of having a bad sense of humour. For example, “Geez not only are you small but you have a bad sense of humour too :P” Sometimes the girl who you think is more receptive towards you, ends up being the least receptive and the one who is the least receptive at first, ends up being the most receptive and meeting up with you in person. Never take it personally. If she gets offended when you clearly were joking and she misinterpreted it, then tell her that you were joking but never apologize for it. If you send a girl a message and she replies back really interested in you but the next day she doesn't reply to you then don't take it personally. Even if a girl messages you back harshly, it is best to not take it personally because it is not an attack on you as a person. She doesn't know what you are like as a person, so it isn't a personal attack on you, it's more about a reflection of her current mood and her sense of humour. The same girl that responds badly to you online could easily be attracted to you in the real world. My friend Firefly was talking to this girl online who he

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met through his friend. He messaged her and because she was in a mood, she said not to message her again and that she wasn't interested in him and found him to be stupid. Firefly really liked this girl and I told him that any girl who talks like that to you isn't worth bothering with and that there are plenty of amazing girls out there who are waiting for a guy like him to seduce them. He didn't listen and one night decided to go out with his friend, where he knew she would be there. By the end of the night, they ended up making out and going back to his place. When he asked her why she acted harshly to his message, she told him that she was in a mood because there was a guy who she liked and was messing her around and he happened to message her at the time and she took it out on him. There are just factors out of your control that influence her response towards you and it's something you can't predict. It doesn't make her a bitch just because she messaged you harshly, she could be in a really bad mood or something bad may have happened to her like her cat jumped out her bedroom window, so it's best to never take it too personally because you can't predict what is going on in her life. The more you invest your time into thinking about why she rejected you, the more frustrated you will get about meeting women online. When you aren't attached to anything happening and you aren't taking it as a big deal. It doesn't matter if you get a couple of bad messages because there is an abundance of women out there to message, who have a great sense of humour and are willing to meet up with you.

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Why I Choose Facebook On dating sites such as Plentyoffish and Match.com, a girl gets over at least 40 messages a day from needy and lonely guys. Unfortunately those needy and lonely guys spoil it for the rest of us because girls tend to associate any other guy on that site as needy and lonely. I did have little success with these sites but I was attracting the wrong kind of girls. You can meet quality women on there but the majority of attractive girls are on that site for a self esteem boost or for fun. The harshest truth that I had to face when I got too much into the online dating scene was that most of the girls weren't even taking it that serious and that they didn't expect to meet a guy from the internet. Most of my girl buddies who were on online dating sites would gossip about how pathetic men were on there. I became obsessed in becoming successful with online dating sites and I wasn't going to give up that easy. The only girls that were willing to meet were girls who worked weekly night shifts and had no time in the day to themselves, girls that had kids and were stuck at home, the crazy girls who wanted to get in a relationship with me before we had even met or do something crazy to me, negative girls who would constantly talk about how bad life was and how ugly they are and the girls who were social outcasts and had no friends. At the same time that I was using online dating sites, I was 237

also using Facebook and MySpace. I seemed to be getting all my success mostly from Facebook and some from MySpace. I would meet lots of beautiful and high quality women on the social networking sites but I was frustrated and pissed off because I wasn't getting any success on online dating. So I decided that I would ask every girl that I met about their view on online dating. Most of them would tell me they didn't like online dating sites because they were all creepy and needy guys would message them all the time. Other girls would tell me that the only girls that signed up on dating sites were either desperate or low self esteem in need of a boost from lonely and desperate men. I asked them why meeting me from Facebook and MySpace was any different and they would tell me that the difference was, I wasn't a creepy and needy guy on an online dating site desperately looking for love and that they found me to be witty, sexy and intriguing. They didn't think it was weird meeting up with me from a social networking site but they felt that it was weird meeting up with a guy from an online dating site and they would start to tell me all of the bad online dating meet up stories that their friends had gone through.

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“I signed up on a dating site at first because a friend had told me that she met the most amazing man on there. I meet guys all the time but I never meet the right guy. So I signed up to do this online dating thing and within ten minutes I already had twenty messages. After about a week of this I got fed up and deleted my account because all men on those sites are desperate and needy.” - My friend Lisa and her opinion of online dating sites

I stopped using online dating sites after I met a girl from Plentyoffish. I had met a few girls from Plentyoffish before. The first time I had a girl come over and we put a movie on and she never spoke to me at all during the movie. After the movie finished she decided that she would tell me about her brother and how they fuck each other. There was the other time that I met a girl who I was sure was completely sane but that soon changed when I got her naked and when we was about to fuck she started to get her clothes back on because she had a phobia of being naked and was so insecure of her body. She sat on the edge of the bed and stared into the mirror, “I’m a fucking ugly pig aren’t I?” Then there was Sarah.

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I was getting tired of online dating sites and I was having so much more success and meeting better quality girls on Facebook that I was ready to give up on online dating sites all together. However, before I gave up there was one girl from Plentyoffish that wanted to meet up with me and I decided to give her a chance. Sarah was your typical Goth girl who liked death and blood and that annoying vampire movie, 'Twilight.' I have an extreme fetish for Goth girls with tattoos and it was enough to ignore all the bad signs that the girl was crazy as fuck. We met at my place and she brought a DVD “Nightmare before Christmas.” Which surprised me because it was only July and Christmas was like five months away. At the time I use to smoke so I offered her a cigarette and she took it. She played with the tip of the cigarette with her lips and tongue and told me that was how she was going to suck my dick. It turned me on so much and we started to kiss. She told me about all the things she found that was sexy and that she found pain to be a huge turn on. She wanted to show me pain because I was a naughty boy. She kept telling me over and over that she was going to give me pain and make me suffer for it. I thought about the kind of sexy things she would do and because she was Goth and liked pain, she might want to bite my neck like a vampire or something. She looked at me and said, “I want to make you scream out in pain you bastard.”

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She was getting really turned on by this and I sat there egging her on, “Do it! Show me pain.” With that she grabbed her burning cigarette and dotted it out on my fucking arm! I was in pain alright, I was fucking burnt! “Do you like that baby? Do you like when I give you pain?” I told her to get the fuck out my house and she got pissed off with me. She shouted at me for calling her a crazy bitch and stormed out my house. I never saw her again. After that ordeal I decided that I should leave the online dating sites and stick to social networking sites like Facebook and MySpace. I had come to the conclusion that online dating sites wasn't for young, sociable guys like me who were looking for attractive and high quality women. It was for the older, lonely people who found it hard to have a social life because they had kids, demanding jobs and other things that put them in a situation where they have to resort to online dating to meet their perfect match. If you are an older guy and you are looking for the perfect relationship then I think you will find a quality woman on an online dating site. If you are like me and you want multiple high quality women, then social networking sites is the right place for you. MySpace has been facing a decline with more users switching to Facebook. In the span of two years, Facebook has over taken MySpace in being the fastest growing social networking site.

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Although I do use MySpace and I have met some amazing women from it in the past, I choose Facebook because: More active (According to Facebook they have more than 200 million active users. An abundance of sexy ass women.) Clean and simple. More functionality. (I can send and check messages from my phone. I can also update my status to invite people to parties.) More personal (Because it is more personal, a woman will feel safer and more comfortable about you because she can see your real name, she will also trust you because she can see you have real friends that you hang out with just by looking at your tagged photos or walls comments.) Relaxed Atmosphere (Women are more receptive towards you because they are more social and friendly.) Personal reasons (I seem to meet better quality women from Facebook. My friends who are successful with meeting girls online also claim that Facebook is their favourite because there are more mature, better quality women.) Although we are only going to cover Facebook, you can easily apply it to any of the other social networking sites.

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Setting up your Facebook Profile Getting started is very easy. If you do not have an account, go to facebook.com and enter your information in the sign up section. Next, you will come to the getting started section. Add everyone from your email account and go to the next step. Then that will take you to step 2 in which it tells you to fill your School information. This is a really good idea because it helps you connect with your old school mates. I once had a girl message me because she remembered me from school and I use to have a big crush on her. We ended up meeting and dating for awhile until I kind of fucked it up by sleeping with her sister but the point is, if I hadn't had put in my school information then I wouldn't of had that experience. Step 3 is very important because your network will be your gateway to meeting an abundance of beautiful and high quality women. Make sure that you choose your network to your town/city or the nearest place to where you live. When I lived in a little unknown town in the UK and I couldn't find it as a network, I had to pick the nearest network. Even though the network area was 20 miles away, I still found girls who were living in my home town because they had done the same thing. If you are attending university then you can join the university network as well as your area one. However, you 243

will need a university assigned email address. I will also explain more in depth about networks in the network section. Then you will have to confirm your account through your email and then hey presto, you are now a confirmed member of Facebook. Finally, find and add all the people you know by typing their names into the search bar.

Privacy Settings: Sometimes it can be very fucking annoying when your friends are notified about everything that you do. I remember one guy who had broken up with his girlfriend and when she changed the relationship status on Facebook then every one of his friends was notified. The poor guy had twenty sympathetic comments about his breakup and he felt even more humiliated about the whole thing. If you want to change what people see you post then go to privacy settings. At the top of the screen go onto the setting tab, go to privacy settings and click the “News feed and wall” tab. Maybe you don't want your mutual friends seeing what you post to your other friends or maybe you don't want people to know when you remove parts of your profile information. Untick the boxes that you want to keep private. I let people see when I comment on a note or a photo because it gives people an excuse to comment back and make conversation.

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Profile Picture: It's important to choose a profile picture of you doing something adventurous and that you are really passionate about. My friend Crash always wanted to do sky diving and he also needed a great picture for his profile. So he decided to go sky diving and not only did he go do something he always wanted to do but now he had an awesome picture of it. Photos are like the window to our good memories and when you take a great passionate picture, it naturally attracts attention towards it. When my friend put his profile picture up of him sky diving, within an hour he had 30 comments. I also have another friend who really loves animals and he put his profile picture of him feeding a baby lion in Kenya. He told me that a girl who commented on it found him so intriguing that she planned to meet up with him for lunch to talk more about his trip to Kenya and love for animals. By the end of the night he had fucked her and they got on so well that now she was his girlfriend. If he didn't post that picture up then they wouldn't have met. Passion is attractive to women and they can sense when a guy has a love for things and when you express your passion, they want to discover more about it because it's captivating and infectious. Photos should be an expression of who you are and not about trying to impress women. It's awesome to have pictures of you in a club surrounded by tons of people, but if you are posting them up to only impress women and to show that you are popular then you miss the whole point. When you are passionate and put up pictures of you being surrounded by tons of people, it's because you want to 245

share what an awesome night it was and how that energy you bring is a part of you. When you are sharing pictures of your cool night out then you are sharing a part of that memory and your passion for it. You are sharing it because it expresses who you are. The photos become more attractive to women because they reflect who you are and your passion. Its okay to intentionally take awesome pictures even if it doesn't currently reflect your life, but the only person you should be trying to impress is yourself. Take pictures that inspire you and that you desire to be in. If you have always wanted to have a picture with your favourite celebrity and you are able to make that happen then go out there and do it. If you have always wanted to have a picture with two girls kissing your cheek then go out there and get it. If you don't give a fuck about impressing other people and take pictures because they impress you then women are going to be attracted to that as a by product because you are going to convey the right energy and the passion and the right qualities of a Charismatic Lover. Go do something that you love doing or that you always wanted to do. Something that really inspires you and that you feel passion for. Take pictures that you are impressed by and that make you feel good because not only do they express who you are but when you look back on that memory you can be proud to say that you did it.

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Tagline: Your tag line appears under your picture on your profile. I usually put something witty and silly in there like: Batteries not included. Warning! May contain traces of small nuts. Rocking you like a hurricane, Need we say more? ;) Based on a true story. Touch eyeballs to screen for cheap laser surgery. Scratch here to reveal prize. It is best to keep your tagline short and simple. If you are looking for more creative tag lines then shows like Futurama are a goldmine.

Status: Your status messages should never be negative or boring. I have seen too many people on Facebook use their status as a way to complain about life and to attract attention. Your status messages should never be focused on attracting a woman's attention to impress her. Some guys get the idea in their head that they have to create clever messages that attract women's attention and demonstrate that they are awesome. They try too hard because they want to have all 247

the perfect magical responses that will act like a code to get into her pants. When it doesn't work and the women don't take the bait, they feel the pain and frustration and take it as a blow to their ego. Status messages are about conveying that you are not taking the whole thing too seriously and that you are amusing yourself and just sharing that energy with everyone else. You don't even think about how women are going to respond to it because you don't give it much thought. You just drop by to share some good energy and go about your day. You don't take ten minutes to come up with the perfect status message. You might look around for some funny status message to share but you are doing it mainly for your own amusement. The only thing you want to convey to women is that you are not taking this too seriously and that you are just sharing positive energy. Women are attracted to guys who don't take life too seriously and when you convey that, you are showing that you are different. While other guys try to impress women with their status messages, you merely share good energy with yours by conveying that you have a sense of humour and that you don't take life too seriously. Your status message gives a woman an excuse to make conversation and creates opportunity for them to get in touch with you. You can also use your status as a way to make plans with women, invite them to parties and clubs, find out where the parties and events are at and get recommendations etc.

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If you are struggling to find some witty and funny material, check out celebrities twitter pages such as Dane Cook, Jason Segel and Russell Brand etc.

Here are a few examples of random and witty status messages: I don't trust dentists. Anyone who gives you a lollypop after sticking their fingers down your throat has to have an ulterior motive... This is a life threat. Carry on living, have an ice cream, look at a tree, go to the toilet. (Credit Russell Brand) I've just heard that Wolverine is not even a real wolverine. Is ET even a real ET? Also where are ET's genitals? I want answers. (Credit Russell Brand) Is wondering whether Dolphins are just Gay sharks? Kissed a girl and (Then click the like it tab) Is 80% waterproof Is so Jesus, he shits miracles Is like an Alzheimer's patient in a whorehouse I touched her (ooh) She touched my (ahhh) It was the craziest thing Can wipe his own ass 249

Examples of using your status for recommendations: It's movie night. What's a really kick ass action movie that you recommend? Sushi or Pizza tonight? Decisions... Decisions... Blue or Black? I'm trying to decide which power ranger I would want to be. Hannah Montana or High School Musical? Which one is more humiliatingly painful to watch?

Examples of using your status for plans: Sushi night tonight. Any of you goons want to join us? Rock Bandathon at my place tonight. You are welcome to join but be warned I am the Tommy Lee of drumming. Out at the Phoenix tonight... come join me if you are out. Is looking for a girly girl to be my queer eye for the straight guy, who's up for shopping?

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Basic Info: My Birthday: Put the day and month but leave out the year. Women like to know things and if you keep some information left out in your profile it creates a mystery and they become curious about you. It also gives them an excuse to initiate contact with you. I have had women message me because they were curious about my age and it ended up in a guessing game that led to us meeting up with each other.

Family Members: This option can actually be useful if you know how to play with it. I always put actors or famous people as my parents. I have Ghandi and Mother Teresa as my parents. Add fake profiles of actors and famous people, some examples would be all of the 4 Musketeers, Jesus Christ, Vin Diesel or Santa Claus. Then when you have added them, add them into the section of parents. I would get messages like, “No way is Ghandi your father!” I would message her back like, “How dare you speak of my father like that, he was a legendary icon! You need healing child! Let the healing begin!”

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Looking for: Never show that you are looking for Dating or a Relationship. There is nothing wrong with it but I leave it out because I want to convey the fact that I'm not taking this whole thing too seriously. You will find that most socially savvy women almost never show the fact they are looking for Dating or a Relationship. A better option is to put Networking or to leave it blank.

Religion: If your religion is important to you then put it in and be proud of it. If you're an atheist like me then you can have a little fun with this section. I will use insider jokes from TV shows like, Unagi (Friends), The Lords of Kobol (BSG), The Intersect (Chuck), First Church of the Fonz (Family Guy) and Oprahism (Futurama.) Or you can make up your own religion names, Church of awesomeness, Godzilla, The religion of facebooking your mum or Lords of the dance etc. I got a lot of comments from girls when I put Church of awesomeness as my religion.

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instead. I usually leave this blank or I would put something like “Marijuana Party of Canada.”

Profile: I leave activities, favourite books and quotations section out because I feel that they just over junk your profile. Your profile section should be about expressing yourself. The majority of guys that don't know any better will put facts about their lives and who they are.

Bad Profile Example: “My name is Gary and I am 23 years old. I am a normal guy honest genuine and trustworthy I live in Leeds, work for the university and try to see the world in my spare time. My friends would describe me as, Caring, sensitive, loyal, educated, lovely, handsome, interesting, ambitious, lively, funny, trust worthy and trustable I love football, (Go Leeds UTD!) and boxing.

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I love travelling and I love going to new places as I have seen so far more than 18 countries and there are more to go. I like to read the Guardian every Saturday and the Daily Star during the week (when I'm home in the U.K from working abroad.) That is pretty much it for now...” This is a bad profile because it is too generic and boring. He gave too much boring and predictable facts about himself. There is nothing that stands out on this profile that would catch a woman's attention. She will know exactly what this guy is about just from reading his profile. That he is just like all the other guys she meets, boring and predictable. There is no mystery and excitement for a woman when she knows everything about a guy before even meeting him. Women love to feel curious about you and love to ask questions to uncover more about you. When you rob her of that curiosity by giving her too many boring facts then she doesn't feel interested in meeting you. This profile just doesn't stand out enough for her to be curious.

Another Example: “I’m a Latin guy 27 y/o who likes to have fun, go to the movies, bars, play soccer, anything that is fun.“

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Again this is too generic and boring. This is not conveying personality and it isn't going to capture her interest. There is nothing for a woman to be curious about. There is no mystery in knowing you like going to bars and movies like everyone else. A woman wants to know what makes you different from the rest of the generic and boring crowd. She wants to have a taste of the different sides of your personality without revealing everything about you. High quality women are attracted to guys with personality and the one who conveys the most personality through their profile is usually the one who captures her interest. It's the same reason why people get famous because they have more personality and depth and it attracts attention. It's the same reason why Russell Brand and George Clooney are sex icons because they convey personality and mystery. Rockstars are also attractive because they express themselves more and are not trying to impress anyone by doing so. Your profile shouldn't be about trying to impress a woman but more about conveying different sides of your personality. Most generic and boring profiles are only conveying the same needy personality. They try and impress women because they are desperate to have a woman in their lives. When you convey different sides to your personality it should be about expressing yourself and the fact that although you are attracting women, you don't feel the need to impress them by being someone you are not because you aren't desperate and needy. Design your profile in a way that captures her imagination

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and takes her on an emotional journey. What I mean by this is convey your personality by injecting emotion, creativity, humour and adventure into it. For example, instead of saying “My favourite movies are the wizard of oz, the yes man, fight club, freaky Friday, night at the museum.” Instead, add some excitement and adventure into it like, “If it can inspire me to take over the world with flying monkeys, start saying YES to every situation in life, start an underground fight club and have midgets fight to the death, switch bodies with Lindsey Lohan and spend the night in a museum were mummies and weird sex objects come to life, then I like it :)” This conveys a lot about your personality and sets you apart from all the boring and generic guys. It shows her that you are funny, witty and not taking this too seriously etc. When you inject emotion and adventure into your profile then you captivate her mind and take her on an emotional journey. When she reads your profile not only is she feeling all these different emotions but she is becoming more curious about you because you are also not being exactly direct or too serious about what you like. The key is to express different sides of your personality while capturing her imagination with the way you describe words. The best way to lead her imagination and inject emotion is to describe your passion and interests in a vivid and creative way. For example, “I love when the hot summer sun hits the waves of the ocean with a radiating golden shine. And as you put on your scuba diving gear

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you can't help but wonder what adventures await you in this breathtaking play of vibrant colours and odd creatures. And as you immerse yourself in the water you suddenly feel this amazing rush of excitement and awe that sends shivers down your spine, knowing that your quest to find nemo has just begun... I’ll find that little bastard one day ;)” I capture her imagination with my passion and the way I describe it while conveying different sides to my personality. This shows her that I'm not just one sided and that there are more layers and depth to my personality. One moment I may write in a passionate and creative way and the next I'll say something short and funny like, “My ego is bigger than my dick.” This also shows that I'm not trying to impress her. Or I will express myself in a more positive direct way, “I'm easily influenced by my idols and can never back down from a challenge. Life is too short to give a fuck. I'd rather enjoy the moment and explore all the fun it has to offer.” I mix it up and inject different emotions into my profile and by doing this I convey many parts of my personality without being boring or predictable. The important thing is that you have fun with it.

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and inject emotions into it in a creative and vivid way. Try and use imaginative words such as, “With the warmth of the sun just radiating down upon your face.” “The anticipation just making your entire body tremble in excitement as you just let go and as you are screaming out so fucking loud in excitement you shout WOHOOO!” “In that moment you just feel completely alive.” “You step off the plane and a cool breeze just brushes against your face.” Describe your passion in almost a mini story format and use words that describe feeling and emotion. Passion and humour is a great combination that works well in captivating a woman's imagination. When you blend passion and humour, you are conveying that not only are you not taking this too seriously but you are amusing yourself as well.

Examples of interest sections: “That spontaneous rush that sends you travelling the entire fucking globe searching for the world’s greatest high (which btw is located in Tijuana) or chasing after my childhood true love "Ariel" or curing horrible diseases in Africa with your hugs or stage diving at a Motley Crue concert and sticking a big FUCK YOU to the world and rocking the fuck out. I guess I just crave variety :)” “I love when the hot summer sun hits the waves of the ocean with a radiating golden shine. And as you put on 258

your scuba diving gear you can't help but wonder what adventures await you in this breathtaking play of vibrant colours and odd creatures. And as you immerse yourself in the water you suddenly feel this amazing rush of excitement and awe that sends shivers down your spine, knowing that your quest to find nemo has just begun... I’ll find that little bastard one day ;) Or sneaking out in the middle of the night to go on a road trip to wherever the road takes me... ending up playing dr. hitch for two midgets who are longing for love and crashing the bar mitzvah of Hershel Rosenstein, getting wasted as fuck and leaving with his older sister. Mazel tov!” “Constantly seeking that “adrenaline high” That unpredictable rush in life of not knowing what's going to happen at any moment, like one minute sat at home cooking biscuits in an easy bake oven and then the next moment on a bike and letting the wind take you anywhere... knowing an exciting adventure is awaiting you.” “One thing I really love is camping. There is nothing like getting up at the crack of dawn and hearing the bird’s whistle, while getting my fishing gear ready for an exciting adventure... While the sun is barely beating down onto the sea and I relax and catch mackerel. Then coming back to your tent really excited to cook my fresh breakfast and then fucking it up by burning it black! Oh well there will be another day.”

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“Also I’m a part time hand model.... you may have seen my hands on QVC while wearing bracelets and kid's watches... I'm nicknamed magic hands... I keep them moisturised every hour.” Take inspiration from the examples and use the same principles of blending your passion and interests with emotion and humour. Try and use things with what you are passionate about and interested in such as, sky diving, surfing and travelling etc. If you need further inspiration then I recommend watching stand up comedy or watching comedy movies because most of their stories and plot lines are based on adventures that infuse passion and humour. For example, Dane Cook’s B & E story.

Favourite Music: It’s best to state your favourite bands because it gives women a reason to start conversation with you. “Oh you like Slayer? I love Slayer too! I'm off to see them soon! Which is your favourite song?” If a woman finds you interesting and then sees that you like the same band as her, it will deepen her connection and commitment towards meeting you because she'll see that you have a lot in common and that it was “Fate.” Even if you do not like the same bands as her, she will admire you for your taste and be interested to learn what music you like. Don't state bands just to impress women, put your favourite bands that you really like. It will still give her a reason to start 260

conversation with you. I had one girl who messaged me that she heard a song from Buckcherry on the radio and she couldn't remember the name and we ended up having a conversation over the phone about it. She was really intrigued with my taste of music and I introduced her to some awesome bands. Another good thing to do is to also list bands that are silly and total opposite to your music taste. Women get curious and find it funny when I list rock bands and then list bands that are really cheesy and that my niece would probably listen too. Here is what my music list looks like, “Aerosmith, Buckcherry, Papa Roach, Nickel back, Hinder, Avenged Sevenfold, Burn Halo, Miley Cyrus, Guns N Roses, Jonas Brothers, Babylon Bombs, Kid Rock, High School Musical.” I get messages all the time because they were curious to know if I really liked Miley Cyrus or Jonas Brothers etc. Not only am I amusing myself but women are very curious about it and find it funny too. It is even funnier if you like metal and you are listing bands like Backstreet Boys and Kelly Clarkson.

Favourite TV: I do the same thing with my TV shows as I do with my favourite music because it gives women more topics to connect on. My friend Chris received a message off of this woman on Facebook who had seen that he liked Dr Who and they started to connect because they were big Dr Who fans. It was close to the season finale at the time and she asked if he wanted to come round to her place and watch 261

the finale with her. They ended up creating a finale of their own. If a woman is interested in you then she will try and find topics to make conversation. When you list your Favourite music and TV shows then it gives her an easier way to create conversation. Sometimes women will pretend to be interested in the things that you like just because she's interested in you and wants to find more about what you like. I also list silly TV shows because I do it to amuse myself and to convey that I'm not taking it too seriously. Women will ask me if I'm being serious if I really like Power Rangers and will tease me about it and flirt with me. Here is what my TV show list looks like, Friends, Power Rangers, Supernatural, Dora The Explorer, Sesame Street, Chuck, Heroes, Two and a Half Men, Big Bang Theory.

Favourite Films: If you are just stating too many of your favourite things then you will overwhelm your profile with too many facts. I find it best to be a little creative with your film list and have fun with it. Instead of putting in my favourite films, I will create a mini-adventure story out of them. This is my list, “If it can inspire me to take over the world with flying monkeys, start saying YES to every situation in life, start an underground fight club and have midgets fight to the death, switch bodies with Lindsey Lohan and spend a night in a museum were mummies and weird sex objects come to life, then I like it :)”

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This is my friends list, “Movies that can inspire me to live an adventurous life like, Throttling a bike and trying to catch to a moving aeroplane with the love of your life in it and picking the wrong plane or pulling random gadgets out of your pocket that turn to huge jet packs to land into an house party, with your only mission being to order yourself a drink... shaken... not stirred or becoming the lead anchorman for San Diego news and getting your ass handed to you by a mountain lion... I swear he looked worse off!” Pick your favourite films and create them into a little witty adventure that ties in together. Women find this extremely funny and they usually get inspired to steal the idea and put it on their profile too.

About me: As we know, most guys will put in generic and boring facts that are just depressing to look at. Inject a little bit of seriousness by stating a few facts about your personality but not facts about your life. You want your life to remain a mystery and for your facts to be a taste of who you are and what you believe in. Be truthful and a little serious about it but never give away too much. Most guys who are new to the mystery concept start to get worried that they don't know if they are revealing too much or not and get frustrated with themselves by constantly monitoring how much they are revealing. Don't take it to the extreme and get worried about this because it's not a big deal if you reveal too much. The balance concept still applies but it is 263

best to not reveal any life facts such as “I work at a bar.” or “I have 5 sisters.” Those are facts that you share when you meet up with a woman and when she brings them up. However it is perfectly fine to share facts about your personality and what you are about. By doing this you create a mystery and women will feel a natural curiosity towards you. However, there may be times when you message a girl where your gut is telling you to reveal your life facts and that is perfectly okay too. It’s all about knowing when to go with your gut. Some examples of personality facts are, “I'm the rebel that didn't grow up. The kid at heart.” ”I'm all about freedom and rocking the fuck out!” “Life is too short to give a fuck, I'd rather enjoy the moment and explore all the fun it has to offer.” “I live my life the way I want and do what I want.” You can also put funny and self amusing facts like, “My ego is bigger than my dick.” “I'm the guy who invented oxygen in a bottle.” “I am the gang leader of a bunch of orphan kids who steal Vagisil from gold diggers.” Don't go over board and write too much into your about me section. I find it is better to just have a few personality

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facts and something funny and witty that conveys that I'm not taking it too seriously. Something that amuses me like, “I have excitement outbursts were I'll get this spontaneous rush just to go on a road trip or burst out singing like right now! WELCOMMME TO MY WORLD WOOO OOHHH DOOO WELCOMEEEE TO THIS SONGGGG OHHH AHH MMMMM!!! That song was made especially for you, keep it and treasure it.” Comedy shows have a great source of material to get inspired from and are great to help you create your about me section. For example, this is my about me section which I created with inspiration from the TV show My Name is Earl, “You know the kind of guy who does nothing but awesome things like going undercover to help Jack Bauer find the crazy terrorists who want to rule the world or rescuing a panda from the zoo to try and take it home to teach it Kung Fu and then wonders why his life is in danger. Well, that was me, Every time something good happened to me, something dangerous was awaiting me around the corner like the time when me and my friend Jason stayed up all night in a haunted house with Dereck Acorah only to then be chased by a horny flamboyant ghost who whispered sweet nothings into my ear. Karma, that's when I realized that I had to change, so I made a list of everything dangerous and awesome I've ever done and one by one I'm going to sell them as stories to Oprah and become a millionaire and use all my money to send all the poor people to the moon, I'm just trying to be a better person. My name is Adam.” Remember don't over think this and have fun with it. Find

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what works best for you and focus on what you are amused by, not what you think will impress women. You will attract women and capture their imagination as a side effect of not taking it too seriously and amusing yourself. When you have finished with your profile, it should look something like this: Interests: That spontaneous rush that sends you travelling the entire fucking globe searching for the world’s greatest high (which btw is located in Tijuana) or chasing after my childhood true love "Ariel" or curing horrible diseases in Africa with your hugs or stage diving at a Motley Crue concert and sticking a big FUCK YOU to the world and rocking the fuck out I guess I just crave variety :) Favourite Music: Aerosmith, Buck cherry, Papa Roach, Nickel back, Hinder, Avenged Sevenfold, Burn Halo, Miley Cyrus, Guns N Roses, The Little Mermaid, Babylon Bombs, Kid Rock, High School Musical Favourite TV Programmes: Friends, Power Rangers, Supernatural, Hannah Montana, Sesame Street, Chuck, Heroes, Two and a Half Men, Big Bang Theory Favourite Films: If it can inspire me to take over the world with flying monkeys, start saying YES to every situation in life, start an underground fight club and have midgets fight to the death, switch bodies with Lindsey Lohan and spend a night in a museum where mummies and weird sex objects come to life, then I like it :) About me: You know the kind of guy who does nothing but awesome things like going undercover to help Jack Bauer find the crazy terrorists who want to rule the world or rescuing a panda from the zoo to try and take it home to teach it Kung Fu and then wonders why his life is in danger. Well, that was me, Every time something good happened to me, something dangerous was awaiting me around the corner like the time when me and my friend Jason stayed up all night in a haunted house with Dereck Acorah only to then be chased by a horny flamboyant ghost who whispered sweet nothings into my ear. Karma, that's when I realized that I had to change, so I made a list of everything dangerous and awesome I've ever done and one by one I'm going to sell them as stories to Oprah and become a millionaire and use all my money to send all the poor people to the moon, I'm just trying to be a better person. My name is Adam.

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Applications: Don't become the problem, be part of the solution! Applications can be annoying as fuck and they can clutter up your profile and make it look ugly. However there is one application that I find really fun and beneficial. The living social application is a top 5 list in which you pick your top 5 of a topic. Topics ranging from your 5 favourite TV shows characters to your 5 things you are addicted too. This is the only application I find useful because it doesn't junk up your profile like most of the applications and it also captures women's attention. I find that a lot of women will comment on my list when I pick funny and silly things. For example I will do the list “5 things I could grab from where I'm sitting and I’ll pick Swine Flu, Jesus, Anal Lube, Grenade Launcher and Ghandi. If you are going to use applications make sure that they don't clutter up your profile and spam your friends list.

Browsing Women: Searching for women is fairly easy but hidden. Go into account settings and click on the network tab, it should tell you about your network and it will have a click-able blue link with how many people are in that network, click that and you'll come to the search bar. Once you are there you get the option to fill in the search criteria to your liking. It should allow you to preview a woman's profile depending if she hasn't changed her privacy settings. When you hit update, all kinds of women will appear and just browse 267

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Insights on Facebook The truth is most women don't take the online world very seriously. Not only do they not take it very seriously but there are other factors involved such as current mood and her sense of humour that all influence on how she will respond to you. That is why meeting women online is never a substitute for real life. If there was such thing as coming up with the perfect response then it would be so natural and in the moment that you wouldn't have to analyse it and invest all your time into coming up with it because it would just flow from your passionate energy. No poking. There is nothing to gain from poking (unless it is done in real life of course.) Poking can also show the wrong kind of interest because it conveys you aren't confident enough to message her. Just because she pokes you back doesn't mean she is interested in you, it's meaningless to her. It won’t capture her attention to check out your profile and message you. It is like how some guys on online dating sites will wink at women to get their attention but it just conveys that they are afraid to initiate contact with her and women know that they are interested 268

because they winked at them but the guy is too afraid to come out and express it. The same applies with poking. A woman will know you are interested in her if you are poking her. If you are poking each other back and forth then it conveys that you aren't confident enough to initiate contact and express your interest to her. I knew a girl who was in an 8 month poking war with a guy and every time she would log into Facebook she would receive a poke and poke him back. She told me how annoying it was and that even when she didn't poke back, he would re-initiate it. She knew that the guy was interested in her but was afraid to speak to her and he was even too shy to speak to her in class. Don't be afraid to compliment her. I do recommend that if you are new to this at first then you should stay a little indirect about your interest but don't be afraid to compliment her if your gut is telling you to do so. The reason that many dating gurus teach you not to compliment a girl early on is because if you don't know what you are doing then it can show the wrong kind of interest. When a generic and boring guy compliments a woman he comes from a place of neediness and scarcity. When a Charismatic Lover compliments a woman he comes from a place of power and abundance. Most guys will compliment a woman and expect her to be interested and grateful for the compliment. They compliment her because deep down they want something. When the Charismatic Lover compliments a woman he will compliment her with power and passion, he is the exception to the rule because he knows exactly the right way to compliment a woman and he does it and doesn't

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need or expect anything in return. He does it because he feels something in his gut and has to express it and when you compliment women in that masterful way, you do that from a place of passion and you captivate women. The Charismatic Lover knows that there is a lot of power in a compliment but that if you overdo it then it can have the opposite effect. Don't ask too many questions. Women are turned off and confused by guys who ask way too many questions. It disrupts the natural flow of conversation and shows the wrong kind of interest that conveys neediness and scarcity. A woman may be able to multi-task and talk about a wide range of topics but it's only natural that she can only focus on so much conversation at a time. Generic and boring guys who ask way too many questions convey a strong desperate need for connection and it gives off the wrong energy because it comes from a place of scarcity. Here is the kind of messages that my friend Amy receives, “Hey Amy, How are you today? I was just browsing and came past your profile, so thought I would message you, hope I haven't bothered you. I see you are from London. What do you do here in London? I like your photographs. Are you a full time photographer? So what you up to on this lush long sunny weekend we got coming up? Anything awesome planned? I would love to get to know you better. Please reply back xx” This message reeks of neediness and scarcity. It conveys too much of the wrong desperate interest that turns a woman off. Women won't even bother replying back to these needy and desperate messages.

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Don't reveal your whole life story. Too many generic and boring guys tend to tell a woman their whole life story in one message. Take this message that was sent to my friend Amy as an example, “hiii I am a pretty laid back guy who likes to try new things. I have a good sense of humour and am pretty down to earth. I treat my friends well and expect the same in return. I don't like fake people, as I am an honest and up-front type of guy. My work can keep me out of Edmonton for exended periods of time, so I am looking for a girl who can be trusted and is secure enough to know that I can be trusted. I am looking for a girlfriend and possibly marriage. If like me and feeling the same way then message me back, I'm awaiting your reply soon so please tell me yes or no, take care.” Don't be like this needy guy and reveal your whole story. Not only did he convey that he is needy and desperate but he revealed way too much about himself. Women crave mystery and they love feeling curious about you. Don't always give straight answers to all her questions, challenge her and keep the mystery. Black mail her in a teasing way. Tell her that you will only tell her what she wants to know if she buys you some Oreos or washes your car. Remember the balance, don't be too mysterious and challenging, there is nothing wrong in giving her straight answers but it's always better to tease and challenge her from time to time and not be so predictable. Follow your passion and gut intuition. Just because you learnt that complimenting a woman is bad doesn't mean you have to follow that rule all the time. If your gut intuition and passion is telling you to act on something

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then do it! I was told by a well known seduction guru that if I'm messaging back and forth with women and I'm not getting the phone number then it is going nowhere. He was completely right but what he failed to mention is that you shouldn't follow it as a rule but more as a guideline. I was messaging this woman and before I knew it we had been sending each other a lot of messages back and forth and I thought about the rule that the guru had told me but my gut intuition was telling me that this circumstance was different and to keep messaging. We ended up sending a lot of messages back and forth throughout the day because it just felt right and when I got her phone number it felt a lot easier because we had already connected and that girl ended up my girlfriend for almost a year. I learnt more about women from that girl then anything I had ever learnt from any expert. I am so proud of that moment that I actually decided to share it in this book. You can find the exact transcript of me and that girl in the Facebook Message Transcript section. My passion and gut intuition became the exception to the rule. However, do make sure that the feeling is coming from a place of good energy and not from a place of scarcity and neediness. Sometimes we get impulses that will tell us to do things that we know deep down is bad for us and goes against our true gut intuition, but we do it because we feel this bad energy and scarcity. For example, when a guy breaks up with his girlfriend and although he knows deep down that it's wrong to text her, he does it because of the bad scarce feeling and uncertainty telling him to do so. It is always best to follow the guidelines at

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first until you develop a stronger gut intuition with experience. The guys who are natural at attracting women have a stronger developed gut intuition from experience. I think the most important thing to know about messaging women online is that there is no such thing as the perfect line. My friend Crash would always ask me for the perfect opener or perfect response for a message and he would invest way too much time trying to think of the perfect response. He would sit there and spend an hour just thinking of the perfect message to reply back and he made it a huge deal that it had to be perfect. However, usually when he sent his message he didn't get a reply back or he would get a short one line response. At this point he would feel pissed off because he had spent all this time thinking of the perfect response and he just couldn't understand why they would hardly respond to it. He fell into this pattern over and over again, analysing what he did wrong and what he could do to perfect his response. I would always give him the same advice, “Dude there is no such thing as the perfect response.” Don't focus too much of your time into this. It's not rocket science, it's a side project that is no substitute for real life. My friend would always take it way too seriously and formed a belief that women online are bitter and nonresponsive. On the other hand I would always be meeting women from Facebook and I formed a completely different belief. I never took it seriously because I knew that if a woman never responded then it couldn't be a personal attack on me because she didn't know me in person.

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Always remember how the balance concept applies. Just because you aren't taking it seriously doesn't mean you don't want to meet beautiful women. There is a huge difference between desire and need because it derives from a different kind of energy. Be the guy who can tell her interesting stories, compliment her, tease her and do all this because of his desire for her and at the same be willing to walk away, not trying to impress her or need something out of her or holding onto expectations. There is nothing wrong in purposely conveying certain attractive qualities or purposely telling her stories because you desire her and want to meet up with her, as long as it comes from good energy and not because you are trying to impress her or desperately need something out of her. Even if I'm teasing her or telling her a specific story on purpose, I'm doing it to share good energy and to also amuse myself.

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Messaging Women on Facebook First Message

Although you do want to meet women and have them respond to your first message, you shouldn't focus on any future possible outcome. The first message is really only about intriguing women and attracting the attention of high quality women. When opening women online, most guys either go to the extreme of being too direct and showing too much interest out of neediness or being too indirect and showing no direct interest at all. Even though the guy is still not conveying neediness in his message, she will assume that he just isn't confident enough to express his interest. Even by messaging her, he shows interest because if he wasn't interested then he wouldn't have messaged her. When you try and act aloof and go too indirect when you have just messaged her out of the blue then you are going to convey weakness and that you have some kind of ulterior motive. When you are too indirect you convey

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exactly the same message as you would if you went too direct like any other boring and needy guy. It doesn't feel genuine to women because she knows it's just an act to get into her pants. It's the same with the guy who is too direct as well because she knows that the overly direct guy is being nice because deep down he just wants to fuck her. The guy who acts too direct doesn't understand how to convey his desire and passion properly. There is no strength radiating from his message because he is attached on having it work to get the girl. He doesn't access his inner passion and gut feeling. Even through the internet, he radiates a needy energy that women can sense just through his message. It also conveys weakness when you are asking for her opinion on something on the first message. Don't get me wrong asking for her opinion on something is great and it can be used in person with great success but with no other factors to work with online then the only thing you are conveying is that you are not confident enough to show your interest and that you just secretly want to get into her pants. Another really lame one that women see right through is when guys pretend that they have met them somewhere or that they know them when they really don't. If you really haven't met them then you are just conveying that you are too weak and don't have the balls to tell her that you like her. Deep down when a woman receives these kind of messages she wonders, “Why can't guys just get to the point?”

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Women crave a guy who isn't afraid to show his interest but at the same time isn't taking it all too seriously either. Women want to meet guys that they can lose themselves in the momentum with. They want to feel that sense of complete freedom. Your first message to her is like a glimpse into your personality. It doesn't say much about you but it gives her a taste about who you are as a person and it's enough to intrigue her. Ultimately that is what the first message is all about, to intrigue her. There are two ways to go with a first message, Direct or Indirect. Direct is extremely powerful and beautiful when it is done correctly. It captivates a woman in a way that intrigues her. The most beautiful thing about direct is that it puts a smile on her face when done in the right way and gives her that great feeling inside her stomach when she reads it. To the average guy, he may not notice the difference between direct and being too direct, but to women there is a huge difference. A Charismatic Lover may say, “You are fucking beautiful... You look like someone I would want to get to know =)“ A woman will see this and smile because it conveys passion and power. Swearing is a great way to make your words more intense and passionate. It also shows that you are not trying to impress her by being a well mannered guy and that you are not taking it too seriously.

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“You look like someone I would want to get to know.” Shows a strength that says, “I go for what I desire and I take action and I'm not afraid to show vulnerability because I have nothing to fear.” It's not a miracle opener, but it is enough to intrigue her. Here is a message I received from a girl with this opener, “why thank you very much! i love ur tattoos!” While the too direct and needy guy may say, “Hey, you are very beautiful baby x” This is usually the most generic, over used message that a woman will receive. There is no passion and he takes no liberty. He may just be stating that he finds her very beautiful but what a woman sees is just another loser who secretly wants to get in her pants but is too afraid to tell her. Direct is all about captivating a woman. It tells her that I take liberty and go for what I desire and I'm not afraid to take action to get it and that I'm also not trying to impress her. That is why using swear words is a great way to convey power and passion. There is a huge difference between saying “You are beautiful.” and “You are fucking beautiful.” It is hard to convey energy through words but swearing manages to convey a passionate energy when used right. Most generic guys who compliment women are too afraid to swear because they are afraid that they'll offend the woman and lose her. When you give off a compliment that comes from a place of passion and you are not afraid to

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offend her because you aren't trying to impress her then you instantly convey that you are attractive and you intrigue her. I don't ask too many questions. I'm not attached to it. Although you can ask her questions, I never ask her many questions on the opener because I'm conveying I'm not attached to getting anything out of her and that I'm just sharing good energy and showing interest. If you are going to use Direct for your first message then I recommend that you take inspiration from the film Don Juan Demarco. He sees through the eyes of a lover and is consumed by his desire. He captivates women with his words because he expresses his passion and desire for them. When you see a woman you want to message, then look at her picture and see the beauty in her and feel that desire and passion take over you. Let the flow of the momentum take over you and express in your message how you felt by stumbling across her profile. Take inspiration from the examples below.

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You are fucking sexy... I just had to message you... There is just something about you that captivates me.

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I just had to let you know that I found you incredibly fucking cute.

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Wow... I'm just captivated by the energy radiating from your smile... Thanks for making my day.

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Something intrigues me about you... I can't put my finger on it... I mean you're incredibly beautiful but there is just something interesting about you that stands out... I bet you're secretly plotting to take over the world :P

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There is just something passionate about your smile that captured my attention... I'm attracted to people with amazing energy, so I just had to say hi.

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You have amazing energy and passion for life... I bet you spend all your day doing Yoga and becoming one with nature, you hippie woman ;) lol.

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showing that you are not taking it as seriously like the rest of the guys. When you go indirect you will find that she will play along as well. There is a huge difference between being indirect and too indirect and women understand it as well. A Charismatic Lover may say, “Just a message to let you know that for the next 3 hours you are going to be my personal maid. Your duties will include: Cleaning all of my dirty underwear (even the pink coloured boxers that I secretly love to wear), Purposely losing at Wii sports and having to watch me do a dance of defeat around you like a 70's boogie dancer and watching romantic comedy films with me so when my friends find out that I've been watching the notebook I could just blame it on you for being a sissy and making me watch it. You will be paid worse than a McDonald's employee and undergo more stress than an Asian hooker. No negotiations but I promise that you will have the time of your life, lol :P” It's powerful because its light hearted and you convey that you are different from every other guy and that you are merely just amusing yourself. It shows that you are not trying to impress her and it shares good energy with her that she can participate in. While the too indirect guy may say, “Hello, I need a female perspective on something... Do you think it's acceptable for someone to stand you up during a date but they had a reason?” When a woman receives that she becomes confused because she wonders why you would pick her out of the blue to say something like that and she will

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think there is probably an ulterior motive and that you are just probably too weak to convey you’re interested in her. Let's face it, the mere fact you are messaging her shows interest and when you ask her for her opinion over the net it looks like a poor excuse to talk to her and to get into her pants. Being indirect is about capturing her imagination and intriguing her with your sense of humour, wit and attitude. It is about amusing yourself and not taking it too seriously. You are sharing the good energy and creating a playful bond between each other that you both get to play a role in. When I go indirect I do it because I'm attracting the women who have a great sense of humour and filtering out the women that don't. Usually the women that haven't got a good sense of humour won’t respond. I don't want women in my life who take things too seriously because in the long run they are a pain in the ass. I want a woman who has a great sense of humour and can share that with me. If you are going to use indirect in your first message then I recommend you take inspiration from comedy films and stand up comedians. I have been inspired by comedians such as Russell Brand and Dane Cook to come up with the most far-fetched amusing thing that I can say to a woman. I also watch a lot of comedy shows like The Big Bang Theory and Two and a half men. What I find when I watch these is that it gets me into that state were my sense of humour and wit just flows from me. The most important

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thing to know is that you should only amuse yourself and don't worry too much about how silly you are coming off. Take inspiration from the examples below.

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Just came across your profile and I have decided that I'm going to hire you as my personal maid. Your duties will include: Cleaning all of my dirty underwear (even my lucky pink boxers), Purposely losing at Wii sports and having to watch me do a dance of defeat around you like a 70's boogie dancer and Watching romantic comedy films with me so when my friends find out that I've been watching sappy chick flicks, I could just blame it on you for being a sissy and making me watch it. You will be paid worse than a McDonald's employee and undergo more stress than an Asian hooker on acid. Sense of humour Required. No negotiations but I promise that you will have the time of your life, lol :P

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So I'm searching for my friend on Facebook and every time I do your profile keeps popping up. So I have come up with some possible theories to why this keeps happening: You have kidnapped my friend to stage a ransom (Which isn't worth much because although my friend is the coolest person in the world he has a missing eye and is a devoted 283

Scientology follower.) You and my friend are caught in a government conspiracy that involves knowing highly top secret knowledge and you're hiding your tracks because the government is onto you. (If so, then this message will self destruct in 5 seconds) OR (And this is my favourite one) You really are my friend and have undergone a secret sex operation and are now under your new identity as a gorgeous independent woman. I mean you do have the same hair colour as him and I always thought he had a beautiful smile which you seem to also possess and he always did have very feminine eye lashes. So which one out of three is it missy? A curious mind wants to know lol :P -

You have been randomly selected to feed me Oreos. You will be doing one good deed for the world by feeding starving children (I may not be a child but I am fucking starving!) To do this wonderfully generous deed for charity send Oreos in this message and you can rest at ease knowing there is one less starving person in this world ;)

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Just came across your profile and I have the most important thing to say to you, it's a matter of life or death... Of course there is a catch, I'm going to say it all in German so you can't understand a fucking word of it lol unless you're smart like Einstein or something “du bist ein nerd aber irgendwie süß” Put that in your pipe and smoke it! :P

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bar you come up! See you can't hide from me, I know you secretly wear a blonde wig and sing cheesy songs that kids jump around too! I have uncovered your true identity Hannah and if you want this to remain a secret then you will have to pay me in Oreos. This is just payback for all the times I was babysitting my nieces and having to listen to your silly show for hours and hours but if you comply then at least you will have the best of both worlds :P -

It's you! I seem to see your face everywhere on here! You are like a real life version of Dora the Explorer :P

A Charismatic Lover never sticks to just one route, he is a man of variety and will use both indirect and direct depending on how he feels at the time. He may also blend humour into the direct approach and direct interest into the indirect approach. When sending your first message your mindset should be to “Send and go.” Send your message and then don't focus on what the outcome might be. Most guys tend to send a message to a girl and then will form all kinds of fantasies on what the girl is like or anticipating when she will respond. You will just set yourself up for disappointment if you focus on the outcome because it is a numbers game and there is no guarantee that she will even respond to you. She may not even be your type and have no sense of humour what so ever. You don't truly know what she is like until she responds and even then it is merely a

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glimpse of what she is like. That is why it is best to send your message and then to put it out of your mind and focus on other things. Meeting women online is very unpredictable, you can get tons of responses back one day and the next day you might get hardly any and you have to be okay with that because you can't take it too personally.

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seriously and become very bitter and angry towards women because they didn't receive any replies. You just can't predict which woman is going to respond and which one isn't. The excitement of meeting women online is that with each new woman that sends you a message, there is no telling what she is going to respond to you. I have been doing this nearly two years and every reply I get is very unique from the other. Some days I will just have women message me out of the blue without even messaging them before hand and other days it feels like I've hit a bad streak were women will rarely message me and when they do they seem to have no sense of humour. There is no way around having a bad streak, it happens to the best of us but the more you apply everything you have learnt in this book, the more lucky streaks you will seem to have and you will be overwhelmed with the amount of positive responses of women who want to meet and hook up with you. The usual first response to direct is some kind of appreciation or for indirect, you will usually get a playful response back. Responses fall into three categories. Neutral and positive being the usual response and negative being the rare response. Every response is a form of intrigue and interest on her part, even the negative responses. What most guys don't realize is that most negative responses are just challenges and tests from women to see if you really are the guy you are conveying and that it isn't an act. It's almost like a test to your strength to see if you aren't

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pretending to be something you are not. She is the sceptic swimming in the sea of generic and boring men, so when a glimpse of something better and beautiful comes along she gets sceptical and tests it to see if it is not a mirage. She may not even realize logically that she is testing for strength and authenticity because she is just going on an emotional impulse that feels right in the moment for her to go with. There are however those negative responses that are just pure harsh and nasty and that is just merely a reflection of who she is as a person and has nothing to do with your message. You then have to decide that, if she is really harsh and negative then is she really worth knowing as a person? Usually the answer is no, after all it is a numbers game and the good thing about the numbers game is that there are many numbers to choose from and you are not stuck with just one. Most women respond neutrally or in a positive way. It doesn't matter how little or disinterested her response appears to you, what matters is that she responded to you. It shows that she is still intrigued and interested. There is no need to analyse her message because there are no secretive or subtle meanings inside them. The only meaning a message has is the one you give it. For example, a guy emails a girl that he has liked for awhile but has only just plucked up the courage to message her. He messages her and impatiently awaits her reply. Six hours later she responds to him and he reads the message instantly it reads, “Just been shopping with Jodie, what are you doing baby.” The guy begins to wonder “Baby! She called me baby, she must like me.” The guy sees the word

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baby to mean that she is showing interest but to her it's just simply something she always says to people when she is feeling in a good mood. Just because a woman responds to you in a way that shows disinterest doesn't mean she actually is disinterested. We tend to pass quick judgment on the things we give meaning to and judge too quickly without seeing the bigger picture. Judge her by her actions not purely by her words. If she is messaging you then she is most probably intrigued and interested. Usually women do not message guys who they are not interested in.

Neutral: Again, just because a woman sends you a basic and short message does not mean she is not interested in you. I have seen guys give up just because a woman appears to be disinterested and cold on the first response. A neutral message is basic and short but more of an expression of curiosity on her part. If she is still sending basic neutral messages after the first initial response, although she may be showing a little interest and curiosity by replying to you, at that point she isn't exactly showing effort. Sometimes women just write messages in a basic and short way because they don't take the online world too seriously. This doesn't mean that they are not interested in meeting up with you. It just means that they won’t seem as enthusiastic and intrigued by your responses at first. Once you push past that and you eventually speak on the phone to her, it may be shocking to find that she is the most enthusiastic and intrigued person in the world and is 289

extremely into you but it’s only online were she seems neutral. It could also be a number of factors, distractions, too impatient with the internet, not taking the online world too seriously and many other things. What matters is that you are judging her by her actions and not primarily by her word content.

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a response to her neutral message. This drives guys into trying to find the perfect response to come up with. I have found that the best way to respond to an initial neutral message is to show curiosity in her. When you show curiosity in her it is best for you to connect with her as well. For example, she responds to you by saying “haha funny.” Don't just act curious and say “I'm curious about you... what is the funniest thing that you have ever seen?” Be curious and go first by sharing what you think is the funniest thing you have ever seen, like “Yeah I'm funnier than a miniature Buddha with hair. I'm curious about you though... What's the funniest thing you have ever seen? I think for me it was the time I went to sea world in California and as I was innocently just walking by minding my own business, I look to the left of me and there it was... And I shit you not! It was a fucking monkey giving a blowjob. I couldn't stop laughing I was going up to random people saying “OMG YOU HAVE TO SEE THIS!” The monkey wasn't happy, he kind of looked at me directly in the eye as if he was trying to tell me “Do you fucking mind?!” When you share with her then she will be more inclined to show effort with you.

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Me: I'm curious about you... What would you say is the wildest thing you've ever done? I think for me it was the time I went Sky diving in Miami. I was all excited to go, telling everyone I knew “Whoo I'm going sky diving biatches!!” But it's not till you actually get on the plane and that you are in the air until you realize that you have to jump out of a fucking plane! In that moment the fear just hit me and everyone else was jumping out like they were on fear factor or something... I was laid there looking down towards my possible death. But knowing that down was the only way out, I had to do it. Barely being able to push myself out of the plane because my legs were shaking like fuck, I eventually managed to jump with my instructor and BOOM I was out there and it was scary at first but in that moment I felt completely free and it felt timeless even though it was over pretty fast but to this day it has been the wildest thing I have ever done. Her: how are u Me: I'm great. Today I'm one step closer to achieving my childhood dreams of becoming a spy like James Bond. What about you... What did you want to be when you were a kid? Her: I don't really like Oreos though Me: You don't like Oreos? That is madness! I fucking love Oreos. I seriously cannot stop eating them. One time I had to go to a Rehab clinic specially designed for people who are addicted to Oreos. I can proudly say I am 13 days sober and free of my Oreo addiction. Your turn to confess your sins... What is something that you are really addicted too?

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Most women show effort after the initial neutral message and express more of their personality. They open up more and show more effort as you go along. However you may find that there are women who just won't show effort and it isn't a personal attack on you. There could be many reasons why she isn't showing effort. She may not take online seriously at all, she may be boring and lack a personality, she may be in a pissed off mood, she may have distractions and there are many more reasons. If after showing curiosity and sharing with her but she is still giving me neutral responses like “I don't really have a dream job.” or “I don't really know.” I tend to just leave a short little teasing message, like “I bet you are just too embarrassed to tell me that your ideal job is to work as a manager at burger king :P” and then I move onto the next woman. I personally find that I get turned off if she isn't going to show effort with me because the other majority of women out there will show effort.

Positive: Typically a positive message will consist of a woman appreciating your direct message and being captivated by you or amused by your indirect message and being curious about you. You will find that most women will be open and receptive towards you. I find that overall I receive more positive responses than neutral and negative responses. A positive response shows that she is curious and captivated by you and that she is willing to make an effort. Not only is she willing to make an effort but if she is 293

responding positively to you then it will be much easier for you to make a real connection and meet in person. When I receive a positive message not only is she open and curious about me but it makes me open and curious about her too. There are a lot of factors that influence her receptiveness towards you. You will find that the women who respond positive towards you are usually high quality and have a great sense of humour. Women may also respond positive to you because they’re in a great mood or they have no distractions or even because they are open to meeting someone. With everything you learn you will just be able to flow from your gut feeling and passion and know exactly what to say to a woman who responds positive because when she's open it makes it easier to do so. There is nothing more beautiful than a woman who plays along with your teasing and shares in that great energy. You will find that the more you do this, the more you are attracted to high quality women with a great sense of humour and turned off by negative women who lack a sense of humour.

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Positive Examples: Thank you x I absolutely love your sleeves <3 How are you doing? xx *grins the biggest I've grinned in a long time* You can clean your own underwear mister! And I won't let you get away that easy on wii sports! I am kick ass at bowling ^_^ So if I win then you have to do a dance of defeat in those kinky pink boxers for me! One question though, if I disobey you do I get punished for being a naughty girl? Lol xx ;) Thank you, you are very sexy yourself and you love Avenged Sevenfold just like me :) What is your favourite song? Cheeky git saying that I look like your friend lol The truth is we are undercover agents who are running away from the terrorists and now you have just blown our cover! But I'll let you off because I like you lol it’s a change from all the dull messages I get. So what's your story? X You sure know how to make a woman smile :) I have to say that I am also attracted to people with amazing energy as well and you seem to have great energy too. I love your hair.

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Meeting women online is very unpredictable, the girl who responds positively to you one minute can respond negatively or not to you at all to you the next. Because it is unpredictable some guys when they receive a positive message will try to come up with the perfect message to reply back to her and impress her with. They do this because they live in a mentality were they think women are rarely interested in them so when a woman responds positively they feel they have to do everything they can to not lose them or fuck it up. There are many ways to respond to a positive message, you can be curious and share and you can also show interest in a playful way. For example, “It is funny how I came across your profile actually... Have you ever heard of the secret? Basically it's about how we attract the things we think about into our life... I was thinking about meeting a dorky fun girl and I guess I did... you seem kinda dorky haha :P” What that does is it shows that you are interested in her but teases her at the same time. I'm showing to her that I'm interested but that I'm still expressing my sense of humour. It conveys that I'm not trying to impress her or be someone I'm not to get something out of her and that I'm not attached to any specific outcome. Generic and boring guys tend to message women showing their interest in a way that they are taking the whole online world way too seriously and that they putting on an act to get something out of them.

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So when you show your interest and you also keep the playful teasing going, you are conveying to her that you are being your genuine self and that you are not trying to impress her to get something out of her. You show that you are amusing yourself and although you are interested in her, you are still not taking it all too seriously because you are here to share good energy and make a real connection.

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You seem like the kind of girl that I like.... We're going to go on risk taking adventures were we will adopt new identities.... We'll be Mr and Mrs Smith.... No one will fuck with us! Anyone who gets in our way we'll throw ninja stars at their face like *POW* *POW*“TAKE THAT!” And then to relax from the life of crime we'll eat Oreos on the beach... but I don't know I have a feeling that you're just trying to get me fat :P lol

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out... You know... Wine and dine me... Movie of my choice... Then maybe at the end of the night you get a kiss on the cheek... But I get it, you're a sexually perverted woman in need of her fix... go back to stalking me, you sexy murderess :P -

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You will find that when a woman responds positively to you that you can get away with a lot more teasing and being sexual with her. For example, if I said “I would probably just end up fucking you in the ass. :P” to a woman who responded neutral to me, then she is most probably not going to take it very well because she will misinterpret it to be vulgar and serious. But if I was to say that to a woman who responded positive to me and we were teasing each other, then she will understand that I'm not being serious and that I'm just sexually bantering with her. Although you should just go with your gut intuition, you should also be aware that you can get away with teasing a lot more and being more sexual with women that respond positively to you. When she responds positively it speeds

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things up and makes it easier for you to make a real bond and meet her in person. Don't be afraid to tease her and be sexual with her, as long as you are sharing good energy and not doing it to impress her then that's all that matters. It is important that you balance out the teasing with passion and curiosity. If you are teasing all the time then your conversations will lack depth and real connection. It is best to show a genuine interest in her if she is responding positively to you. Women are captivated and attracted to guys who are able to one minute convey their teasing and playful side and then the next minute they are able to convey their passionate and deep side. When you are responding back and forth with a woman who is open and receptive to you, throw in some genuine interest about her life, for example “I see that you like writing poetry... what do you love the most about writing poetry?” Instead of being curious and sharing funny stories, what you are doing is being genuinely interest about her personal life. You can add these into your messages whenever your gut intuition tells you to do so. I will usually get more genuinely interested about her after around two positive messages because that’s when she is normally showing effort and open to connecting with me. That is when I feel like I want to genuinely get to know more about her. You can find things to be curious about by reading her profile and looking for things she listed, like if she says she likes reading George Orwell books then you can say, “I see that you like George Orwell... What would you say is your favourite book he wrote?” I will also ask her questions like, “What is something that you are really

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passionate about in life?” This will create more of a real connection with her and she will be captivated by your ability to one minute be teasing her and the next to be genuinely interested in her. Reveal a bit more of yourself when she is curious about you. Most guys tend to think they shouldn't reveal anything at all in order to show they are a mystery and to keep women on their feet but it is best to reveal some things about yourself and be open to her, especially when she has made effort and she has shared things about herself to you. The key is just knowing when to stop and to change the topic of the conversation when you feel it's the right time to do so. Usually the best time to reveal more about yourself is when you have been genuinely interested in her and she has shared herself with you and when she becomes curious about you and asks you about your life. Describing things with passion captivates and attracts women. When you speak from a place of passion there is something so compelling and beautiful about the emotions invoked in the words that you describe and as a result it captivates a woman's imagination and takes her on an emotional adventure. I find that the best time to be passionate is when you are connecting with her and revealing a bit more about yourself. If I’m talking to a girl about photography and because I really love photography, I'll describe my passion for how I feel towards it like, “I love photography, there's just something about the beauty of capturing that picture in

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the moment, like not knowing what your picture is going to turn out like... and just by turning a certain angle you get a whole new picture.. You capture the beauty and the essence of the world by photography.” When you are describing your passion and interests, describe it by tapping into your emotions and gut feeling. Although you are expressing your passion in a way that captivates her, you shouldn't use it to impress her. You are just sharing that passionate energy with her because you are connecting with her and expressing who you are to her. As a result of expressing your passion, you will captivate her and attract her. In those moments you learn to be un-attached to anything happening because you are just opening up to her and going with your emotional impulse. Sometimes I will deliberately describe something passionate to see if she is willing to open herself emotionally to me. For example, “Have you ever had that moment were you can just look into a person's eyes and it’s like in that moment... time stands still... and you just know that when you are with this person you are entirely safe and you are understood... it's like this person gets who you are on the inside, they look past the shadow of who you convey on the outside and into who you really are... it's like when you connect on that level... you have that deep connection and when you are looking into their eyes and they are smiling at you.... it's like that feeling that you are stood on the edge of the world, staring down at the ocean, with the moonlight shining down upon your face... In that moment when you have your first kiss... it sends

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butterflies deep inside your stomach.” I see these as gifts that deepen your connection with her and give her a good feeling when reading it. Describe it like it's an emotional adventure were she is experiencing that moment of attraction or feeling of desire for someone. What you are doing is leading her imagination with your words as if she is going through those feelings herself and by doing so she reconnects with her passion. You can also deliberately compliment her with passion. For example, “I can tell that you’re a very passionate person who loves adventure... you have a look about you that is fuelled by fire... that you will see what you want and fucking take it and I'm instantly drawn to people like that I can’t help it.“ It is important that when you deliberately compliment through passion, that you are doing it because you want to deepen the connection and make her feel good, not because you are trying to impress her. To deliberately compliment her with passion, tap into your desire and describe it in a way that shows why you are captivated and intrigued by her. Instead of saying “I like that you are passionate.” Describe it passionately and inject emotion and depth into it like, “You know what I like about you the most? I really like how you're passionate about what you do, like I can just sense that there i something inside of you.... something that pushes you not to settle for anything less... that feeling striving you to go for what you desire in life... I can tell you're pretty strong and capable of putting

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anything into action because you're independent and I find that to be fucking beautiful in a person... I'm captivated by you.” You will also find examples of me using deliberate passion in the Facebook Message Transcript section. Another great thing to do is to ask fun questions like, “If you could be any Heroes character, what would your super power be? Would you be a hero or a villain?” These little fun questions are just a good way to add to the conversation. Whatever she answers to the question, I will usually playfully tease her for it. If she tells me she would be a hero, I will tease her about it “You a hero? Haha! You don't fool me for one minute! I can tell by your really devious smile and shifty eyes that you would be the bad ass villain and use your powers to take over the world :P”

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Examples of fun questions: Which Lost character would you say that you are? Would you stay on the island or go back to the real world? If you could be any celebrity in the world, who would you be? If you won the lottery right now, what would be the first thing you spent your money on? Would you rather be beautiful but completely bald or be ugly but have sexy hair? If you could star in a TV show, which would it be? If you could be anywhere in the world right now where would it be?

When I first began meeting women online it was a slow start and I was use to getting neutral and negative responses because I didn't have my profile right and I didn't have any pictures up of me doing any of the things that I loved. They were just bad angled head shots of me because I didn't really give much thought to the whole importance of showing passion through picture. However, when I wrote a better profile of me expressing who I am and conveyed that I wasn't taking it seriously and I put up pictures of me doing passionate things that I loved to do like, swimming with dolphins, scuba diving and playing 304

guitar in my band. When I changed my profile and my pictures, I became overwhelmed by positive responses to the messages I was sending out because I went from trying to impress women to a sudden change of expressing my passion and only impressing myself. Everything that you learn in this book will amplify who you are and in the process you will captivate and attract women. It can be overwhelming at first when you suddenly change your profile to express who you are because you will find yourself having an abundance of positive messages from women to reply too. It's important not to worry about trying to come up with the perfect response. You will even find that you can break all the rules and it won't matter as long as you are going with your passion and gut feeling. Women will have more patience and show more effort with you when they see that your profile expresses who you are and that you are not taking the online world seriously like all the other guys.

Negative: There are women out there that no matter how charismatic you are, will just respond negatively towards you. Remember, that it is not a personal attack on you when she sends you a negative message. It could be that she's in a really pissed off mood or it could even be that she lacks a sense of humour. There is no guarantee that you will receive positive messages all the time because meeting women online is very unpredictable. The only certain 305

thing to know is that by having a profile that expresses who you are then you will have an abundance of women responding positively to you. This however doesn't stop the fact that you will receive negative messages. It is the inevitable side of meeting women online. When I was on a quest to meet women online, I found that I whenever I got a negative message from a woman, I would take it to heart and feel frustrated about it. There were good days and bad days but I seemed to only focus on all the negative messages that I got. At one point I had three days of bad luck and I was receiving a never ending stream of negative messages from women who seemed to hate my fucking guts. I took it really bad and I vowed to quit trying to meet women online all together. I decided to message twenty more women and then I would quit all together. Within the next three days I logged into my Facebook account just to see if my friend was online and found eighteen messages awaiting me in my inbox. Nearly every single woman that I messaged had replied back to me positively. I was overwhelmed by all the responses that I didn't have time to respond back to all of them. In that moment I realized that there were good days and bad days. If you ever find yourself having a day of bad luck, just remember that in the long run you will have an abundance of beautiful women who respond positive to you and that are willing to meet you. There are two types of negative messages. There is the harsh negative message that goes like, “Fuck off.” or “Get lost you cunt.” It is best to not waste your breath with replying to these. I find that these women are either of low

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quality and lack a sense of humour or that they get in seriously pissed off moods and take it out on everyone. Although deep down they wouldn't have messaged you if they weren't slightly curious, it's usually not even worth the hassle. She may not act like this in real life but it's not something I wait around to find out. A Charismatic Lover is repelled by negative women because they suck the positive energy out of his life. He is on a search for high quality women who have great energy and a good sense of humour. To accept negative women into his life would go against his own boundaries and standards. I personally get turned off by these women that I find myself compelled to delete their message and move onto the women that are high quality and positive. Then there is the challenging negative message that goes like, “I wouldn't be your personal maid even if you paid me a million dollars. I'm no guys fucking doormat.” Although it can be interpreted as negative and it could be that she is just being completely bitchy, it can also be that she is a little sceptical and is challenging you to see if you’re trying to be somebody that you’re not. It can be that she is looking to see if you are authentic and to see if that what you are saying is really a part of who you are and not some act that you put on to get women. The best way to respond to challenging negative messages is to tease her about her message. So in reply to her, “I wouldn't be your personal maid even if you paid me a million dollars. I'm no guys fucking doormat.” I would tease her about it by saying something

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like, “We would fucking hate each other then because I would probably get you to do tons of stuff for me like you were some third world country under achiever... I would get you to rub hot soothing oils into my feet, while I sat on my ass just watching re-runs of friends all day long... Although you wouldn't be my doormat, you would stand by it so you could get your ass to the shop whenever I ran out of Pringles... you nerd lol :P” After I respond to her with a teasing message, I will move onto talking to other women. I find that most women who send challenging negative messages will drop their act and respond positive to me after I have teased them. If she carries on being negative then I will just stop messaging her and focus on other women.

Transitioning to Phone: Most guys tend to overcomplicate the situation of getting her phone number because they feel that in order to obtain it that they have to do it at the right time. The best time to get her phone number is when your gut feeling tells you to do so. For example, I will be talking to a woman and it will be going great and I start to get this feeling in my stomach that is telling me, “This is going great but it's time to get her phone number.” As soon as I feel it in my gut to get her number, I go with that feeling and act on it. There is no perfect time to get her number. It is entirely up to you when you feel that it is the right time to transition. The only thing you should keep in mind is that it is best to build a little connection online before you transition to 308

phone. When you have a built a connection with her online it will be easier for her to trust you with the number. I find that the more direct and straight forward you are about getting her number, the easier it is. Getting her phone number is as simple as saying, “I enjoy talking to you... But I'm rarely on Facebook... I'm more of a texter... hit me up with your phone number.” I tell her exactly how I feel by telling her I'm enjoying talking to her and then I give a reason to why I want to carry this on to the phone. If she declines and doesn't give you her phone number then do not give up. Most guys tend to think that it is game over if she makes an excuse as to why she can’t give him the number. If this happens to you then just focus on building more of a connection with her and then ask her again after a few more messages. I will usually just say something like, “Well I'm going to go off Facebook... I don't know when I will be back again... Hit me up with your number and we'll text.” I say text because women feel it is less intrusive to text then to talk on the phone and it makes her more inclined to give you her number. When she does give me her phone number I will usually just send her a text saying, “I'm calling you now dorkface.” Then I will just phone her up and speak to her. There is no magical way of getting her to meet up with you. Just call her up and tease her and take liberty by inviting her out.

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Remember that the more connection you have with her, the easier it will be for her to trust you and the easier it will be for her to want to meet up with you.

Facebook Message Transcript This is a full transcript of a conversation that took place on Facebook. This girl became my girlfriend for 5 months. Just as like the entire book, this conversation is left in its completely un-edited, raw and original form. There will be Spelling mistakes and Grammar errors. To edit and clean it up would have been to taint the very essence of the beauty of the interaction. Me: You are fucking sexy... I just had to message you.... There is just something about you that captivates me Her: well thank you. i'm Alicia. Me: That's a cute name, I'm Adam It's funny how I came across your profile actually... Have you ever heard of the secret? Basically it's about how we attract the things we

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think about into our life... I was thinking of meeting a dorky fun girl and I guess I did... you seem kinda dorky haha Her: Well adams a cute name too. And i guess i am dorky... and yes i have heard about the secret.. i have watched the movie. and i do believe in it. Me: thank you =) That's awesome because even in like the 30 seconds of talking to you i feel this vibe about you, like you strive to be positive and are very passionate about life... i like that in a person. what are you passionate about? I'm passionate about oreos haha Her: haha thats whats up. I am definatly passionate about oreos. but i also love... making movies (directing and editing and screen writing !!) and i write short stories too, hopefully one day a novel. I am in to photography. I paint. I want to travel the world. I love marine life and i would probably be happy just working in a zoo around animals. Mostly the tigers. I also am a very organized person who actually enjoys math (thats where the dork comes in) soo i would love to open my own buisness, just not sure what kind. I love the mountains and the ocean. I want to own a horse. And theres a lot more... my problem is choosing one thing to do with my life.... because i have soo many things i am "passionate" about.. haha what about you? theres got to be more then oreos... lol

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Me: Wow it's rare to find such passion in a person. I can relate to opening a business. I use to have panic attacks and anxiety. I spent like 3 years trying to get over it, it was hard because every night i would literally freak the fuck out. But i found a way to get over it and completely changed my entire life around but then i started to see other people suffering with it. So i had this burning desire to teach other people how to get rid of it and build themselves a kick ass positive lifestyle and now i teach that to people who need it. I love my job. I love photography as well, theres just something about the beauty of capturing that picture in the moment, like not knowing what your picture is going to turn out like... and just by turning a certain angle you get a whole new picture.. you capture the beauty and the essence of the world by photography i love that I see that you like hazlenut coffee, haha that is such a deal breaker... i HATE hazlenut cofee lol Her: WHAT!! i'm sorry, but how can you HATE the hazlenut! tisk tisk, you need to get new taste buds. haha.. but yea. That was beautiful how you described photography, and I couldn't agree anymore. Well actually I probably could have an hour long conversation about it... thats how i am.. i just like to have long conversations with people.. its like my favorite thing to do. haha And i totally respect that you changed your life style around like that. Where are you located right now? And like how many people have you helped? how does one start something like that?

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All i can say is that i play the "motherly" role with my friends. I am always the first one they call when something fucked up happens to them. And like when they call I usually will first agree with them on how they are feeling and if they are angry I usually will get really pissed off along with them. Then I settle them down. Then I tell them my point of view. Then I tell them what the other person's point of view might be. Then i give them my advice on how they should handle the situation. haha wow until now i had no idea that i actually had steps... maybe i should be a physiologist. Me: Yeah i just love talking to people and discovering their passions in life, most people can't keep up but you're doing a good job i mean not only are you sexy but you're pretty intelligent too, what's it like in lincoln? I'll be going over there in 2 days, i hear you have the best icecream Right now i'm near you like 2 hours away from lincoln, until i go back to miami and then im going to San diego woop. I can sense you have that motherly instinct, it could just be the shifty eyes though haha Her: Well your just a smooth talker aren't ya... well i'll go along with it. And yes we have great ice cream... but, what we really have the BEST of is Italian Bread. Supposivily its the water here. And Lincoln is pretty straight. You learn how to take care of yourself, when you live here. And

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when you come I'll show you around. Where did you grow up? PS. I checked out our horoscope compatibilty on here for "friendship" and for "love" it was pretty interseting.. Me: Ok it's settled, when i come over there you are taking me to an italian resturant and getting me some bread, don't worry i am a gentlemen... you can pay for the bread and my drinks haha You ever had that moment where you can just look into a person's eyes and its like in that moment... time stands still... and you just know that when you are with this person you are entirely safe and you are understood... it's like this person gets who you are on the inside, they look past the shadow of the outside beauty and into who you really are... it's like when you connect on that level... you have that instant connection and when you are looking into their eyes and they are smiling at you.... it's like that feeling that you are on the edge of the world, staring into the ocean and as the moonlight shines onto your face... there comes that first kiss that sends butterflies into your stomach I say that because that's the type of girl you are. You're the type of girl who you can connect with and have that with and that's a special thing to have =) Her: Well then, I am completly flattered. I don't know whether your this amazing guy who i have finally met that actually understands life. OR if your some guy that is

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trying to mess with my head, and read that line somewhere in a book. Non the less I'm definatly down with that. And I will take you out. But not to a resturant. See, in Lincoln there are pizza places and they are definatly better then any resturant that your going to find. Me: Well probably a bit of both, i'm evil I can;t believe you thought that line was from a book... i hired 15 african kids to come up with the most beautiful unique words in the world... it took them 40 hours and they had to sacrafice 10 virgins to come up with the most beautiful crafted words and when they where.. finished they where blinded by the light of beauty from the writing and you say its from a book? fuck you! Haha Her: hahahahaha omg!! Me: yeah lol Her: You never told me where you grew up. I'm thinking a medium sized town. That only has one school. And it's very pretty and relaxing. haha idk. do those places even exsist anymore?

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go to get icecream.. but if the sun isnt out then people tend to be pissed off and keep themselves to themselves, and we get sun like 3 times a month or something haha! But i call my real home miami because thats where the most amazing thing happened to me =) How about you, what was it like growing up?

Her: I grew up in Manchester. But it wasn’t so much of where I grew up that made my childhood what it was, but the events that accrued in my life. At first life was grand. I lived with my mom and my dad and my brother. We had a pool in the back yard that I was obsessed with during the summers. My dad drove motorcycles and would take me out on rides. And when my mom was in the kitchen, I would pop in from outside, through a big window and pretend I was a weather woman. And during the winter, Christmas was the shit and so were snow days. But then when I was 5 my father passed away. My mom stopped getting involved with school benefits, and now looking back on it, I realize because she stopped being one of those "social political mothers" all the other mothers, that still were involved in sports and after school programs, stopped inviting me to their daughter's b-day parties. Making me a social out cast, a loner I suppose. I began to gain weight, and I hated going to school. Luckily I had a childhood best friend that lived right next door to me. Her name was Kate, and she made everything fun again. We use to sing to Madonna and the Spice Girls all

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day long and play Barbie’s and swim in my pool. But when I was about 9 she moved to America, which really left me with no one. It wasn’t until I got out of school before I would begin to live a happy life again. The summer going into college I took my first trip out to America. San Diego actually, where my cousins live. I loved it!! The mountains and the ocean. The palm trees. The people. The easy living, life style every one possessed. What more can I say, it was great! I then went home and was siked to start at a performing arts college where I would take up FILM. But unfortunately, it was the same as the other college. I was shy and didn’t talk to anyone. The summer going into another college, I went back out to California, but this time with Kate, the childhood friend. Yep we still stayed in touch. This time it was to Venice Beach. Which is different from any other place I have ever been. The Art that you’re surrounded by is crazy!! When I got back home I went on a diet and lost all of my weight. When I began my college course, I had more confidence in who I was. I met Jasmine who became my friend. That’s when I began to explore traveling. That’s when I began drinking and smoking. That’s when I felt like I was normal. So as college passed so did the parties. Eventually Jasmine would have to move away, which fucking broke me. She had become the sister I had never had. I would go back out to California with Kate one more time. Although it would be different because she had a car and we got to explore LA. Then I graduated college. And now I am working at a blockbuster. This fall I will be attending uni. And I am

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trying to get my license and a car. I know this was more like a short bio. And I am sorry if it bored the shit out of you. But it was the only way I could really express to you how I grew up. There is so much more to be said, I just didn’t know if that’s what you really wanted to hear or not. So yep that’s it I guess. Me: That's really interesting, i have a buddy who lived in manchester that say's the party life is kick ass... but how's lincoln? Don't you have like a kick ass party life over there too? I know how you guys roll, i hear lincoln is quite the sex scene! I really like after all the bad shit you've been through that you really pushed yourself to strive for positivity and you succeeded, you are an sexy and intelligent chick. how do you like working at block busters? But barbies girl! sheesh! my ken dolls would of owned you! wait... i mean gi joes... i never use to play with ken dolls =) I know what you mean about being apart from a close friend... my buddy moved to vienna and we use to do everything together.. we where like that film "Dudes weres my car" except i couldnt drive because i was retarded and we didnt have hot twin gf's, we had the dude and sweet tattoo though, but now its like i see the dude every 4 months, it gets annoying after awhile You know, that deep connection with someone? Have you

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ever felt like you could just do anything in the presence of that person, a person who makes you feel completely free, the person you desire and long to be Her: I made that horrible accusation that it came from a book, well that is what I think love should be. I asked my mom one day how she knew she was in love with my dad… and she simply replied “I felt like I was at home with him.” And it’s always stuck with me. I mean your always comfortable when your home. You’re always safe. You’re always yourself. It makes perfect since. Now I have had a few boyfriends. But they are never right. I need that connection. It’s what I strive for. It's got to be on that greater level. I need someone who understands me, and I need someone who I can fight with and after hanging up the phone, have the urge to call them right back because I know that I can’t be with out them. And it’s hard to find that. So yes I know what you mean. There was one guy that I didn’t realize how much of a connection we really had until it was gone. And it just taught me not to let the next one go. And yea it totally sucks when your best friend moves away. Me and Jasmine only see each other about every 4 months too... and it’s for like 2 days, which really sucks. But we still talk on the phone and chat on msn. It really took a toll on me when she first left. It took me about 6 months to finally be ok with it all, and even after that it still sucked. I love how you’re really intellectual too. Its not often you

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find someone to have these sort of chats with. But I defiantly feel a connection. It’s very refreshing and nice to have. Blockbuster is an alright job. It gets boring. Which I hate. I like a challenge now and then. And we do have some dope parties. Btw i see that you like entourage on your profile. You're profile is so interesting and mysterious too! I got entourage on season 1 by the way so i will check it out. And my Barbie would have loved to be owned by your Ken. Because I know you had a Ken. It’s ok. Haha. My Barbie rode around in style, she had her own hot pink convertible. Lol. Me: That's sounds right, because to me love is passion and it's about having that connection where you are both in the momentum and you are like the main characters in the universe.. like you know how people go to the coffee shop for dates and it's all awkward? Fuck that lol. IT's about being creative, like the difference between a awkward date and a fun date is that one will go to the coffee shop and act all nervous and shy while the other will go to the coffee shop and get the girl to play along in his game. Like for example, one time when i dated this girl and we met at a seminar and went to the coffee shop i told her to play along that im going to propose to her and that she is in on this but everyone will think its serious, so i grab some tin foil and get down on one knee and say something like "i want you despite the fact of not knowing you that long, i wanna be the lovingly couple that takes walks on the beach and has never ending sex in public places... i

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want you to be my wife... wil you marry me" She's all like YES YES I WILL! and everyone claps! and congratulated us, then we where offered free drinks and we had our picture taken with our tin foil ring... lol but what im saying is, that is the diffence when you have a connection with someone... when you're nervous you cant experience that... That's why i like you, i can tell you're the kind of girl you can do that with But yeah you made a horrible accusation... my african kids are so pissed haha, you have to apologize in their native language by saying HYIU GHJEI BEHG! We wouldnt get on though... i'm too sexual, you would be in public and i would just make out with you and grope you in front of everyone, i would make everyone know that you where mine, you would be so digusted by my forwardness it would be toxic but i feel a connection too, however i probably will just end up fucking you really hard. but as your job is boring i'm gonna come rescue you and sweep you off your feet with my gi joe... and we'll grab some french bread and we'll ride off into the sunset... then we'll get married on top of a mountain... and there will be flutes playing and trombones and flowers and garlands of fresh herbs. And we will dance till the sun rises. And then our children will form a family band. And we will tour the countryside!

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Let's meet up, i'm in lincoln tommorow, 8pm, where gonna have a fun time and do what lovers do, sex in public ;) Her: AHHHHHHHH I HATE YOU!!!!! OMG !!!! why would you tell me that!!!!! uh, and to think i was actually going to apologize to those natives! haha but yea I can not wait for the day you come and rescue me. My manager will be like, "umm and where do you think your going?" and before i can say anything, you'll take my hand, kiss me and say, "we are getting married." Then will be off to miami where we will go and have a crazy night at a wild party. We will be the hottest couple there ofcourse, and everyone will be blown away with the passion that comes from the two of us. The only thing is.. when i start to really like a boy, my nerves go crazy and i shake terriably. Its really bad. Hopefully i'll be able to relax and have fun on our date. I don't know tho, who knows how much i'll like you by then, or maybe just how comfortable I am. =) Did i just say "Date" Woosh I am way to forward! Haha. That coffee shop story is awesome! Why can't you live in Lincoln =( Here's my number XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX Ok so i have a confession to make. Have yo ever seen Moulin Rouge?? because i go through these phases where i watch it like crazy and listen to the soundtrack like all the time. I just think it is the most romantic zany movie you could ask for. and the thing is, i usually hate musicals, but not this one. And well i am going through that phase now,

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and i wanted to know what your opinion on the movie was. PS. I love sex in public!!! Me: haha you're smart, HYIU GHJEI BEHG doesn't actually mean an apology... i bet you can't guess what it means You know what though... theres one film i like.. Beauty and the beast... I'll be the beast that dominates you and explores your... entire body... although i have a 2 inch penis.. but that's 2 seconds more pleasure then you'll ever get from your average joe! Come to think of it... beauty and the beast is a really sick fucked up story.. think about it, a girl falls in love with a animal! see how disney are so sick yet so subtle! I'm coming to rescue you soon from the hell hole that you work at, It was awesome talking to you on the phone last night... i cant believe it got so sexual... actually i can, i planned it all along haha ;) But yeah everyone would be blown away by our passion, you would shake nervously but that's ok because you're with me and i'll make sure you have the time of your life, but by then you could fucking hate me haha that would be funny or you could fucking love me and that would be sexy and cute... either way it'll be cool to see where fate takes things... you could turn out to be the coolest gf ever who has amazing sex and amazing moments in life or the

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coolest friend, either way you're everything i like in a girl But Moulin Rouge? HA! are you fucking kidding me... I'm passionate.. not gay :P But yeah i've never really seen moulin rouge. my favorite romantic film is don juan demarco... the guy has a gift because he see's the real beauty of women, he looks beyond the shadow of beauty and into the heart of a natural woman, the woman who loves to be explored.. that woman who loves to have her body pressing against a charismatic lover... he is consumed by beauty and that's the coolest thing... and its played by Johnny Depp all the girls dig it... but as for muscials, for some reason i like high school musical it's fucking awesome WERE BREAKING FREE BABY I'll see you tonight missy, don't forget to take an extra pair of panties Her: haha your such a guy. I hope you know that. by the way I would dump you for prince charming in Sleeping Beauty. Thats a real man, one that will go through dragons to rescue his love. :) I will tell you how a first date might be: So we get together at my house. Its about 6 o'clock and no one is home. We decide to make something to eat together. This is the first time your in my kitchen, so you have no idea where anything is. As you go through my cabinets, trying to find where we keep the plates, I come over and poke you saying, "would you stop going through everything" then you put your hands on my shoulders,

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look me straight in the eyes and say "i'm sorry... but I can't" Then you go back to opening up everything. I of course laugh, and try to stop you.. but you just continue. Finally I just show you where the plates are kept. Then as we make our ummm Peanut butter sandwiches, I put peanut butter on your nose and the Flirtiness continues... when were done making them, i sit on the counter top and you lean on the stove, we have some good casual conversation. We then decide to go toooo the ocean city boardwalk. We hold each others hands, and go on rides. Then right around 9 when it gets dark out, we decide to spend our last 2 tickets on the fairest wheel. I am scared of heights, so i'll sit close, and you put your arm around me. As it comes to a stop at the top, I look out towards the ocean, your thinking of how much you want to kiss me, and I know thats what your thinking so I start rambling about something stupid to break the perfect moment... making it that much harder on you. When we get off the fairest wheel we go to the beach and lay down. As we look up at the stars I tell you something pretty deep. You roll to your side to look at me and when I'm done my story, I roll over to see your face expression. Then when I realize that you do care, I give you the look that signifies its ok to kiss me. And you do. Its an amazing first kiss. but because me and you are so light hearted, it turns into us rolling around and me getting up then running as you chase me. Every time you catch me you'll smother me with short sweet kisses... now you finish the story... and if there are any changes to mine it better be good!! And i'll see you tonight <3

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Me: Well a real man wouldn't go out with a girl who is dumb enough to hang around a big ass dragon! haha I'm an insensitive dick remember ;) Ok so you want my version, I call this "The Romantic Date" So we get together at your house. you say it's 6'o clock but i dont trust ur sense of time, cos your a lil retarded lol. I decide i'm fucking hungry. So i raid your kitchen thinking "Where does this biatch keep her reeces buttercups. I go through my cabinets and smash a few plates for fun. you come over and poke me saying, "would you stop going through everything and smashing things.. clean it up!" then i bitch slap you because i'm your pimp daddy, look at you straight in the eyes and say "Bitch better quieten down and clean this shit up!" Then i go back to opening up everything. you of course cry like a little girl, and wish i was some prince but i just continue smashing shit. Finally you get off your lazy stoned ass and make me peanut butter sandwhiches. You put peanut butter on my nose and i bitch slap you again "Bitch if you touch me you fuck me"... when your done making them, you sit on the counter top and you lean on the stove, and because im a dick i grab your hand and burn it on the stove "Bitch what did i tell you, fire burns!" You cry and start talking about things... i just ignore. You then decide it would be a good idea to go to the ocean city boardwalk. You hold my hand and i bitch slap you "Bitch holding hands is for fags!", and you cry and go on

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rides. Then right around 9. although i dont trust your sense of time... because i bitch slapped u too much.. when it gets dark out, you decide to spend our last 2 tickets on the fairest wheel. You tell me you’re scared of heights, so i l mock you, and you put your arm around me. As it comes to a stop at the top, I look at you while you're scared shitless, your thinking of how much you want to kiss me, and I know thats what your thinking cos your a loser haha! So as you're about to kiss me, i push you out the wheel and you fall and nearly die. I mock you while you can barely breathe or walk. But you only have a snapped ankle, you can walk it off i tell you As we look up at the stars I tell you something pretty deep. "I'm gonna fuck you in the ass" You roll to your side to look at me, I roll over to see your face expression. Then I stick my dick right inside your butt hole... its tight! I realize that you do like it in the ass, I give you the look that signifies its ok to be fucked in the ass. And you want it more. Its an amazing ass fuck. but because me and you are so light hearted, it turns into us rolling around and me getting it more into your ass. Every time i put it in your ass catch you'll smother me with short sweet kisses and then i tell you a secret... "Bitch... i have HIV" then we live happily ever after. See i told you i can be romantic when i want to be haha :D See you tonight my whore :) Her: OMG HAHAHAHHAHAHA You are such an asshole!! U ruined my story!! Il see you tonite! you will pay for this lol ... omg!

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Acknowledgements Looking back on my journey and everything I have learnt, I can see that I grew tremendously. I couldn't have succeeded without the amazing people that came into my life and inspired me to live life like a fucking adventure. It is those kick ass people who I give all my gratitude to. This book is my thank you for helping me become the man that I am today. My Father. You’re a role model. Someone I look up to and someone I hold close to my heart. I'm proud to say that you are my father. Our bond can never be broken. Thank for making me the man who I am today. Hypnotica, Steve P, Neil Strauss and Cameron Teone. If it wasn't for you guys I would still be rotting in my bedroom. We are kindred spirits, seeking growth, knowledge and truth. You all took me under your wing and taught me a deeper meaning to the art of seduction and life. Check out www.stylelife.com I highly recommend it. Crash. If it wasn't for our late night talks, then most of the content in my book wouldn't have existed. You motivated me to write things down and to keep things organized and for that I now have this beautiful book. You were always there for me whenever I needed to talk. I am glad to call you a friend. I see that you are improving each day and I have no doubt that you will blossom into an amazing Charismatic Lover. 329

Alicia. You were only in my life for five months but in those five months I learnt more about women then I ever did in my lifetime. You intoxicated me with passion and captivated me with your beauty. You have so much passion for life and you inspire me to follow my dreams each and every day. I know that you will become one of the most amazing film directors with the passion that you have. I look forward to seeing your name on the big screen. Parker. You made me who I am today. You fuelled the fire within in me to become the Charismatic Lover that I dreamt of being. I remember back when I had a party at my house and I had just kissed my first hot girl and you swept in like some kind of member of Motley Crue and ended up fucking her in my bed. While everyone was dancing and having a good time, I was sat on my staircase crying my eyes out like the baby I was back then. But it was in that moment that I made a true decision to get good with women and it was the desire of stealing your girls that motivated me to take action. You became my Arch Nemesis and not long after I found your secret to attracting women and then I used that against you to get your girlfriend. If it wasn't for learning that secret, I wouldn't have been able to go from meeting a woman and the next minute taking her into the bathroom to fuck her. At first I became much like you and then I found my own incredible gifts and passions and led with those. You inspired me to push boundaries and take up my space in the world. Although I don't see much of you now, always know that you will always be a part of me wherever I go my friend. Finally, to all the girls that I have met, broken their hearts and slept with their friends. It was nothing personal.

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