快樂箴言
Happiness
in a Nutshell
安德魯 ．馬修斯
ANDREW MATTHEWS 鄧碧霞譯
www.seashell.com.au
HAPPINESS IN A NUTSHELL
快樂箴言 Happiness in a Nutshell
獻給 我摯愛的妻子－茱麗。 謝謝妳給予我靈感，推動我去創作這本小書， 也謝謝妳為我編輯及整理這本書。 Dedication: To my precious wife, Julie: Thank you for your idea to create this little book, and thank you for editing and putting it together!
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Happiness in a Nutshell
Copyright © 1999 by Andrew Matthews and Seashell Publishers Published by: SEASHELL PUBLISHERS PTY LTD PO Box 325, Trinity Beach Queensland, AUSTRALIA, 4879 Fax: 61 740 576 966 Website: www.seashell.com.au Email:
[email protected] Layout and design by: Seashell Publishers First Published October 1999 Reprinted 11 times
No part of this publication, text or illustrations, may be reproduced in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording or otherwise without the prior consent of the author and the publishers.
ISBN 0 9579802 5 6
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快樂箴言
Happiness
in a Nutshell 安德魯．馬修斯
written and illustrated by Andrew Matthews
鄧碧霞譯
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通常，要一切從新開始， 最理想的起點， 就是你現在身處的地點！ 下次改換住址之前， 先考慮改變自己的想法！ 當你改變， 你的環境也跟你一起改變。 這是不變的定律。
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sually, the best place to make a new start is where you are!
Before changing your address, consider changing your thinking! When you change, your situation changes. It is law. 5
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我們都會失敗。 但是失敗並不使人感到痛苦。 痛苦是因為你知道 你並沒有全力以赴。
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e all fail.
But it is not failing that hurts. What hurts is knowing that you didn’t give your best.
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憑著自律去做 你不喜歡的小事 將來才會有你喜歡的大事 等著你去做。
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ave the discipline to do little things you don’t like and you can spend your life doing the big things you do like.
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快樂？ 我哪有時間去快樂！
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快樂的人 不單是接受改變， 而是欣然地全身投入！ 他們會說︰ 「未來五年 如果像過去五年一樣， 生活還有甚麼意思呢？」
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appy people don’t just accept change, they embrace it!
They are the people who say: “Why would I want my next five years to be like my last five?”
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你一旦依戀 任何東西、 人或金錢… 你就完蛋了！ 人生的挑戰 就是要欣賞一切， 但不依戀 任何東西。
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he moment you get too attached to things, people, money ... you screw it up! The challenge of life is to appreciate everything and attach yourself to nothing.
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忠告： 如果别人没有開口問你， 多半是他們根本 不想知道！
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n giving advice: If people aren’t asking you, they usually don’t want the information!
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擴展的首要定律是「秩序」。 任何事物想要成長，都必須有系統可循。 細心看一朵花，切開一個橙， 看看樹木或蜂窩 的對稱形狀。 這就是紀律。 老天爺會把必要的東西保存下來， 把多餘的廢物去除。 這就是組織規劃。
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he first law of expansion is “order”. For something to grow, it needs system. Look at a flower, cut an orange, check out the symmetry of a tree or a beehive. There is discipline. Nature keeps what is essential and gets rid of the garbage. It’s called organisation. 13
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付諸行動才能激發你的動機， 空想是無濟於事的。
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ou get motivated by doing things, not thinking about them.
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下次你覺得不快樂的時候， 千萬記住， 並非是別人惹你生氣， 而是你對他們的想法令你生氣。 不管是甚麼意念 令你感到痛苦， 它們都只是意念而已。 你是有能力改變它的。
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ext time you are upset, remember it’s not so much people who make you angry, as your thoughts about them. Whatever thoughts are causing you pain, they are only thoughts. You can change a thought. 15
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你對事物 愈感情用事， 你對它的控制力就愈少。 大多數人對有關錢的事 都非常情緒化， 所以愈無法駕馭它。
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he more emotional you are about things, the less control you have. Most people are very emotional about money so they are out of control.
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追尋夢想 不一定是容易的事。 生活往往會帶來更多挑戰， 但是在向外發展的同時， 你也展開了內心的旅程。 把握這個綻放異彩的機會， 展現真正的自我。
ollowing your dream F is no guarantee of an easy ride. Life usually becomes more challenging, but you embark on an outer journey which starts the inner journey. You have a chance to blossom to see who you really are.
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誰說如果我們不原諒他們， 他們就沒有好日子過？
here did we get the idea that W if we don’t forgive people, they suffer?
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要這個世界善待你， 你先要善待自己。 如果你的內衣 破了好幾個洞， 你又怎能叫自己感覺 像個舉足輕重的大人物呢？
or the world to treat you well, Fyou have to treat yourself well. How can you feel like a mover and shaker when you have holes in your underwear?
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生命裡的危機 不一定是危機。 其實是看你 如何轉危為機。
in your life Eisverynot“disaster” so much a disaster,
as a situation waiting for you to change your mind about it. 21
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大多數人對事情的認知 都是本末倒置的！ 譬如︰ 「如果你不喜歡工作，換掉它。 如果你不喜歡老婆，換掉她。」 有時候， 換工作或換老婆是必要的， 但是如果你自己不改進， 同樣的情況 還是會一再重演。
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ost of us learned things inside out!
We learned: “If you don’t like your job, change it. If you don’t like your wife, change her.” Sometimes it’s appropriate to change your job or your partner. But if you don’t change too, you are setting yourself up for more of the same. 22
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我們能夠原諒自己， 就不會再挑剔別人。
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hen we forgive ourselves, we stop criticising other people.
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由於我們經常會吸引 一些我們需要學習的課題， 我們也會引來一些我們害怕的經驗。 如果你害怕孤單， 你往往更形單影隻。 如果你怕尷尬， 反而愈容易出洋相。 這是老天爺鼓勵我們成長的方法。 克服恐懼只有一個辦法， 就是勇敢面對它。
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ecause we are always attracting the learning experiences we need, we often attract what we fear. If you fear loneliness, you’ll attract that. If you fear embarrassment, you’ll fall on your face.
It’s life’s way of encouraging us to grow. The only way to beat fear is to face it. 24
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當你的身體受傷， 痛楚會提醒你去休息一下， 或者換過另一雙鞋子， 又或者找一個更好的方法。 當你的心靈受傷， 痛苦會提醒你停止擔憂， 或者變得更寬宏大量， 又或者用不同的角度去思考。 痛苦不是你的敵人， 痛苦是你的朋友！
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hen your body hurts, pain reminds you to take a rest, or maybe to change your shoes or to find a better way. When your mind hurts, pain reminds you to quit worrying or to be more forgiving, or to think a different way. Pain is not your enemy. Pain is your friend! 25
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早知道今天會是這樣糟， 昨天我便快樂一點!
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勇氣跟恐懼是分不開的， 勇氣是面對恐懼、勇往直前。 無所事事的人 和那些肯冒大風險的人 一樣會擔驚受怕。 只是前者 大多為芝麻小事受驚嚇。 反正如此， 何不為大事擔驚受怕呢？
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ourage is not the absence of fear courage is acting in spite of fear.
People who do nothing with their lives are just as scared as people who take major risks. It’s just that the first group get scared over tiny things. Why not get scared over something significant?
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如果我們能對自己老實一點， 你會發現其實幾乎所有 發生在我們身上的事情 都是由我們一手造成。
f we are honest with ourselves, we can list almost everything that’s ever happened to us and see how we helped create it.
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把握任何起步的機遇。 全力以赴， 做好眼前的工作， 機會自然會降臨到你的身上。 這叫建立信譽。
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tart anywhere you can.
Give your best shot to whatever is in front of you, and opportunity will begin to find you. It’s called developing a reputation. 29
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最快樂的人 並不斤斤計較 現實是否公平。 他們只會面對現實。
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he happiest people don’t worry too much about whether life is fair or not. They just get on with it.
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如果你祈求 內心更平靜， 就不要再把所有事情 貼上「好」或「壞」的標籤了。
好 壞 醜陋
f you want more peace of mind, stop labeling everything that happens as “good” or “bad”. 31
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你覺得老天與你為敵， 事實就會如此。 怪責別人 是於事無補的。 你與生活搏鬥， 生活永遠是贏家。
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f you think the world is against you, it is. Blaming other people doesn’t work. When you fight life, life always wins.
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上天通常都是用 溫和的警號來提醒我們。 當我們對衪的警號置之不理， 衪老人家才會 一錘重重地敲下來。 當我們拒絕成長， 才會感覺成長痛苦不堪。
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he universe is always nudging us with gentle signals. When we miss the signals, it nudges us with a sledgehammer. Growth is most painful when we resist it. 34
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如果生活裡有一件事 你不喜歡， 就別去想它， 別去談它﹗ 它之所以繼續存在， 正因為你的思想給了它能量。 把能量抽走， 它自然就無法存在。
f there is something in your life you don’t want, stop worrying about it and stop talking about it! The energy you put into it keeps it alive. Withdraw your energy and it will likely go away. 36
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人生的目標 不是要擺脫問題 而是要積極地面對。
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our mission in life is not to be without problems your mission is to get excited.
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你專注地去做的事 必然有發展… 所以想清楚 你究竟要甚麼！
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保持距離 是富者愈富的主要原因。 他們對錢沒有那麼緊張， 他們不會不顧一切。 窮人和富人對金錢的態度 有很大的分別 窮人「希望」自己手上有錢， 富人則「相信」自己將會賺到錢。
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etachment is a major reason why rich people get richer. They don’t care so much they’re not desperate.
There’s a big difference between a poor person’s attitude wishing you had it and a wealthy person’s approach believing you’ll get it. 39
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我們都知道這有多嚴重…
要以不同的眼光去看事物， 你不必靠堅強的意志力、 足夠的自信， 也不需要動腦部手術。 你只要有勇氣 去思索陌生的意念。 你的信念決定 你生活的質素。 40
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o see things differently, you don’t need willpower, self confidence, or brain surgery. You just need the courage to think the unfamiliar. Your beliefs determine your quality of life.
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銀行存摺上的數字， 不是計算 你生活得是否豐盛 的標準。 豐盛 是指在你生命中 流通的東西。
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he balance in your bank book is not the measure of your abundance. Abundance is what’s circulating through your life.
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唯有為自己的選擇 負上全部責任， 人生才有意義。 選擇職業， 更是首要的項目。
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our life will only work when you take full responsibility for your choices. Your choice of vocation is at the top of the list.
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大自然尋求平衡。 你不可能不顧一切 而又同時保持平衡。 人生不必是無止境的掙扎 凡事順其自然。
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ature seeks balance, and you can’t be desperate and balanced. Life doesn’t have to be an endless struggle. Let things flow. 45
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上天不會偏袒任何人。 成功與快樂 有賴大自然的法則 以及你個人的運用方法。
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he universe has no favourites. Your success and happiness depend on natural laws and principles and how you use them. 46
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任何事 都可能會改變我們， 晴天霹靂 甚至會徹底改變 我們的人生觀。
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very event has the potential to transform us, and disasters have the greatest potential to change our thinking.
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人生有如波濤起伏。 即是說，家庭糾紛、 結婚請柬和汽車修理 都會接踵而來。 當你有一個月 沒有收到賬單時， 你告訴自己︰ 「我要儲錢防備 下一個波浪。」 當你被下一個波浪淹得透不過氣時， 你告訴自己︰ 「這很快就會過去。」 48
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ife happens in waves. This means family crises, wedding invitations and car repairs tend to travel in bunches. When you strike a month without bills, you say to yourself: “I’ll put something aside for the next wave.” When you get swamped by the next wave, you say to yourself: “This is only temporary”.
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我們的存在 並非是爲了要受教訓。 我們的存在 是爲了要受教育。
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e are not here to be punished. We are here to be educated.
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盡量使生活簡單， 不要做那些出於慣性的事。 把日常生活中的垃圾掃除， 使你更清楚地 看到自己的路向。
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implify your life. Quit doing things out of habit. Eliminate some of the garbage from your routine so you can see your path more clearly.
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你的人生 正好是你信念 的反映。 當你改變 你對這個世界 的信念， 你的人生 也會隨之而改變。
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our life is a perfect reflection of your beliefs. When you change your deepest beliefs about the world, your life changes accordingly. 53
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只要下定決心 去做一件事， 助力就會自然出現。 也許有人會說 那是巧合， 但是經驗證實 這是經常發生的情況。
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nce we make a decision to do a thing, the means appear. We might explain away these lucky breaks as coincidence. But with keen observation, we notice it happens regularly. 54
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要成功， 你不需要是天才， 你只需要一個好的計劃。 大多數人是自動棄權！
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o succeed at anything, you don’t need to be a genius. But you do need a good plan! Most people quit! 55
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每天早上起床時， 下定決心 要過平穩安詳的一天。 有些日子， 你會安安穩穩地渡過一天。 有些日子， 你根本熬不過早餐。 如果你每天都以心靈平靜為目標， 你的生活一定會一天比一天好。
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tart every day with an intention to be balanced and peaceful. Some days you will cruise through until bedtime, and some days you won’t make it past breakfast. If peace of mind is your daily goal, you will get better and better. 56
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你生活的使命 不是要改變世界。 你的使命是改變自己。 沒有「外在」的解決方法， 只有「內在」的解決方法。
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our mission in life is not to change the world. Your mission is to change yourself. There are no “outside” solutions, only “inside” solutions. 57
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ou give your best not because you need to impress people. You give your best because that’s the only way to enjoy your work.
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趕快站起來，幹點事！ “Get off your butt and do something!”
你全力以赴去做一件事， 不是為了取悅他人。 你全力以赴去做一件事， 因為那是享受工作 的唯一方法。
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快樂是來自真正參與， 挑戰自己， 出於心甘情願， 並非迫不得已。 無論你從事甚麼工作， 它都只是協助你與人溝通的橋樑。
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he joy is in doing your thing and stretching because you choose to, not because you have to. Whatever you do for a living is a vehicle to connect with people.
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張烈說︰ 「我有這種想法 是因為我的生活一塌糊塗﹗」 你錯了，張烈。 其實是因為你有這些想法， 日子才會過得一塌糊塗﹗
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red says: “I think like I do because my life is a mess!” No Fred, your life is a mess because you think like you do! 61
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第一課 第二課 第三課 第四課 第五課
負債初階 沉重負債 貧窮I與II 債台高築 窮途末路 62
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人生在世， 就得學習種種課題， 世界就是我們的良師。 如果我們沒有學會某一課題， 我們只會一而再、 再而三地面對同樣的課題！ 當我們學完了這個課題， 便可以開始學習下一個。 （我們面對的課題是永遠學不完的！）
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e are here to learn lessons, and the world is our teacher.
When we fail to learn a lesson, we get to take it again ... and again! Once we have learned the lesson, we move on to the next one. (And we never run out of lessons!)
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上帝絕對不會 從天而降 告訴你︰ 「現在我准許你成功﹗」 你要准許你自己成功。
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od is never going to come down from a cloud and say: “You now have permission to be successful!” You have to give yourself permission. 64
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關鍵永遠是： 「你現在怎樣運用 你手頭上的東西？」 假若答案是「沒怎麼用」， 生活是不會有進步的。 老天爺只獎勵「勤勞」， 而非「藉口」。
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he question is always: “What are you doing with what you have?”
While the answer is “not much”, nothing gets better. The universe rewards effort, not excuses. 65
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種豆得豆定律： 努力＋耐心＝成果。 你先要工作， 才有收獲。
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he law of the seed: effort + patience = results. You reap your harvest after you do the work.
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做你愛做的事， 並不意味生活過得更輕鬆， 但絕對可以活得更有趣。
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oing what you love is not a recipe for an easier life. It is a recipe for an interesting life.
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如果你不知道 自己喜歡做甚麼， 可能是因為你已經很多年 沒有聆聽自己的心聲了。 很多人為了讓其他人高興， 令自己變得面目全非。
f you don’t know what you like doing, maybe you stopped listening to yourself years ago. Many of us became different people in order to please everyone else.
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當你生活甜蜜幸福的時候， 如果內心有個小小的聲音說︰ 「這是過眼雲煙，絕對不會持久﹗」 你要告訴自己︰ 「也許還有更美好的事在後頭呢！」
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hen life is sweet, and that little voice says: “It can’t last!” Tell yourself: “Maybe it’s about to get better!”
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人生就是如此… 被小石子打中， 這是一個警號。 如果不能及時醒悟， 就會被磚塊打中。 如果仍然執迷不悟， 就會被大石砸得粉身碎骨。 只要老老實實撫心自問， 我們都可以找到漠視警號的地方。 但是，我們還厚著面皮說： 「爲甚麽老是我？」
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ife goes like this ... We get hit by little pebbles as a kind of warning. When we ignore the pebbles, we get hit by a brick. Ignore the brick and we get wiped out by a boulder. If we are honest, we can see where we have ignored the warning signs. And then we have the nerve to say: “Why me?” 71
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心靈平靜 不是因為少了麻煩， 而是由於自己變得沒那麼挑剔!
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eace of mind doesn’t come from having less problems it comes from being less critical!
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愛一個人， 就要讓他自由選擇 想成為怎樣的人， 想到甚麼地方去。 愛一個人是讓他完全自願 融入你的生活。
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oving people means giving them the freedom to be who they choose to be and where they choose to be. Love is allowing people to be in your life out of choice.
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有時我會問自己：「為甚麼我的運氣那麼好？」
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你人生最重要的決定是在甚麼時候敲定的？ 多半是當你一敗塗地、險死還生、一蹶不振、 被人打得頭破血流的時候， 你會告訴自己： 「我恨透了過苦日子， 恨透了被人當皮球一樣踢來踢去， 我厭倦了做平庸的人， 我一定要出人頭地！」 只有在處處碰壁的時候， 才能學會人生最重要的課題。
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hen have you made the most important decisions in your life? When you were on your knees after disasters, after knock-backs, when you’ve been kicked in the head. That’s when we say to ourselves: “I’m sick of being broke, sick of being kicked around. I’m tired of being mediocre. I’m going to do something.” We learn our biggest lessons when things get rough. 75
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如果要在生命裡 擁有和保存一些東西， 不論是一份工作，或者是一段關係， 你必須與它安然相處。 要創造和留住財富， 你也一定要對錢處之泰然！
n order to have something in your life and keep it whether it’s a job, or a relationship you have to be comfortable with it. To make money and keep it, you must be comfortable with money! 76
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用心去找尋，才會有所發現。 如果你已經失去人生的方向， 大概不可能 在酒吧的杯酒之間把它找回來。 讓自己喘口氣， 給自己一點時間和空間， 去找出甚麼對你是重要的。
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If you have lost your life direction, you probably won’t find it between drinks at the local bar. Give yourself a break, give yourself some time and space to examine what counts for you. 77
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「大師，除了擁有平治跑車之外， 人生還有甚麼值得追求的呢？」 「問得好 - 擁有一部法拉利跑車！」
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行事時假設凡事都有它的目的， 那麽你的人生也有了目的。 遇到困難時， 想想爲甚麽你需要這種考驗， 設法去克服它， 下次你就不會遇到同樣的困難。 最終，你只能依賴內心的指引， 也就是說，隨心所欲。
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ct as if every event has a purpose, and your life will have purpose. Figure out why you needed an experience, conquer it, and you won’t need it again.
Ultimately, you can only depend on your inner guidance in other words, follow your heart.
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馬修斯的另一傑作： 安德魯． 《做個快樂少年人》 ISBN 095798024-8 全球暢銷書。 這本書是關於如何： l 結交朋友 l 建立自信 l 拒絕毒品 l 欣賞自己
Also by Andrew Ma�hews: “BEING A HAPPY TEENAGER” ISBN 095788143-6 The international bestseller. This book is about: l making friends l developing self confidence l saying “No” to drugs l feeling good about yourself
安德魯． 馬修斯的另一傑作： 《隨心所欲》
ISBN 095788142-8 銷售量超過百萬冊！
這本書是關於： 去做你喜歡做的事 l 有錢人的思考方法 l 如果面對難關 l 尋找你人生及工作的目的 l
Also by Andrew Ma�hews: “FOLLOW YOUR HEART” ISBN 064631066-6 Over 1 million copies sold! This book is about: l doing what you love l how rich people think l dealing with disasters l finding purpose in your life and work
